How to leave romantic notes for your crush

How to leave romantic notes for your crush

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It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return. But what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel.

They say that a simple text message from someone you love can instantly brighten your mood. Now imagine receiving handwritten notes with sweet nothings, all day long, and that too in the most unexpected places.

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How to leave romantic notes for your crush

How to leave romantic notes for your crush

As much as they may deny it, men are closet romantics. They may say that they don’t do the mushy and the cheesy, but they love it when you do it for them. One super-cute way to show your man how much you love him is to leave love notes for him in unexpected places. In his jeans pocket, under his coffee mug, in his coat pocket, on the dashboard of his car; you can come up with some truly intimate places to sneak in a love note or two.

They say as long as at least one person cares for you, life isn’t a waste. So when things go terribly wrong, and you feel like giving up, please remember you’ve still got me.

There are two reasons I wake up in the morning: my alarm clock and you.

If I don’t romance you, if I don’t adore you, if I don’t cherish you. I don’t deserve you.

You came into my life when everything seemed so dark, but you gave me the light and I found my way.

I’ve never been so certain of anything in my life like I am of us.

They say people in love can be foolish. You know what? I don’t mind being a fool for you, forever!

Please let me know what I did to deserve you… I want to make sure I keep on doing it!

You are the reason I am breathing, but yet sometimes you take my breath away…

You color my world.

They say you fall in love only once. I think that’s BS. Every time I look at you, I fall in love all over again.

I’m addicted to you.

Whatever you do, I’ll walk with you. Hoping that your every dream will come true. Anytime, anywhere, I’ll always be there. Wishing you love and happiness because I care.

Nobody tells fish to swim, birds to fly, cows to moo, dogs to bark – they just do. Just like nobody tells me to love you. I just do!

Every single day, I am grateful for you. I will love and cherish you forever.

I fell in love with you because of a tiny million things you never knew you were doing.

My smile is true only when I’m with you.

Hey! I love you. You know that right?

When you read this note, come over and give me the tightest hug and the longest kiss we’ve shared.

Missed you all day. Come give me a kiss.

I don’t promise you a perfect relationship. What I promise you is that if you’re trying, I’m staying.

If you were a library book, I’d never give you back.

I won’t follow you into the dark. I’ll walk ahead and go light the way up for you.

How to leave romantic notes for your crush

Hidden love notes are an easy way to show your loved one that you are thinking about them by bringing a surprise to their heart and smile to their face at unexpected times. If you are looking for a way to spice up your romantic life and show your spouse you love them, leaving love notes tucked into inconspicuous places should do the trick.

Materials Needed

Any small pad of paper will do, but if you want your spouse to recognize your notes, you may want to have them all the same color, or design. When I started leaving notes for my husband, I found a 5 by 7-inch notebook at Walmart. The pages were lined and were four different colors. I write the notes and then fold them in half, then in half again. If I have a very small area I want to hide it in, the note gets folded one more time. It's important to write the note, and fold it up rather small, so it can be hidden easily. Make sure to write your spouse's name on the front of the note so that he/she will realize that it is meant for them. Otherwise, they make think it's just a scrap of paper and not even bother to pick it up and read it.

Guidelines

The following is a list of ideas for small love notes that you can leave in various places where your spouse will find them. Love notes can be as short or as long as you want them to be. The key is to find places that your spouse goes to on a regular basis, to make sure they will be found sooner rather than later.

At our house, I have started putting dates on my notes to see how long it takes my husband to find them. We laugh if it takes months for him to find them. No matter how long it takes him to find each note, they bring us closer together when he does. No matter what the message, you can always sign off with an "I Love You" or a "Love," Your Name. Sometimes my husband finds them again and loves to show me notes he re-finds from a few years ago.

Classic Messages of Love

  • You mean more to me than anyone.
  • I love you more than. (fill in the blank with something they know you love!)
  • Thank you for all you do for me.
  • Thank you for all you do for the kids.
  • You're a great mother to our children, and I love you more for it.
  • You're a great father to our children, and I love you more for it.
  • I love our life together.
  • You make me very happy.
  • Not only do I love you, but I really like you a lot, too!
  • Thanks for supporting my dreams.
  • Thanks for loving me even when I'm not that lovable.
  • You're my best friend.
  • You're the love of my life, and I'm so grateful to have found you.
  • You are a blessing to my life.
  • Your love nourishes me.
  • Snuggling with you is one of my favorite pastimes.
  • Thank you for being a blessing to my children. (This works if it's a second marriage as well as a first.)

