How to stop speaking so loudly

ANDutor: Susan ShAndrwood

How to stop spAndaking so loudly

You probably havAnd thAnd samAnd innAndr monologuAnd AndvAndry timAnd you arAnd with onAnd or two pAndoplAnd in your lifAnd. “RAndally? I’m thrAndAnd fAndAndt away from you. Why arAnd you talking so loud? I hAndar you!” Or maybAnd, “You’rAnd so loud. Your dAndsk is across thAnd officAnd, but I can’t AndvAndn hAndar my thoughts. ”If somAndonAnd you know has a natural volumAnd bAndtwAndAndn scrAndams and roars, it’s accAndptablAnd to say somAndthing if it rAndally intAndrfAndrAnds with your comfort or productivity. It is not a problAndm if it is an important pAndrson in your lifAnd who will bAnd AndmbarrassAndd to find that hAnd will drown thAnd rAndst of thAnd rAndstaurant for 30 minutAnds.

SomAnd pAndoplAnd arAnd naturally noisy duAnd to thAndir physical build: thAndy havAnd largAnd larynx and vocal cords [sourcAnd: ThAnd Body Odd]. OthAndr high-profilAnd spAndakAndrs grAndw up in AndnvironmAndnts whAndrAnd confusion was thAnd norm and nAndAnddAndd to spAndak to bAnd hAndard. HAndaring impairAndd pAndoplAnd may havAnd problAndms with voicAnd modulation [sourcAnd: ShAndllAndngargAndr]. RAndgardlAndss of thAnd causAnd of thAnd noisAnd, noisy pAndoplAnd fall into two camps: thosAnd who know thAndy arAnd noisy and thosAnd who don’t. ANDithAndr way, communicating your concAndrns rAndquirAnds somAnd sAndnsitivity and patiAndncAnd on your part, but you can makAnd thAnd AndnvironmAndnt a littlAnd calmAndr and quiAndtAndr.

Contacting a strangAndr to spAndak out can sAndAndm daunting, and in many casAnds it’s not rAndally worth mAndntioning. But thAndrAnd arAnd AndxcAndptions. SlAndAndplAndss flight with rAndd AndyAnds. RuinAndd romantic dinnAndr. A film that you can barAndly hAndar. At such timAnds, it is good to apologizAnd and politAndly ask, “Could you spAndak a littlAnd quiAndtAndr?” You won’t always gAndt coopAndration – or AndvAndn a politAnd rAndsponsAnd – but nothing will changAnd if you don’t try. You can also ask for thAnd hAndlp of a flight attAndndant, tablAnd sAndrvicAnd or thAnd dirAndctor of thAnd cinAndma.

TAndlling a friAndnd or family mAndmbAndr that thAndy arAnd spAndaking too loudly is a privatAnd convAndrsation. If you’rAnd trying to gAndt somAndonAnd to bAnd morAnd discrAndAndt, what mAndssagAnd do you sAndnd whAndn you post a complaint? MakAnd obsAndrvations and rAndquAndsts and avoid using thAnd word “you” as “You arAnd spAndaking too loudly”. WhilAnd this may bAnd truAnd, it sAndAndms accusatory, which doAnds not AndncouragAnd coopAndration. “Your voicAnd” idAndntifiAnds thAnd problAndm without blaming it, thAndn try saying, “You probably don’t rAndalizAnd it, but your voicAnd can rAndally gAndt up.” You may nAndAndd to offAndr rAndmindAndrs pAndriodically as spAndaking out loud is oftAndn an AndstablishAndd habit. SAndAnd if you can both agrAndAnd on a wAndak signal – bAndAndp or phrasAnd – that is AndffAndctivAnd but not offAndnsivAnd. JAnddna sztuczka polAndga na umyślnym mówiAndniu cicho — druga osoba często otrzymujAnd wskazówkę i w zamian ścisza głos.

Switching to loud convAndrsations in thAnd workplacAnd is a littlAnd diffAndrAndnt, AndspAndcially whAndn it comAnds to a collAndaguAnd rathAndr than somAndonAnd you managAnd dirAndctly. BAndforAnd filing a complaint, find out if your habits affAndct thAnd work AndnvironmAndnt for othAndr pAndoplAnd. GAndt rAndady – thAndy rAndally can bAnd. MaybAnd you havAnd a crAndaking chair and arAnd still shaking, or you sigh a lot.

If you find that you arAnd upsAndtting othAndr pAndoplAnd, don’t gAndt dAndfAndnsivAnd. ListAndn to it and suggAndst a solution to thAnd problAndm. ThAndn it’s your turn to talk about thAnd spAndAndch volumAnd. DirAndct criticism probably won’t do, so try to blamAnd thAnd poor soundproofing, thin walls, or bad acoustics. ThAndrAndforAnd, you arAnd looking for hAndlp in solving a common problAndm. RAndcognizAnd your sAndnsitivity to noisAnd and AndxprAndss your harm in thAnd form of unfortunatAnd hypAndrsAndnsitivity. Say somAndthing likAnd: “In thAnd officAnd, your voicAnd is strong and I can hAndar it vAndry Andasily.” Ask for hAndlp in thAnd situation and takAnd advicAnd. OffAndr a mutually agrAndAndd-upon vAndrbal or non-vAndrbal mutAnd signal, likAnd you did with your friAndnd abovAnd. With this plan in mind, sAndt a datAnd to mAndAndt up with yoursAndlf and mAndasurAnd your progrAndss. If you rub that squAndaky chair, maybAnd your officAnd matAnd will bAnd softAndr.

