How to see things from different points of view

This article was co-authored by Sandra Possing. Sandra Possing is a life coach, speaker, and entrepreneur based in the San Francisco Bay Area. Sandra specializes in one-on-one coaching with a focus on mindset and leadership transformation. Sandra received her coaching training from The Coaches Training Institute and has seven years of life coaching experience. She holds a BA in Anthropology from the University of California, Los Angeles.

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It can be difficult to step outside of your world and see things from someone else’s point of view, but it is beneficial! By looking at things from a different perspective, you can gain new insight into problems and improve your social interactions. Collect different types of experiences, such as by traveling, reading, and talking with people. Then, work on building empathy for other people. With persistence, seeing things from different points of view will become much easier for you!

How to see things from different points of view

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  • Make eye contact and face the person while they are talking.
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  • How to see things from different points of view

    “Your outlook on life is a direct reflection on how much you like yourself.”

    Several months ago I wrote an article that sat for months without being published. A few weeks ago the editor emailed me to say how pleased she was with it and that it would post the following week.

    Since I hadn’t thought about it in a while (and she’d sent me the preview link), I figured I’d check out her edits and re-read the post. As I sat back and took in what I wrote, I was genuinely astonished at how well done it was. I wrote that? It was amazing!

    I remember being nervous at the time to send it in. Then, not hearing back for a while made me even more anxious. But after taking a few months away from it, I could see that yes, I was a very talented writer.

    Sometimes it takes getting farther away from something to see it for what it really is. It’s that whole forest-for-the-trees thing. The same is true when it comes to how we see ourselves.

    Sometimes we need a little distance to help us see things as they really are. (Because really, you’re wonderful.)

    This got me thinking: How do you get farther away from yourself? As I’ve journaled and worked through my days, that question has been answered for me.

    Cultivate patience.

    Doesn’t this seem like it’s the answer to everything? It does for me these days. Any problem I have seems to be solved by patience, and getting some distance is no exception.

    My ego is usually the part of me that doesn’t want me to take risks and see myself for the star that I am. It wants to keep me from submitting my writing or taking that rock climbing class because if I fail, how embarrassing and horrible would that be?

    Not all that terrible, it turns out. But only if you’re willing to sit around and wait for the response. It can be painful to hear other people’s criticisms, no matter how constructive, and sometimes, even compliments make us uneasy, but it’s even worse sitting around and waiting for it. My ego just wants to run the other way.

    By practicing patience I am able to make it less about me and more about the task, which (surprise!) isn’t really about me at all. An article, a photo, a presentation, even cooking dinner can become an extension of myself if I’m not careful to sit within myself.

    This helps me to understand that those are simply creations that have happened through my body, my vessel. With patience I am able to see those things for what they really are and appreciate them with detachment. It also makes criticism a heck of a lot easier too.

    Help others.

    When I get into service mode, I really learn how to see my life as it truly is. It’s about a change in perspective. After I served homeless families Christmas dinners for a few years, the petty problems my family had didn’t seem to matter.

    It also made me see how great my family dinners actually are. We’ve got a roof over our heads. We can take a nap on the couch if we ate too much. Life is beautiful and simple.

    But this doesn’t just happen with big gestures. It’s all the tiny things too. My friend was filling up her tank the other day and I knew she wouldn’t take my cash, so I snuck it into her purse.

    I imagined her later opening up her wallet. Maybe she’d notice it, or maybe it wouldn’t even register. That part didn’t matter. It was about me seeing through her eyes. And that change of perspective helps me to see a part of myself that wasn’t in focus before.

    When we extend a hand, no matter how big or small, it offers us the chance to step outside ourselves for a minute and understand more of the big picture. And when we can do that, we see our role in it more clearly and are able to appreciate that (and ourselves) more readily.

    Embrace other points of view.

    Much like helping other people, seeing a different side to a story can help you see yourself more clearly. I remember speaking with a close friend about suicide when I was younger. I was lamenting how terrible and selfish it was when she spoke up that perhaps that soul just wasn’t ready for this world.

