Look at yourself. Who do you see? Superhero, muscles bulging, cape flying—ready to conquer the world? No? If you don’t believe you can conquer the world, then there’s no way you ever will.
You might not be superhuman, but you can combat the villain of low self-esteem. How? We asked the Young Entrepreneur Council (YEC), “What is one way someone can build their self-confidence, personally and professionally?” for answers.
Here are their suggestions for a boost:
1. Strengthen your mind.
Self-confidence is a state of mind that can be achieved through intentional action. Allotting time to nurture your mind, body and spirit (preferably one hour a day) can be done in a variety of ways. I prefer to read, exercise and meditate in the morning. If you’re not taking time for yourself, then you’re allowing someone or something to shape your view of the world.
2. Discard the negative thoughts you don’t need.
A whole new branch of psychology is dedicated to mindfulness, but it boils down to this: Negative thoughts and insecurities pop up like pimples. And, like pimples, picking at them—even if you mean to discredit and burst that negative bubble—ultimately makes it worse. So, mindfulness practice teaches you to treat thoughts as tools. Use and strengthen the ones you need; discard the ones you don’t.
3. Live a lifestyle of personal growth.
Putting yourself into courses or professional relationships that force you to grow ensures that you’re always expanding, which in turn generates confidence and humility. From therapeutic programs to leadership programs to physical programs, committing to this kind of regular growth and showing up and being fully present are the keys to confidence.
4. Learn about impostor syndrome.
Many professionals will at some point experience a psychological phenomenon known as imposter syndrome, complete with feelings of inadequacy and a fear that everything accomplished to date has been through sheer luck. To overcome this, learn to internalize accomplishments. Peer groups are a great place to talk it out and build confidence.
5. Dress for success.
No matter what level of business you’re in, it’s important to dress for the client you want, rather than the client you have. There’s this idea of working from home in PJs. The most successful people get up early and dress like they’re off for a day at the office, and it’s reflected in their attitude. When you look good, you feel good and you’re more confident, too.
6. Take an improv class.
Improv classes make you think on your toes in front of an audience. Being on stage helps grow your confidence; being in front of crowds teaches you how to think and react quickly—all things that translate well to a boardroom or public speaking opportunity.
7. Produce a high-quality personal brand.
I believe that a key component to building self-confidence is in publicly building one’s own brand. This can be done through the creation of high-quality content like blog posts, e-books, podcasts or video content. Even if it doesn’t receive much traction initially, the fact that you have a body of work that you are proud to refer others to can make a big difference in your self-confidence.
8. Recognize your value outside of your work.
Your self-confidence needs to be rooted in who you are completely outside of your success in business. So find ways to get connected with yourself and grow. Perhaps volunteer, do pro-bono work, meditate, work out, read, hang out with friends. Whatever it takes for you to see your value regardless of how well [you’re doing professionally].
So, look again. Is your cape flying?
Young Entrepreneur Council (YEC) is an invite-only organization comprising the world’s most promising young entrepreneurs. In partnership with Citi, YEC recently launched StartupCollective, a free virtual mentorship program that helps millions of entrepreneurs start and grow businesses.
Editor’s note: This post was originally published in April 2015 and has been updated for freshness, accuracy and comprehensiveness.
Whether you find yourself flipping burgers at the local diner, driving strangers to the grocery store, or drafting proposals for a Fortune 500 company, every chance we get to embrace a particular field broadens our horizons and instills good practices for the future. I’ve found it’s easy to discredit the boring 9-to-5 jobs from my past, but it’s in those moments that I grew so much and discovered who I was as a professional. Maybe you’re in the middle of a job that doesn’t align with your dream job goals. Or maybe you’re applying for new career opportunities and wondering how to make a former title sound resume-sexy. Wherever you find yourself, here are a few good reasons to show some love to your past jobs.