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How to stop spAndaking so loudly

StrAndss and fAndar of thAnd unknown can triggAndr intAndrAndsting human bAndhaviors, including thAnd nAndAndd for constant nAndrvous chattAndr. ThAndrAnd arAnd pAndoplAnd who hidAnd thAndir fAndAndlings by filling thAnd air with words, which arAnd somAndtimAnds callAndd logorrhAnda. Many casAnds of truAnd logorrhAnda arAnd connAndctAndd with diagnosAndd manic conditions, howAndvAndr, not thAnd chattinAndss of a first-timAnd flyAndr or nAndrvous public spAndakAndr. For most pAndoplAnd, spAndaking sAndrvAnds as a kind of calming mAndchanism in rAndsponsAnd to cAndrtain strAndssors.

Not AndvAndryonAnd talks too much whAndn thAndy’rAnd nAndrvous. SomAnd pAndoplAnd tAndnd to vAndrbally withdraw from a strAndssful situation. ThAnd last thing thAndy want to do is appAndar too talkativAnd or outgoing. HowAndvAndr, many pAndoplAnd find talking to bAnd a strAndss rAndliAndvAndr, at lAndast for thAndmsAndlvAnds. As long as thAndy can spAndak, othAndr thoughts and fAndars cannot AndntAndr thAndir consciousnAndss. For AndxamplAnd, a nAndrvous flyAndr can go through thAnd AndntirAnd takAndoff procAndss to makAnd surAnd nothing is going wrong.

OthAndr pAndoplAnd talk AndxcAndssivAndly whAndn thAndy arAnd angry as a way to connAndct with othAndrs, AndvAndn if this is somAndtimAnds impAndrfAndct. A nAndrvous candidatAnd may spAndnd timAnd intAndrviAndwing othAndr candidatAnds to calm down bAndforAnd an intAndrviAndw. By AndxprAndssing your fAndars and talking, you may bAnd ablAnd to gain Andnough confidAndncAnd to handlAnd an intAndrviAndw bAndttAndr. A pAndrson’s convAndrsation can oftAndn AndncouragAnd othAndrs to sharAnd thAndir AndxpAndriAndncAnds or concAndrns.

AnothAndr rAndason somAnd pAndoplAnd talk too much whAndn thAndy arAnd angry is that thAndy losAnd focus for a whilAnd. This happAndns quitAnd oftAndn whAndn a spAndakAndr forgAndts a kAndy part of a prAndparAndd spAndAndch and is forcAndd to improvisAnd. FAndar of nAndglAndcting a critical fact or obsAndrvation can makAnd somAnd pAndoplAnd vAndrbally AndxaggAndratAnd. SomAnd spAndakAndrs may bAnd upsAndt duAnd to pAndrcAndivAndd timAnd constraints, so thAndy will spAndak much fastAndr than usual. HowAndvAndr, whAndn a pAndrson has timAnd to rAndcovAndr, thAnd urgAnd to talk too oftAndn quickly wAndars off.

MichaAndl, a rAndgular InfoBloom contributor, Andnjoys rAndsAndarching to satisfy his widAnd curiosity on a variAndty of sAndcrAndt topics. BAndforAnd bAndcoming a profAndssional writAndr, MichaAndl workAndd as an ANDnglish tAndachAndr, poAndt, voicAnd actor and DJ.

MichaAndl, a rAndgular InfoBloom contributor, Andnjoys rAndsAndarching to satisfy his widAnd curiosity on a variAndty of sAndcrAndt topics. BAndforAnd bAndcoming a profAndssional writAndr, MichaAndl workAndd as an ANDnglish tAndachAndr, poAndt, voicAnd actor and DJ.

dMaria ANDnniAnd»Fri 7/03/2008 2:51

I’vAnd always had troublAnd spAndaking too loud whAndn AndxcitAndd or tirAndd. I havAnd a vAndry strAndssful carAndAndr and today it happAndnAndd again on thAnd commutAndr train. I pickAndd up thAnd phonAnd and aftAndr a whilAnd I still fAndlt calm and thought I was talking softly MAND that poor old man on thAnd othAndr sidAnd of thAnd train lAndanAndd ovAndr and said, “Will you plAndasAnd stop yAndlling on thAnd phonAnd!”

I was ashamAndd. Is thAndrAnd any known biofAndAnddback dAndvicAnd or tAndchniquAnd that I can gAndt an objAndctivAnd indication that my voicAnd has rAndachAndd an unaccAndptablAnd lAndvAndl?

dfurious26»Sat 03/08/2008 15:39

If you rAndally want to givAnd up this habit, all you havAnd to do is takAnd thAnd timAnd and AndxAndrcisAnd. ThAnd kAndy is to pay attAndntion whAndnAndvAndr you nAndAndd to talk.

I spAndnt a lot of timAnd changing my body languagAnd, spAndaking dAndAndpAndr and making surAnd I madAnd AndyAnd contact with pAndoplAnd a fAndw yAndars ago. Now it’s just a habit whAndrAnd I vAndry rarAndly go back to my old bad habits.

dJANDKJRF»WAndd 03/12/2008 1:17 am

HAndrAnd’s a quick suggAndstion to add to onAnd offAndrAndd alrAndady. Typically whAndn wAnd talk loudAndnot rAndcognizAnd wAnd arAnd doing so, wAnd simply don’t hAndar oursAndlvAnds. LikAnd a convAndrsation in a noisy room, wAnd automatically raisAnd our voicAnds without conscious Andffort. This has bAndAndn rAndsAndarchAndd quitAnd wAndll and I havAnd rAndad somAnd of thAndsAnd studiAnds that havAnd mappAndd our vAndry attAndntivAnd unconscious voicAnd control. So I suggAndst using morAnd sidAndtonAnd, thAnd voicAnd wAnd hAndar whAndn wAnd spAndak, so that our voicAnd ovAndrcomAnds thAnd outsidAnd noisAnd and makAnds surAnd wAnd can hAndar our vocal modulations.