    Instead of immediately discarding her point, I was struck by how it had never occurred to me. While I marinated on it for the next few days I really got a chance to consider myself from a different angle. Was I compassionate toward myself and give myself permission to have differing, sometimes even contradicting opinions? Did I encourage myself to open up like my friend did?

    I could see that yes, sometimes I did, and I congratulated myself for that in a way that I couldn’t have done before. But beyond seeing myself in a different light, it also opened me up to the fact that I can have more than one feeling about something and that that was okay.

    In fact, it showed me that it’s important to honor all parts of myself. I felt more whole and free after that.

    We can all benefit from listening and considering other points of view. Even if we don’t agree, it can give us a chance to consider if we’re honoring all parts of ourselves. And that is truly a blessing.

    Live in the moment.

    This sort of seemed like a contradiction to me at first. If we’re living in the moment, in our bodies, how on earth can we see ourselves more clearly? How exactly are we getting farther away? I realized, however, that when I’m truly present with what I’m doing and in my body, that I am much more connected to the world and those around me than when I’m multitasking and running around like a headless chicken.

    For instance, the other day I was listening to a class and trying to do some home improvement at the same time. I dropped what I was trying to hang on the wall and started feeling sorry for myself. Now I had to stop and fix everything and replay the part of the class I missed. I was so completely stuck in my own world that I couldn’t see that I was getting in my own way.

    On the other hand, I was raking the yard last weekend and was making an attempt to be in the moment. When I realized that I needed to water the trees and flowers as well, I stopped. I told myself I could do that after I finished putting the leaves in the compost because they’d get wet if I didn’t. Because I was present in my body, I could see what was around me and was able to make better decisions.

    When we’re not present, we’re on autopilot. We make choices without even realizing we’re affecting our futures. If you can try to stay present, you’re able to see those choices you’re about to make and slow them down. This helps you see yourself differently.

    That autopilot choice to pull into the fast food joint: Is that really what my body wants or am I choosing what has been put in front of me? That mindless judgment you’ve made about someone in line at the coffee shop: Is this really how you feel or are you masking emotions like jealousy or anger?

    Most of us struggle with seeing things from a different perspective. And many of us have to really work to view ourselves in a new light or give ourselves positive feedback. I know I do.

    I hope that considering a few of these tactics will make it easier for you to pat yourself on the back and widen your horizons. It certainly has for me.

    It’s a necessary prerequisite for persuasion.

    It’s a necessary prerequisite for persuasion.

    The most influential people strive for genuine buy in and commitment — they don’t rely on compliance techniques that only secure short-term persuasion. That was our conclusion after interviewing over 100 highly respected influences across many different industries and organizations for our recent book.

    These high-impact influencers follow a pattern of four steps that all of us can put into action. In earlier pieces we covered Step 1: Go for great outcomes and Step 2: Listen past your blind spots. Later we’ll cover Step 4: When you’ve done enough… do more. Here we cover Step 3: Engage others in “their there.”

    To understand why this step is so important, imagine that you’re at one end of a shopping mall — say, the northeast corner, by a cafe. Next, imagine that a friend of yours is at the opposite end of the mall, next to a toy store. And imagine that you’re telling that person how to get to where you are.

    Now, picture yourself saying, “To get to where I am, start in the northeast corner by a cafe.” That doesn’t make sense, does it? Because that’s where you are, not where the other person is.

    Yet that’s how we often try to convince others — on our terms, from our assumptions, and based on our experiences. We present our case from our point of view. There’s a communication chasm between us and them, but we’re acting as if they’re already on our side of the gap.

    Like in the shopping mall example, we make a mistake by starting with how we see things (“our here”). To help the other person move, we need to start with how they see things (“their there”).

