How to deal with catching your parents having sex

You can’t help but see it, but you can handle it.

Your parents are having sex. Even if they’re old, or not together — and it’s not with each other — they’re still having it. maybe even now (sorry). If you’ve been as lucky as they have, you haven’t caught them in the act, but that doesn’t mean you’re in the clear.

Maybe you accidentally stepped on them when you were growing up, but discovered your parents as an adult? Well, it will make you wish you were too young to understand. Here’s how to cope.

Get out of the situation

"How

It may seem obvious, but it is very likely that you are standing there, unable to think or move, and your brain does not understand what your eyes are seeing. Grab a hold and leave the room as if it were on fire (as if it were on fire). This is not the time or place to freeze, so GTFO ASAP.

Don’t take it personally

All parents are different, but yours probably aren’t exhibitionists who wanted to get caught. You are not a victim for catching them, although you may be temporarily traumatized. What happened has nothing to do with you; everyone is ashamed here.

Refuse to face it

"How

Your parents don’t know how to deal with it either, so they might make the mistake of trying to talk about it. They will try to improve their situation by teasing her or, worse, asking her if you have any questions. Ne chiederai solo uno: "Puoi? no?"

The same kind of ridiculous explanations parents offer their kids when they get caught – just playing their special game or doing adult CPR – will come in handy now. Instead of watching them struggle through an explanation, just rattle off some b. s. about how you were sleepwalking, in the middle of the day, when you came by to do your laundry.

You all have reasons why it didn’t happen, even if it happened completely. Your parents don’t have to believe you, and you don’t have to believe yourself either, but everyone appreciates the little context.

Talk to your friends about it

You can’t talk to your parents about it because it’s too disgusting, so you have to open up to other people. All your friends will give you compassionate and disgusted ears. Maybe they’ve been through something similar and you won’t feel so alone after hearing about it. Oppure prenderanno in giro te (e i tuoi genitori arrapati) e ridere insieme a loro aiuterà.

"How

Okay, no more denial. Your parents still love each other. And this is good! No one wants to actively think about it, but on a large scale, sex is a healthy part of adult relationships. This doesn’t make it any less shocking to see it, but you can appreciate the greater good behind it. You want your parents to be happy, right?

Apply what you have learned

Now you know that you can deal with any humiliating situation, but most of all, you have learned that parents are human too. Many adult children (myself included) wander around their parents’ house as if they were the owners of the house, even if they no longer live there. Your parents can do whatever they want now that you’re an adult, so when you really think about it, why shouldn’t they?

Respect the elders enough to assume they’re still having fun, and then always knock first.

It doesn’t have to be as awful as it sounds.

"How

When it comes to your list of worst sexual nightmares, someone who pisses at you probably climbs pretty high. Depending on the person, your immediate emotional response may vary between, “I really wish I had Harry Potter’s invisibility cloak right now,” and, “Are they still taking applications for that one-way trip to Mars?” To minimize the mortification of everyone involved, focus on etiquette. "L’etichetta consiste nel rassicurare gli altri", afferma Elaine Swann, esperta di stile di vita ed etichetta. “It’s especially applicable in this situation because the other person will likely have an immediate feeling about what they just saw.” Read on to learn how to handle this bizarre scenario with four different people in your life.

"How

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Regardless of whether you go back to action or not, when you step out of the room to talk to your parents, you should look flawless as if you’ve been interviewed for a job. No headboard, smudged makeup, or wrinkled clothes, unless you want your parents to have a vivid memory of what they just saw. Try talking to them with your partner, but you are the one talking. “Apologize and explain it won’t happen again,” says Greer. “If they’re disappointed in you, you can acknowledge that and be understanding.” At the same time, you were a grown-up and grown-up choice, says Greer. Because of that, it doesn’t call for an overwrought conversation. A simple excuse followed by a conversation exchange is due diligence.

"How

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If you know they’ll be offended, a formal apology can help. Even if you’re nervous about their reaction, you should still present a united front by showing up to apologize together. "Vi avvicinerà perché lavorerete come una squadra e risolverete i conflitti insieme", dice Greer. "Vi rafforzerà come coppia di fronte alle avversità." This time your partner should be talking. “Any judgment or lectures will likely be directed at him since he’s talking,” says Swann. Also, his parents are likely to be easier for him than they are for you.

