How to stop being fake

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How to stop BEING A FAKE.

by _GOD_ » Sat Oct 15, 2011 4:42 pm

I started writing this as a response on another thread but decided against posting it there as it is a giant wall of text. It’s about reclaiming your sense of self and the key tool is empathy.

swimmer25 wrote: But still I’m disappointed with my personality, because I know I’m not myself, around anyone, I’m far to concerned what other people may think of me, and I’m already preparing for there judgement about mistakes I will make, I even feel totally ashamed when I do make a mistake, even without someone noticing I did.

(. ) This may sound weird, but I just know something inside of me is going wrong. I’m not operating from myself, It feels like I’ve created a false persona for situations I feel I can’t deal with, that false self makes the situations that I’m scared off more manageable. In some way it feels like a accomplishment, because I did go out and I wasn’t to awkward, but I’m acting my way true it. Which also makes connections with other people harder, because they think they get to know ME, but actually they don’t know anything except of the false me that I created to protect myself from more hurting.

So again, I feel stuck. Going out more with the false me, which operates on automatic pilot isn’t going to bring me somewhere. (. ) I’ve lost myself already on the way, so I have to find myself before even doing that.

It’s not like I need to learn something, like learn social skills, or learn to dance. And get a new skill in life. No I need to change myself, that seems impossible. Or at least it seems impossible to change yourself while your still inside of yourself.

Does any of it make sense?

I picked out all the parts that I can relate to the most. But I disagree on the part where you have to “find” yourself.

This may be an unconvential view but I actually believe that avoidance, and also most other psychological problems, don’t need to be “changed” or replaced, they need to be let go off. You and I, we’re not missing anything, on the contrary we actually have something that others don’t: We react in an unusual manner to social situations (cautious and worried) and we perceive ourselves, and the rest of the world aswell, as imperfect. The second part isn’t even bad as it is much more reflective of reality than the illusions “healthy” people like to construct when faced with doubt or sorrow.

In the past I also assumed I was “missing” something that others had and I had to re-build my personality in some fundamental way. But I have overcome this stage by now. I’ve realized that what you describe and I also do, faking an identity when in contact with others, is not part of being avoidant. It’s part of all human communication, they’re all faking it. The difference is merely that they don’t have any problem with that! I on the other hand am repulsed by my own dishonesty on a regular basis.
And I have thus decided that my “real” personality is not something I have to FIND. It is something I have to simply unleash (you know that feeling of being trapped, I reckon), by letting go of fears and inhibitions. Avoidant behaviour in my eyes is a silly attempt to hide in plain sight. People can tell when you try to keep something from them (but they will let it slide, out of respect or out of confusion) and the solution is not to become more effective at keeping something from them, the solution is to stop completely!

– Service announcement – Over the years I’ve read a lot of stuff on the internet that seemed to help me temporarily, yet never had as much impact on my life as I had expected while or directly after reading it. I don’t want this to be such a text that lifts you up with inspiring ideas but then leaves you hanging, unsure how to apply the new-learned concept(s) to reality. So let me tell you what happened including my interpretation why:

Last week I sat down on the subway, had just exited the university buildings, first day there for me. So I’m in a town where I don’t know anything or anyone (Frankfurt, Germany), I’m meeting new people all day (really stressful for me that day) and I’m looking forward to several years of terrifying pressure in school 2.0.

Off to a bad start, it seems, but then I looked at the people around me, observed the situation, and in doing so I noticed all the flaws, all the bad habits that I shared with these random city-inhabitants.

See, this ties back in with the earlier part saying EVERYONE IS FAKING IT. Especially on a subway. Next time you’re in one notice how the ones at the window are staring out of said window while the ones on the corridor side of the bench fixate the floor or their baggage. They can’t look out of the window because it could mean eye-contact with someone next to the window. Normal people can be avoidant as ###$. It just takes special occasions like public transport for them to exhibit this type of behaviour.