    For real influence we need to go from our here to their there to engage others in three specific ways:

    1. Situational Awareness: Show that You Get “It.” Show that you understand the opportunities and challenges your conversational counterpart is facing. Offer ideas that work in the person’s there. When you’ve grasped their reality in a way that rings true, you’ll hear comments like “You really get it!” or “You actually understand what I’m dealing with here.”
    2. Personal Awareness: You Get “Them.” Show that you understand his or her strengths, weaknesses, goals, hopes, priorities, needs, limitations, fears, and concerns. In addition, you demonstrate that you’re willing to connect with them on a personal level. When you do this right, you’ll hear people say things like “You really get me!” or “You actually understand where I’m coming from on this.”
    3. Solution Awareness: You Get Their Path to Progress. Show people a positive path that enables them to make progress on their own terms. Give them options and alternatives that empower them. Based on your understanding of their situation and what’s at stake for them personally, offer possibilities for making things better — and help them think more clearly, feel better, and act smarter. When you succeed, you’ll hear comments like, “That could really work!” or “I see how that would help me.”

    One of our favorite examples involves Mike Critelli, former CEO of the extraordinarily successful company, Pitney Bowes. Mike was one of the highly prestigious Good to Great CEOs featured in the seminal book by Jim Collins on how the most successful businesses achieve their results.

    One of Mike’s many strengths is the ability to engage his team on their terms to achieve high levels of performance and motivation. When we asked him about this, he said, “Very often what motivates people are the little gestures, and a leader needs to listen for those. It’s about picking up on other things that are most meaningful to people.”

    For example, one employee had a passing conversation with Mike about the challenges of adopting a child, pointing out that Pitney Bowes had an inadequate adoption benefit. A few weeks after that, he and his wife received a letter from Mike congratulating them on their new child — along with a check for the amount of the new adoption benefit the company had just started offering.

    When he retired, the Pitney Bowes employees put together a video in which they expressed their appreciation for his positive influence over the years. They all talk about ways that Mike “got” them — personal connections and actions that have accumulated over time into a reputation that attracted great people to the organization and motivated them to stay.

    It’s a moving set of testimonials, and it’s telling about Critelli’s ability to “get” people on their own terms — to go to their there — that they openly express their appreciation permanently captured on video for open public viewing.

    Remember, they did this after he was no longer in power.

    Like Mike Critelli does, when you practice all three of these ways of “getting” others — situational, personal, and solution-oriented — you understand who people are, what they’re facing, and what they need in order to move forward. This is a powerful way to achieve great results while strengthening your relationships.

    When you’re trying to influence, don’t start by trying to pull others into your here. Instead, go to their there by to asking yourself:

    • Am I getting who this person is?
    • Am I getting this person’s situation?
    • Am I offering options and alternatives that will help this person move forward?
    • Does this person get that I get it?

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    How to see things from different points of view

    But failing to understand that each individual is entitled to his or her own point of view is failing to appreciate what makes the other person who they really are. After all, you both are two unique individuals, with two unique backgrounds and life experiences that help form two unique perspectives. And those perspectives should be respected and valued.

    How to see things from different points of view

    Are you really listening?

    Over the course of your relationship, your partner has demonstrated time and time again what his or her beliefs, thoughts and feelings are. But you, in turn, have likely only absorbed a mere fraction of this information. If you want to truly deepen your understanding of your partner’s subjective reality, you need to condition yourself to listen and communicate more effectively.

    One of the first steps to effective listening and communication is paying attention to what words mean to your partner. Even though you and your partner speak the same language, you both have your own private meanings and interpretations that you associate with different words and phrases. This is simply the result of growing up in different environments with different life experiences.

    There are also challenges to overcome with communication. Often, when a couple disagrees, it is easy for one or both to slip into a state of denial, in which they outright refuse to believe what the other has to say. Some individuals also tend to tap into an arsenal of weapons to help validate their point — whether that means condemning their partner, ignoring them or even threatening them. In every one of these cases, however, one person is trying to diminish the other’s sense of self and replace it with his or her own, self-serving perspective. And this is particularly damaging to the relationship.

    Ask these 3 questions

    Rather than telling your partner that only a portion of his or her beliefs or feelings are acceptable, and adding further insult and injury to their sense of self, focus on helping your partner step out of their pain. And rather than seeing your partner’s differing views as potential for conflict, consider it an opportunity to learn more about them. Ask yourself: “What are you seeing that I am not?,” “What have you experienced in your past that has led you to this belief?,” and “How can I use this as an opportunity to know you better?”