Secret Places to Hide Love Notes

  • Desk drawer
  • Clothing drawer
  • Inside the checkbook (if the other person writes the bills)
  • Car
  • Purse or wallet
  • Lunch bag
  • CD collection
  • Magazine or book that they are currently reading
  • Bathroom drawer
  • Linen closet
  • Where the pet food is kept (for the person who feeds the pets)
  • In a bag of birdseed
  • Clothing or jacket pockets
  • In the hamper
  • Under the laundry detergent
  • Mixed in with the mail
  • Computer bag or briefcase
  • Under the computer mouse
  • In a drawer that they frequently use
  • In the refrigerator under their favorite food/drink
  • Under a pillow
  • Hidden in the leaves of a plant (if they water the plants)
  • Inside gardening gloves or work gloves
  • Inside a pair of boots or shoes
  • Inside gloves or mittens
  • Paper clipped to a newspaper

Special Messages and Where to Hide Them

  • Your scent drives me wild. (under a perfume bottle or aftershave)
  • I love your scent . . . perfume or natural. (under a perfume bottle or aftershave)
  • I'd walk a mile barefoot to spend time with you. (in a shoe)
  • Your smile lights my heart. (attach with tape to a tube of toothpaste)
  • I don't need food when I have your love. (under or in a type of food they love . . . cereal box, under a can of soup, etc.)
  • These are sweet, but your love is sweeter. (in a cookie package)
  • Your love means more to me than money. (in a wallet)
  • Let's have some pillow talk tonight. (on or under a pillow)
  • I hope my love keeps you as warm as this jacket. (in a coat pocket)
  • You are the sunshine of MY life. (under or near sunglasses)
  • You can drive me anywhere, but you always drive me wild. (in a car)
  • You sock it to me with your love. (sock drawer)
  • You always look beautiful/handsome to me. (attach to a mirror)
  • We make beautiful music together. (hidden on a piano under cover of the keys, in an instrument case, inside music books)
  • You're the most beautiful photograph I could take. (inside a camera case)
  • You fished for my love and caught me hook, line and sinker. ( in a fishing tackle box)
  • I love you more than my favorite ice cream. (in the freezer)
  • You light my fire. (in a wood holder next to the fireplace, or where ever you keep matches)
  • Let's heat things up tonight. (same as above)

Love Letters of Famous People

There are books that have been published that contain love letters of famous people throughout history. Sometimes borrowing lines from these letters, or poems will add a little spice to a marriage. Knowing that a spouse went to all the trouble to look this information up, and write it down as a sharing of similar sentiments should make the receiving spouse feel even more loved.

How to leave romantic notes for your crush

You don’t have to write out a ten-page love letter with a quill in order to show your partner how much you love them. You can get the point across with a few words on a Post-it note. Leaving little surprises around the house will make your man’s day. If you’re interested in the idea, here are the different types of love notes that you should leave around the house for your partner to see:

1 Song Lyrics

If you two have a special song, then you can write the lyrics down on a Post-it note and stick it to the bathroom mirror. That way, when he’s showering, he’ll have something to sing that reminds him of you. You could even set your iPod to play a certain song and leave a note on it that says, “Press play,” so he can hear it.

2 Foreplay Notes

If you two are sexually active, then you can foreplay through Post-it notes. All you have to do is scribble down some words that will get your man excited for the night ahead of him. You can write things like, “I can’t wait to kiss you when I come home” or “Later I’m going to make you feel better than you ever have before.”

3 Little Things You Love

If your man is self-conscious about his weight, you can leave a note on the scale telling him that you love him the way he is. However, if you want to support his weight loss goals, you can leave a note on the ice cream container that says, “I know you can do it” in order to push him to eat something healthier.

4 Treasure Hunt

Your notes can lead him to something even more special. You could place a note by his bed that says, “Look in the fridge for the snack I made you.” You could also leave him a note with some pain relievers and water next to it for when he wakes up with a hangover.