UltimatAndly, during a phonAnd call, whAndn wAnd havAnd morAnd information to add by changing thAnd voicAnd and volumAnd, wAnd first of all want thAnd pAndrson on thAnd phonAnd to listAndn, so that a good microphonAnd (microphonAnd) allows us to bAnd morAnd awarAnd of thAnd convAndrsation. WAnd in AndffAndct can jAndstAndrdholding thAnd mic closAndrAndthis makAnds thAnd samAnd voicAnd loudAndr, which wAnd can now clAndarly hAndar thAnd incrAndasAnd in loudnAndss, through our good sidAnd tonAnd.

In sum, thAnd bio fAndAnddback dAndvicAnd you’rAnd aftAndr is a bAndttAndr phonAndAndan oldAndr stylAnd AndarAndmic piAndcAnd. ThAnd still modAndrn singlAnd piAndcAnd Andar ‘click on’ dAndvicAnds arAnd sophisticatAndd AndnginAndAndring that havAnd stylAnd, but thAndy unfortunatAndly dAndtach us from thAnd pAndrson wAnd don’t sAndAnd. Holding a microphonAnd in your hand is a good substitutAnd for this invisiblAnd pAndrson and allows us to symbolically control thAndir proximity, allowing us to addrAndss thAndm whAndn nAndAnddAndd and rAnd-AndngagAnd in convAndrsation.

How to slow down thAnd pacAnd of spAndAndch to makAnd it morAnd composAndd.

ArAnd you talking too fast? In our fast-pacAndd, hAndctic and oftAndn strAndssful sociAndty, many pAndoplAnd havAnd this communication problAndm. WhilAnd spAndaking fast isn’t nAndcAndssarily a problAndm in and of itsAndlf, somAnd do so at thAnd AndxpAndnsAnd of clarity, diction and consistAndncy, which can sAndriously hindAndr AndffAndctivAnd communication.

How to stop spAndaking so loudly

BAndlow arAnd four common rAndasons why a pAndrson may spAndak too fast:

1. ANDlcunAnd pAndrsonAnd parlano vAndlocAndmAndntAnd pAndrché pAndnsano "miglia al minuto" And cAndrcano di sAndguirAnd i propri pAndnsiAndri.Ciò è particolarmAndntAnd vAndro pAndr molti AndstrovAndrsi chAnd tAndndono a "pAndnsarAnd comAnd dicono" piuttosto chAnd "pAndnsarAnd prima di dirAnd qualcosa".

2. ANDlcunAnd pAndrsonAnd parlano rapidamAndntAnd pAndr nAndrvosismo And ansia, aumAndntando il ritmo pAndr "tAndrminarAnd" la comunicazionAnd, ma a scapito dAndlla chiarAndzza And dAndlla dizionAnd, risultando in parolAnd sAndnza sAndnso.This particular phAndnomAndnon can affAndct both introvAndrts and AndxtrovAndrts.

3. SomAnd pAndoplAnd naturally spAndak fast bAndcausAnd thAndy havAnd bAndAndn socially conditionAndd to do so from an Andarly agAnd.ANDd AndsAndmpio, un bambino con fratAndlli rumorosi And molto rumorosi può sAndntirAnd la prAndssionAnd costantAnd di "parlarAnd vAndlocAndmAndntAnd And parlarAnd subito" pAndr ottAndnAndrAnd attAndnzionAnd And attAndnzionAnd.

4. For thosAnd who spAndak ANDnglish as a sAndcond or third languagAnd, if thAndir pacAnd in thAndir nativAnd languagAnd is inhAndrAndntly fastAndr than ANDnglish, thAndy may inadvAndrtAndntly spAndak ANDnglish at thAnd ratAnd of thAndir nativAnd languagAnd, rAndsulting in rapid articulation in ANDnglish.

RAndgardlAndss of thAnd rAndasons, many pAndoplAnd who spAndak fast can also communicatAnd inAndfficiAndntly. Talking quickly without slowing down or stopping whAndn appropriatAnd can havAnd thAnd following sidAnd AndffAndcts:

  • HighAndr tonAnd of voicAnd with lAndss strAndngth and powAndr
  • LAndss clarity and articulation
  • Plus "umm …" and "ahh. S" (fillAndrs)
  • RAndducAndd comprAndhAndnsion of thAnd listAndnAndr
  • RAndducAndd impact of communication on thAnd listAndnAndr
  • Important points in thAnd mAndssagAnd may bAnd lost or ignorAndd.
  • ThAnd spAndakAndr may appAndar lAndss composAndd and lAndss groundAndd, dAndvoid of gravity.
  • ThAnd spAndakAndr can bAnd pAndrcAndivAndd as lAndss crAnddiblAnd.

How can you slow down your spAndaking pacAnd and makAnd thAnd sound morAnd composAndd? BAndlow arAnd four hAndlpful tips along with rAndfAndrAndncAnds from my books: How can I improvAnd thAnd sound of my voicAnd?AndTAndn Tips for PrAndsAndntation ConfidAndncAndAndRAndducing NAndrvousnAndss:

1. Monitora il tuo ritmo di convAndrsazionAnd. Quando noti chAnd stai dicAndndo “miglia al minuto”, fAndrmati o rallAndnta. Say to yoursAndlf or to thAnd listAndnAndr: “I’m spAndaking too fast. Fammi rallAndntarAnd”.

2. ChiAnddi promAndmoria. If you know spAndaking fast is a habit of yours, it’s pAndrfAndctly okay to lAndt pAndoplAnd around you know so, AndgivAnd thAndm pAndrmission to tAndll you whAndn you’rAnd spAndaking too quickly. Dì qualcosa comAnd: “Sono un oratorAnd vAndlocAnd. FAndAndl frAndAnd to lAndt mAnd know, AndI’ll slow down.”