When I became gradually more aware of this I had a huge, genuine smile on my face and felt more relaxed than ever before. I felt connected to each and everyone of these people while I curiously mustered them, wanting to see what they were really all about.
This moment of inner peace persisted for about 5 minutes and the feeling that stuck was that this is what it feels like to be truly alive. I swear for these 5 minutes I was basically cured, I was the most confident, open and relaxed person in that wagon. Do you know that weird feeling when eye-contact happens where you kind of freeze? Where something is all of a sudden different just because you’ve established a psychological connection, especially when it’s with a stranger? Yeah, that’s exactly the one I DIDN’T get.
I could notice that their expressions and movement did freeze when they realized I was looking at them but mine stayed exactly the same, I didn’t respond to their awkwardness. This means I was not faking anything for once. My behaviour was not influenced by the expectations that we – often falsely – attribute to others.
As a visualization for the mental process I went through, the shift that happened, I think I spend a lot of time hovering in the air right between me and others. I estimate what I am expected to do in a given situation, what would be acceptable, and THEN think of what I myself actually want to do. So what I do ends up the middleground between expectations and free (or entirely determined, I don’t have all the answers) will. Now instead of the middleground I retreated in both directions: When I realized how insecure most people can be and witnessed from the outside what I normally experience subjectively that opened up a world of compassion. Suddenly I could relate to them, felt like a part of society rather than its slave. And *click*, just like that my own insecurities were gone.

Do not lose ambition. First I wanted to say “hope” but hope is irrational whereas resolving your avoidance issues is not that far out there, especially now that I have proven that it is possible to escape it temporarily. Maybe I’ll even manage to overcome this state of paralysis permanently and share the rest of my journey with you. I’m not fooling myself here, it won’t be easy and it won’t happen fast. But even if it takes ten years and all my willpower during that time I know it’ll be well worth it thanks to that first glimpse at heaven.

TOO LONG, DIDN’T READ: If you’re trying to find yourself don’t look at yourself. Look at others and find all they have in common with you.

Whatever people keep telling you, one fact remains the same- no one likes the fake or artificial stuff! It is not considered to be a good quality and is bad for one’s reputation. But, the question arises doesn’t being authentic at all times too backfires at times?

So, faking till one makes it is the only option left. And you will agree that some amount of double standards exist in all of us.

How To Spot Fake People?

For some, fake people are pretty easy to identify. But for the other few, they are not that easily identified. So, before it gets too late and you get caught in the cobweb of fake people, here is how to spot them and accordingly prepare an action and escape plan.

How To Stop Being Fake?

In a world that brutally rejects the notion of originality, most of the times, we find ourselves conforming to the tastes and preferences of other people for the sake of acceptance. But this is how you can let out your true self and make sure that you stop being fake!

1. Listen To The Voice Inside

There are hundred times that our decisions can be manipulated by what others have to say and think. But, for the sake of benefiting yourself, take out a moment and reflect on the things you have been doing. See if you are going the right way. Analyze if your life is in accordance with your personal goals. Express your fears to yourself. Let yourself know about the rights and wrongs. The gut feeling never lies.

2. Do Not Look At Yourself In The Mirror

Find answers by looking at yourself rather than in a mirror. What you are wearing surely makes you presentable but that does not define your true character. Pretending to have everything by just wearing the fanciest clothes and accessories is where you are going wrong. Don’t try to become better than others. Be the best version of who you used to be. Dressing just to impress is not a 24 by 7 phenomenon. Be honest, know what you need rather than what you want. Be sure of your fears as well as hopes. And assure your likes and dislikes. Be real, be you!

3. Stop Worrying About What Others Have To Say!

This can be one of the easiest ways to stop being fake but also one of the toughest to implement in reality. Pleasing people somewhat comes very naturally to humans. It becomes a habit over the time. But you need to break the habit. Let people and you be two different identities. You do not have to be fake. You do not have to care about what shit people have to give. And you do not have to care about what others have to say because even they don’t care before giving you those judgmental looks!

4. Take Up The Things You Enjoy

In the hustle of attaining acceptance in this big bad world, you actually forget a hundred things that you love to do. Just to keep pretending and appearing cool, you sacrifice all those habits and passions that sum up your authentic self. So, when you are pretending just to fool others, it absolutely doesn’t come to their notice. But when you are doing it with your whole heart and mind, it shows up but displays your happiness and determination.

There are more topics to read this story you can read from How to Stop being Fake?