    When you become more receptive to your partner’s perceptions, there can also be a shift in the energy. Your partner will feel more understood and therefore feel safer and more secure since you are no longer challenging his or her beliefs or feelings. The more secure someone feels in a relationship, the more they will be willing to open up. They will choose to share information with you because they have trust in what you will do with it — that is, they trust you will not use it against them, but use it as a way to understand them better. And that in itself is a gift.

    Your partner will also no longer feel the need to amplify their feelings in order to feel heard. And you, in turn, can express how you feel with less force. This helps each of you lower your defenses, and become more willing to recognize and truly understand the other’s perspective.

    An “A” for effort

    By making the effort to understand your partner’s perspective, you are making the effort to bridge the divide between you and your partner as separate individuals with different views on the world. You are strengthening the connection and introducing a new dynamic of trust, where your partner feels that they will be accepted and understood no matter how far their feelings or beliefs deviate from your own.

    Understandably, there may be certain situations in which you find it almost impossible to see the other person’s point of view. And finding empathy or compassion is the furthest thing from your mind. But those most challenging times also present the most room for growth. You are setting your ego aside to focus on how you can help your partner out of their pain. And you are turning away from anger and fear to bring love and security into the relationship.

    The journey towards a healthy, happy relationship is never a straight line. But at the end of the day, making the effort and the space to understand your partner’s perspective will help you become more conscious in your relationship. It will help your partner feel more loved, more vital and more secure. And it will help your relationship achieve a new sense of inherent unity and wholeness.

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    The employee experience is crucial to retaining and growing your workforce. Happy employees want to stay where they are and continue to do their best work. But when those employees are dissatisfied, they’re likely to search for greener pastures.

    The main issue plaguing a lot of companies is the disconnect between how higher-ups perceive their organizational culture and the reality that employees experience. The July 2016 Corporate Culture Chasm survey, from VitalSmarts, questioned 1,200 respondents and found that managers had a much more positive view of their corporate culture than did their employees.

    To maintain a culture that hosts a happy workforce, it’s important for everyone to be on the same page. Here are some ways HR and leaders can bridge the management-employee gap.

    Innovation vs. status quo

    Managers will say they look to their employees for innovation, but according to the VitalSmarts survey, employees feel that their leaders really value obedience.

    When the survey asked respondents to identify which norms reflected their company culture, employees were 54 percent more likely than their leaders to choose avoiding conflict and maintaining pleasant relationships.

    Employees who said they followed those norms themselves also said they believed that agreeing with others and gaining approval are important for being liked.

    Additionally, employees were 53 percent more likely than their leaders to say conformity was important in their company culture. In other words, they see their workplace as a place where people feel it’s best to follow rules and make a good impression. That mindset, however, doesn’t help foster an environment where innovation is nurtured. So, while managers may say they want innovation, they’ve instead created a culture of obedience, where employees are more prone to seek acceptance and be agreeable.

    How can HR bridge this gap and inspire employees to innovate? The solution starts with communication.

    Accept input from employees on all levels and encourage teams to be hands-on and engaged with brainstorming and problem-solving. Reward employees who think outside of the box and dare to try something different.

    This is where HR and leadership can come together to effect change. By creating incentives and celebrating new ways of thinking and executing, HR is playing a key role in developing a culture of innovation.

    Teamwork vs. competition

    The survey results also found a disparity between employees’ and employers’ perception of competition. While leaders said they valued teamwork in the workplace, employees felt that their employers really wanted staffers to compete with one another.

    To build a culture of collaboration, leaders need to look at work on both a team and individual basis. The trick is for managers to enhance team collaboration while boosting individual performance. How does the team function as a whole? Are there breakdowns in communication between individuals? Is everyone on the same page?

    Individual performance is still important, but leaders should facilitate an environment where employees work together effectively. Hold team meetings and encourage employees to speak up, ask questions and discuss any problems they may be having. Keep communication open and work transparent; that way, it’s easy for co-workers to collaborate.

    Review team roles and responsibilities with employees so individuals see what role they play and why they’re important. Doing so will remind employees of whom they can reach out to. It will also show them whom they should work with for specific projects.