1. They teach us to value things like customer service and timeliness.
From retail to restaurant services, one of the first core values that I learned from many executive leaders is the value of serving others. Even though we may sometimes disagree with the terribly cliche “customer is always right,” there is power in the lessons we learn and in the (sometimes teeth-gritting) patience we gain through prioritizing people as an employee. Take a moment and think of someone you admire… could be your barista, your 3rd grade teacher, your nail consultant, or that lady who let you cut in front of her in the car line picking your kid up from school… literally anyone. Have them in mind? Good! Now answer this: What makes this person likable? It may have to do with their positive attitude. Personally, the leaders I admire most are people who go out of their way to value others before themselves. A good employee or business professional will gain influence and the trust of their clients by the way they treat others. This idea of customer service is culturally relevant in every working stage of life, and it transcends all forms of leadership roles. Things like being on time, treating others courteously, and staying sharp can set you up for success during your next gig. Good management will appreciate and esteem these resounding qualities.
2. They show off both our weaknesses and our strengths — what we did right and even what we did wrong.
Let’s point out the big, shiny elephant in the room. No one is perfect. Nope, not even one of us. Many times, we can allow our mistakes to regulate our future performances as an employee or entrepreneur. However, if we simply take our failures as lessons and opportunities for redirection, we are able to mature in a way that will make us even more valuable in our next season in life. Leadership strategist John C. Maxwell writes, “Embrace adversity and make failure a regular part of your life. If you’re not failing, you’re probably not really moving forward.” Don’t hold on to past career mistakes; take them for what they are worth at face value. If you let your mistakes became catalysts for positive change, you’ll come into your new season better and stronger than before.
3. They give us direction for our career goals.
Just like starting a new Netflix series all your friends have been raving about… you’ll truly never know until you give it your best shot. So the jobs we would think are dreamy end up reflecting a distasteful, stressful, and unwelcoming environment. The grass is rarely greener on the other side, they say. Take notice in the qualities you enjoyed about your former jobs. As you move into new stages in your professional career, pursue those same qualities. We all love to feel welcome and part of something bigger than ourselves. From the team building to positive vibes, place an expectancy for those affirmations within the context of your next season. Along with the qualities you loved about your last job, leave behind the negative qualities. The same way employers require certain traits out of an employee prospect is the same way we should look for traits in our potential employers. It’s a lot like the fluctuating world of dating — we learn both what we like and what we don’t like, so we know what to look for when the next time comes back around.
4. They build our professional and social network.
In a world that revolves around the establishment of connections, relationships will always be viewed as a gain. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been with a company for three weeks or two years; everyone you come into contact with grants us the opportunity to grow deeper roots of community. To this day, I still keep up communication with former clients and work colleagues. Because somewhere along the road, you never know what more could be accomplished together. Just as you are pursuing new adventures in life, so are other people. Whether texting, tweeting, messaging, or emailing, people everywhere, at every second, are networking and gaining a connection through a conversation. You never know where a simple connection may lead to next; and more importantly, you may gain a friend or two along the way.
Career paths are all about consistency and determination. Work hard in all you do, and don’t give up on your “inner-girl-boss” dream. Over time, we are ever-growing into new people and experiencing learning curves through healthy challenges. Your yesterday and today may not be what you pictured life to look like, but tomorrow is an even better reason to try again.
Amy Morin, LCSW, is the Editor-in-Chief of Verywell Mind. She's also a psychotherapist, the author of the bestselling book "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do," and the host of The Verywell Mind Podcast.
People with social anxiety disorder (SAD) often have trouble feeling confident in interactions with others. However, you can boost your confidence by making sure that your body language conveys a positive message about yourself.
Boost Your Self-Esteem With Your Body Language
Even if you don’t feel confident, practicing confident body language can increase your self-esteem and make you feel better about yourself. Below are ten tips to increase your confidence through body language.
- Make eye contact. Appear confident by maintaining eye contact in social interactions. Good eye contact shows others that you are interested and comfortable. Look the other person in the eye about 60% of the time. If direct eye contact feels too intimidating, start by looking at a spot close to the person’s eyes.
- Lean forward. When you are in a conversation, leaning forward indicates interest and attention. While it can be tempting to maintain distance if you are socially anxious, doing so conveys the message that you are disinterested or aloof.
- Stand up straight. Don’t slouch! Those with social anxiety tend to try and take up as little space as possible, which can mean sitting slumped over in a protective pose. Straighten your back, pull your shoulders away from your ears, and uncross your arms and legs.