Last night, as I was trying to wind down, I saw a tweet that read “ what a normal and ultimate spaghetti hack! ” There was a video attached. In this video—which is a rip-off of an older TikTok video —a white woman in a “Plant Lady” shirt pours cold two cold, Costco-sized jars of Prego onto a granite (or maybe it’s marble) slab, while a different white woman coos in the background. She then adds meatballs of an indeterminate temperature, far too much powdered parmesan, and a whole lot of steaming, clumpy spaghetti before mixing it all together. Everyone who sees it hates it, and that is the point (I think).

It’s also fake as hell. The food is real—the white Plant Lady really is wasting all of that pasta—but the video is not genuine. As Eater reported just today (as I was writing this, conveniently enough!), all of these videos with blandly attractive, thin, white women can be traced back to a magician who has the audacity to be named “ Rick Lax .” Lax described the production of the videos as “both friendship and business,” and told Eater he would “object” to anyone calling the recipes “gross.”

But they are gross. And—worse—they aren’t even funny. The women in the spaghetti video can’t even fully commit to the bit by using their actual countertop. (If you look closely, you will see this coward is actually assembling her pile of garbage on a slab set atop her actual counter.) There is a vague attempt at humor at the end where both women instruct you to “fold it in” with an ever so slight Moira Rose affectation—a reference loved by white women everywhere —but the video is not entertaining. There is no joke. There is no payoff. There is no resting place. (Blackhead extraction videos are more satisfying—and less grotesque!)

After falling for exactly two of these types of videos ( one of which came from Rick Lax productions), I’m over it, and I invite you to be over it with me. There are so many real things to be angry about; there’s no reason to let a woman in a “Plant Lady” shirt take up valuable space in the rage portion of your brain. The impotent anger you feel after watching someone smear food on a countertop (or slab set on top of a countertop) in an otherwise pristine and quite spacious and probably expensive kitchen is what gives Rick Lax power, and he and his army of white women will not go away until we stop looking at them.

How do we do this? There are two steps here: identify and ignore. Once you know you’re dealing with this particular type of troll, simply pretend you do not see it. Do not comment. Do not share. Do not send it to anyone. (Then refresh your brain by gargling your mind throat with a good food video—like Sohla’s on Food52 , Lucas Sin’s or George Lee’s Instagram content, or Kevin Ashton’s TikTok , to name a few.)

Identifying can be the (kind of) tricky part, but once you know what to look for, spotting this kind of troll is easy. Here are some questions you can ask yourself if you think you’ve stumbled upon such a video in the wild, whether produced by a magician or not.

Does the food look good?

Look at the food on screen with your eyes and ask yourself if you would want to eat it. If the presentation is slovenly, cartoonishly unappealing, or if a real human guest would be insulted by it, the food is probably not meant for actual human consumption.

Does anyone eat it on camera?

If they won’t eat it, you shouldn’t either.

Does the reasoning make sense?

A “hack” is only a hack if it solves a problem, or makes a recipe easier, faster, or better. Let’s take one of my absurd blogs as an example. Smartfood popcorn grits could easily be interpreted as a straight-up troll, but if you read the article, you’ll see that popcorn grits have been around for thousands of years, and all I did was used cheese-flavored, pre-popped popcorn rather than popping it myself. It’s a small, kind of silly “hack,” but it makes the recipe take less time, and it tastes pretty darn good (if you like the flavor of white cheddar popcorn).

Is there any sense self-awareness?

Popcorn salad is another example of a recent piece of food content that made people very mad. But if you watch the original video , you see a cheerful, but self-aware Molly Yeh explain that she knows that the concept seems flawed, but promises you that “you taste it, and it’s really good.” (Molly was, as it turns out, correct about this .) Lax’s are completely devoid of hubris, or any real human emotion. With the glaring exception of whatever “recipe” is being featured, these clips are cold and sterile; would be mocking if they were just a little cleverer. Be aware of the tone, is what I’m saying.

Was it produced by Rick Lax?

As Eater points out in their absolutely engrossing and very well-reported piece, you can, “[s]earch the phrase ‘Rick Lax Productions ,’” and, “be greeted with the source code to pure Facebook virality.” You can then search Rick’s videos with the subject matter of the video your questioning—which is how I found out that the Flaming Hot Cheeto sludge recipe was, somewhat unsurprisingly, one of his gross babies.