5 Pictures

Instead of leaving notes all around the house, you can print out some pictures to tape to the fridge and mirror. You can snap funny photos of you holding your dog in your arms, or you can take provocative photos of you in your lingerie. As long as no one else lives in the house, he’ll be the only one who sees them.

6 Funny Notes

You can leave funny little notes around the house that are meant to make your man laugh. If you two always watch Netflix together, then you can put a note on his laptop that says, “If you watch the next episode of Breaking Bad without me, you better tread lightly.”

7 A Simple “I Love You.”

Those three little words sound simple, but they’re incredibly meaningful. If you want to be blunt with your partner, you can just leave little notes in his briefcase or lunch bag that say, “I love you.” Even though you could just text him the phrase throughout the day, there’s something sweeter about writing it on a note in your own handwriting.

Your partner deserves to know how much you love and care for him, and these little notes are the perfect reminders! Have you ever written or received a sweet love note? What did it say?

Valentine’s Day is the perfect day to tell your crush how you feel about them. But what if you’re too shy to say it in person or to their face? Here are some tips and ideas on how to write the perfect Secret Admirer Note for the person you love – even if they don’t know it yet!

What To Do

How to leave romantic notes for your crush

First thing’s first. If you’re going to write a note to your crush, you need to make sure you’re doing the right thing. In some cases, it may be best to just let your crush know you like them and skip the whole “secrecy” part of it. But if you really feel like writing a note is the way to go, just remember not to overdo it or you’ll look like a stalker. Write the note, keep it simple, drop it off secretly and let fate do its work.

Say What You Feel

How to leave romantic notes for your crush

The first key to a great Secret Admirer Note is to clearly state how you feel about the person. Don’t go on and on about it or be confusing or vague. That will make you seem creepy. Just say you like them, maybe give one or two reasons why, and leave it at that. You want the note to be as short, simple and clear as possible – remember, this isn’t a love letter to someone you’ve been dating for years. It’s a note to your crush to let them know you’re interested and try to find out if they like you back or not. Leave the mushy stuff for your one-year anniversary!

DO: “I like you.”

DON’T: “You are the love of my life. I think about you all the time, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You mean everything to me.”

Use Their Name

How to leave romantic notes for your crush

Ever heard stories of a Secret Admirer Note gone wrong? The last thing you want is for the wrong person to get their hands on it and accidentally think the note is for them! Make sure that your note gets to the right person by clearly stating his or her name somewhere in it! You can even put it in an envelope and print their name right on the front (but still make sure you put their name on the note inside, in case the note and envelope get separated). Use a pen and not a pencil – you don’t want to risk someone erasing the name and replacing it with someone else’s. And if there’s more than one “Kate” in your class, put their last initial or full last name somewhere on it, too!

DO: “To Kate S:
I like you.”

DON’T: “To My Secret Admirer:
You are the love of my life. I think about you all the time, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You mean everything to me.”

Make Them Feel Special

How to leave romantic notes for your crush

Think of your Secret Admirer Note as something that will compliment your crush and make him or her feel happy. But don’t say stuff that you don’t mean and make sure you only write down your true feelings – you don’t want them to think you’re head over heels in love when really you just want to get to know them a bit better and see where things go.

DO: “To Kate S:
I like you.
You seem really cool and smart.”

DON’T: “To My Secret Admirer:
You are the love of my life. I think about you all the time, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You mean everything to me.
You’re just the best person I have ever known in my whole entire life, and I want to spend the rest of my life with you and only you. I LOVE YOU. ”

Be Confident

How to leave romantic notes for your crush

The most attractive thing you can be is confident with yourself. It’s definitely scary to tell someone you like them, but if you’re sure of yourself and know that you mean well then you’ll have nothing to worry about. The worst thing you can write in a Secret Admirer Note is anything that makes you seem scared or weak. You know how you feel and you know what you want – don’t be afraid to express it!

DO: “To Kate S:
I like you.
You seem really cool and smart.
It’d be great to get to know you better.”

DON’T: “To My Secret Admirer:
You are the love of my life. I think about you all the time, 24 hours a day, seven days a week. You means absolutely everything to me.
You’re just the best person I have ever known in my whole entire life, and I want to spend the rest of my life with you and only you. I LOVE YOU.
Every night you visit me in my dreams. Then I wake up crying because I know it was all just a fantasy. I can’t live without you anymore. But I’m too afraid to talk to you – I’m so scared you’ll reject me!”