"How

The exception to this rule is when that other friend is the roommate who caught you doing it on the kitchen table or other shared furniture. "Allora scusati e dì che è sfuggito di mano e non accadrà mai più", dice Swann. Suggest that they clean (and disinfect) any surface with their bare bottom touched like an olive branch.

"How

If you jumped in your car for a quickie just to get a surprised passerby to take a good look, pretend nothing happened. “You don’t owe a stranger any explanation, and you don’t want to get involved in a public conversation about your private life,” says Swann. If you see them after you’re done having sex, good etiquette in this situation actually means acting like you’re having a great session. “You don’t want them to think you were being assaulted in any way,” says Swann. When it comes to continuing your relationship, turn it into a fun and crazy experience. "Più puoi prenderlo alla leggera e prenderlo in giro, meglio è", dice Greer. "Renditi conto che sarà una grande storia da raccontare in seguito."

Imagine your stereotypical parent-teen conversation about sex. A few things come to mind, right? You can turn on images of parents saying their children should wait until they get married to have sex or at least use condoms, or if the parent is particularly modern, they can offer to come to their daughter’s maternity appointment and have in-depth conversations about consent with their teens. Myśl dalej, a z pewnością możesz sobie wyobrazić rozmowy o upewnianiu się, że nastolatek zamyka drzwi, kiedy uprawia (samo)seks.

What do all these things have to do with each other? That’s right, the point is, the parent and the teen are talking about it teenagers sex life. It is certainly quite embarrassing. Un sondaggio Planned Parenthood mostra che la metà di tutti gli teenagers e quasi il 20% dei genitori si sente davvero a disagio ad avere questo tipo di conversazioni.

"How

What if you’re a teen who’s knowledge of your parent’s, or parents’, sex life goes far beyond "hey, I’m around so they must have done it?", though? What if your parents or one of them are so loud during their normal, healthy sex life that you can hear everything? What if you ran into your parents having sex? Or even – what if your parents are really careless about nudity and you feel uncomfortable?

Let’s go back to the previous scenarios. If your mom or dad heard you were having sex, or thought you were having sex, or just vaguely suspected you might be having sex, it would be embarrassing, but they would probably tell you about it. Normal? Although sex is natural, normal and surprising, modern societies have also evolved to be considered private. Your parents have different ideas about sex that you should or shouldn’t have, but no matter what your moral or religious inclinations are, they won’t want to see it up close.

As a teenager, you should have the same right to avoid seeing your parents’ sex life up close. Se lasciano la porta aperta quando pensano che tu stia dormendo o entrano in cucina quando pensano che potresti non essere a casa per qualche ora, o la tua casa ha pareti estremamente sottili o i tuoi genitori sono solo molto rumorosi… avvicinati a loro . "Hey, I don’t want to see or hear that again, please tone it down!", might work. The letter might work. Turning the music up loud when you hear it can work. It all depends on the culture of your family, but in any case you can try to express your discomfort!

Now for the taboo topic

SomeStable health readers reported that they were thrilled to hear their parents having sex. As a teenager, it is entirely possible that any encounter with sex is interesting to you and that you have physical and mental reactions to it. You are almost certainly aroused by the thought of having sex alone, rather than the thought of your parents. There’s nothing wrong with you, but you should probably still ask them to tone down and find other outlets for your developing sexuality.

Per gli teenagers, l’idea che i genitori facciano sesso può essere molto sconvolgente.

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This is a very embarrassing topic for me, but I really have to forget it. Let me tell you first that I am a 17 year old girl and I have a 12 year old brother and a 14 year old sister. We each have our own rooms, but mine is (guess what) right next to my parents’ bedroom. Well, I overheard my parents having sex last weekend. This is the second time I’ve heard them and I can’t stand it. I don’t want to hear it, and I don’t want to think about it or even imagine it. The idea that my parents are having sex really bothers me.

I don’t know how to approach my parents on this. I’m not even sure if I should talk to them about it. In the past, my parents have tried to talk to me about sex, but I’m very uncomfortable discussing sexual topics with them. I learned about sex in health classes at school, books and friends. By the way, I’m not sexually active yet. I’m curious, but I’m not ready yet.

Please help me figure out what to do.

I’m so glad you got me. Tu e molti altri teenagers avete portato questo problema alla mia attenzione nel corso degli anni. First of all, let me tell you, you obviously don’t want to hear your parents having sex. I think no one of any age wants to hear their parents have sex. Nor is anyone particularly comfortable with this thinking or visualization.

