How to romantically hug a woman

How to romantically hug a woman

I recently had a humiliating hugging encounter at a Christmas party that left me sweating when it was over. While engaged in conversation with the hostess, I spotted a young woman who my peripheral vision conned me into believing was the hostess’s sister, whom I’ve met several times. After my conversation with the hostess was over, I went in to hug the “sister” and realized, once it was too late, that it wasn’t the “sister,” and rather a girl I briefly met at the hostess’s baby shower a few months back and exchanged- maybe- two sentences with. She probably thought I was a lunatic and wondered why I was hugging her- she may not have even remembered me from the shower and figured I was just crazy and awkward. She politely proceeded with the hug, which was the one-armed-pat-on-the-back-no-frontal-contact-haphazard-hug and I desperately tried to play off the situation and pretend that hugging her was normal and intentional.

Is hugging generally awkward? Not for me, because I love hugging. However, I occasionally forget that some people are finicky about not wanting weird people to touch them, and that to some people it could make them feel as awkward as if you were to show them an adult video from tubev.sex or likewise sites, sexual harassment is also overviewed a little below. To prevent future snafus, I contacted Myka Meier, an old college friend who founded and directs her own international etiquette company, Beaumont Etiquette.

According to Myka, the key to determining how you should greet someone depends on the formality of your relationship. That being said, there are a few general etiquette rules to help the greeting process become [slightly] easier to manage:

HACH: Social Code to Hugging (rated by formality level, with 4 being most formal occasion)

Handshake – Right hand to right hand (4)

Air Kiss – Right cheek to right cheek, but lips never actually touch the other person’s skin (avoid the lipstick smudge!) (3)

Cheek Kiss – Right cheek to right cheek, however you may actually kiss lips to cheek (2)

Hug – Full embrace (most intimate…not for everyone) (1)

1. Social acquaintances (i.e. someone you have met a handful of times, but wouldn’t necessarily consider a friend). HACH LEVEL RATING 4/3 “When meeting an acquaintance for the first time, I would recommend shaking hands. After the initial meeting, for men, I typically advise they continue to shake hands with other men and give an air kiss to women. After a woman initially meets someone, an air kiss to either a man or woman is an elegant yet informal way to show recognition. If a woman puts out her hand to a social acquaintance after meeting them previously, it’s perceived that she does not recognize them (which is offensive) or does not care to be more than acquaintances (which is doubly offensive). If you felt a mutual (key word) connection (no matter the sex) or share close friends, after the first meeting a hug may feel most comfortable and is fully appropriate.”

2. FriendsHACH LEVEL RATING 2/1 “A handshake might be perceived as cold and unfriendly to a person who you consider a friend. Therefore, a hug or cheek kiss is typically most appropriate. When greeting both friends and family, some prefer to give a “pat hug” or the “shake hug” which is a combination of a pat on the back and hug or handshake and hug…which show mutual affection while not being too intimate. All are appropriate, depending on comfort level.”

3. Family membersHACH LEVEL RATING 1 “Hugs (and in some families, kisses) are considered the most common form of greeting family. That being said, determining whether to kiss may depend on the formality of the family situation or relationships.” [Note that is strictly the author’s personal opinion: if you are related to someone and opt to kiss them as a greeting, you definitely need to avoid this regardless of your gender, race, and culture].

4. Professional colleaguesHACH LEVEL RATING 4/3 “Hugging at work is not recommended. If done, especially to someone of the opposite sex or between superiors and subordinates, it can cause many issues. I would advise to always stay formal and professional by greeting with a handshake. Pending the industry you work in (and if you know a colleague extremely well) and feel it would be awkward to shake hands, an air kiss may be more appropriate.”

5. The bossHACH LEVEL RATING 4 “Generally speaking, you should remain respectful and professional by shaking hands. That being said, as a superior rule, always follow the lead of the person more senior or powerful. If your boss attempts to hug you, it would be awkward to put out your hand.”

6. Your subordinate (i.e- your assistant). HACH LEVEL RATING 4 “No matter the sex of the subordinate, stay professional. Hugging subordinates can cause employees to undermine rank and therefore often respect, can cause the relationship to lose professionalism, and even be seen as sexual harassment.”

Miscellaneous Considerations:

Is it okay to hug some people and shake hands with others when greeting a group? “Yes. If there are two people you’ve met before and two you have not, I would still recommend shaking hands upon first meeting.”

Is it okay to hug a client? “Treat the client the same as your boss. Always be respectful and professional, yet follow their lead.”