- Keep your chin up. Do you look at the ground when you are walking? Is your head always down? Instead, walk with your head up and your eyes looking forward. It might feel unnatural at first, but eventually, you will become used to this more confident pose.
- Don’t fidget. Fidgeting is an obvious sign of anxiety and nervousness. Appear more confident by keeping fidgeting to a minimum. Nervous movements draw attention away from what you are saying and make it hard for others to focus on your message.
- Avoid your pockets. Though it can be tempting to shove your hands in your pockets, particularly if you are worried about them shaking, doing so makes you look more anxious and less confident. Keep your hands out of your pockets to look more self-assured.
- Slow your movements. Fast movements make you appear more anxious. Everything from hand gestures to your walking stride can make a difference; slow down and notice how you feel more confident.
- Take larger steps. As you slow down, try to take longer strides when you walk. Confident people take larger steps and walk with authority. Doing so will make you feel less anxious.
- Watch your hands. Be careful about touching your face or your neck; both are indications that you feel anxious, nervous, or afraid. Confident people don’t make these types of movements.
- Give a firm handshake. How is your handshake? A weak or limp handshake is an obvious sign of a lack of confidence, so work on making sure that you offer a firm hand when meeting others. After practice, it will come naturally.
Still not sure you can muster up the confidence to change your body language? Remember that you don't have to feel confident to change your behavior. Although it might feel strange at first, acting in a confident way will eventually feel more natural and might even boost your self-esteem.
If you really need convincing, have a look at yourself on video; your nervous habits and posture can be easily changed once you identify them.
At the same time, working to reduce your anxiety through other means will also have a natural effect on reducing nervous behaviors. If you have not already been diagnosed with SAD, visit a healthcare professional to learn about your options.
Crippling anxiety that impairs your ability to engage with others is not something that you have to live with. Both cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and medication have been proven effective in the treatment of social anxiety disorder.
Confidence is somewhat elusive. You know you have to be confident if you want to make a good impression in the professional world, but earning that confidence isn’t as easy as it seems. For some, confidence comes naturally, but for most, it’s harder to achieve–especially in unfamiliar situations or with unfamiliar people.
Rest assured that you aren’t alone, and remember one critical fact about confidence: In most situations, it doesn’t matter if you feel confident on the inside as much as it matters that you look confident on the outside. The goal is to appear confident, even if you really aren’t, and there are several tricks you can use to accomplish this.
1. Stand tall.
Take up space by standing tall. Keep your shoulders back, and keep your spine straight. This is going to offer you a host of physical benefits, including better breathing and better back support, but just as important, it’s going to make you look and feel more confident. People who slouch or minimize their bodies tend to be viewed as unconfident or uncertain. You can also practice the “power pose” technique before you enter the room by stretching your arms far above your head or putting your hands on your hips with your elbows wide. These “power poses” are experimentally proved to increase confidence, but you might look a little silly doing them during your event, so keep them as a preliminary ritual.
2. Make eye contact.
Eye contact is crucial for increasing your perceived confidence, and without it, you’ll appear scattered or inattentive. When you speak, look at your recipient’s eyes, or if you’re in front of many people, alternate between them. Even in a crowd, you should be making eye contact with the various individuals in your audience. It’s also important to maintain eye contact when the other person is speaking–the more you break eye contact or look around, the more indecisive or shy you’ll seem. Just don’t stare people down like you’re a serial killer–do take occasional breaks.
3. Don’t fidget.
Fidgeting is a major betrayer of low confidence, and most of us fidget without even realizing it. Different people fidget in different ways; for example, some people have a nervous leg-jiggling habit and others tend to wave their hands around in a flailing motion when they talk. You might also find yourself adjusting your standing position or nodding excessively. Instead, try to stand still and only move when it’s in an appropriate, deliberate way. This can be tough, especially if you aren’t conscious of your fidgeting habits. Practice speaking with someone you know and ask him or her to identify any peculiar quirks you may not notice about yourself.
4. Speak slowly and clearly.
Speaking too quickly or in a low tone of voice can make you appear less than confident. It also leaves you vulnerable to saying things you don’t mean or slipping up with verbal nonsense. The solution to these problems is to speak slowly and clearly. Take your time with your sentences–it will give you time to come up with better word choices and will make you seem more confident at the same time. Practice articulating your words clearly and in a loud voice so you’re used to the approach.