On the other hand, your parents have a right to have sex and they hope that their sexual intimacy is part of a good and healthy relationship. It is a shame that your room is so close to their room and that you are within reach of their most intimate moments.

So we are dealing with two things. A teenager feels uncomfortable listening to the intimacy of her parents and two neighborhood parents who appear to be in a lively relationship. La domanda è come rendere tutti felici e a proprio agio. I think besides playing music in your room or covering your ears, you should really find a way to talk to your parents. I’m sure they are unaware that they are being overheard.

You said you feel uncomfortable talking about sex with your parents. Now is the perfect opportunity to work on this discomfort and open a dialogue on sexuality. I suggest that you talk to both parents, or the one you feel most comfortable with, about your discomfort with their private activities. As you present it, take a deep breath. I know how uncomfortable this topic can be. Your parents may surprise you by being very sensitive to your discomfort. Also, I’m sure they will then come up with a plan to muffle the sounds in their room.

I hope something good comes out of this situation. Maybe sexuality won’t be such a difficult topic for you after you break the ice with this conversation. I really want to hear how this conversation is going and how your parents are reacting. I’m sure your parents will find a solution. E dopo questa discussione, forse tu e i tuoi genitori potete avviare un dialogo su altri argomenti difficili.

How harmful is it for children to watch their parents’ sexual activity?

I asked this question here Somestrategies for maintaining adult relationships separately from children? Which had to be broken down into two questions.

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I think it depends more on the attitudes of the parents, the disposition and the age of the child than on actually being a witness (and perhaps on how they were looking at perverse things). I haven’t found any online research article on the subject or anything like that (how would you even do a search like this?), But I found this article that’s more detailed than me here.

My parents have always been very open to me, so when on my 20th birthday a friend and I accidentally bumped into two adults in action at the local swimming pool marina where I was about to have a party. Mom knew just from looking at me that I’d seen something and simply said, "You’ve just seen a matched pair haven’t you?" She didn’t even blink, just very concrete, almost as if every child had finally caught a moment like this. Dad went and warned the couple (who were just the other side of the trees from where the picnic tables were) that there was about to be twenty some odd pre-teen girls arriving so they might enjoy another location more while mom simply followed up her first statement with, "any questions?" I think she called the other girl’s mom at the party to let my friend’s mom know what we saw, but I don’t remember her making a big scandal.

When my sister and I came across some old nude photos dad had with mom (which I have to admit, it’s not the same as watching them red-handed), I laughed at the case. My sister (three years younger and much more restless by nature) was absolutely disgusting, but neither of us survived the trauma and now it’s kind of a family joke.

On the other hand, my husband’s family rarely talked about sex. So, when my youngest sister-in-law walked into her parent’s house at the age of 20 and heard "noises" she dropped her bags, turned and ran from the house and spent the night at a friend’s. She’s still so scared of this whole thing that if her siblings mention it, she turns cherry red and almost holds on hard for the rest of the time we’re together, even though she didn’t actually see anything, and she it already was. she herself sexually active. Apparently my mother-in-law didn’t understand why this daughter’s purses came in front of her own daughter (yes, right).

Here’s what I’m suggesting:

  • If you fall, and it’s a child old enough to know what’s going on, that child is likely to go away (as in your case). Don’t follow him down the hall. Instead, put your clothes back on, calm down and take a deep breath. Then, walk down the hall and just say, "Hey, I know you just came in and saw what we were doing. I’m sorry you saw such a private moment, but if you would like to talk about it we can." Then you open the door, but don’t push anything. With younger kids that stay and have questions for you, I’d say, "we were having a private moment (insert child’s name) I’d like a minute or so and then I’ll come in and we can talk more about what you just saw" That way you are buying yourself a minute or two to regain composure, come down off the oxytocin high and be ready to anser questions at a develpmentally appropriate level.
  • Say it as it is – don’t lie. Even a primary school child can understand this. "Mommy and Daddy were having sex. This is something grown-ups do when they are married (or whatever limit you want to put on it – after they are – insert age here – or when they are ready for kids. . . ) However, it is something adults like to keep to themselves like going potty or having a shower so I am sorry we didn’t have the door locked." It is important that the child does not feel that he has done something wrong. "Do you have any questions about what you saw?"
  • Try not to be embarrassed by this. Sex is a natural act, and you want your kids not to feel bad when the time is right to commit – after all – so treating it as normal and natural is healthy for everyone.