Do the rules differ depending on the situation (ie- holiday party or running into them at a concert/ purely social function)? “The rules always stay the same. If you bump into your boss at a concert, there are many ways to make the greeting more casual while still maintaining appropriate measures. For instance, you can show warmth by smiling and verbalizing pleasure to see them “Hello XX, It’s so lovely to bump into you out of the office”… It will show you’re not in your normal professional bubble while still remaining in line with your position at work.”

Is there any person who is always off limits to hug? “Yes. Royalty.”

Give a woman a hug she will remember. The most important thing is that you channel your passion. Use the hug to show her how much you like her. When the two of you are alone and comfortable, gaze into her eyes and slowly wrap your arms around her. Let it be sweet and intimate.

Part 1 Setting the Mood

How to romantically hug a woman

1 Get her alone.

Create a comfortable level of privacy so that the two of you can be fully present in your intimacy. Be reasonably certain that no one is going to barge in on you, and that you won’t disturb anyone else with your romantic hug. You don’t want to rush this.

2 Make sure you are both standing.

It will be much easier to make the hug romantic if you are both already standing upright. Hug her when you are greeting or saying goodbye – during any transitional scene when you both happen to be standing. If you’re going for a longer, deeper hug, then make sure that you have at least a few minutes.
If you aren’t standing, wait for a better time, or simply ask her for a hug.
If one of you cannot stand for some reason, then you should at least be sitting next to one another without any barriers between. Sit on the ground, or on a bench, or on a bed.

3 Only hug her if she’s comfortable with you.

This perhaps goes without saying, but do not try to romantically hug a woman who is not romantically interested in you. The romantic hug is an intimate move, and it may not be well-received before she is ready.

Part 2 Initiating the Hug

How to romantically hug a woman

1 Start slowly.

Look into her eyes. Place one arm under her armpit, in the lower half of her ribcage. Put your other hand on the general area of her shoulder blade. As the hug deepens, you can hold her waist or wrap both arms around the small of her back.
Alternately, hug her from behind. Wrap your arms around her torso or waist, and hold her tight. Let her head rest comfortably against your chest.

2 Channel the passion.

Make it steamy. Gaze deeply and longingly into her eyes, and use the warmth of the hug to show her how you feel about her. Squeeze her tightly enough to show her that you care, but not so tightly that you hurt her at all.
Be confident. Don’t hesitate to show her how you feel. It will be better for both of you if you go into the hug feeling comfortable with one another.
Try not to be self-conscious. Focus only on the moment, and on her.

3 Be slow, gentle, and firm.

Pull her towards you and squeeze. Not too hard, or you’ll hurt her. Slowly rub your hands up and down her back and rub your bodies together. Don’t be afraid to explore with your hands, but make sure that she’s into it.
If you know each other well enough, then you may be brave enough to go towards her butt. Squeeze a cheek gently but firmly, and then let go – just enough to tease her.

4 Know when to let go.

Don’t hold on for so long that you make her uncomfortable. If you feel her start to release her grip on you: lighten up the hug.

Part 3 Making it More Romantic

How to romantically hug a woman

1 Whisper sensual words into her ear.

Tell her how she makes you feel, or how much you want her. Tell her that you love her, or that she’s beautiful. Use a low, sexy voice, and make sure that she hears every word.

2 Escalate the situation.

If you know her really well, then gently put a leg around her and pull her close. Slowly guide her to a comfortable surface. Sit her down on your lap while slowly turning her head towards yours. Kiss her passionately while still rubbing her back with your arms, and give her a little massage. Intensify the kiss as you slowly put her underneath you.
A romantic hug can lead to much more if the two of you are comfortable being intimate with one another. Just make sure that you’re both ready.
Always ask for consent. Before each move that you make to escalate the situation, ask her casually for permission. Say, for instance, “Do you mind if I take off your dress?” Try stating what you want, and giving her opportunity to say what she wants: “I want to make out on the bed. Is that something you want to do?”

3 Proceed respectfully.

If she seems into it, then don’t be afraid to keep going. If you pick up some hesitance from her, then slow down and let the hug just be a hug. Remember: it won’t be romantic unless you’re both into it!

