By Lucille Sorella 653 Comments
Every now and then, I hear somebody ask…
“Am I too old to crossdress?” or “Am I too old to transition as a woman?”
The simple answer to this question is NO.
Whether you are 33 or 73 – and whether you aim to express yourself through crossdressing, or live as a woman full time – it’s NEVER too late to be your true femme self.
Life is short and you deserve to make the most of your precious time on earth.
Does this mean you should act on every frivolous whim that crosses your mind? Of course not. And obviously, life-changing moves like hormones or surgery need to be given serious thought.
But I believe the true desires or your heart are meant to be expressed – no matter how long they’ve been buried.
In fact, embracing your feminine side can give you a whole new lease on life. I see it all the time: People seem to grow years younger when they make the decision to be themselves fully.
Having the courage to express your true self also inspires others to do the same. The world needs more of this!
In the words of Laverne Cox, “It is revolutionary for any trans person to choose to be seen and visible in a world that tells us we should not exist.”
I’ll say it again: You are NEVER too old to be your true femme self.
So go for it, girlfriend: Buy the shoes, schedule the makeover, contact the gender therapist – or do whatever it is that you’ve been holding back on.
You deserve it. And it’s not too late.
Do you agree that age is just a number?
Now I’d love to hear from YOU on this topic …
How old were you when you decided to embrace your fab femme self? (Or are you still waiting?)
Let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
P.S. Want to feel more confident about expressing yourself as a woman – at any age? Hypnosis and guided meditation can help. Click here to try my FREE “Unleash Your Inner Woman” feminization hypnosis MP3!
you are never to old to enjoy life
Lucille and I completely agree with you!
I am 74 and no its never to late to be yourself
Ambermaria martinez says
Omg girlfriend you look like your 34: your gorgeous hope when I get to be 74 I can look as good as you I’m now in my fiftes and time has finally kicked my butt and said it’s time to let her out how she is finally ready yeah
I am coming up to my 77 birthday so no its not to late and soon I will start hormone treatment.
Elbert S.Harris,Jr. says
Dear Adele, I sent you a reply and included a telephone ☎️ number for you call, YOU DID’T. IF you going to ask for replies, you could at LEAST ANSWER THE ONES SENT YOU.
Elbert S.Harris,Jr. says
What I am looking for is between 55-70,femine , work in progress.Beauty is not an issue with honestly, assurance of WHAT SELF WANTS IS.Don’t have times for games…IF YOU SAY SEND COMMENTS AT least answer.
I am 73yo .. dressing in my favorite LBD or skirt & blouse, I look years younger dressed
I am 73yo .. dressing in my favorite LBD or skirt & blouse, I look years younger dressed
Rick Parshall says
At 54 I have been at it for as long as I can remember.. earliest was as a youngster with a neighbor girl playing dress up, by high school I took some of my friends sisters panties and wore them to school under my jeans which often were ladies jeans.. I never really got caught,stopped for some years until I met my now wife of 26yrs.. as a young couple before 4kids we attended a Halloween costume party as lesbian hookers, I had my legs shaved and padded a sexy bra and wore fishnet stockings and a little black dress with high heel boots, later at the party the host and hostess asked us something thinking we were both women and I answered that I was dressed as a girlThey were quite supprised and said we would have gotten first prize if I had spoken manly before that.. I kind of hid it for a while and after the kids were born and the youngest was 16 we went trick or treating in town I was dressed as Lita Ford, it was fun and people didn’t seem to be too alarmed or have any problem with it.. for several years I hid it from wife (at least the frequency and desire) but had been caught by her with eyeliner on and I just said it was part of the rest of the girly stuff.. when I bought a new wig she knew I got it and didn’t question it much. I now don’t hide all my skirts,dresses,pantyhose, corsets,heel boots and shoes,and have always been wearing ladies panties and jeans and some girly t-shirts occasionally but still don’t present to her my girly dressed up side.. I have before BLOVID been in public many times when her and kids were out of town including getting groceries and at Walmart trying on dresses etc.. even have gone as a man and tried on and bought women’s clothes and accessories, which was great fun with some of the people who noticed.. the community shop lady definitely knows and was used to me in both forms she is great! I dream of a day when I can feel confident enough to do it around wife but she likes her man and so do I (kinda hard to split wood etc with a skirt on and yes I have done it!! ) the neighbors have seen me in every outfit and wig doing stuff in garden and even working on roof and I had kinda hoped it would get brought up but kinda glad it hasn’t. Wife knows I am only attracted to women and actually kinda homophobic … I don’t want to transition or include any male into any fun we have but love the female body and mind and have fantasized of a “threesome”more than once but don’t think it would be fair unless she suggested it.. at this time in life it has been quite a long time since we made love and I really miss the sex but so far have been faithful.. I have bought clothes on forums and met the gals to get them and really enjoy the chance to talk to females about it and like how they usually comment how much I look like a girl.. I am glad to have found places like this to actually share and hopefully talk to people about it! The wife and daughters have fun saying how cute a dress is or a pair of boots or leggings or bra is and they giggle when I say I would totally wear those… lol thanks everyone for listening .
By: Melissa King
05 December, 2018
When you discover your son wearing female clothing, including skirts, tights, heels and even panties, it can be a shocking experience.
You worry that if your son is a cross-dresser, he has a mental problem or sexual perversion.