We must not let this magician continue to dominate the conversation with boring, ugly food videos for the sake of garnering rage views. It may seem impossible—Lax has pretty much dominated the Facebook Watch algorithm—but magicians are kind of like Tinkerbell. Quit clapping, and they disappear.

Claire is the Senior Food Editor for Lifehacker and a noted duck fat enthusiast. She lives in Portland, Oregon with a slightly hostile cat.

How to stop being fake

Do you often get a feeling that someone is lying to you? Or, do you find yourself wondering how to spot a liar in the first place? Perhaps you feel that some of your friends are actually being fake, and you are not sure if you can trust them? It can be difficult to know for certain if someone is lying to you, and you don’t want to accuse them of anything without knowing for sure.

Having to deal with fake friends (or even family members or your partner) is hard to do, and trying to spot any signs of them lying can be even more difficult. It’s easy for people to get away with lies, but there are some signs that you can look out for.

Dealing With Fake People…

I am going to share with you 7 ways that you can spot a liar. There are certain things you can look out for to be sure. You should also try and decide whether or not they are true friends if you feel that they are lying to you, or being fake.

And if you have spotted a liar in your life and want to leave their company for good, be sure to consider ending the toxic relationship with help from self-hypnosis (find out more now, just click here).

How To Spot A Liar In 7 Steps

How to stop being fake

Lying is not a natural thing for a human to do, meaning it can be very hard on a person. This could show in their body language, so this is something worth looking out for.

They could become quite fidgety which can be shown with their hands and feet. A sign of dishonesty can be someone finding it hard to control their leg movements. This is also the same for hands and arms.

You might find that your friend or acquaintance has their hands placed behind their back when they speak to you. This could be because they want to limit their movement so that they don’t fidget. This could also be why they may cross their arms and try and stay still.

2. Hand Gestures

Sometimes our hand and arm movements/gestures can indicate that we are not being entirely honest, and they can be easy to spot. Research has shown that these hand gestures we may experience can happen because of a natural chemical reaction in the body.

When someone clenches their hand into a fist, this could be a sign of distress or dishonesty. As mentioned above, having our arms crossed can also be a sign that someone is lying too.

Some other hands and arm movements which can help you to spot a liar are the following: placing hands in pockets (this could be to stop themselves from fidgeting too much), excessive palm displays, or placing a purse, coffee or other objects between you and them whilst communicating.

3. How They Answer Neutral Questions

By asking this person neutral, basic questions, you can quite easily observe their response. These types of questions, such as, ‘What are your plans for the weekend?’, or any other question that should have a comfortable, normal response are great when you are dealing with fake people.

As they respond to your neutral question, check their body language and eye contact. If they seem uncomfortable or distressed, this could be a sign that they are lying, as these questions should not cause such a response.

4. Breathing

A great sign to look out for that could tell you if someone is lying is their breathing. When we become nervous or feel tense, our heart rate and blood flow will change.

If someone is lying to you, the chances are that they will probably feel these emotions, and so they will also have these changes to their heart rate and blood flow too. This tends to cause the person to breathe heavier than they normally would.

When someone is lying, their voice also may become shallow and this is because of their change in breathing. Another thing to look out for is the shoulders of the person you suspect is lying. Due to their change in breath, their shoulders can often rise more too.

How to stop being fake

5. Watch Changes In Behavior

There are also some simple changes that a person can make when they are speaking to you, that can also show signs that they are lying to you. Some are more obvious than others, but they are all things that you can observe. If someone answers questions with very short answers, and do not give you more detail, or they cut the conversation short, this could be a sign that they are being fake.

Another thing to look out for is if the person begins to speak a lot more formally than they normally would, this can be a sign of stress, which could be caused from feeling nervous when they lie. One last thing is that if you are speaking about the topic of which you feel they are lying about, they may show signs of lapses in memory regarding the topic, even if they seemed fine before.

6. Ask Follow Up Questions

This can be a very good thing to do if you want to find out if someone is lying to you or not. Some people may be lying out of fear or worry, it may not always be because they are a fake person or want to deceive you and it’s good to remember that.