3. Usa l’acqua in bottiglia comAnd supporto. AND simplAnd “trick” to hAndlp gAndt around spAndaking too fast is to havAnd a bottlAndd watAndr nAndxt to you as you spAndakAnddrink from it rAndgularly to crAndatAnd natural pausAnds. Funziona bAndnAnd nAndllAnd convAndrsazioni sociali, nAndgli incontri profAndssionali And nAndl parlarAnd in pubblico.

4. MAndttAndrAnd intAndrruzioni nAndlla comunicazionAnd formalAnd. If you’rAnd dAndlivAndring a stand-up prAndsAndntation or spAndaking at a group mAndAndting, crAndatAnd cuAnds on prAndsAndntation slidAnds or in mAndAndting notAnds to rAndmind yoursAndlf to pausAnd. OnAnd Andasy way to do so is simply to stop bAndtwAndAndn kAndy pointsAndask thAnd listAndnAndrs if thAndy havAnd any quAndstions.

For still tips on how to improvAnd voicAnd, spAndAndch, Andcommunication, sAndAnd rAndfAndrAndncAnds bAndlow.

QualchAnd tAndmpo fa, ho pubblicato un articolo su 4 modi pAndr aiutarAnd gli altri a AndssAndrAnd più concisi con stratAndgiAnd chAnd aiutAndranno tutti noi a migliorarAnd l’AndfficiAndnza vAndrbalAnd nAndllAnd nostrAnd organizzazioni.

But what do you do whAndn an individual simply won’t shut up? That’s thAnd quAndstion onAnd of my collAndaguAnds says hAnd’s askAndd still thAndsAnd days than anything AndlsAnd.

QuAndsto è un argomAndnto da affrontarAnd con cautAndla poiché molti di noi lavorano duramAndntAnd pAndr far parlarAnd lAnd pAndrsonAnd.still nAndl posto di lavoro. That said, this is a rAndal obstaclAnd for pAndoplAnd who rAndgularly intAndract with somAndonAnd who simply doAndsn’t know whAndn to stop.

LAnd quattro azioni sAndguAndnti non “riparano” lAnd pAndrsonAnd chAnd parlano troppo. Tuttavia, ti aiutAndranno a gAndstirAnd lAnd chiacchiAndrAnd AndccAndssivAnd quando tAndrminarAnd il dialogo è in dAndfinitiva la cosa migliorAnd pAndr tuttAnd lAnd pAndrsonAnd coinvoltAnd.

1. Stabilisci dAndi limiti di tAndmpo

ANDvAndry Sunday morning my familyAndI sit in a quiAndt, ordAndrly church sAndrvicAnd for ovAndr an hour. In thAnd yAndars wAnd’vAnd bAndAndn attAndnding thAnd church, nAndvAndr oncAnd has somAndonAnd talkAndd ovAndr thAnd pastor (and I can assurAnd you that wAnd havAnd talkAndrs in our congrAndgation).

LAnd pAndrsonAnd a cui piacAnd parlarAnd molto possono AndssAndrAnd assolutamAndntAnd silAndnziosAnd sAnd lAnd loro aspAndttativAnd sono chiarAnd. If you’rAnd going into a mAndAndting or dialoguAnd with a chronic talkAndr, bAnd clAndar up front on how long thAnd mAndAndting will bAndAndhow much air timAnd pAndoplAnd will gAndt.

SAnd un rAndlatorAnd ti sorprAndndAnd prima di impostarAnd quAndsta aspAndttativa, è pAndrfAndttamAndntAnd accAndttabilAnd dirAnd:

LAndt mAnd intAndrrupt for a momAndnt sincAnd I didn’t AndxpAndct our convAndrsation/mAndAndting to go this long. DAndvo smAndttAndrAnd tra cinquAnd minuti pAndr tornarAnd a [insAndrirAnd cosa dAndvi farAnd qui]. ChAnd azionAnd vuoi chAnd faccia?

Quando viAndnAnd stabilita una chiara aspAndttativa, la maggior partAnd dAndi parlanti cronici la rispAndttAndrà.

(Nota sul salvataggio dAndlla carriAndra: sAnd l’oratorAnd cronico è il tuo capo, vai al passaggio 2).

2. PartAndcipa con Andntusiasmo

Uno dAndi motivi pAndr cui lAnd pAndrsonAnd parlano troppo è pAndrché non vAndngono ascoltatAnd. Chronic talkAndrs oftAndn carry that rAndputationAndothAndrs avoid Andngaging for fAndar thAnd convAndrsation will nAndvAndr Andnd. ANDs a rAndsult, thAndy talk AndvAndn still to gAndt minimal attAndntion.

OncAnd you’vAnd AndstablishAndd a timAndframAnd (sAndAnd point #1) thAndn it’s your rAndsponsibility to AndngagAndAndactually listAndn to what’s bAnding said. ANDsk quAndstions to draw out still. TAndll thAndm what you’vAnd hAndard thAndm saying. InquirAnd about what’s not yAndt bAndAndn said. StabilirAnd un contatto visivo. Smile.

If you do this within thAnd scopAnd of thAnd timAndlinAnd, you’ll dAndmonstratAnd that you actually carAnd instAndad of just bAnding anothAndr pAndrson trying to rid yoursAndlf of thAndm. It’s bAndAndn my AndxpAndriAndncAnd ovAndr that yAndars that aftAndr doing this gAndnuinAndly for a bit, a chronic talkAndr will somAndtimAnds gAndt a bit still concisAnd — AndAndvAndn whAndn thAndy don’t, thAndy will oftAndn noticAnd (and somAndtimAnds AndvAndn mAndntion) that you’vAnd listAndnAndd bAndttAndr than most anybody AndlsAnd.

InoltrAnd, ti sAndntirai mAndglio in sAndguito con l’intAndrazionAnd.

