How to flirt when you have social anxiety

I’ve never been able to relax when this happens to me. I just overthink things and flirting back is not a natural response.

When I don’t know the person I don’t want to encourage further flirting and it can be creepy. I am always paranoid the worries will attempt to do something against my will as I don’t know them or how impulsive, short fused they can be. Fortunately, that type of experiences hasn’t been often at all.

I have more trouble with people that are acquaintances because I already care of the impression they have of me. I don’t want them to stop talking to me so I don’t want to be rude but I still don’t want to encourage them. I just never have felt comfortable being flirted, except with the person I am in a relationship. Being just with that person I can sometimes surprise myself on that department.

So it is a weird experience and I was wondering if anyone here can relate with this, feeling uncomfortable, overthinking and not knowing how to react when someone flirts with you.

If you can’t relate and find it easy, maybe you can give us some insight or new perspective to ease us into it.

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This is a tough one, because it depends on the person themselves. Some people are naturally jealous for no reason, and an ex of mine always thought I was flirting with other men when I smiled at them. Then there are women who think you are flirting with their men, when all you are doing is chatting in a social environment such as a party.

All I would say it to be aware of others reactions, no touching, and to take a bathroom break or something if you feel uneasy. When people flirt with me and I’m uneasy, I make an excuse to do something and usually when I get back the moment has passed. It doesn’t have much to do with age, but more personality and insecurity.

The ultimate thing is that fine line when it goes past a friendly banter to maybe wanting to know someone on an more intimate level. Flirting is often that fine line you choose to go over or to back away from.

Natasha0717

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I have no problem at all flirting with guys when they flirt with me first. I mean, as long as they are cute or semi-cute. No creeps, I refuse to flirt with guys much older than me or the ones that just have that "look in their eyes" and you know they could be potentially dangerous. I even have a "mean look" that I use on this particular group. I’ve practiced it before, and it must be a pretty mean, intimidating look. because it does seem to scare guys off whenever I choose to use it.

Now, when there’s a guy that I like a lot and he doesn’t flirt with me first, I have SO MUCH trouble coming up with things to say or even attempting to flirt with him. It’s like I can’t be myself or something, I guess because I get overly-focused on how I’m acting and I end up saying [probably] stupid things. And then when he doesn’t flirt back. oh boy.
But I keep trying. even if I wait a few days before going back. Because when I see someone I want, I usually don’t give up. And I usually get them. But I also don’t make a fool of myself in the meantime, I know when to back off and not scare the guy away by looking too eager. Guys hate that. Or so I’ve read.

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If someone finds another person attractive then I don’t think it’s a problem for them to flirt. Sometimes flirting isn’t even about fancying someone, it can just be meant in a lighthearted way. Saying that, though, I’m not keen on being flirted with if I don’t fancy the guy. If that happens with me I tend to make my excuses and walk away. Then I would probably just ignore them.

I remember I was eating my lunch in a pub and a man asked if he could have a chat with me. I agreed but then another man came over and the first man started to tell him that I was his girlfriend. I was absolutely horrified as my thoughts were that they would all believe him. The thought of being his girlfriend disgusted me because I didn’t fancy him. I told the other man the truth straight away and never went back to that pub again.

Maybe it would have different if I did fancy the man, but for some time now I’ve not been interested in a relationship at all. My head is too mixed up at this time, and I’ve had enough of relationships that don’t work out. I know it’s something I need to work on, but due to my depression, I just can’t be bothered. Flirting with someone can make that person feel good about themselves, but for me, I would rather not have the embarrassment.

Jester85

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Yea a stranger just trying to "claim" you as his girlfriend is definitely presumptuous and kind of creepy. Some people have no sense of boundaries or how to appropriately show interest in someone.

I get a freeze or flight instinct when someone tries flirting with me. I literally don’t know how to react. Plus I’m at a loss as to how to make small talk, so they quickly decide I’m not interested and move on to better prospects elsewhere.

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I have no problem at all flirting with guys when they flirt with me first. I mean, as long as they are cute or semi-cute. No creeps, I refuse to flirt with guys much older than me or the ones that just have that "look in their eyes" and you know they could be potentially dangerous. I even have a "mean look" that I use on this particular group. I’ve practiced it before, and it must be a pretty mean, intimidating look. because it does seem to scare guys off whenever I choose to use it.