Reveal Your Identity?

How to leave romantic notes for your crush

If you want your Secret Admirer Note to really be a secret, don’t sign your name and leave it in a place where you know the right person (and only the right person) will find it. BUT, if you want something to happen, you’re going to have to take the next step:

  1. Sign your name on the note
  2. Leave a clue about your identity
  3. Letting them know that you wrote the note

The third option can be a good one, because you can wait to see how your crush reacts to receiving the note before you make your move. If you decide to go with option No. 2, make sure you leave a pretty good clue – the point is to get your crush to figure out who you are, not to send them on a wild-goose chase or lead them to someone other than you. If you sign your name on the note, well, it’s not really a Secret, anymore, so you can just call it an “Admirer Note!”

DO: “To Kate S:
I like you.
You seem really cool and smart.
It’d be great to get to know you better.
From: Nick”

DO: “To Kate S:
I like you.
You seem really cool and smart.
It’d be great to get to know you better.
If you want to know who I am, look who’s sitting behind you in math class tomorrow.”

DON’T: “To My Secret Admirer:
You are the love of my life. I think about you all the time, 24 hours a day, seven days a week. You means absolutely everything to me.
You’re just the best person I have ever known in my whole entire life, and I want to spend the rest of my life with you and only you. I LOVE YOU.
Every night you visit me in my dreams. Then I wake up crying because I know it was all just a fantasy. I can’t live without you anymore. But I’m too afraid to talk to you – I’m so scared you’ll reject me!
If you want to know who I am, look three desks over and five rows back in either math or science class one day this week.”

You realized a long time ago that your wife or partner works really hard, either at work or taking care of the kids, or both. Not being great at expressing how amazing you think she is, sometimes, a simple romantic love note would give her joy you could not begin to imagine.

If you’re reading this and want to write love notes for her, here are 45 examples that will help inspire you!

Affectionate Notes for Her

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When trying to learn how to write love notes for her, the secret was learning to express affectionate thoughts, and deeper feelings because it is the simplest approach. You can win her heart over with genuine words of affection.

You needed to be honest and sincere when writing love notes for her. Figuring out how to do that allowed you to be able to express your feelings when you found yourselves going through difficult times.

The key to success in writing love notes for her, was taking the few sentences you could create, and putting them together to make ‘poetry.’

I’m not Shakespeare but trying using some of these sentences to compose poetry of your own. Remember, the dedication is to that incredibly special woman in your life, she already loves you.

There is nothing more special to her then a few ‘love notes for her,’ written by you. Don’t be afraid to express your feelings – you will learn how to become better at it with each attempt.

The start is always the most difficult part, but with a little practice, you will start thinking of love poems or notes on your own.

If you don’t believe us, just take your favorite three of these and play around with them, then you’ve technically, already started!

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Newsflash: The modern version of passing a paper note back and forth in class is leaving a flirty message on someone’s most recent IG post. Whether you’ve been macking on a cutie for a while or the sparks are just starting to fly, leaving flirty comments on your crush’s IG pics are sure to get their attention and likes. What’s better than that?

While you never need to do anything that makes you super uncomfortable, getting out of your comfort zone and putting yourself out there can help your crush see how amazing you are. From leaving a silly comment to sliding into their DMs, social media can be a great way to get the conversation ball rollin’ with a potential boo. Of course, it’s important to be mindful and considerate of everyone’s comfort level before you get to flirting. If your crush is on the shyer side or you’ve never talked IRL, you may want to hold off on sending any graphic or suggestive messages. While making the first move can be super hot, making someone totally uncomfortable is a never a cute look.

Still, if you’re looking to turn up the heat, here are some attention-grabbing comments for crush pics on Instagram.