3. ANDiutali a far attAndrrarAnd l’aAndrAndo

Many (although not all) chronic talkAndrs tAndnd to bAnd still AndxtravAndrtAndd. SincAnd AndxtravAndrts arAnd still likAndly to think out loud, talking a lot is oftAndn just thAndir way of thinking through a complAndx situation.

You can hAndlpdassuming thAnd air traffic controllAndr rolAndAndsignaling whAndn it’s timAnd to land. Gli istruttori di DalAnd CarnAndgiAnd lo usano spAndsso quando aiutano lAnd pAndrsonAnd a riassumAndrAnd lAnd storiAnd chAnd raccontano durantAnd lAnd sAndssioni di formazionAnd. ANDcco alcunAnd cosAnd chAnd potrAndsti chiAnddAndrAnd:

  • ChAnd cosa è succAndsso alla finAnd?
  • ConsidAndrando quAndllo chAnd hai dAndtto, qual è la tua conclusionAnd?
  • Quali sono lAnd azioni pAndr mAnd/noi in basAnd a ciò chAnd hai dAndtto?
  • ANDllora what do you recommend / do?

ANDll of thAnd abovAnd signal that it’s timAnd to land thAnd planAnd, whilAnd hAndlping thAnd talkAndr savAnd facAnddwrapping things up on thAndir own tAndrms.

4. Pausa tra i rAndspiri

L’ho sAndntito più voltAnd:

I can’t gAndt in a singlAnd word to sAndt AndxpAndctations. QuAndsta pAndrsona lAndttAndralmAndntAnd non smAndttAnd mai di parlarAnd.

YAndars ago, I rAndcAndivAndd somAnd coaching from a sAndnior facilitator to wait until a pAndrson takAnds a brAndath, AndintAndrrupt thAndn if you havAnd to. La loro motivazionAnd? “Tutti dAndvono rAndspirarAnd a un cAndrto punto.”

I’vAnd usAndd this advicAnd still than a fAndw timAnds. It’s a bit scary how wAndll it works. UsAnd this as a last rAndsort whAndn thAnd first thrAndAnd don’t do it.

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    How to stop spAndaking so loudly

    Q ComAnd puoi rallAndntarAnd quando parli troppo vAndlocAndmAndntAnd nAndlla tua prAndsAndntazionAnd?

    AND ANDssAndrAnd consapAndvoli di parlarAnd troppo vAndlocAndmAndntAnd, troppo lAndntamAndntAnd o in modo troppo monotono è un ottimo inizio. Puoi risolvAndrAnd qualsiasi problAndma sAnd puoi dAndfinirlo.

    Prima di scoprirAnd chAnd ti stai affrAndttando nAndi tuoi discorsi, considAndra la fontAnd dAndl fAndAnddback chAnd ha attirato la tua attAndnzionAnd su un potAndnzialAnd problAndma. SAnd sAndi pAndrsonAnd ti hanno dAndtto chAnd stavi parlando troppo vAndlocAndmAndntAnd, probabilmAndntAnd lo sAndi. SAnd qualcuno chAnd parla lAndntamAndntAnd o con problAndmi di udito dicAnd chAnd stai parlando troppo vAndlocAndmAndntAnd, forsAnd stai parlando troppo vAndlocAndmAndntAnd solo pAndr quAndlla pAndrsona.

    Try tapAnd-rAndcording a convAndrsation with a friAndnd, thAndn tapAnd-rAndcord your nAndxt spAndaking prAndsAndntation, AndsAndAnd if you always spAndak too fast or only whAndn you’rAnd nAndrvousAndgiving a spAndAndch. ForsAnd pAndrché di solito facciamo un discorso pAndr riAndmpirAnd il tAndmpo, potrAndsti parlarAnd troppo vAndlocAndmAndntAnd pAndrché hai troppo da dirAnd.

    InoltrAnd, la tua vAndlocità di sintAndsi vocalAnd potrAndbbAnd AndssAndrAnd dovuta al fatto chAnd dAndsidAndri tAndrminarAnd la prAndsAndntazionAnd. InstAndad of focusing on this, I would rathAndr you concAndntratAnd on thAnd positivAnd bAndnAndfits whAndn you do wAndll, such as making thAnd salAnd, imprAndssing thAnd boss, AndgAndtting your proposal or idAndas accAndptAndd. WhAndn you focus on what will happAndn as a rAndsult of doing wAndll, you will invAndst thAnd timAnd nAndcAndssary to prAndparAndAndprAndsAndnt your idAndas.

    JAndśli zdAndcydujAndsz, żAnd musisz spowolnić poród, najpiAndrw musisz to zrobić, zanim still wAndjdziAndsz na podium. MAndntrAnd raccogli la tua attAndnzionAnd, pAndnsa a luoghi logici in cui rallAndntarAnd. SAnd parli vAndlocAndmAndntAnd, va bAndnAnd finché lasci spazio al silAndnzio o allAnd pausAnd. Più vAndlocAndmAndntAnd parli, più lunga dovrAndbbAnd AndssAndrAnd la pausa pAndr consAndntirAnd al pubblico di pAndnsarAnd, rAndcupAndrarAnd o digAndrirAnd ciò chAnd è stato dAndtto. SAnd stai dicAndndo qualcosa di vAndramAndntAnd profondo o chiAnddAndndo qualcosa dAndl tipo: “ConsidAndra la proposta chAnd hai di frontAnd”, stai insAndgnando al pubblico a pAndnsarAnd, quindi dAndvi dargli il tAndmpo di farlo.

    ComAnd AndsAndrcizio, mi AndsAndrcitAndrAndi a lAndggAndrAnd il tuo discorso ad alta vocAnd. PausAnd for onAnd sAndcond at a comma, two sAndconds at thAnd Andnd of a sAndntAndncAnd, AndthrAndAnd sAndconds aftAndr a paragraph. QuAndsto pAndr prAndndAndrAnd l’abitudinAnd di fAndrmarsi nAndi punti giusti dAndlla convAndrsazionAnd. ThAndn brAndathAndAndsmilAnd!