Now, when there’s a guy that I like a lot and he doesn’t flirt with me first, I have SO MUCH trouble coming up with things to say or even attempting to flirt with him. It’s like I can’t be myself or something, I guess because I get overly-focused on how I’m acting and I end up saying [probably] stupid things. And then when he doesn’t flirt back. oh boy.
But I keep trying. even if I wait a few days before going back. Because when I see someone I want, I usually don’t give up. And I usually get them. But I also don’t make a fool of myself in the meantime, I know when to back off and not scare the guy away by looking too eager. Guys hate that. Or so I’ve read.

That’s so me! Flirting comes naturally to me but with only those people that I am comfy with. As in good looks and clean intentions. I don’t encourage the creepy lot. Infact I give a clear indication that I am all NO with them.

I find most guys relax around me and flirt in return. There was this one guy that I had crush on and oh boy he was so Flirt-me-not type! He did not even know what a smile was. Eventually, I taught him how to flirt back lol

how can i flirt (With ANY guy) without coming off awkward or trying to hard? My best friend seen me flirt and said im super awkward cause it seems like im trying to hard.

I need tips and advice! I dont want this to hold me back from dating anyone or finding “The one”

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But i dont wanna get in there and them get foul ball and the guy totally not like me. it’s happned before where i THOUGHT he liked me / thought it was cute and it failed 100%

any tips on knowing if he likes you back?

When you talk too him keep eye contact but don’t go googly eye psycho. if his eyes wonder or if he blushes, fidgets you prolly make him nervous and thats a good way to tell if he likes you.

what if he was saying something to me and then like kinda smiles alittle for no reason? ( Like a barely there smile but you can tell it a smile?

i have this weird thing where i wanna smirk (Or smile) when he talks to me I don’t know why i just do, not a creeepy huge smile but like a little smirk and the other day he did that (The small smile thing) when he was explaining something to me

See what are you worried about you got this. first instinct is the best one. Seems to be this guy has something for you. Question is do you wanna wait for him too make a move.

Well the situation makes it difficult. He’s sorta my assistant manager so Iddon’t know if he or I could make a move. I’m unsure what to do next

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How? Please Help me!

How are you able to without being akward?

Just be natural. I learnt to just flirt with body langage. Smile lots and make eye contact. Nobody is perfect at it. Pratice makes improvement. I guess it took me stepping out of my comfort zone. I do it so much I don’t realize I am doing it. I don’t think about it.

Thats kinda like me, i feel like i naturally flirtly but I’ve noticed with a guy i LIKE i become super awkward and it looks like im trying to hard (Which i usually Am) Or ill say something awkward or weird.

How can i do this with a guy i work with that i like? (Be natural that is)

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Being yourself is probably best, and if that comes off a little awkward, so be it.

"The one" is going to be someone who likes you the way you are, even if you're nervous, awkward, shy, at times little neurotic, and sometimes blurt out silly things.

By the way, there are plenty of guys who can relate to that. Any guy who has ever felt any degree of shyness or social anxiety is not going to judge it negatively in others, unless he is a total hypocrite.

But I would think that you want someone with empathy, and a dude with empathy is going to be touched that you're putting yourself out there at all for him, when it's obvious it's not easy for you.

I can't promise that your current crush has that empathy, because it's easy to like people who aren't right for us. But if they don't have enough empathy to understand your situation, then they're not "the one".

Also, it's nearly impossible for girl to come off as "trying too hard", especially a girl with social anxiety. The only thing that is "trying too hard" is if the guy has made it very clear that he is not interested in you, and you're still going after him.

But it's much more likely that the guy won't know you're interested at all, because you're afraid of "trying too hard". So you really need to try to dismiss this fear if at all possible, because it's not productive. Your friend is not helping you.

The only other thing you want to avoid is throwing out lies, because you're nervous. Like making up an excuse not to see a guy because you're nervous. A guy may interpret that as a blow off, or if he thinks you're sending mixed signals, he may start to believe you're playing a game. Much better to be super awkward than to come off as playing a game.

Amy Morin, LCSW, is the Editor-in-Chief of Verywell Mind. She's also a psychotherapist, the author of the bestselling book "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do," and the host of The Verywell Mind Podcast.

If you suffer from social anxiety disorder ​(SAD) or are simply shy, it may seem easier to avoid making friends and spend time alone instead. However, research shows that people with close friends live longer and are generally healthier.   In addition, those with close friends are better able to cope with the death of a spouse or other major life change.