5. Allow silences.
There’s nothing wrong with a little bit of silence. Too many people denounce the “awkward silence” as the indicator of a bad conversation, but it’s actually a useful and necessary social tool. Use silences to your advantage; for example, you can end an important sentence with a long pause to let it sink in. You can allow a beat in the conversation between the other person speaking and you speaking to show that you really listened. Silences allow for consideration, and they show that you’re confident in your speaking abilities. Don’t neglect them.
6. Keep your hands visible.
Your hands say a lot about you, whether you realize it or not. Keep them visible and marginally active in the conversation. For example, you can gesticulate your words with a few deliberate actions–just don’t go crazy and violate rule number three. You could also use your hands to offer occasional moments of touch if the situation warrants it. It’s also important not to hide your hands by stuffing them in your pockets or folding your arms. Keep them visible to appear more confident.
7. Take big steps.
This one comes into play when you enter, exit, or move around in a room. Take wide, surefooted steps with every move, rather than quick, hurried, or frantic steps. Don’t be in a hurry to get anywhere, and remember to keep your body posture aligned. This slow, deliberate series of movements will make you appear confident, so much so that people several yards away from you will be able to pick up on it.
The great thing about pretending to be confident is that eventually, you’ll trick yourself into actually being confident. Like with good posture and conversational manners, the only thing preventing you from being able to implement these strategies regularly is practice. The more you practice appearing confident, the more naturally it will come to you, and the more confident you’ll look and feel. With your newfound confidence, you’ll be able to speak more articulately, command a more attentive audience, and be viewed with more respect by your peers.
Many of us already know the power of self-confidence. Confidence comes in handy in different situations whether you are trying to make a great first impression when meeting a new client or trying to make your date feel at ease during your first date. However, confidence is elusive because, for most people, confidence can be harder to achieve, especially in new situations. The goal should also be to appear confident even in instances where you are not. To help you out, here are 6 tips to make you feel sure about yourself.
Get a New Haircut
When you look good, you feel better about yourself. When your haircut looks great, you will feel more confident, and people will notice. An added advantage of a new haircut is that it helps make you look well put together and confident about yourself, even when you do not feel it inside.
Remember that a great haircut should also go with taking care of your facial hair. Trimming or shaving your hair shows you are diligent and meticulous. Traditional barbershops will usually offer some advice on what haircuts would look better for you but do not forget to say what you like so the barber can give you the trim you would feel most confident in.
Invest in a Statement Timepiece
Statement timepieces have sadly been relegated to the realm of meaningful gifts. Fewer men are buying high-end watches because they already have all the functionality they need on their phones. Statement timepieces are not meant to be functional; they are meant to make a statement. They are also a great way to symbolise success.
Investing in a timepiece from a luxury brand such as Rolex signals that you deserve to own special things. They end up treating you better and, whether you notice it or not, you end up responding to it positively. These good feelings can bolster your confidence and help you appear more confident in situations you may not have been confident otherwise.
Work on Your Personal Style
If you want to feel and appear confident, you need to learn which styles work best for you. In many cases, that could be a formal style if you work in a formal setting or a business casual style if you work in a more relaxed setting. Learn which colours, fabrics, and textures work best for you, as this will be the foundation on which you build your style.
Next, shop for fitting clothes. Clothes that do not fit well can make you look shabby and disorganised and negatively influence how people perceive you. Fitted clothes, on the other hand, help to show that you are not afraid to stand out and to present yourself in the best way possible.
Do not forget to get a good pair of shoes and a matching belt to tie everything together.
Work On Your Smile
One of the things that can immediately improve your confidence and help you project it outwards is smiling. Smiling makes you appear more confident to those around you and has a positive feedback effect on the way you feel. It has been proven that the more you smile, the better you feel and the better you feel, the more you smile. and so on. Once you master the art of a confident smile, you will appear more confident and be treated as a more confident man by those around you.
While many men do not like smiling because they do not know how to do it confidently, some hold back because they do not like how their smile looks. While there are a lot of things you can do to improve your smile, a great place to start is getting your teeth straightened.