Babies will be disgusted (at least a little) because it’s only natural that you want to think of your parents as asexual beings who are the only people who actually get a delivery (or supplies) from a stork. I just don’t think it has to be traumatic, unless you treat it like it is.

This question is about how to go about having the post – "whoops" moment talk with a teen.

Your baby just ran into you. Here’s how to survive this awkward scenario with minimal emotional scarring.

Rebecca Eckler, February 13, 2019

"How

The chills still run down my spine as I think about the night 31 years ago when I heard my parents do it. I was nine years old. I’ve never seen anything, but the sound of their moans is still with me today.

Last year my eight year old son caught my gf doing it. She just walked into the room early one evening earlier its bedtime. My fiancé ran into the bathroom, yelling, ‘I’m just taking a shower!” come mia figlia ha chiesto: "Cosa stai facendo?" I answered with the first thing that came to mind. "Abbiamo fatto scorta!"

The answer seemed to saturate her. (But not me – I was humiliated). How did we deal with it? I took her to her bedroom and we read her story. We never mentioned the accident again.

Somekids this age are mature enough to know that they shouldn’t barge into a bedroom without knocking. Eve Vawter, a mother of four kids, says, “My children have all knocked on my door when we’re having sex and we’ve replied with the same excuse so many times that it’s now our code name for sexy adult time.” The euphemism of her? “We’re busy doing taxes.” If and when her children figure out that grown-ups don’t need to file taxes multiple times during the week, she says she is “totally screwed.”

Jane Guild’s* two kids were six and eight when they caught her and her husband doing the deed. Her husband’s panicked response? "Mamma ed io stiamo giocando a cavallo!"

"È divertente", dice Guild, "i bambini sono saltati sul letto su di noi – volevano giocare anche loro!" She doesn’t think her children realized what was really going on, not yet having had the talking about birds and bees in detail. To prevent the accident from happening again, her husband had recently locked the bedroom door.

Why don’t more parents, including me, put locks on bedroom doors? It’s most likely because we want our children to have access to us. Hanna McDonough, a psychotherapist who deals with family and couple issues, says she doesn’t understand why parents don’t ensure their own privacy. “It’s too late once the kids walk in. Adults should have it proper management of your sex lifeand that includes closing the doors. ‘

After too many interruptions, Sarah Lawrence * and her husband, who has four children, took her awaya different approach to sex when the children are at home – true. “We say it jokingly: mom and dad need time for themselves. Mostly they are like, ‘Eww.’ But they don’t come in and don’t bother us.”

So what will you do if it happens to you? Don’t pretend to be clueless or act like it never happened. As embarrassing as it may be, you should talk about it. McDonough firmly believes in the truth: no one should be ashamed of sex. “Parents carry around the thought that they shouldn’t be doing this. If you just disappear and say nothing, then sex becomes a secret, and children don’t like secrets.”

Anna Toth, a marriage and family therapist, says children don’t necessarily experience the trauma of seeing their parents having sex. “They may be shocked, or they might even think you’re fighting. I bambini possono arrivare a tutti i tipi di conclusioni". There could be many different ways to explain it, depending on your child’s level of knowledge. "La maggior parte dei bambini di questa età ha un’idea del sesso", dice Toth. Prova a dire qualcosa del tipo: "Ecco perché la porta è chiusa. In this way we show that we love each other as adults, in adult relationships “.

* Names have been changed.

Una versione di questo articolo è apparsa nel nostro numero di febbraio 2013 con il titolo "Caught in the act", pagina 48.

Many parents have trouble accepting family nudity. Don’t worry, experts say yes, but parents still need to consider important points.

Many parents can relate to struggling with the nuances of family nudity, especially when it comes to babies who see mom or dad polished. Pojawia się tak wiele pytań: czy to w porządku, dopóki wydaje się, że jest mu wygodno? What if he starts making scared faces? Should a child ever see a naked parent of the opposite sex?

"There’s nothing inherently wrong with being nude with members of your family," says Paul Abramson, a professor at UCLA focusing on human sexuality. Studies are limited, but one study found that exposure to parental nudity had no harmful effects on children between the ages of 3 and 6.

But it can still be a difficult subject for any parent, especially as their children begin to age. Experts explain how to approach the subject of nudity with children and when it might be time to start dealing.