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How to romantically hug a woman

How to Hug a Woman Like You Mean It

Okay guys, let’s talk. Both you and I know that there are certain things in our society that men are just expected to know: how to fix cars, how to shave, and how to approach a girl, among others. These are all things that, generally speaking, no one ever teaches you how to do. You’re just expected to know it. Surprisingly, nothing seems to upset the women I know as much as a guy who doesn’t know how to give a good hug. Guys often overlook this perhaps less-than-stereotypically-manly skill that their girls really wish they had (by the way. it’s way manly. in fact it’s macho).

When I was a teenager, I found myself getting complimented by girls all the time for giving “great hugs.” I used to do the typical teenager thing and write it off but then I realized they were telling me that most guys don’t give great hugs. That’s sad! Most guys want to please their girls but have no clue that simple things like this are so important. So whenever a girl complimented my great hug, I began asking, “What makes it great?”

And so here lies the primer of how to give a girl the hug she’s looking for and what simple things can take your decent hug to the next level. If you heed these simple tips, you’ll find it will improve your relationship or desirability much more than you ever thought it could. Women want and need affection outside the bedroom in order to trust what they receive in the bedroom. So, without further ado.

Tips and Techniques for Hugging a Woman

How to romantically hug a woman

Learning how to give a girl a good hug could set you apart as a dashing and debonair guy in her life. It’s worth taking the time and effort to master!

Best Hugging Techniques

How to Properly Hug Your Girl: Calibration.

Make sure you are reading their body language before, during, and after the hug. If they’re asking for it, give it to them. But take it slowly and don’t rush. If they’re enjoying the hug, keep doing it! If they’re signaling it’s time to pull away, don’t be greedy! If you end up in an awkward hug right off the bat then apologize with a confident laugh and try again. It’s about both of you relaxing and having fun so make it fun and make sure it’s fun for your partner as well.

Hugging a Girl You Like: Use a Light Touch

Lets go over technique. When you go in for the hug make very light contact. Trust me, a light touch goes a long way. If she’s hugging you around your neck, your fingertips should start at her sides and work their way around to her back. If she’s going for a hug around your waist then meet her arms with your fingertips and gently run your fingers up until you hands glide up around her back.

This will feel not only better but it will set you apart from the way most other guys approach her for a hug; almost like you’re saying “hello” with your hands and easing her in close to you. Also it feels a lot smoother to go from a distant light touch and slide into a hug rather than a disconnected invitation followed by an awkward patting when your hands finally clasp around her. It will make you feel slick, like James Bond.

How to romantically hug a woman

Take Your Hug to the Next Level

Hugging Tips and Techniques

While hugging, there is a movement I like to do that girls tend to respond very well to. It consists of allowing your fingertips to travel down her back just to the small of her back. Then, gently, with your palms, let your hands glide back up to her shoulder-blades and then repeat, going down her back with your fingertips. Keep your touch light and feel out how well she’s responding. Use a firmer touch only if she’s feeling it. This technique very closely resembles tantric massage strokes, so it may not be the best move to try out on someone you are not close with or if the moment isn’t right. Did I mention anything about calibrating?

Let Go Gradually

When you come away from the hug many guys make the mistake of letting go all at once. From a tantric perspective, such a quick release is a shock to the system and just leaves her hanging. You said hello by meeting her gently with your fingertips and you should have the courtesy to say goodbye with the same gentle ease. Let your hands glide either back down her arms or back and with your fingertips gently slide off or if she seems like she might want another hug, keep contact for a little while, calibrate, and if so go back in for another.

Perhaps we are so obsessed with sex that we sometimes neglect to enjoy the little things – like kisses and hugs! You may be able to describe several types of kisses. But what about hugs? Not just the friendly hug or the cold fish kind of hug. We’re talking about romantic hugs – the kind of hugs your boyfriend gives you and that you give him.

Did you know that not only is hugging intimate and fun but there are also health benefits from hugging the one you love? According to Healthline, hugging people you care about can actually reduce stress, boost your heart health, make you happier and perhaps even boost your immunity.

Hugging is a form of communication. With a hug we can convey feelings of love, warmth, forgiveness, tenderness, support and attraction. There are so many possibilities when it comes to hugging. Have you tried all of the different variations?

Maybe it’s about time you add a few of these romantic moves into your daily and nightly routine. You might find a hugging “position” that you and your partner like that you’ve never even thought of doing before. Here are ten romantic hugs to try:

  1. The Backwards Hug

This is a very protective hug, letting your partner feel wanted. While it’s usually the big guy with strong arms doing this, a woman can also do it to a man. Not only can you try it on him, but encourage him to put his arms around you from behind and lean his head against yours. It’s a wonderful feeling of safeness and tender care. You also have the choice to put your arms under his arms or over his shoulders and around his chest.