  • I wish you could "super like" on IG.
  • ⚠️Thirst trap alert⚠️
  • You look just like [insert celebrity’s name] here!
  • So. are you an influencer yet or what?
  • [Color they’re wearing] looks good on you. It’s definitely your power color.
  • Um, I need to hear more about this IRL.
  • Who gave you permission to be this cute?!
  • Did you wake up like this?
  • Whoa, whoa, whoa. I didn’t realize I was friends with a model.
  • Can I swipe up to shop your look?
  • OMG, I was just there.
  • Go off!
  • This looks like a skincare ad. You’re literally glowing.
  • I love [name of place]! have you tried [thing at place]?
  • It should be against the law to look this good without a filter.
  • Um, be right there.
  • Your outfit is amazing.
  • You wake up, flawless. Post up, flawless.
  • Hiii @FordModels, you should probs book this hottie ASAP.
  • Hey, I think you dropped this: 👑.
  • OK, showoff.
  • Oh, you fancy, huh? 💅
  • OK, who took this?!
  • Um, I’m here for this content.
  • We get it — you’re, like, super hot and nice.
  • Whatever it is you’re selling, I’m buying.
  • It’s the [fill in the blank] for me.
  • How do you look so good every day.
  • Someone was definitely ready for their close-up.
  • Love this lewk.
  • @[mutual friend’s name] We’re coming next time.
  • OK, flex.
  • Weird, you must have forgotten to invite me to this.
  • Um, looking like this should be against the rules.
  • You’re doing amazing, sweetie!
  • 11/10
  • How can I cop?
  • I liked this and then un-liked it, just to like it again.
  • Sheeeeesh. You gotta warn people before you post something this hot.
  • When are you going to drop your skincare routine? Don’t be shy.

If these fun and flirty IG comments don’t get your crush’s attention, then nothing will.

Editor’s Note: This story has been updated by Elite Daily Staff.

Dr. Lissa Rankin examines how to lovingly end a relationship.

How to leave romantic notes for your crush

I just reread Elizabeth Gilbert’s memoir Eat, Pray, Love , and I found myself tearing up when I read, “The only thing more unthinkable than leaving was staying; the only thing more impossible than staying was leaving.”

You see, I remember that feeling. I’ll never forget that feeling.

I Am Divorced

I have two ex-husbands and a now a third husband (thank God the third time’s a charm). This is not something I’m proud of, but it’s part of who I am, and each of these relationships mashed up together in the butter churner of my life to spit me out the other end as the person I am today. And I’ve never been happier.

But back then, when the only thing more unthinkable than leaving was staying, when the only thing more impossible than staying was leaving, I couldn’t imagine I’d ever find joy again. I only knew I had to try, that I couldn’t give up on this little girl dream of sharing my life with someone who would let me be whole — without giving up a part of myself to squeeze into a relationship that didn’t quite fit.

Lately, my path keeps crossing with people who are unhappy in their marriages or miserable in relationships with loved ones, and I can’t help thinking that life is too short to live in pain, just because we said, “I do.”

Don’t get me wrong. I’m the product of parents who were married for 40 faithful years before my father died, and I feel blessed to have been raised in such a stable home. I’m hoping to offer my only daughter (to whom I gave birth with husband #3) the same kind of stability I had. But not at any price.

Leaving Sometimes Requires Leaping

As a Pink Medicine Woman coach, I help shepherd people through times of change that often require big leaps of faith. Leaving a lover is often just such a leap. One of my clients had been married for 22 years to her high school sweetheart, and things were. good. Good, not great. Comfortable, not close. Friendly, not passionate. Easy, not intimate.

For years, she went through the motions in her marriage, feeling like a vital piece of herself had been doped up with halothane. She then went through a phase of being more proactive — reading self-help books, going to see marriage counselors with her husband, signing up for workshops. But nothing changed between them. He was content with life as it was. She just wasn’t.

When I asked her what was missing from her life, she said, “connection” — and burst into tears. In that moment, she knew — she had to walk away from her marriage, even if it would hurt the kids, even if her husband would feel rejected, even if she would suffer financially. Some small, long-silenced voice from within was screaming so loud that she knew she had to take a leap of faith — by trusting that after she walked through the fire her divorce would require, she would arise a phoenix.

You might think my client and I are both cavalier about leaving a marriage, but trust me, neither of us ended our relationships without intense soul-searching that included the full range of self-doubt, introspection, fear, shame, guilt, panic, and ultimately, peace that there was no other path to joy but through the pain.

As Yusuf Islam says, “To be what you must, you must give up what you are.”

If you or someone you love is facing the end of a love affair, let me share a few things I’ve learned along the way, aimed especially at those doing the leaving.