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Set boundaries around nudity

It is up to the parent to choose nudity in the home. But experts say it’s important to set some ground rules. Explain to your child that the way he thinks about optional clothing affects only your home and that other families may have different policies, says Amy Lang, a sexual health educator in Seattle, Washington. And she points out that being naked is just something you do in the company of your family and that she needs to get dressed when other people are around because guests may not feel comfortable, Lang adds.

Not everyone in your family will feel comfortable even being naked. Aaron Pross, il padre di tre ragazze del Delaware, ha notato che ha iniziato a coprirsi di più e a lasciare la stanza per cambiare quando il suo primogenito si avvicinava all’età di 4 anni. " on mówi. “I just don’t want to be seen naked.” And that’s perfectly fine, too.

“If you’re comfortable being naked in front of your kids, be naked. Se non lo è, non indossare vestiti ", spiega Lang. "Finché il messaggio è che si tratta di privacy, non vergogna, imbarazzo o qualcosa di negativo".

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Be open to answering questions

As children approach the age of 3, they begin to take an interest in their body, appearance and functioning. This includes the toes, belly, and nose, but also parts of the body that are usually covered in underwear or a bathing suit. When kids see a naked body, whether intentionally or by accident, it’s natural for them to have questions.

Californian mom Martha Shaughnessy found that her boys, ages 4 and 6, became more curious with age. Questions range from why some bodies have hair to why mommy doesn’t have a penis. “We feel it’s a good way to demystify and explain bodies as the questions occur versus having to do a more formal introduction later,” says Shaughnessy.

Staying calm and answering any questions with a hands-on approach is a positive attitude, says Lang. "If you can communicate to them that you are totally down with whatever questions they have, they’re going to be more likely to come to you when they have a problem with their body, ”she adds.

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This was the case with our mother in West Virginia, Amanda Uch. Her 7-year-old daughter, who knows the correct terminology for female genitalia, had no problem complaining of vaginal irritation. "L’ho presa in braccio, l’ho gettata nella vasca da bagno e le ho spiegato che doveva lavarsi perché la sua carta igienica era bloccata", dice.

And truth is, despite a parent’s best intentions, children will be exposed to the sexualized, photoshopped, and airbrushed images of nude or semi-nude adults prevalent in advertisements and on magazine covers. That’s why having conversations sooner than later is a good idea. “We have to start teaching kids at a young age that we are imperfect by nature, and our bodies go through changes and transitions,” says Aviva Braun, L. C. S. W., a New York-based social worker specializing in body image and eating problems.

But try and keep responses age-appropriate and don’t go into more detail than necessary at that moment. “It doesn’t have to be a huge discussion,” says Braun. Be clear, offer a simple answer, and focus on the task at hand.

Pay attention to your child’s feelings

Regardless of your viewpoint, be aware that your child’s attitudes toward family nudity may also change as he gets older. "La lezione generale per la maggior parte dei genitori è che un bambino è spesso un’ottima guida", ha affermato il dottor Alan Kazdin, direttore dello Yale Parenting Center di New Haven, nel Connecticut.

Your baby may start shutting his bedroom door when changing, or turning away from you while getting dressed. He may be running back after accidentally stepping on you naked and may even ask you not to wear any clothes.

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It’s also a good idea to check in with your child periodically to make sure he’s still OK with your family’s approach to nudity. Especially as he nears puberty, usually around age 10. “It’s a very vulnerable time when kids’ bodies are starting to change,” explains Braun. "Potrebbero voler coprirsi a questa età e non essere troppo aperti".

And if that’s the case, parents should make it a point to listen. "È fondamentale rispettare i desideri di occultamento di tuo figlio o ciò di cui ha bisogno per la sua privacy", afferma Lang. "Vuoi che sappiano che un adulto sicuro rispetta i confini di un bambino."

Le relazioni genitore-figlio cambiano quando raggiungi l’età adulta e i tuoi ruoli possono cambiare. What if your parents get more difficult or seem irrational with age? How can you be patient and respectful while still having peace of mind?

Draw clear boundaries

Corrine Ptacek of Roselle, Illinois lives about 40 minutes from her parents. Her father has Alzheimer’s disease and gets care through the VA. But dealing with a difficult mother worsens the situation for Bird, the eldest of three adult daughters.