Braces and aligners are very effective and with braces becoming more affordable, there is no reason not to try them out. So, how much do braces cost UK? That depends on the type of braces you would like to get. If you feel the cost of braces is too high or would like to explore other options, this guide from Straight My Teeth explains the different options for teeth straightening . Straight My Teeth helps you get a confident smile by offering clear aligners. Their clear braces are perfect for those going for a discreet look and are made to fit perfectly. Straight My Teeth also has several payment plans that help keep the brace cost UK down and ensure you can start your smile makeover right away.
If you already love the way your teeth look, you can start practicing in the mirror to see how your smile looks. You can work on it until you feel it is good enough to show to the world. Remember that once you learn to love your smile, you will project this feeling outwards, and other people are a lot more likely to respond the same way.
Stand Tall and Do Not Fidget
Standing tall is not about your height; it is about your posture and stance. People who slouch, hunch over, or look down do not appear confident and other people notice it. It makes them feel like you are unsure of yourself, and you subconsciously pick up on the vibe and end up feeling less confident. To remedy this, learn to hold your head up high, straighten your shoulders, and plant your feet.
No matter how tall you stand, fidgeting can undo everything you may be trying to achieve. While fidgeting can betray your low confidence, many people do it without realizing it. We all fidget in different ways depending on the situation and how we feel.
To avoid fidgeting, first become conscious of the way you do it. Then try to stand tall as discussed above, as tall as possible. Also, make note of your movements and only move when you have to. This might all be hard to do, especially when you are just starting, but it will be a great exercise in exuding confidence when talking in front of people or to strangers.
Invest in Meaningful Jewelry
Jewelry is a great way to express your personal style. It helps people know who you are and create an impression in their minds without you having to say anything. Wearing a piece of jewellery you love will help you stay grounded and remind you who you are in instances where you do not feel too sure about yourself.
One thing to remember is to not overdo it. One piece of jewellery is great, you can get away with two pieces but more than that will be overkill and confusing. Great pieces for this include a statement timepiece that also doubles as a fashion piece, a ring if the situation allows it, and a bracelet. Cufflinks can also work if your style allows it.
Confidence often stems from the way you think about yourself, and the way others think about you. By presenting yourself in the best way possible, you feel good about yourself, and you let people have a positive attitude towards you, which is a great confidence booster. Remember that many people lack self-esteem from time to time and working on your confidence should help you feel confident in more situations.
Confidence can carry you through a lot in life. It can help you perform better in job interviews, appear more authoritative when addressing a crowd, and land more deals and partnerships in your business. Unfortunately, most of us don’t feel confident 100 percent of the time, and when we do feel confident it doesn’t always project outward in ways that enable us to succeed.
During the course of conversation, there are several tricks you can use to make your words sound more authoritative, and to address your audience with greater overall confidence. Here are seven of them.
1. Speak more slowly.
Some of us speak faster when we’re nervous. Some of us are naturally fast talkers. Regardless of your motivations, conscious or subconscious, speaking too quickly indicates a lack of authority or a lack of confidence. In addition, while speaking quickly, you’re more likely to make mistakes in your enunciation, and you have less time to think through your words. Focus on speaking more slowly in your conversation, allowing your words to draw out and giving your sentences a weightier rhythm. Your audience will have more time to digest the words you’re speaking, and you’ll be less likely to make any critical errors that compromise your speaking integrity.
2. Use pauses to your advantage.
Using pauses is another strategy that can help you speak slower, but it’s effective in its own right. Work on creatively using pauses to give more impact to your speaking. For example, if you have an opening for a public presentation that’s eight sentences long and you make a significant point after sentence three, throw in a sizable seconds-long pause. It will add more weight to whatever your last sentence was and give you audience time to soak it in. It also gives you a chance to collect your thoughts and prepare for the next section of your speech, adding to the total amount of authority and confidence you project.
3. Avoid asides.
In a scenario that allows for preparation, such as giving a speech to a public audience, asides are fine. You have advance time to prepare them, determine if they’re relevant, and include them if they are. In more natural conversations, however, improvised asides can be damaging. For example, if you’re in a job interview and you answer a question directly, then spiral into a related story about something that happened to you a few years ago, it could be a sign that you’re nervous and looking to fill conversational space. Instead, focus only on what’s immediately relevant.