Say you ask someone a question, and they lie to you out of embarrassment, you may want to ask them a follow-up question. This could be to keep them at ease and also for you to find out a little more information.

They may be able to tell you the truth through answering your follow up question and you can find out more information and decide whether they are lying to you and if so, why they are lying.

How to stop being fake

When most people lie, they often feel guilty and nervous, which can help you as it can give you some signs that they may be lying. Because they will most likely feel guilty, they may be uncomfortable with keeping eye contact.

People who are being fake and lying to you can often avoid keeping long gazes with others as much as they can. If you can observe their eye contact and watch where their eyes go, it can really help you to spot if they are lying.

If someone looks away from you when they talk, or look at the floor a lot, it could be because they feel uncomfortable and nervous when they are looking at you, which could be a sign that someone is lying.

When someone is lying to you, whether it’s a friend, a partner or a family member, it can be hard to deal with. If someone is constantly lying to you and being very fake, this can turn into quite a toxic relationship.

Dealing With Fake People Hypnosis

Take a look at this self-hypnosis program on ending a toxic relationship, if you feel you need some extra help with the situation!

Who is nice and who is fake? That’s all we’re really trying to figure out, isn’t it? It seems like such a simple concept, but when you get deep down into it, it’s actually a lot more complicated than you’d think.

It’s about meeting new people and getting sucker-punched by them after you thought all they actually wanted to do was be your friend.

It’s about thinking people are being genuine when they say you’re their friend, but you’re really nothing more than a stepping stone along their paths.

You’re usually left in the dark wondering where in the hell all these fake people came from and desperately searching just to find some nice ones.

I’m gonna break it down for you right now. It’s almost impossible to decipher who is nice from who is fake without thinking of a million people who have let you down, all those people who just pretended to be your friends, but really weren’t there when it came down to it.

You remember them as you think back, and can recall all those moments they enticed you with their open arms and big hellos.

They were just so goddamn nice that you figured they were going to be your friends. But they weren’t. They were just extending an olive branch for moment, teasing you with it.

You must be careful of fake people. They have their own hidden agenda, an agenda hidden far beyond. They are a sleazy little pawn in their own game of life and they will try to use you to advance themselves in this rat race to nowhere.

They will be these amazing people for week, a month, (hopefully you didn’t keep them around longer than a year, but it happens) and then they show themselves, their true ugly selves.

You see them as they tried to use you, see your small state in their grand play and you fall to the wayside, when you thought you were just confiding in someone good, someone genuine.

How did that just happen? It’s like you were just bitch-slapped. Every time you fall into the trap of meeting a fake person, you come out the other side, wondering where you missed the signs.

After this encounter, why haven’t you learned to just weed out the fake and the nice?

As you’re well aware of, these people do a pretty damn good job of hiding their fake essence, and even though we’ve all encountered too many of the sort, we still get tricked up by the slimy buggers.

Who wouldn’t? They come in with their glowing hellos and their big balloons and over-reaching promises.

It’s almost impossible to tell what fake is until you’ve been through the ringer and come out the other side with a few good friends hanging on, and if you’re still reading this, you know what I’m talking about.

So I’m going to try to break it down to its bare bones, the withered endpoints and give you just a few telltale signs of what it looks like when someone is being real and someone is being fake:

Nice is doing an act of kindness; fake is telling someone about it after.

Nice is genuine; fake is insincere.

Nice is warmly answering the door; fake is kissing both cheeks.

Nice is checking in on a friend; fake is sending a check.

Nice is being a good person; fake is trying to be a friend.

Nice is being there when you have a call; fake is chewing your ear off.

Nice is just being there; fake is always wanting to be there.

Nice is being there with your wallet; fake it trying to get in it.

Nice is holding a door; fake is slamming it halfway there.

Nice is being kind; fake is being some kind of way.

Nice is holding a cup of coffee; fake is always buying you one.

Nice is listening to your stories; fake is always telling stories.

Nice is being accountable; fake is being relatable.

Nice is being real; fake is being on the “Real World.”

Nice is always around; fake is only there when it’s convenient.