  1. The Deep Stare Hug

Sometimes it’s not the touch that matters but how closely you connect during the embrace – such as with this deep stare hug combination. Throw your arms around him and gaze into his eyes. No retreat, no blinking or looking away in shyness. Connect with him in soul as your hands draw him closer to you.

  1. The Waist Hug

This is a very intimate hug and since you’re already in a committed relationship, don’t be afraid to be bold. One arm goes around the waist and then holds your lover’s side from the opposite side. It’s a very intimate feeling.

  1. The Sexy Hug

Want to take your man to bed? Give him a sexy hug, where you throw your arm around him and let your hand cup the back of his neck. Bring him in for a close kiss while your other arm rests on his stomach or chest. He can complement your move by letting his hand go lower than your back and take hold of your butt. It’s a great hug to try out to get some of that passion back.

  1. The Big Hug

This hug is not about sensuality but about an emotional hug where he takes you into his arms and gently caresses your back as he rests his chin on your shoulder. You can complement him by rubbing the small of his back and turning your head sideways to give him more room. While it’s usually the guy that does this move, a woman can also do it – especially if your boyfriend is feeling stressed or emotional. It’s quite literally a “shoulder to cry on”.

  1. The Lift Off Hug

This kind of hug is best performed by a man for obvious reasons (or unless you’re She-Ra) since he lifts you into the air and holds you there for a kiss and or a passionate embrace. Even if he can’t lift you all Notebook style, the real point of this hug is the longevity. Holds each other for longer than the usual 30 seconds. Make it a full two minutes and feel the warmth of his gentle squeeze. Bonus points if you can wrap your legs around him as he holds you in the air!

  1. The Straddling Hug

This hug is ideal for a couple that wants the intimacy and excitement of the lift-off hug but can’t seem to keep that post going. Instead, have your man sit down in a comfortable spot and then straddling him, with clothes on. Wrap your hands around the back of his neck and look him in the eyes. You can also do this pose while you’re sitting on something, like a table, counter or wall.

  1. The Forehead Kiss Hug

Combine a firm embrace with a forehead kiss. Have him kiss your forehead and gently tap you on the back. Or you can do this move to him and substitute a forehead kiss for any kind of kiss, such as a neck kiss.

  1. The Side Hug

The side hug may feel like a buddy hug but a lot of couples do it just as well. He stays to your side but wraps one arm around your shoulder and the other arm reaching over and touching your forearm. It’s a wide embrace and it lets you feel close, protected and adored.

  1. The One Handed Hug

While it’s a more mellow hug it’s also cute in relationships. Walk with your partner and wrap both your arms around one of his arms. Hang onto him like you’re his shy girlfriend and let him lead the way.

Hugs should not feel like chores. Don’t ever hug someone unless you mean it! If your hugs have been feeling forced lately, stop hugging in the same routine sort of way. Try a new hug with new movements and emotions. Bond together through the gift of touch. Feel with your arms and take in his essence when your bodies touch. There is so much fun you could be having just being intimate with each other throughout the day, no sex required.

A family therapist named Virginia Satir said that we need four hugs a day for survival, eight hugs for maintenance and twelve hugs for growth. Isn’t that interesting? It’s safe to say we’re not hugging nearly enough!

The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life

There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…

It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…

But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…

It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…

And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…

Have you figured out what it is yet?

Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…

And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…

Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…

Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…

A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…

And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…

Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…

If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…

I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…

The secret of getting the first kiss is so simple that that, once you understand it, getting it will be a trivial risk rather than a huge event. The secret is the pre-work. By the time you go for that kiss you must have her so ready, so prepared, and so desiring, that kiss that she is more than ready to go.

It’s like lighting a camp stove. If you just lunge at the stove with a lit match, of course it won’t light. If the stove doesn’t light, the problem isn’t with the match you are using, how you are holding it, or the way you struck the match on the box. It’s not a defective camp stove and it doesn’t hate you. You just haven’t primed it properly. If you focus on thinking that you are doing something wrong during the lighting stage, when the problem is that you haven’t primed the stove properly, nothing you do will work. You need to realize that lighting the stove itself is trivial if you have primed it properly.

Before going for the first kiss, you must have done most if not all of the flirting moves with a woman. These are the bare-bones basics. If you haven’t done most of these things, don’t even consider the first kiss. Go back and do them more. Get the basics handled, then move on.