    Transparency vs. blind spots

    Higher-ups also have a different view than employees when it comes to communication in the workplace.

    Employees should feel encouraged to speak up and address obstacles preventing them from performing at their best, but the VitalSmarts survey proved otherwise. In the survey, leaders were 67 percent more likely than their staff to say that the norm at their companies was to speak up when a concern or question arose that could potentially affect performance.

    To encourage a culture of communication, stay consistent with ongoing feedback and automated review cycles. More importantly, start to recognize employees in real time when they succeed. By celebrating great work, employers are motivating their staff to be their best and demonstrating how leaders appreciate each person.

    Social news feeds can keep everyone up-to-date on news, accomplishments and company updates. The real-time communication on a social platform keeps everyone accountable, productive and inspired.

    Transparency practices will also strengthen your culture of communication. They facilitate a positive working environment that encourages employees to be forthright and speak their minds when they feel that’s necessary.

    Create a culture where everyone is comfortable with addressing obstacles, so productivity can soar and performance can stay high. This way, everyone has a better chance of managing their responsibilities and achieving large-scale organizational goals.

    In addition, train managers to support a culture that celebrates failure. In other words, let employees know it’s okay to make mistakes and miss goals. Instead of focusing on what went wrong, focus on what to take away from the experience. Managers should lead their teams to think about problem-solving, not just the problem itself.

    When companies close the perception gap between higher-ups and employees, everyone can see eye-to-eye. As leaders come to better understand their employees’ day-to-day experience, they will be more empathetic and compassionate when it comes time to listen.

    How to see things from different points of view

    This blog will explain how to answer the interview question, “how do you persuade people to see your point of view”? This can be tricky, especially if you are not a strongly opinionated person. Or, if you have not had to persuade someone in a professional setting in the past. The good news is, you have likely had to convince someone to see your point of view in your personal life previously. Examples may include, your parents, siblings, close friends, or partner. Here is how to answer this question in an interview setting, and be sure that you get offered the job!


    Persuasion is an art that is made up of a variety of different perspectives. Perspectives can mold, shift, and change. This can depend on the experiences one has gone through or the environment in which they live. To start persuading someone into seeing your point of view, it is critical to put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Try to see the situation from their perspective and understand why they think the way that they do. This is an excellent method to bring up during an interview because it shows that you aim to understand issues from other people’s points of view. This is crucial when working on a team and collaborating to complete projects.

    Example: When trying to persuade someone to see my point of view, I usually start by putting myself in their shoes. I explore the situation from the other person’s perspective and understand their opinion based on their personal situation.


    Another standard method that many use to persuade people into taking their side on a complicated issue is to provide examples. Providing concrete, researched fact-based examples is a fantastic way to show your credibility and knowledge about a topic. It is likely that once given the facts and shown a direct example of your opinion, others will be more likely to be persuaded. This is a great point to bring up in an interview! It will show that you are an intelligent, evidence-based candidate that is not afraid to do thorough research.

    Example: Before trying to persuade someone to see my point of view, I always back up my point with evidence-based facts. This is so that I can give the opposing side a concrete explanation as to why I believe in my argument.


    You might also want to take an acceptance and understanding approach. You must accept that you will not always be able to change the opinions of others. Sometimes, you will have to understand that they cannot be persuaded. This is a valuable point to bring up during an interview because it will show that you are accepting of a variety of beliefs and viewpoints. People like this are highly sought-after in the workplace.

    Example: I always remind myself that sometimes, I might not be able to successfully persuade someone into seeing my point of view. I can accept different opinions and understand that everyone has a right to their opinion.

    These are just a few talking points you can bring up when participating in your next interview. Good luck!

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    How to see things from different points of view

    The perspective from which a story is told is called its point of view. Understanding point of view helps students effectively analyze literature, improves their critical thinking skills, helps them understand the author’s purpose, and increases their ability to recognize potential bias.

    Types of Point of View

    • First person: The main character is telling the story. Uses words such as I, we, and me.
    • Second person: The author is telling the story directly to the reader. Uses words such as you and your.
    • Third person: The author is telling the story, but is not part of it. Uses words such as he, she, and they. Some third-persons narrators are all-knowing, but others have limited knowledge.