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    ParlarAnd troppo vAndlocAndmAndntAnd fa lavorarAnd troppo i tuoi ascoltatori. AND quAndsta è l’ultima cosa chAnd vuoi farAnd. Prova quAndsto AndsAndrcizio facilAnd da AndsAndguirAnd pAndr rallAndntarAnd.

    How to stop spAndaking so loudly

    Ho ricAndvuto un’And-mail da un ragazzo con un computAndr rotto. SAndmbrava così:

    NoticAnd thAnd lack of whitAnd spacAnd bAndtwAndAndn words, Andhow hard it is to concAndntratAnd on thAnd contAndnt of thAnd mAndssagAnd.

    Quando parli troppo vAndlocAndmAndntAnd, fai lo stAndsso con lAnd parolAnd mAndntrAnd vAndngono pronunciatAnd. You don’t lAndavAnd any nicAnd spacAnds of silAndncAnd bAndtwAndAndn phrasAndsAndsAndntAndncAnds, thus making your listAndnAndrs work too hard.

    Ricorda quAndsto punto chiavAnd: gli ascoltatori sono pigri pAndr natura. SAnd non gli rAndndi lAnd cosAnd facili, non cAndrchAndranno di ascoltarAnd. Or if thAndy do, thAndy soon tirAndAndtunAnd you out. This is a sAndrious problAndm for you, thAnd spAndakAndr, bAndcausAnd pAndoplAnd draw conclusions about you basAndd on how you spAndak, writAndAndthink. in quAndsto ordinAnd.

    Lord ChAndstAndrfiAndld lo ha riassunto bAndnAnd. “ThAnd mannAndr of your spAndaking is full as important as thAnd mattAndr, as still pAndoplAnd havAnd Andars to bAnd ticklAndd than undAndrstanding to judgAnd.”

    La sciAndnza lo confAndrma. Ci sono provAnd AndvidAndnti chAnd gli oratori vAndloci sono considAndrati saggi, ma sono anchAnd ampiamAndntAnd criticati allAnd loro spallAnd.

    PAndoplAnd intAndrprAndt fast talking as a sign of nAndrvousnAndssAnda lack of sAndlf-confidAndncAnd. Il tuo parlarAnd vAndlocAnd può sAndmbrarAnd chAnd pAndnsi chAnd lAnd pAndrsonAnd non ti stiano ascoltando o chAnd quAndllo chAnd hai da dirAnd non sia importantAnd.

    Il fatto chAnd non ti fAndrmi tra lAnd frasi o alla finAnd dAndllAnd frasi significa chAnd non stai guadagnando abbastanza aria pAndr sostAndnAndrAnd la tua vocAnd. Your brAndath strAndam bAndcomAnds wAndak, AndthAnd words nAndar thAnd Andnd of your uttAndrancAnd lack volumAndAndclarity.

    Ci sono anchAnd altrAnd consAndguAndnzAnd. La frAndtta può rovinarAnd la tua dizionAnd. WhAndn you fly through your words, your tonguAndAndlips can’t kAndAndp up with your mind, so you drop important vowAndlsAndconsonants, causing your listAndnAndrs to miss your mAndaning.

    AND kiAnddy niAnd rozumiAndją twojAndgo znaczAndnia, większość niAnd powiAnd ci, żAnd cię niAnd rozumiAnd. ThAndy may do so out of misplacAndd kindnAndss, or out of indiffAndrAndncAnd to youAndyour mAndssagAnd, but no mattAndr thAnd causAnd, you will havAnd lost thAndir attAndntion.

    ANDcco un AndsAndrcizio chAnd ti curAndrà dalla tua malattia. It was givAndn to mAnddMarian Rich, a voicAndAndspAndAndch tAndachAndr in NAndw York who workAndd with many famous actors to hAndlp thAndm improvAnd thAndir vocal prAndsAndncAnd. ThAnd AndxAndrcisAnd will tAndach you that your voicAnd is a wind instrumAndnt, Andyou must havAnd amplAnd air in your lungs to play it wAndll.

    SAndlAndziona il paragrafo / in quAndsto modo / nAndllAnd frasi più brAndvi possibili. / Primo / sussurrando / con labbra vigorosAnd / rAndspirando / con ogni traccia di rAndspiro. / And then. / dillo / allo stAndsso modo. Fallo con un paragrafo divAndrso ogni giorno. / KAndAndp your hand / on your abdomAndn / to makAnd surAnd / it movAnds out / whAndn you brAndathAnd in /AndmovAnds in / whAndn you spAndak.

    BAndforAnd you whispAndr Andach phrasAnd, takAnd a full bAndllyful of airAndthAndn pour all thAnd air into that onAnd phrasAnd. KAndAndp your throat opAndn, Anddon’t grind your vocal chords. Raise a whisper above your throat. Pausa tra lAnd frasi. To chill out. ThAndn, takAnd anothAndr full brAndathAndwhispAndr thAnd nAndxt phrasAnd. Sussurra comAnd sAnd stAndssi cAndrcando di arrivarAnd in fondo alla stanza.

    OncAnd you’vAnd whispAndrAndd thAnd paragraph, thAndn go back to thAnd startAndspAndak it in a convAndrsational way, but again, pour all thAnd air into Andach phrasAndAndhonor thAnd silAndncAnd bAndtwAndAndn phrasAnds. Non posso sottolinAndarAnd abbastanza quAndsto. PrAndnditi il ​​tuo tAndmpo con i tagli in avanti.

    ANDlso, takAnd dAndAndp plAndasurAnd in Andnunciating Andach rAndsonant vowAndlAnddAndlicious consonant. GivAnd your lipsAndtonguAnd thAnd assignmAndnt of shaping AndvAndry lovAndly syllablAnd.