Testing her readiness for the first kiss

Touching Test. You can test her readiness by gauging her responses to casual and romantic touching. Casual touching is simple and fast. It’s when your fingers touch her when you give her a cup of coffee, or when you touch her arm or back to guide her to the table you’ve selected. Casual touching is ambiguous; you might be touching her as a friend, or you might be touching her as a potential lover.

Romantic touching is more intrusive. If you are touching and holding her hand, or rubbing her arm, or keeping your hand on any part of her body for more than a few seconds, you are touching her romantically. You want her to welcome longer and longer periods of touch from you. First, touch her casually, and see how she responds. More than likely, she will have no visible response at all. If she pulls away at all, keep your touching extremely brief, and keep up your romantic conversations. If she continuously shrugs away from your touch, consider getting rid of her and moving on. There’s no reason to stay with a woman who is cold, unresponsive, and doesn’t want to be romantic with you.

If she does respond positively, touch her for longer periods of time. If she gets more relaxed and animated, if her skin flushes, or her eyes get shiny and reflective, these are all signs of positive response. If she responds positively, move to putting your hand on hers for longer periods. Don’t make a big deal of this, just let it seem to happen.

The Hug Test. One way to learn about how a woman feels about you is to see how she responds to being hugged. Like casual touching, hugging is something you can usually get a woman to accept just by doing it. When you hug a woman and don’t make a big deal out of it, much of the time she’ll just assume that you are a guy who hugs, and not make a big deal out of it either.

We usually recommend avoiding hugging a woman much before you are having sex with her. Hugging is a friendly thing to do, rather than a lover-ly thing to do. If she gets use to being in your arms without kissing you, it’s easy for her to resolve the apparent incongruity by telling herself that you are simply a friend.

Also, hugging is a time when men who are starved for touch accidentally show some desperation. They grab a hold, get caught up in how good it feels to them (rather than to her), squeeze too hard, and don’t let go. The first rule of hugging a woman that you are dating is that you keep it short. Short, short, short. Use it as a test of her readiness, not as a chance to get your sexual or touch needs met. You’ll get enough of that later on.

When saying hello or good-bye to her, you can often simply take her in your arms and hug her. If you keep it short, it won’t scare her, and you’ll be able to gauge her response. Does she press into you? Does she seem to want to really hang on? That’s a good sign, and you might want to move to kissing her right then. If she seems to want to get away, then you know you have more work to do in making her feel romantic feelings.

The face kiss test. Along with hugging, you can try face-kissing. This is when you kiss her cheek, to see how she responds. If she leans into the kiss, and smiles, she’s into it, and will be receptive to your lip-kiss later. If she pulls back, or winces, then it’s back to the drawing board. She most certainly won’t be receptive to a lip-kiss if she won’t take one on the cheek willingly.

Enthusiasm test. You can also gauge a woman’s level of interest by her level of enthusiasm. Her enthusiasm will be shown in her overall demeanor, but it’s best shown in the time between one activity and the next. It’s between the activities that you do together, rather than during them, that she has the best opportunity to claim she is tired and needs to go home. Between activities, watch her level of interest. After the movie, is she eager to go out for coffee or a drink, or does she seem reluctant? Does she seem to be looking for a juncture at which she can end the date, or is she up for partying with you all night long? It’s these between spaces that will tell you her level of interest.

Pretend Kiss test. This test also primes the woman for your kiss. You begin by moving towards her, as if to kiss her, at some point “change your mind,” and back off again. If, as you move toward her, she backs away, she probably doesn’t want to kiss you. If she stays still, or moves slightly forward, she’s probably interested. The pretend kiss can “seal the deal” for the kiss later. If she hasn’t moved away, then you both have acknowledged that a kiss in inevitable, and it’s only a matter of time.

Perhaps we are so obsessed with sex that we sometimes neglect to enjoy the little things – like kisses and hugs! You may be able to describe several types of kisses. But what about hugs? Not just the friendly hug or the cold fish kind of hug. We’re talking about romantic hugs – the kind of hugs your boyfriend gives you and that you give him.

Did you know that not only is hugging intimate and fun but there are also health benefits from hugging the one you love? According to Healthline, hugging people you care about can actually reduce stress, boost your heart health, make you happier and perhaps even boost your immunity.

Hugging is a form of communication. With a hug we can convey feelings of love, warmth, forgiveness, tenderness, support and attraction. There are so many possibilities when it comes to hugging. Have you tried all of the different variations?