4. Lower your vocal range.
Take a look at some of the most famous speeches throughout history, at currently popular politicians, and even at local newscasters. You’ll find that most of them have lower tones of voice, and this is no coincidence. People tend to view speakers with lower speaking voices as having more authority and confidence. As much as you can, practice speaking in a lower tone of voice. Don’t force yourself or you’ll sound unnatural, but if you can get yourself a tone or two lower, it can make a real difference.
5. Improve your posture.
Body language is just as important in conversation as the words that leave your mouth. Whether you’re sitting or standing in front of your audience, work to improve your posture. Stand or sit up straight with your shoulders back, and keep your head held high. This will make you appear bigger and more confident, and will help you feel more confident as well. Plus, you’ll get the added benefit of aligning your body so you can breathe–and therefore speak–more efficiently. Posture can demand a lot of work, so make sure to practice in advance.
Gesticulation–the practice of using your hands and arms to punctuate or enhance your verbal statements–is another valuable body language strategy. Speakers who use body language actively in their presentation tend to be viewed as more confident and more authoritative than those who do not. Obviously, different hand gestures can signal different things, and if you simply wave your hands wildly in front of your audience, it may make you come across as out of control. Instead, focus on reserving your hand gestures for your most impactful words, and try to keep your movements reserved and under strict control.
7. Talk more.
The conversations that matter in our lives–whether they’re in the form of a public presentation or a business negotiation–are somewhat rare. But that doesn’t mean we can’t prepare for those meaningful conversations in our everyday lives. Seek out new opportunities to communicate with others whenever you get the chance, and in any context. Put these speaking strategies to practice and focus on improving your abilities over time. The only way to get better is to plunge in and keep working at it, so sign up to be a public speaker when you can and strike up conversations with strangers wherever you go.
The beauty of these conversational tricks is their sheer practicality; they can be used anywhere, in almost any context where you’re speaking to one or more other people. Experiment with them by practicing on a friend or a colleague. Over time, they will become second nature to you, and your natural speaking voice will convey a greater overall level of confidence and authority.
“Low self-confidence isn’t a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered–just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better.” Barrie Davenport
What message do you project when you walk into a room? What is your body saying? What information can somebody gather from you before you have even spoken?
Our poses, postures, hand positions, shoulders, etc. are a great source of information that most people read without even thinking. For example, if we are feeling confident we will stand a certain way and another way if we feel nervous or intimidated.
In many areas of our lives, confidence is the key to success. Many studies have demonstrated that people who appear confident achieve greater success than their peers. For some, confidence comes naturally, but for most people appearing confident, especially in social situations, is difficult. Luckily, we can learn how to appear confident by practicing techniques to alter our body language so that we always appear cool, calm, and self-assured. And as an added and very important bonus, when you practice positive body language, you actually send messages to your brain which reinforce confident feelings. Yes, you read that correctly, practicing confident body language can actually make you feel more confident!
If you would like to project a more confident image, here are 10 ways on how to modify your body language so that you always appear self-assured, relaxed and in control. Looking for an online confidence building course? Read my comprehensive article on the Best Confidence Building Courses here.
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How To Appear Confident (10 simple techniques)
1. Stand Up Straight
Standing up straight is probably the most powerful technique for projecting confidence through body language. Keeping your back straight, your shoulders back and your head held high displays status, power and that you are in control of your life. It can be tiring at first, especially if you have spent a lifetime slouching or bending over a computer, but it will become easier over time and you’ll soon be walking tall without even trying.
2. Keep Your Chin And Head Up
Confident people are always looking ahead, never down at the ground. Looking down communicates that you are insecure or shy. Whether you are standing in a crowd or walking down a street, always keep your head up and your eyes looking straight ahead.
3. Keep Your Hands Out Of Your Pockets
We naturally tend to hide or cover our hands by putting them in our trouser pockets when we are feeling nervous, uncomfortable or unsure of ourselves. If you keep your hands securely in your pockets then that’s how other people will view you. Keeping your hands visible indicates you feel confident in yourself, your current situation and ready to handle anything. If you really want to keep your hands in your pockets, make sure to keep your thumbs out and pointing upwards. This signals not only confidence but also cockiness.