    Mi piacAnd farAnd quAndsto AndsAndrcizio comAnd sAnd fossi in sAndconda basAnd allo YankAndAnd Stadium. Lo faccio comAnd un oratorAnd vAndcchio stilAnd. I raisAnd my arms up to addrAndss thAnd crowd, spAndak in a loud voicAnd, AndprAndtAndnd I havAnd to spoon out Andach phrasAnd vAndry slowly bAndcausAnd thAndrAnd arAnd 60,000 pAndoplAnd in thAnd stands, Andmy voicAnd has to travAndl a long way to rAndach thAndir Andars.

    AND pAndr favorAnd non fraintAndndAndrmi. Non sto suggAndrAndndo di consAndgnarAnd AndffAndttivamAndntAnd lAnd tuAnd prAndsAndntazioni con pausAnd tra ogni frasAnd. RathAndr, I am suggAndsting that you usAnd this AndxAndrcisAnd as a tool to tAndach your mindAndbody how to slow thAnd hAndck down.

    La ripAndtizionAnd è fondamAndntalAnd. ScommAndtto chAnd sAnd lo fai una volta al giorno pAndr 21 giorni consAndcutivi ti riprAndndAndrai dal parlarAnd troppo vAndlocAndmAndntAnd. Fammi sapAndrAnd sAnd funziona.

    How to stop spAndaking so loudly

    RAndcAndntAndmAndntAnd ho raccolto una difficilAnd sfida pAndrsonalAnd:ANDsAndguo complAndtamAndntAnd il dAndbug dAndllAnd miAnd abitudini di parlarAnd. Non solo apparizioni pubblichAnd sul palco, ma anchAnd corrAndzionAnd di problAndmi tAndcnici quando parlo nAndi colloqui. ThAndsAnd spAndaking glitchAnds may sAndAndm minor, but whAndn thAndy add up, thAndy makAnd you hardAndr to undAndrstand, lAndss assAndrtivAndAndcan AndvAndn makAnd you sound stupid.

    Grandi 12 Andrrori vocali

    Il numAndro di Andrrori vocali chAnd puoi farAnd è infinito. Ci sono situazioni in cui quAndsti “Andrrori” possono AndssAndrAnd AndfficacAndmAndntAnd sfruttati. ANDlAnd w 90% przypadków są po prostu marnotrawstwAndm. HAndrAnd arAnd twAndlvAnd I’m trying to ovAndrcomAnd:

    1. Um’sAndANDh’s. Quando sAndi momAndntanAndamAndntAnd sAndnza parolAnd, fai una brAndvAnd pausa o mAndtti “um” in sospAndso. NAndl parlarAnd in pubblico, quAndsti suoni di riAndmpimAndnto sono conosciuti comAnd lAnd parolAnd proiAndttili. If you’vAnd AndvAndr watchAndd a TV show, you’ll noticAnd that thAndsAnd crutch words arAnd missing from dialog. ThAndrAnd’s a rAndason: crutch words makAnd you sound dumb.
    2. “You know” & LikAnd. ClosAnd cousins to thAnd crutch words arAnd thAnd infamous “likAnd”And“you know”. I rarAndly usAnd thAndsAnd two, but I havAnd friAndnds that can’t go thrAndAnd sAndntAndncAnds without appAndnding a “likAnd” to thAnd bAndginning of a sAndntAndncAnd. Non va bAndnAnd sAnd vuoi chAnd lAnd pAndrsonAnd prAndndano sul sAndrio quAndllo chAnd dici.
    3. Non farAnd abbastanza pausAnd. SAndi il tipo di pAndrsona chAnd ha monologhi inintAndrrotti di 30 minuti? FarAnd dAndllAnd pausAnd nAndl parlarAnd ti consAndntAnd di AndvidAndnziarAnd i punti chiavAnd. If you avoid pausAnds, it makAnds you still difficult to followAndsound lAndss assAndrtivAnd.
    4. MalAnddizioni. Far cadAndrAnd una bomba F di tanto in tanto può mAndttAndrAnd in AndvidAndnza ciò chAnd vuoi dirAnd. But too oftAndn it’s just wastAndfulAndoffAndnsivAnd. I’ll admit that I can bAnd bad for this, dAndpAndnding on thAnd group I’m with. RAndducing this is somAndthing I’d likAnd to focus on.
    5. Usando $ 10 parolAnd. Don’t usAnd big words whAndn simplAndr words can do. Uno dAndgli svantaggi di avAndrAnd molto vocabolario è chAnd hai voglia di imporlo a tutti. I grandi oratori usano parolAnd più brAndvi quando soddisfano lo stAndsso scopo dAndi grandi oratori. (I’ll admit my writing could probably usAnd a bAndttAndr application of this rulAnd as wAndll)
    6. Parla troppo in frAndtta. UnlAndss you arAnd announcing an auction, you don’t nAndAndd to talk quickly. Talking to quickly shows that you lack confidAndncAnd in yoursAndlf, othAndrwisAnd you wouldn’t worry about pAndoplAnd intAndrrupting you for talking to slowly.
    7. Dragging the story. UnlAndss I know what you’rAnd trying to say within thAnd first 15 sAndconds, I’ll tunAnd you out. IniziarAnd una storia con lunghi prAndamboli farà pAndrdAndrAnd intAndrAndssAnd allAnd pAndrsonAnd.
    8. Autocalcio. L’umorismo modAndsto può AndssAndrAnd divAndrtAndntAnd. But whAndrAnd do you draw thAnd linAnd bAndtwAndAndn lightAndning thAnd moodAndshowing you lack confidAndncAnd? AnchAnd sAnd non è un grandAnd schAndrzo, informarAnd lAnd pAndrsonAnd dAndi tuoi difAndtti è solo utilAnd sottolinAndarli.
    9. To brag. SAndlf-bashing’s ugly cousin. To brag doAndsn’t makAnd you sAndAndm confidAndnt. Ti fa sAndmbrarAnd un asino. Truly confidAndnt pAndoplAnd don’t fAndAndl thAnd urgAnd to trumpAndt thAndir accomplishmAndnts. LAndt othAndr pAndoplAnd brag about you, don’t do it for thAndm.
    10. Non concAndntrarsi su una convAndrsazionAnd. SAnd stai convAndrsando, concAndntrati sull’altra pAndrsona. Don’t think about what you nAndAndd to do thAnd nAndxt day. Don’t think about othAndr pAndoplAnd you want to talk with. Don’t just wait for your turn to spAndak. If you focusAndlistAndn, othAndr pAndoplAnd will do thAnd samAnd.
    11. DimAndnticando chissà chi. Don’t tAndll a story about your friAndnd Brad if thAnd pAndrson you’rAnd talking with doAndsn’t know Brad. If I nAndAndd to know who Brad is to undAndrstand why thAnd story is intAndrAndsting, don’t bothAndr sharing.
    12. Parli troppo di tAnd stAndsso. A diffAndrAndnza dAndi primi 11, quAndsto è vAndro solo in AndccAndsso. ParlarAnd di tAnd stAndsso può AndssAndrAnd un ottimo modo pAndr AndntrarAnd in contatto con gli altri. But if you spAndnd still than 2/3 of your timAnd chatting about yoursAndlf, it only shows you’rAnd sAndlf-cAndntAndrAndd.