    Types of Point of View

    Children’s books can make an excellent option for teaching point of view for all grade levels because they often offer concise examples. The three main types of point of view are:

    First person. A first person point of view story is written as if it is being told by the main character and uses words such as I, we, and me. Two examples are “Green Eggs and Ham” by Dr. Seuss, or “I Love You, Stinky Face” by Lisa McCourt.

    Second person. A story told from the second person point of view puts the reader in the action by using words such as you and your. It can be found in titles such as “The Monster at the End of This Book” by Jon Stone or “If You Give a Mouse a Cookie” by Laura Numeroff.

    Third person. Stories written in third person show an outsider’s point of view using words such as he, she, and they. Books written in third person include “Stephanie’s Ponytail” by Robert Munsch or “Officer Buckle and Gloria” by Peggy Rathman.

    There are two different ways third person books may be written: omniscient and limited. Sometimes, third person point of view is broken down further to objective point of view in which the author acts only as a narrator. This style is prevalent in many fairy tales.

    In a book using omniscient point of view, the author writes from an outsider’s point of view but offers the perspective of multiple characters. “Blueberries for Sal” by Robert McCloskey is one example.

    A third person limited point of view tale is written from an outsider’s perspective, but the reader only follows the story based on what the main character knows. “Harold and the Purple Crayon” by Crockett Johnson or “Bread and Jam for Frances” by Russell Hoban are two examples.

    Using a Point of View Anchor Chart

    Anchor charts are visual aids to helps students work more independently. As an instructor teaches a lesson, the core concepts and relevant facts are added to the chart. The completed anchor chart provides students with a resource to which they can refer if they have difficulty remembering the steps or concepts of a lesson.

    A point of view anchor chart reminds students of the different point of view types with keywords and phrases and examples of the pronouns used to indicate each type.

    For example, a student reading “If You Give a Mouse a Cookie” reads the line, “If you give a mouse a cookie, he’s going to ask for a glass of milk. When you give him the glass of milk, he’ll probably ask for a straw.”

    He sees the keyword “you” that indicates that the author is addressing the reader. Based on the anchor chart keywords, the student identifies the book’s point of view as second person.

    Point of View Scavenger Hunt

    Help students become adept at correctly identifying point of view with a scavenger hunt. Visit the library or bookstore or provide a wide assortment of children’s books in the classroom.

    Give students a sheet of paper and a pencil. Instruct them to work on their own or in small groups, searching for at least one example (and listing its title and author) of a book for each point of view type.

    Pronoun Perspective

    This hands-on activity will help students gain a more concrete understanding of the three main points of view. First, divide a whiteboard into three sections: 1st person, 2nd person, and 3rd person.

    Next, select one student to perform an everyday activity, such as making a sandwich. The student will narrate each step using first-person pronouns as he completes it. For example, “I am placing two slices of bread on a plate.”

    Write the student’s sentence in the 1st person column. Then, choose other students to restate the same sentence in 2nd and 3rd person, writing their sentences in the appropriate column.

    Second person: “You are placing two slices of bread on a plate.”

    Third person: “He is placing two slices of bread on a plate.”

    Repeat the process for all steps of making a sandwich.

    Point of View Flip

    Help students understand how point of view changes a story. First, read or tell the traditional story of The Three Little Pigs. Discuss with students how the story would change if it were being told in first person by one of the pigs or the wolf, rather than being told in third person.

    The third pig wouldn’t know anything that happened before his brothers arrived, breathless, at his door. Is he relieved that he can help his brothers? Angry that they led the wolf to his house? Proud that his home is the strongest?

    After your discussion, read “The True Story of the Three Little Pigs” by Jon Scieszka, which relates the tale from the wolf’s point of view.

    Comparing Points of View

    Another way to help students understand point of view is to choose a book that tells the same story from multiple points of view, such as “Voices in the Park” by Anthony Brown. (Older students may enjoy using “Wonder” by R.J. Palacio for this activity.)

    Read the book. Then, use a Venn diagram to compare the differences and similarities of the events based on two or more characters’ points of view.