Nice is lending a hand; fake is giving a gift.

Nice is being good to you; fake is only giving it to you good.

How to stop being fake

How to stop being fakeThe influence of social media and the sheer reach of information — both true and false — is dominating headlines and the collective public conscience. Most recently, false stories surrounding the 2016 U.S. presidential election spread like wildfire, causing many to question the power of social platforms such as Facebook, when it comes to the spread of bogus news. While we can’t control the click-crazy groups sharing half-truths online, what we can control is the content we share and, we can teach our kids to do the same.

Individual responsibility

With so many people now consuming their news from platforms such as Google, Facebook, and Twitter, the need to carefully scrutinize sources, content, and story tone is becoming more imperative. Think about fake news this way: If you read an intriguing news story labeled “breaking news” that sounds like a serious news story, then share that story on your personal platforms, if that information is false, you are just as guilty as the bogus source. There’s much responsibility in commandeering even the smallest social channels these days — especially when cyberbullying, slander, and plagiarism becomes more prevalent in our digital culture.

Reputation management

Think about fake news this way: If you read an intriguing news story labeled “breaking news” that reads like a serious news story, then share that story on your Facebook page, if that information is false, you are just as guilty as the bogus source. Do it enough and eventually you lose your credibility, thus your voice and reach online. There’s much responsibility in commandeering even the smallest social channels these days — especially when cyberbullying, slander, and plagiarism are becoming more prominent in our digital culture.

Does it take more time to dig into a source? To trace a news story? Sure. But it’s well worth it and makes for a more trustworthy web and more savvy, honest digital citizens.

10 ways to spot and stop bogus news stories:

  1. Before sharing a piece of content double, even triple check the article’s source. Google the headline (or subject) to see if the story appears in other reliable publications. If it’s isolated “breaking news,” and it coming from a sketchy source outside of the mainstream media, then it’s (likely) not breaking news. People creating fake news are getting more sophisticated creating stories that look, sound, and incite.
  2. Be especially diligent in checking sources during times of national tension when tempers are running high. Often false stories are planted to by special interest groups to fuel one side or the other of a social crisis. Teach kids to think carefully before sharing such information. When in doubt — don’t share, post, or publish.
  3. Look for sensational stories that mix real news articles in with completely made-up stories in an attempt to appear credible. Also look for outrageous ads on the page. Reliable news outlets will not have weight loss pills or celebrity gossip blog posts flanking legitimate news coverage.
  4. Before sharing ask: Who is saying this? Is this organization credible? Is the information biased (fact or opinion)?
  5. Discern objectivity. In any news story that is credible, there will be two opposing viewpoints. A quick Google of sources quoted will render titles and authenticity of sources. Objectivity simply means to be fair to both sides of an issue.
  6. Look closely to see if the story is a sponsored post. More and more, websites are designed to look like legitimate news sites but are sponsored by special interest groups.
  7. Google the author’s name and see what other works he or she has published. If you can’t find the author elsewhere and it’s a “big” story, chances are the author is not using his or her real name. Sometimes a fake article will be void of an author’s byline altogether.How to stop being fake
  8. Evaluate the article’s tone and purpose: Is this written objectively to inform and educate or is it written with biased and designed to persuade or incite the reader?
  9. Verify date. Many times fake stories will not have a publish date attached, but a credible article will always have a date.
  10. Assess image quality, the number of clicks, and overall layout. What is the quality of the graphic images? Does the “news” site feel cluttered? Do the story images enhance the resource or distract from the content? How many clicks did it take to get the desired information? Often, fake stories will be overpopulated with ads or presented in slide shows that make room for more popup ads. Getting multiple clicks out of a user helps a sensationalized website wit its ad sales.

A few places to check facts:

So are you feeling like a digital detective yet? Sadly, along with the all the good of the Internet, comes the time-consuming task of fact checking. Commit to sharing the truth, checking facts, and teaching your kids responsible posting habits when they are young. Take the time to convey the value that when false information moves from person to person, individual, and community integrity becomes compromised. Advise kids to be skeptical of celebrity death reports, free giveaways, shocking political claims, and any scandalous story from a questionable source.