“I’ve turned over my role as heath care designate for my dad to my sister,” she says, adding that her mother won’t support care decisions or share paperwork. “[My mother] would like us to attend doctors’ appointments but doesn’t work with our schedules and doesn’t work with us in helping her with daily tasks.” All three sisters work full-time in demanding jobs and have families of their own.

When her mother fell, she refused in-home physical therapy and insisted that Ptacek’s father, who already had dementia, drive her to appointments. You have caused a lot of fears and worries – says Płacek.

"I genitori possono farti richieste che non vuoi o non puoi soddisfare", ha affermato il dottor Steven Zarit, professore e capo del dipartimento di sviluppo umano e studi sulla famiglia presso la Penn State University di University Park, Pennsylvania. “It can be about how much you visit them or help them in their daily activities, or living with you. E come probabilmente già saprai, un genitore esigente non diventerà meno esigente solo perché hai rinunciato a qualcosa".

Zarit suggests taking a calm moment to think about what you can and can’t handle. "Fai una lista e sii molto specifico", dice. “You can discuss the list with your spouse or siblings. Make the list your advice. Fai quello che vuoi fare e delinea le cose che non farai."

Also, resist the urge to argue. "Non devi dare una ragione o cercare di vincere una discussione", dice Zarit. "Basta attenersi alla decisione di non dare questo aiuto e terminare la conversazione".

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If you’d tried this approach but still feel distress, or if your parent balks at the boundaries, it’s time to bring in a pro. Zarit suggests finding a psychologist, social worker, or other geriatric mental health specialist with experience in this field.

“They might be hard to find, but they’re worth the search. Saranno in grado di valutare la situazione e aiutare a pianificare le azioni, compresa la definizione dei confini".

Know what you can’t control

“I think one of the biggest challenges for caregivers and situations is identifying what you can and can’t control,” says Christina Irving, a licensed clinical social worker. “Even when there is dementia, we can’t force people to do certain things we want them to do.”

For example, you may want your parents to eat better, use a walking stick, or have home care. But they say no. “At the end of the day, they still have the right to make their choices, even if we don’t like their choices,” says Irving, who is client services director at the Family Caregiver Alliance at the National Center on Caregiving in San Francisco.

“That’s what’s difficult: being the adult when your parents need [help], and not reverting to the child role,” Ptacek says. Another big issue is her mother’s expectations of her care. "Mia madre si prendeva cura di mia madre e [mia nonna] viveva con noi", dice. “Mom is thinking we ‘owe’ her the same attentiveness she provided her mother. That’s not happening with any of us.”

Anxiety and fear about what’s going to happen, as well as guilt, can come into play too, Irving says. Individual counseling can be crucial for family caregivers. “You’re dealing with your whole history. Sometimes it’s good, and sometimes it’s not so good.” No matter your very best efforts, it’s important to understand you can’t control everything.

Trova il "perché" nella disputa

It’s worth thinking about why your parents might be arguing with you, Zarit says. “One thing is one’s anger and fear of needing help. Nobody likes to feel addicted. … Also remember that you are their child. Potrebbero non voler ricevere consigli da te, non importa quanto ti possa sembrare razionale".

Instead of getting carried away, wait a bit to resolve the conflict. Zarit recommends mindfulness training to help reduce stress and stay calm. Rooted in Buddhism, but not just religion-based, the practice teaches how to stay in the present and focus on the breath. A geriatric mental health professional can also help you find other ways to stay calm.

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Get help

Every state in the U. S. has funding through the National Family Care Support system that you can tap into, Irving says. They can help you find local resources that can help you.

Inoltre, anche se non sei una persona del "gruppo di supporto", possono aiutarti a saperne di più su alcune malattie, come l’Alzheimer e il Parkinson.

"Un’altra cosa che un professionista della salute mentale può fare è aiutare a capire alcune delle cause del comportamento dei tuoi genitori", afferma Zarit. “The first thought of many people is that difficult behavior is caused by dementia, but it can also be the result of mental health problems or their anxiety and depression due to the difficulties they face in coping with everyday life. Knowing the probable cause can lead to treatments that help.

Sources

Corrine Ptacek, Roselle, IL.

Dr. Steven Zarit, distinguished professor emeritus of human development and family studies, Penn State University, University Park, Pennsylvania.

Christina Irving, licensed clinical social worker; customer service director, Family Caregiver Alliance, National Center on Caregiving, San Francisco.