For those with SAD, you may want to make friends but do not know how.   Below are step-by-step instructions to help you increase your social circle and hopefully make a few good friends along the way.

How to Make New Friends

Below are suggestions on how to make and keep new friends.  

  1. Before you try to make new friends, it is important to spend some time working on yourself. The more well-rounded a person you are, the easier it will be to talk with others.
    1. Brush up on current events, take up a new hobby; anything that you can do to become more comfortable with who you are will make it easier to make friends. Find out what you are passionate about in order to find like-minded people.
    1. It is important not to be too picky in the beginning. Anyone could be a potential friend; first impressions are not necessarily the best indicators of who could become a long-term friend. Consider asking a coworker to lunch, joining a book club at the library or volunteering at a local non-profit to meet new people and potential friends.
    1. By the same token, you shouldn't always expect the other person to make plans. Though making plans can be a challenging task for those with SAD, it is important to show others that you are interested in them and want to get together.
    1. Don't expect instant results. Building friendships takes time and mutual effort.   Make creating new friendships a priority, but realize that the race to the finish line is a marathon, not a sprint.
    2. Once you have made new friends, be careful not to take them for granted. Always make your friendships a priority even when it may not be convenient for you.
    3. Good friends don't criticize, gossip, or judge each other.
    4. Never compromise your beliefs, values, or morals because of a friendship.

    A Word From Verywell

    Making friends takes time, but if you feel that you cannot meet new people or that idea of trying to meet new people is too frightening or overwhelming, it may be a good idea to consult a therapist.  Working on treating SAD can help you relax and enjoy being around other people more. Once your social anxiety is under control, you should find it easier to approach new people and start developing friendships.

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    The questions listed below relate to life experiences common among people who have been diagnosed with a social anxiety disorder.

    Please read each question carefully, and indicate how often you have experienced the same or similar challenges in the past few months.

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    There is no medical test for social anxiety disorder. A psychiatrist or other mental health professional can make a diagnosis of social anxiety disorder (otherwise known as social phobia) based on your own description of your symptoms, how they occur, and in what situations. Your doctor will use criteria listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) to determine if your symptoms warrant a diagnosis.

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    The first step to overcoming social anxiety disorder is a formal diagnosis. Once a child is diagnosed with social anxiety disorder, the family may feel relieved that a specific treatment plan can now be put into place to ease the child’s symptoms. Children with social anxiety disorder are typically treated with either behavioral therapy or a combination of behavioral therapy and medication.

    Can I self-diagnose social anxiety?

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    Do I have social anxiety or am I just shy?

    Social anxiety disorder is a chronic mental health condition in which social interactions cause irrational anxiety. Social anxiety is more than just feeling shy. People with social anxiety have an intense fear of situations where they could be watched, judged, embarrassed, or rejected by others. The symptoms are so extreme that they interfere with the person’s daily routine and prevent them from taking part in ordinary activities.

    What triggers social anxiety?

    Some events, emotions, or experiences may make it more likely for the symptoms of social anxiety to begin or worsen—these are known as triggers. Some common triggers of social anxiety disorder include meeting new people, attending social events, making small talk, being watched while doing something, etc. Social anxiety triggers can differ from person to person and so working with a mental health professional to identify what your triggers are and how you can react when faced with them can be incredibly helpful.

    Does social anxiety ever go away?

    For most people, social anxiety disorder will not go away without treatment. It is very important to seek help from a mental health professional if you believe you are experiencing symptoms of social anxiety disorder. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is generally considered the most effective form of treatment for social anxiety. CBT is a form of therapy that enables you to identify negative patterns of thought and behavior and change them.

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    So I've seen a lot more questions than tips lately on this sub. And thats alright, lots of people can get their questions answered specifically. But sometimes I think whats needed is a post of actual tips you can share with everyone. So I'm going to put a few down and I encourage everone else to go ahead and put some in the comments as well. There isn't a TL;DR but if you need the tips, you might not have a problem with a little reading.

    For people who are new to flirting: You probably have social anxiety. Here's how to train that mostly out of you

    • If your 21+, go to a bar and talk to people

    No one goes to a bar and expects not to talk to someone. If someone scolds you for talking to them, just walk away. You don't want to associate with that type anyways. If anything, everyone there will see what a sourpuss that guy is and then he'd become the odd one out and you just assimilated into the group. Congrats.