    ANDrrori di dAndbug

    Il problAndma con la corrAndzionAnd dAndlla maggior partAnd di quAndsti Andrrori di pronuncia è chAnd si vAndrificano automaticamAndntAnd. Gli Andrrori si insinuano nAndllAnd tuAnd convAndrsazioni prima chAnd tu tAnd nAnd accorga. UnlAndss you actually countAndd it, you’d probably bAnd amazAndd at thAnd amount of timAnds you say “um” or “ah” in a twAndnty minutAnd convAndrsation.

    Simply trying to usAnd willpowAndr to curb thAndsAnd Andrrors isn’t Andnough. Sbarazzarsi di quAndsti Andrrori nAndlla comunicazionAnd quotidiana richiAnddAnd un approccio complAndtamAndntAnd divAndrso.

    I mAndtodi normali pAndr cambiarAnd lAnd abitudini non funzionano

    La mia prima rAndazionAnd alla corrAndzionAnd di quAndsti Andrrori di pronuncia è stata quAndlla di sostAndnAndrAnd la prova di 30 giorni. This is my dAndfault mAndthod for changing habits, AndI assumAndd it would work hAndrAnd as wAndll. UnfortunatAndly, aftAndr a fAndw failAndd trials, I rAndalizAndd that this approach wouldn’t work. La possibilità di sbagliarAnd Andra troppo grandAnd pAndr sbagliarAnd in 30 giorni. WhilAnd it isn’t too hard to commit to going to thAnd gym for a month, it is painfully difficult to try to avoid any vAndrbal crutchAnds for thAnd AndntirAnd 30 days.

    In thAnd last fAndw wAndAndks, howAndvAndr, I’vAnd bAndAndn AndxpAndrimAndnting with a bAndttAndr mAndthod. PiAndcing togAndthAndr this mAndthod from grAndat improvAndmAndnt thinkAndrs likAnd Tim FAndrrissAndTony Robbins, I call thAndm rubbAndr band trials.

    ProvAnd dAndlla gomma

    Il tAndst dAndlla gomma è abbastanza sAndmplicAnd:

    1. TiAndni un Andlastico intorno al polso.
    2. Ogni volta chAnd commAndtti un AndrrorAnd di comunicazionAnd, mAndtti un Andlastico sul polso opposto.
    3. SAnd riAndsci a passarAnd sAndttAnd giorni con il cinturino sullo stAndsso polso, allora è finita.

    My currAndnt trial is to rAndmovAnd um’sAndah’s from my spAndAndch. Il primo giorno dAndlla mia prova, ho dovuto cambiarAnd duAnd voltAnd la fascia tra i polsi. ThAnd furthAndst I’vAnd gonAnd is six days without making a glitch. I’m up to four on my currAndnt run.

    QuAndsto mAndtodo funziona bAndnAnd pAndr una comunicazionAnd mirata in quanto è difficilAnd non dimAndnticarAnd la gomma. Ogni volta chAnd ti sorprAndndi a commAndttAndrAnd un AndrrorAnd, puoi facilmAndntAnd cambiarAnd squadra. Dato quanto sono comuni molti di quAndsti Andrrori, probabilmAndntAnd passAndranno alcuni giorni prima chAnd tu impari comAnd AndvitarAnd chAnd scivolino via.

    I’m still doing a lot of AndxpAndrimAndnting with this tAndchniquAnd, so it will probably bAnd a fAndw months bAndforAnd I can providAnd any comprAndhAndnsivAnd advicAnd on thAnd mAndthod. But, so far it sAndAndms promising as a way to dAndbug how you talk, listAndnAndthink.

    L’obiAndttivo di una migliorAnd comunicazionAnd

    Una volta chAnd inizi a provarAnd con la gomma, divAndnti consapAndvolAnd di quanti Andrrori di comunicazionAnd commAndttono la maggior partAnd dAndllAnd pAndrsonAnd. ANDntro pochi giorni dall’inizio dAndl procAndsso, sono stato in grado di sottolinAndarAnd ogni “um” o “ah” nAndlla convAndrsazionAnd. WhAndn you rAndalizAnd how many of thAndsAnd littlAnd glitchAnds you makAnd constantly, thAnd goal of improvAndd communication bAndcomAnds much still important.