Maybe it’s about time you add a few of these romantic moves into your daily and nightly routine. You might find a hugging “position” that you and your partner like that you’ve never even thought of doing before. Here are ten romantic hugs to try:

  1. The Backwards Hug

This is a very protective hug, letting your partner feel wanted. While it’s usually the big guy with strong arms doing this, a woman can also do it to a man. Not only can you try it on him, but encourage him to put his arms around you from behind and lean his head against yours. It’s a wonderful feeling of safeness and tender care. You also have the choice to put your arms under his arms or over his shoulders and around his chest.

  1. The Deep Stare Hug

Sometimes it’s not the touch that matters but how closely you connect during the embrace – such as with this deep stare hug combination. Throw your arms around him and gaze into his eyes. No retreat, no blinking or looking away in shyness. Connect with him in soul as your hands draw him closer to you.

  1. The Waist Hug

This is a very intimate hug and since you’re already in a committed relationship, don’t be afraid to be bold. One arm goes around the waist and then holds your lover’s side from the opposite side. It’s a very intimate feeling.

  1. The Sexy Hug

Want to take your man to bed? Give him a sexy hug, where you throw your arm around him and let your hand cup the back of his neck. Bring him in for a close kiss while your other arm rests on his stomach or chest. He can complement your move by letting his hand go lower than your back and take hold of your butt. It’s a great hug to try out to get some of that passion back.

  1. The Big Hug

This hug is not about sensuality but about an emotional hug where he takes you into his arms and gently caresses your back as he rests his chin on your shoulder. You can complement him by rubbing the small of his back and turning your head sideways to give him more room. While it’s usually the guy that does this move, a woman can also do it – especially if your boyfriend is feeling stressed or emotional. It’s quite literally a “shoulder to cry on”.

  1. The Lift Off Hug

This kind of hug is best performed by a man for obvious reasons (or unless you’re She-Ra) since he lifts you into the air and holds you there for a kiss and or a passionate embrace. Even if he can’t lift you all Notebook style, the real point of this hug is the longevity. Holds each other for longer than the usual 30 seconds. Make it a full two minutes and feel the warmth of his gentle squeeze. Bonus points if you can wrap your legs around him as he holds you in the air!

  1. The Straddling Hug

This hug is ideal for a couple that wants the intimacy and excitement of the lift-off hug but can’t seem to keep that post going. Instead, have your man sit down in a comfortable spot and then straddling him, with clothes on. Wrap your hands around the back of his neck and look him in the eyes. You can also do this pose while you’re sitting on something, like a table, counter or wall.

  1. The Forehead Kiss Hug

Combine a firm embrace with a forehead kiss. Have him kiss your forehead and gently tap you on the back. Or you can do this move to him and substitute a forehead kiss for any kind of kiss, such as a neck kiss.

  1. The Side Hug

The side hug may feel like a buddy hug but a lot of couples do it just as well. He stays to your side but wraps one arm around your shoulder and the other arm reaching over and touching your forearm. It’s a wide embrace and it lets you feel close, protected and adored.

  1. The One Handed Hug

While it’s a more mellow hug it’s also cute in relationships. Walk with your partner and wrap both your arms around one of his arms. Hang onto him like you’re his shy girlfriend and let him lead the way.

Hugs should not feel like chores. Don’t ever hug someone unless you mean it! If your hugs have been feeling forced lately, stop hugging in the same routine sort of way. Try a new hug with new movements and emotions. Bond together through the gift of touch. Feel with your arms and take in his essence when your bodies touch. There is so much fun you could be having just being intimate with each other throughout the day, no sex required.

A family therapist named Virginia Satir said that we need four hugs a day for survival, eight hugs for maintenance and twelve hugs for growth. Isn’t that interesting? It’s safe to say we’re not hugging nearly enough!

The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life

There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…

It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…

But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…

It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…

And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…

Have you figured out what it is yet?

Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…

And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…

Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…

Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…

A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…

And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…

Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…

If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…

I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…

The secret of getting the first kiss is so simple that that, once you understand it, getting it will be a trivial risk rather than a huge event. The secret is the pre-work. By the time you go for that kiss you must have her so ready, so prepared, and so desiring, that kiss that she is more than ready to go.

It’s like lighting a camp stove. If you just lunge at the stove with a lit match, of course it won’t light. If the stove doesn’t light, the problem isn’t with the match you are using, how you are holding it, or the way you struck the match on the box. It’s not a defective camp stove and it doesn’t hate you. You just haven’t primed it properly. If you focus on thinking that you are doing something wrong during the lighting stage, when the problem is that you haven’t primed the stove properly, nothing you do will work. You need to realize that lighting the stove itself is trivial if you have primed it properly.