    Sit at the bar (not at a table) if you can and just watch and listen to people's stories and laugh when you hear something funny

    The bar tender is almost always the perfect person to talk to if you need a little introduction to everone at the bar. They will talk to you and will include you in the convos with other regulars (they need that tip money but they also end up being cool friends, tip them well anyway, shows your generosity).

    If you're at one end of a packed bar, the guy next to you is likely part of the crowd but he too is on the outskirts. Tell him some side comment about the convo the whole bar is in on. Something funny or adding to it.

    Don't hover around people and make them uncomfortable. Find your spot, sit in it unless you need to move. You're your own man and don't need validation, you just want some buds and a good time.

    Once you have a couple in ya, you'll be more apt to talk and actually go and initiate conversations. People are there to meet others and they have no idea who you are. So put out the idea that these people know your past or know what you do in private and are judging. They have no clue, you're safe.

    Don't open too much and try not to bring in politics or religion. If so, only once.

    This is just how you combat social anxiety. To flirt with the women:

    -Try not to be intimidated. Its likely they don't see themselves all that highly in the first place. You two are equal.

    Try to become friends-ish. Meaning, when she sees you the next time she should be glad to see you and it should be hella comfortable just chatting but she's not asking you if Chad is interested or not. Chad should be concerned that Brad is "friendly" with her.

    EYE CONTACT. Look in one eye, then glance at the other. Then back to the first eye. Look away a little bit, then look back. Eye contact shows you're listening and that you aren't intimidated by them. Looking around a little is so you don't just stare into their soul and make them feel weird.

    Ask her her faves. Favorite movie or movie genre, favorite band or music genre, favorite kind of food, favorite color, what sports she's played. Then ask her about philosophical stuff (not politics). "What do you think about the notion that all people are basically good?" "Do you think technology has gone too far/become dangerous for society/can be used for something better than it is now?" "Thoughts on AI?" And then you can gice your opinion (briefly) and don't lie. It shows you're confident in your beliefs, but be ready to defend your reasoning. Then ask her about personal things. Birthday, high school alma mater, college alma mater, middle name, how many siblings. Save the interview questions for the 3rd string of convos.

    If you want to see her again or keel contact, GET HER NUMBER (or snap). This could be difficult because if you ask for her snap she may think you're juvenile, if you ask for her number, she may think you're too forward. Sucks that we live in an age where you have to play limbo to get a girls contact but thats where we're at atm. And tbh, if she makes you feel bad for asking for one or the other then just stop talking to her, thats someone who's just too high maintenance. But if you want to increase your chances, just say, "Hey can I get your number? Or your snapchat if you're more comfortable with that."

    Have a good time and laugh. Don't try too hard to be funny or really search for a funny joke. You won't find one cause you're thinking of yourself too much. Forget about yourself and focus on her and what she's saying and keep whatever you're saying relevant and don't interupt.

    Here and there, compliment them. Their physical features, what's beautiful about them? Tell them. You like their clothes? That means you like their sense of style. Tell them. People want to be noticed. You like their mind? Tell them. Tell her something along the lines of, "I bet you got a lot of dudes simpin' over you.", or something like that lol. Just say it in a playful way. And like flirt only every other few times. Like don't jusy constantly bombard her with compliments. Jusy enough to get the loint across that you're attracted to her.

    Thats about all I have. A friend of mine told me at the bar once, and she may have meant it as a passing comment, but if you're awkward, it helps to turn it into charm. Befuddled and bumbling can be charming if you gather yourself quick enough and make light of the awkwardness. Don't just go, "Sorry I'm awkward," and then shut down. Say something more clever like, "Did I say my name was John? I meant to say my name's awkward." and keep the convo going. Cause everyone is awkward and making light of it may even make her more comfortable. It might even help to be intentionally awkard.

    IT ALSO HELPS TO BE PHYSICALLY HEALTHY (notice I didn't say fit. But being fit helps too). A REGULAR WORKOUT ROUTINE AND DECENT DIET AND SLEEP SCHEDULE IS IMPORTANT TO REGULAR LIFE AND NOT JUST IN DATING.

    But if there is anyone with more tips on flirting, and if someone wants to give tips for women on flirting with guys, or tips for x on flirting with y then put em down. Lets help people out and make dating light and easy.

    Carly Snyder, MD is a reproductive and perinatal psychiatrist who combines traditional psychiatry with integrative medicine-based treatments.

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    It can be hard to talk openly with a therapist if you have social anxiety disorder (SAD). The reason that you are going to therapy is that you are afraid of people; and yet therapy requires you to open up and share your innermost feelings with a complete stranger.