18th August 2017

Although it’s the 21st century, fake calling still remains a popular method of scamming, pranking, and even scaring people. Fraudsters and pranksters alike use the old fake call trick to gather valuable information from innocent victims. Because of this, we are less trustworthy of unfamiliar numbers – and as a result, we miss important updates from doctors, schools, airlines, and job offers.

Technology has made it easier and cheaper for scammers, pranksters, and telemarketers to call you, making it difficult to identify and deal with a fake call. Fortunately, apps like TrapCall are there to help.

TrapCall allows users to unveil the true identity of those p rivate, no caller ID , unknown and restricted numbers and block those unwanted callers! In this post, you’ll not only learn how to deal with fake calls but how to stop them for good with TrapCall!

But first, what types of fake calls are out there?

There are many types of fake callers out there, ranging from your mischievous friends to experienced phone scam artists. However, the types of fake calls you can receive can be classified as either blocked or spoofed numbers.

Blocked, No Caller ID, and Restricted Numbers

You’ll know you’re getting fake calls by the many blocked, no caller ID, and restricted numbers popping up on your phone. Blocked calls can easily be placed to your phone by dialing *67 before entering the phone number you wish to call – it’s one of the oldest tricks in the book!

Because nearly anyone can call you from a blocked number, the types of callers behind private numbers can vary. The most typical types are scammers, telemarketers, or robocallers. Their intentions can range from soliciting a purchase of legitimate product or service from a legally registered business all the way to trying to scam you out of your personal identity. Blocked callers can also be people that you know.

Because it is so easy to place a private call, friends or family can place a funny prank to your phone or use blocked calling to communicate with you after a conflict. Blocked callers can also be disgruntled ex-girlfriends or ex-boyfriends, a contentious family member, or even a stalker.

How to stop being fake

If you do not use a call unmasking app , it can be difficult to identify who these callers are and the intentions behind their call. Because the caller’s phone number is hidden, there is no way to protect yourself from receiving another call using Apple and Android’s default phone blocking functions. The only true way to reveal the number behind a blocked call is to download a third-party app such as TrapCall that will easily allow you to unmask the person’s phone number who placed the call or calls.

Spoofed Phone Numbers

The most common fake calls placed by phone scammers and spammers are known as spoofed calls. Phone spoofing is the practice of tricking a phone network into thinking the originator of the call is from a location other than its actual location, allowing callers to place an outbound call from a number that is different to the one they are truly calling from. This tactic is particularly popular because it tricks call recipients into thinking they’re receiving an important phone call from their local mechanic, school or doctor.

How to stop being fake

Phone spoofing allows telephone scammers to place millions of fake calls each day – each from a unique or masked phone number. Similar to blocked calls, Apple and Android call blocking cannot help to stop these unwanted callers because they will continue to call you from different spoofed numbers ( especially if you answer the phone).

Most third-party apps cannot help you at all to stop problem calls from spoofed numbers, but TrapCall uses advanced audio-fingerprinting technology to identify and protect you from many common spoofed number scams.

Now that we’ve got your attention, there are ways to deal with these unwanted fake calls:

  1. First, never answer calls without caller ID information.
  2. If you do answer the call and believe the call is a scam, request to call the caller back at their number. This is the easiest way to identify if the caller is calling from a spoofed number because if you call back and the same caller does not answer – you know the call was fake.
  3. Never give out your personal information on the phone. It is unlikely a trustworthy company will fake call you out of the blue seeking your credit card and social security number.
  4. If you do answer the phone and the caller says, “What number did I call?” Simply throw the question back to them and ask, “What number did you dial?”
  5. Don’t believe anyone calling you first about tech problems, especially Microsoft. Microsoft and other similar organizations will never call you directly to inform you of a software issue. And never give remote computer access to the caller
  6. Once you learn the true source of the fake call, you can be a hero and post it on several sites, like 800notes , as a warning to others. If you get a strange fake call just put the phone number up on the site with your experience. This way people know they’re not alone!
  7. If you’re getting scammed, don’t register on the Do Not Call List. Scammers will never abide by the legal requirements of the FCC or FTC because calling you to scam you out of your money or identity is illegal.
  8. Track and block the caller with TrapCall. You can track phone numbers & calls and confront them, preventing them from reaching out to you and bothering you in the future.