Before going for the first kiss, you must have done most if not all of the flirting moves with a woman. These are the bare-bones basics. If you haven’t done most of these things, don’t even consider the first kiss. Go back and do them more. Get the basics handled, then move on.

Testing her readiness for the first kiss

Touching Test. You can test her readiness by gauging her responses to casual and romantic touching. Casual touching is simple and fast. It’s when your fingers touch her when you give her a cup of coffee, or when you touch her arm or back to guide her to the table you’ve selected. Casual touching is ambiguous; you might be touching her as a friend, or you might be touching her as a potential lover.

Romantic touching is more intrusive. If you are touching and holding her hand, or rubbing her arm, or keeping your hand on any part of her body for more than a few seconds, you are touching her romantically. You want her to welcome longer and longer periods of touch from you. First, touch her casually, and see how she responds. More than likely, she will have no visible response at all. If she pulls away at all, keep your touching extremely brief, and keep up your romantic conversations. If she continuously shrugs away from your touch, consider getting rid of her and moving on. There’s no reason to stay with a woman who is cold, unresponsive, and doesn’t want to be romantic with you.

If she does respond positively, touch her for longer periods of time. If she gets more relaxed and animated, if her skin flushes, or her eyes get shiny and reflective, these are all signs of positive response. If she responds positively, move to putting your hand on hers for longer periods. Don’t make a big deal of this, just let it seem to happen.

The Hug Test. One way to learn about how a woman feels about you is to see how she responds to being hugged. Like casual touching, hugging is something you can usually get a woman to accept just by doing it. When you hug a woman and don’t make a big deal out of it, much of the time she’ll just assume that you are a guy who hugs, and not make a big deal out of it either.

We usually recommend avoiding hugging a woman much before you are having sex with her. Hugging is a friendly thing to do, rather than a lover-ly thing to do. If she gets use to being in your arms without kissing you, it’s easy for her to resolve the apparent incongruity by telling herself that you are simply a friend.

Also, hugging is a time when men who are starved for touch accidentally show some desperation. They grab a hold, get caught up in how good it feels to them (rather than to her), squeeze too hard, and don’t let go. The first rule of hugging a woman that you are dating is that you keep it short. Short, short, short. Use it as a test of her readiness, not as a chance to get your sexual or touch needs met. You’ll get enough of that later on.

When saying hello or good-bye to her, you can often simply take her in your arms and hug her. If you keep it short, it won’t scare her, and you’ll be able to gauge her response. Does she press into you? Does she seem to want to really hang on? That’s a good sign, and you might want to move to kissing her right then. If she seems to want to get away, then you know you have more work to do in making her feel romantic feelings.

The face kiss test. Along with hugging, you can try face-kissing. This is when you kiss her cheek, to see how she responds. If she leans into the kiss, and smiles, she’s into it, and will be receptive to your lip-kiss later. If she pulls back, or winces, then it’s back to the drawing board. She most certainly won’t be receptive to a lip-kiss if she won’t take one on the cheek willingly.

Enthusiasm test. You can also gauge a woman’s level of interest by her level of enthusiasm. Her enthusiasm will be shown in her overall demeanor, but it’s best shown in the time between one activity and the next. It’s between the activities that you do together, rather than during them, that she has the best opportunity to claim she is tired and needs to go home. Between activities, watch her level of interest. After the movie, is she eager to go out for coffee or a drink, or does she seem reluctant? Does she seem to be looking for a juncture at which she can end the date, or is she up for partying with you all night long? It’s these between spaces that will tell you her level of interest.

Pretend Kiss test. This test also primes the woman for your kiss. You begin by moving towards her, as if to kiss her, at some point “change your mind,” and back off again. If, as you move toward her, she backs away, she probably doesn’t want to kiss you. If she stays still, or moves slightly forward, she’s probably interested. The pretend kiss can “seal the deal” for the kiss later. If she hasn’t moved away, then you both have acknowledged that a kiss in inevitable, and it’s only a matter of time.

How to romantically hug a woman

The lingering hug! What could it possibly mean?

We all want to assume that long, lingering hugs are a good thing. They surely mean that the cute guy hugging you is into you…right?