    Particularly for those with generalized SAD, therapy may initially be as difficult as the social situations that you fear.   It is a catch-22 that is somewhat of a unique problem that those with social anxiety face.

    Many people who enter therapy for the first time may have trouble opening up. This problem may be particularly severe for those with SAD.

    • You may find it hard to confide during therapy sessions.
    • You may be afraid to appear vulnerable, and your inability to trust someone else enough to open up could become a barrier to the successful completion of therapy.
    • You may even feel like quitting, or actually quit going to sessions.

    Unfortunately, this problem plagues many who suffer from social anxiety. In addition, many people are too ashamed to tell their therapist how they are feeling, and so the anxiety is never resolved.

    What can you do if you are feeling this way?

    6 Tips for Opening Up to Your Therapist When You Have Social Anxiety

    It is not an impossible situation. Below are some tips to help you better cope with opening up in therapy.

    Give It Time

    Although it may be difficult to imagine, over time you may become more comfortable with your therapist.

    This process may take several weeks or even months, but if the relationship is a good fit, it is possible that it will become easier to open up as time goes on.

    On the other hand, if you are in short-term therapy, or if there is a disconnect between you and your therapist, giving it more time may not make sense.

    Write Things Down

    If you find it easier to share feelings on paper than in person, consider writing down how you feel before a session and giving it to your therapist.

    Expressing your feelings in writing is a good way to initially feel safer in therapy, and may help you to more easily engage with your therapist as treatment progresses.

    What you write is up to you. It could be a list of topics to talk about, a journal of your thoughts for the week, or even a full letter explaining how you feel in detail.

    If you feel uncomfortable watching someone read what you have written, consider emailing it to your therapist before the session.

    Consider Online Therapy

    Online therapy is becoming more popular and for good reason: the ability to talk to someone in an email or chat format about personal issues instead of in-person is appealing to many.   For those with SAD, it may be a better introduction to therapy than face-to-face encounters.

    For those who have started in-person therapy and quit prematurely because of anxiety, online therapy may be a particularly good alternative.

    Ultimately, engaging in online therapy may make it easier to eventually speak to a therapist in person.

    Join a Peer Support Group

    Although it may seem counter-intuitive to seek help in a group setting when you are afraid of people, peer support groups have many advantages for those with SAD.

    In a peer support group, you have the option of sitting and listening quietly without speaking. You can hear about how others have also been afraid to open up in therapy and how they overcame this obstacle.

    If you do decide to join a peer support group, make sure that it is one that is for people with social anxiety or that the group is sensitive to the challenges of people with SAD.

    Confess Your Anxiety

    If you have given it time, and you believe that your therapist is a good fit for you, it may be time to confess how you are feeling. Whether you do this in writing, by email, or in-person is up to you.

    What you need to do is come clean and tell your therapist that your social anxiety is getting in the way of you opening up in therapy sessions.

    Your therapist's job is to help you work through these issues, and it is important that he knows what you are really feeling.   You may be surprised at how telling the truth about your anxiety in therapy makes it easier to open up.

    Change Therapists

    What if you have done all of the above, and still don't feel comfortable? Sometimes, the match between a therapist and client just isn't a good fit.

    Questions to Ask Yourself

    • Is your therapist warm and friendly?
    • Does she encourage you or intimidate you?
    • Is she knowledgeable about SAD or does she minimize your concerns?

    If there is something about your therapist that makes you uncomfortable, you may be better off with someone else.

    A Word From Verywell

    Although opening up in therapy is never easy for those with SAD, the rewards of doing so can be great. Find a therapist that you trust, give it enough time, write things down when you feel the need, and try to be as honest as you can about your feelings. Doing so will make the most of your time in therapy.

    How to flirt when you have social anxiety

    It’s not unusual to feel nervous or uncomfortable at the thought of meeting new people. However, when you have social anxiety, those feelings can become magnified. In fact, many people with social anxiety disorders worry that they’ll never be able to talk to strangers or develop friendships.

    The good news is that anyone who wants to form interpersonal relationships can — even those who have been diagnosed with social anxiety. There are skills you can learn to help make the process less daunting and more rewarding.

    Make a Plan to Deal With Your Emotions

    Think back to prior social experiences. What were the first emotions and responses you felt? What did your mind tell you? For instance, perhaps your heart raced, and you felt like people were judging your comments. When you know how you tend to react in social situations, you can think of ways to cope with these reactions.