Here’s how to permanently put an end to fake calls

Now that you understand where fake calls come from, how fake callers can block or spoof their numbers, and that you’ll never be able to fully to unmask or block these nuisance calls using only your iPhone or Android – you must take matters into your own hands.

The concept of the solution is simple, annoying fake or blocked callers can’t ever get you on the phone if they can’t reach you when they call. But how do you accomplish that if smartphones, phone carriers, or even government organizations like the FCC can’t protect your phone number from harassment, dangerous phone scammers, or unwanted telemarketing calls? The only way to truly accomplish this is to download a third-party call blocking and unmasking app to ensure unwanted callers can’t reach you.

We highly recommend signing up for TrapCall as your best solution to stop unwanted fake calls for good. TrapCall ensures fake, spam, and scam callers are never able to reach you. TrapCall protects you from identifying blocked calls before you answer and automatically stop spam calls from ringing. TrapCall is also the only app that offers number unmasking to reveal the true identity of a blocked caller.

TrapCall is an easy investment to ensure your privacy and personal information is protected from annoying spam callers.

How to stop being fake

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How to stop being fake

Whether we admit it or not, we all want the approval of others. It is part of the consequences of sin that we so often strive to be people-pleasers rather than God-pleasers.

Because of this, we often put on a fake persona in order to be accepted, respected, or admired by the people we think matter.

As Christians, we likely realize this attitude is wrong and counter-Christian, yet it is such an easy temptation to slip into time and time again.

From the earliest age, we tend to put on a facade whenever we are around someone whom we want to impress.

In his new book Faker, Nicholas McDonald addresses this tendency we all have to fake that we have it all together. McDonald says that Christ came to justify fakers, to make it possible for us to be real, open, and genuine.

In a review of McDonald’s book, Mathew B. Sims shares a story about his daughter, Claire.

Sims said his family was hosting a birthday party for Claire and one of her friends asked to watch a show which the Sims family had thought it best not to have Claire watch. They had talked to her about the reasons for their decision, and yet, Sims relates, he heard Claire lean over to her friend and say, “I’ve watched that one before, but we’re gonna watch a movie.”

Even a young girl felt the need to impress her friend by being fake.

Sims commends McDonald’s book for dealing with an issue that we all struggle with, perhaps no group more so than young people. Sims says McDonald addresses the issue of being a faker with humor, insight, and in a way that a young person can understand.

The issue of being a faker is an age-old one. That is why McDonald centers his book around the story of the Pharisee and the tax collector in Luke 18:9-14. The Pharisee prays to God in a self-righteous way, more for the ears of other people than for the ears of God. But the tax collector–who realizes his brokenness and that God is the one to please–says, “God, have mercy on me, a sinner.”

The Bible says the tax collector went away justified, rather than the Pharisee.

And yet, we often still try to be the Pharisee.

In “How to Stop Being a Fake Christian,” Crosswalk.com contributor Kelly Balarie says, “I come on this blog and talk the talk, but then at home, I drop the ball. I raise my hands to pray, only to turn and go the opposite way. I say in Jesus’ name, and seconds later, wonder if my name still counts in his book. I love other people, until it gets inconvenient. These actions make me feel like an inadequate daughter, a lazy child and a no-good-worthy christian. They make me wonder if Jesus could really love a girl like this? A girl who is so often just a Christian poser.”

Many of us may feel the same. Our tendency to fake it can so easily carry over into our Christian life as well. This is the age-old struggle Paul talks about in Romans 7:15: “For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate.”

And yet, as McDonald says, Jesus came to justify fakers. Being fake with someone is just another form of pride–the sin that so many theologians have said is at the heart of all other sins. Jesus died for all of our vain efforts to impress and put on a fake persona.

“When we trade our story for God’s story,” McDonald writes, “we also trade in our work for his work. We trade in our goodness for his goodness.”

Thank goodness we don’t need to fake it, because we have a God who frees us from the exhausting need to strive and has said it is not about what we do, but about what His Son did on our behalf.

Do you struggle with being fake? How can Jesus’ work on the cross free you to be genuine and honest with yourself and others?

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Publication date: November 4, 2015