Not necessarily. There could be multiple reasons for an unusually long hug. Maybe that other person just feels comfortable around you. Maybe they’re feeling depressed or emotional and are clinging to you for support. Maybe they just want to reassure you, because you’ve been telling them a sad story.

Or maybe the person really likes you! And you notice I didn’t even say whether it’s a man or woman. Women can give long, lingering hugs, but that doesn’t necessarily mean anything romantic – just the same with men.

So let’s assume that a long hug is not that big of a deal. It’s time to pay attention to other factors. Here are a few types of hugs that you might experience, with varying lengths. What do they mean? What is the other person thinking?

1. The tight hug

The tight hug is usually a good sign, although it might actually be family-oriented, rather than exclusively romantic. If there’s been sexual tension between you before, then a tight hug is definitely a signal. It means there could be more to this attraction if you were willing to explore it. On the other hand, if he’s always been a big brother type towards you, it might be a misleading hug.

2. The Eyes Locked Hug

If there’s been some sexual tension between the two of you but it remains mysterious and unspoken, the close-eye-contact hug might reveal the truth. If you’re into each other then you you’ll want to touch and feel the intimacy of a hug. But the yearning you have to be sensual and intimate can be conveyed through eye contact. Most friends or family members will never lock eyes like this. It is a romantic type of hug that suggests something is there…if only one of you will take a chance!

3. The Reverse Hug

The reverse hug or back hug sees him put his arms around your front, perhaps at the sternum or tummy, his hands on yours, or over your neck. Either way, it’s an intimate hug that is usually only shared by lovers or very close friends that are okay with close contact. If a guy you like ever does this to you, it’s a bold move. Even a guy who touches their back or shoulders or approaches you from behind is a telling gesture.

4. The Waist Hug

The waist hug can be confusing because it feels intimate and yet doesn’t actually have to give a romantic or sexual feeling. What it does imply is comfort, intimacy and trust – this can be familial, or becoming of close friends. However, for a single man and woman, such closeness might imply a feeling of romance or flirting. It’s like enjoying a slow dance with a person.

5. The Half Hug

This hug might alternatively be known as a cold fish hug, torso hug or a half-hug. It feels empty and forced. Sometimes they hug with their chest or torso, but the lower bodies never come close. Or maybe he stays completely still while you try to hug him. All of these signs are negative…the other person doesn’t feel comfortable around you and doesn’t want to be close to you.

6. The Side Hug

This is a somewhat platonic kind of hug and it’s usually not great news if you like the guy hugging you. It’s a relaxed hug, a buddy hug, and yet seemingly something he gives to everyone…freely, not in a romantic context. Many people pose with this kind of hug or they do it to say hello – to show comfort and trust to a person they like. That’s a good sign, EXCEPT that it’s quite possible you’ve been friend-zoned. In other words, don’t be satisfied with this kind of hug. Go for a more romantic one.

7. The Sexy Hug

What is a sexy hug, anyway? What kind of message does a man give you if he wants to turn a platonic hug into an exciting moment of romance? Usually, it’s all about your bodies touching in an intimate way. He might pull you close to him, or whisper to you, or look into your eyes as he pulls away, or move his face closer to yours. He might even try to touch your neck or shoulder as he goes back to a standing posture.

The problem is, this type of hug is a little too smooth for a man that you just met. This type of over-familiarity could imply that he’s just looking for sex. He’s hugging you in an invasive way and isn’t waiting to see if you give him any warm signals. He presumes too much. On the other hand, if this is coming from a very special friend that you’ve been flirting with for a while, it means he’s very interested in you and feels a strong attraction. He might be ready to take the relationship one step further.

So how can you determine if a hug has romantic chemistry? In general, it’s best not to assume anything based on just one gesture or sign. Find multiple signs, or clusters of gestures, and see if they all point to the same feeling. Consider the context of the hug (what were you talking about?), as well as body language, posturing, facial expressions and eye contact.

Hugs can be deceiving. But sometimes you will know by the way he hugs you. If he seems to hug you and communicate to you during feelings of intimacy, (the desire to please you, provide for you, and devote his time to you) then it’s probably not all in your head.

Lastly, remember that you can always try to draw him out emotionally by looking into his eyes, pushing your body closer to him, holding on tight a few more seconds, and of course, touching him on the shoulder or arm after the hug ends.

Maybe it’s time to start talking to him and testing the waters!

The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life

There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…

It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…

But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…

It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…

And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…

Have you figured out what it is yet?

Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…

And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…

Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…

Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…

A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…

And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…

Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…

If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…

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