    Some people like to view social situations from an objective standpoint. This allows them to play the role of “analyzer,” which helps keep negative self-talk in check. Observe others and join in, but try not to evaluate everything you say and do. Instead, be observant and thoughtful. Listen. This can help you find people who share your interests — and those people might one day become close friends.

    Meet People at Smaller Gatherings

    Maybe a huge party isn’t the best place for you to meet people, but how about a small dinner get-together hosted by a coworker? Resist the temptation to automatically say “no” to invitations. A smaller gathering gives you the opportunity to mix and mingle in a more comfortable setting. Plus, you can ask the host about the guests to prepare for the experience.

    Once at an event, try to concentrate on others’ needs. Offer to help the host, play the role of bartender, or simply be kind and smile. You don’t have to say a lot to make a positive impression. When you feel like you have a role to fill, you may be less likely to think of yourself as an outsider.

    Expose Yourself Regularly to Different Situations

    If you have social anxiety, you may be naturally tempted to avoid social situations. However, most experts agree that a better solution is to step outside of your comfort zone regularly. This could mean joining clubs so you can be around people who share your hobbies or volunteering for an organization that aligns with your beliefs.

    The more often you get around people you don’t know, the less frightening it will seem. You may never feel 100% at ease, but the intensity of your responses should begin to taper off with each new exposure. That way, you can begin meeting friends.

    Getting Help for Social Anxiety

    If symptoms of social anxiety are keeping you from meeting new people, you may find it helpful to seek treatment from a professional. Speaking with counselors who understand social anxiety disorder can help get you on a healthier mental track — and get you closer to socializing.

    Looking for an affordable counselor in the Dallas area? Contact our team today to schedule an appointment.

    I just started high school. It's a whole new environment with new people. My classmates are super nice, but also very social. I find it hard to make (and especially maintain) conversations because I struggle with social anxiety. It makes me feel like a little kid, going silent all of a sudden when they're all naturals at making small talk.

    I don't have a lot of friends because of this. I understand that being alone with me is awkward. I just think it's better to keep silent than try to make forced conversation. But I'd like to have more friends, since my mental health is suffering. How to make small talk without sounding stupid? What to discuss about when your life is boring?

    Im a senior in highschool im a loner as well and there is one thing that I can say. One thing that works speaking on my own experience is to literally TALK. Once you talk you will develop an existence and people will notice you. It sounds stupid but I cant tell you multiple times how my classmates that I see literally all throughout the day forget my existence that day because I don't talk. So talk but to be like make what you say meaningful and kind and never argue. And pls think before you speak. Having a good relationship with teachers is a good idea. Forget those people who may say your a teachers pet. Just don't call out the HW lol.

    Monday-how was your weekend? Tuesday – I saw this funny thing online. Wednesday- this frustrating and extremely trivial thing happened, let’s laugh at it. Thursday – Have you read anything interesting lately? Friday- any plans for the weekend?

    Wow an actually useful comment.

    My man living up to the name. Sorta

    It’s nice to be appreciated.

    That is a strategy I still use today, and Im almost 30. Works pretty well, althought, it certainly has its drawbacks too.

    -Hi, how are you?- to the most people you can, high school was bad for me but by just doing that, people would approach me even from other classes or stand up for me from bullies when I least expected it, believe me everyone wants friends in high school even the “misanthropes” and everyone is going through a lot of changes don’t try to get the hang of it or try to figure it out just let it be, go out a lot

    Find people you can talk to, and start there to get warmed up. Then push yourself to talk to somebody you wouldn’t for a little bit, then back to more comfortable people. Keep on pushing yourself a little bit harder and longer each time

    I know this part. But I don't know what to say to them. I've already asked the basic questions and don't know what to say next.

    Here is how I approached it, maybe it will work for you; -google 3 things: "good conversation starters", "how to be a good listiner" and "asking open ended questions"

    There are many lists like top 25/50/100 conversation starters. Dig through few of them and pick starters that you like, 10 will be about right.

    When it come to talking situation, ask one of the startersvyou prepared earlier and, if you dont feel like doing much talking, make a good use of the second reasearch you did, on how to he a good listener. (Eye contact, noding, asking right questions – open ended ones.)

    Dont think too deep on the conversation as a whole, just focus on the start, see how it goes. Remember it is a two side thing and sometimes people dont click, so never blame yourself for that.

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