4. Gesture With Your Palms Upwards
Gesturing with your palms facing up will make you appear more confident as it gives the impression of honesty and trustworthiness.
5. Don’t Fidget
A common habit that is a major sign of low self-confidence is fidgeting. Fidgeting is a clear sign of nervousness, worry or anxiety and most of us fidget without even realizing it. People fidget in many different ways, some jiggle their legs, some drum or tap their fingers or others play or fiddle with small items. Try to stand or sit still and only move when needed, although this can be difficult, particularly when you aren’t aware of some of your fidgeting habits. With a little practice, it will become easier for you to assume a calm, relaxed position.
6. Maintain Eye Contact
Good eye contact is probably the most important technique to practice if you wish to appear calm and confident. Steady eye contact suggests you’re honest and friendly and makes the other person feel much more connected to you. If you are speaking to several people alternate between them. However, it is important to be aware that too much eye contact can make you appear aggressive.
7. Stand In An Open Stance
Try to stand with your feet in a wide stance as this shows confidence. Standing with your feet too close together can give the impression that you are shy and timid. Aim to have your feet in line with your shoulders with your feet pointing outward.
Smiling has a powerful effect, a genuine smile communicates to those around you that you are friendly, honest and trustworthy and makes you more attractive. Studies have proven that smiling directly influences how other people respond to you as facial expressions trigger corresponding feelings in the person who is receiving the smile.
9. Develop A Firm Handshake
A firm, solid handshake can give you an immediate impression of confidence while a limp handshake can communicate weakness. Your handshake should be strong but not crushing and delivered with a few seconds of friendly eye contact.
10. Take Big Steps.
Try making your stride longer than normal. Take long purposeful steps, rather than short, quick, or hurried steps. A slower, deliberate walk will make you appear confident and in control of your life.
There you go, you now know how to appear confident! As I mentioned earlier, the greatest benefit of practicing a positive body language is that you can trick yourself into becoming confident. Don’t try to implement all these techniques at once, just start with one of the techniques and when it has become a habit, add another. The more you practice, the more comfortable you’ll appear and more importantly, you’ll actually start feeling more confident.
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If there is one trait that people say they are attracted to, whether it is in a personal way or in a professional setting, it is confidence. This can result in everything from having more relationships to securing the best business deals for a company.
But, there are a lot of people that struggle with self-confidence. This might be the way they have been brought up and through their personality or it could be down to circumstances and situations they have been through in their life.
The good news is, you can become more confident. Here are five ways you can do this.
Look After Your Health
When you look good, you feel good. This might be a simple phrase, but it is one that is very true. When you are looking your best, whether you are at a weight you like and have a muscle mass you love, you are going to be more confident.
So, if you are not happy with your body and the way you feel, it is time to start looking after your health. In other words, start working out more and eating healthier foods.
Another thing that can affect your confidence is your teeth. A healthy mouth gives you more security while smiling. Interpersonal interactions are, a Brampton dental office says, impacted by your smile. It also, obviously, has an effect on your general wellbeing. So, it is worth visiting a dentist on a regular basis.
Again, when you know you look the best, you are going to feel better about yourself and be more confident in everyday life.
Practice Positive Affirmation
Sometimes, you need to give yourself a pep talk before you do something. But, we all know that our minds can say negative things to us during the day, which can affect how confident you feel going into a situation.
It is time that we changed the way we think and practice positive affirmation.
In other words, every day you should encourage yourself that you can do something. Say something positive every day to yourself in the mirror. This can help to change your mindset and improve your mood. Eventually, you will start to feel what you are saying.
Wear Your Best Clothes
What you are wearing can have a huge impact on how you feel and whether you are confident or not. So, dress the part and ensure that your outfit makes you feel good.
For example, perhaps you feel your best when you are wearing a suit to work or a smart-casual outfit when meeting with friends.
Putting in some extra effort can make all of the difference. You can feel self-assured and like you are ready to take on the world.
Change Your Body Language
The way you walk and carry yourself can tell someone else a lot about you.
It is time that you acknowledge your body language and try to adjust it. This can help you to feel more confident.
Simple things such as walking with a straight back and making eye contact with people can make you feel more powerful. It also gives the illusion of confidence when you are talking to someone else.
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