Cross-dressing begins when most boys are young, and despite how strange it may seem, it’s a completely normal behavior.
It’s very difficult to stop someone’s enjoyment of cross-dressing if he’s been doing it for any length of time. You can, however, help your son by giving him the support he needs from his parents.
Realize that cross-dressing does not make your son perverted, mentally ill or homosexual. Cross-dressing may be somewhat sexually exciting to teen boys, but this is not abnormal.
Consider your son’s age before responding to his cross-dressing. Before about six years of age, children think their gender can be changed, so they may dress to reflect that. Young children might also just enjoy playing as or pretending to be the opposite sex. The behavior tends to go away on its own.
Watch for signs that may prompt your son to cross-dress while he’s still in elementary school. For example, if your young son says he wishes he were the other gender or hates being a boy, he might begin cross-dressing. Boys who always want to play with toys considered to be girl’s or who typically draw pictures of the opposite sex may also be interested in cross-dressing. If you notice these signs, consider having a talk with your son about his feelings.
Ensure that your son has a male role model, such as his father or grandfather, as well as male friends, so he learns what it’s like to be a boy. Don’t discourage his interaction with females, however.
Refrain from calling your son names or punishing him for cross-dressing. This will only drive him away and cause him to be more secretive about his behavior.
Suggest that your son only cross-dress in private, especially if other kids are making fun of him at school.
Ask your son to purchase his own clothing for cross-dressing instead of using the clothes of other female household members. If your son is young, provide him with dress-up clothes from both genders to encourage him to explore and use his imagination.
Assure your son that you love him regardless of his cross-dressing. Tell him that you’d like to talk to him about it so you can understand him better.
Schedule an appointment with your family physician or a therapist if your son’s cross-dressing is causing him serious distress or unhappiness.
If your son doesn’t want to stop cross-dressing, you’ll need to accept his choice. Your son needs plenty of love and support regardless of his behavior.
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Most cross dressers can’t control the urge to cross dress. They feel they need to dress up as the opposite sex. Often trying to control the urges only makes them worse. However there are some ways to fight the urge to cross dress.
Realize that the urge to cross dress only gets worse if suppressed. The scientific view is that urges to cross dress are caused by boys’ suppression of feminine traits in the early years. Many scientists believe that this suppression leads to an explosion of sorts, causing the feminine side to overpower the masculine side of a cross dresser. But coping with the urge to cross dress doesn’t have to mean suppressing it altogether.
Understand that cross dressing isn’t always appropriate. While the lifestyle is nothing to be ashamed of, chances are your daughter doesn’t want her father coming to her wedding dressed as her mother. Think about where you’re going and decide if it’s appropriate to cross dress.
Wear women’s underwear underneath your men’s clothes. This way, you can appease your urge to cross dress without being in full drag.
Accessorize with a fancy wallet or nice cuff links. Cross dressing is usually about wanting to wear pretty things, so wear pretty manly items instead of a dress. A new pair of shoes usually makes any cross dresser happy.
Talk to a counselor about your urges if you can’t control them on your own. You can also ask friends who cross dress how they deal with their urges.
People who hide habits or parts of their personality from their partner often do so out of a fear of being judged or losing love. Sometimes, if they own up, they do risk ruining their relationships, however being real about who we are can also force us to face the fallacies of our own assumptions.
Take, for instance, the call I received some months ago from a woman who lives in a large country town. Her husband is a shift worker and one afternoon she arrived home unexpectedly to discover him dressed in women’s clothes, wearing a wig and make-up. She was devastated because they have been married for several years and she was totally unaware of his habit.
The woman found her husband wearing makeup.(Image via Getty.)
When she confronted him he told her that he was too scared to tell her for fear of rejection and he thought he might just hide it from her. She could not cope and called me in total despair. I was able to explain to her what cross dressing is about.
Cross dressers are usually heterosexual men who like to dress up in women’s clothes. They discover their need to cross-dress during childhood starting out by dressing up in their sisters or their mother’s clothes. They soon find out that it is not accepted and are told to stop it. They feel ashamed, become secretive and try to suppress their feelings and their desire to crossdress.
Later in life the issue can cause a lot of distress because often they are not sure how to cope. A lot of questions and worries persist and for each person it is a different story.
There are also many misconceptions about men who cross dress:
1) They have to be gay – they usually are not!
2) They don’t like women – they do, most men are married
3) They do it for sexual gratification – Although cross-dressing is a sexual fetish for some, the vast majority of men do not experience any arousal as a result of cross-dressing, for some it is the exploration of feminine self-expression.
4) They always wear women’s clothes – not true, most may only dress up occasionally – some men sometimes wear women’s underwear under their clothes.
5) They can be cured – there is no cure as it is not an illness but a “state of being”.
6) Cross-dressing should not be mixed up with being transsexual or transgender.
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Some men find that cross-dressing makes them feel relaxed and helps them with stress. For both the cross dresser and his family it is not an easy thing to deal with and it is very common to experience a sense of despair to face the reality of the situation.
Crossdressers often like to wear low-cut dresses and want to show a little or a lot of cleavage. There are several ways to create cleavage. A company on the web sells a special bra-like item that will create cleavage. Another way is to use tape pulled across the chest. For many, this has been expensive and/or painful. I have used the tape method in the past. I have found it to be uncomfortable, and marks are left on the chest after removal.
A third way is described below and can be made by cutting out a piece of plastic cut from a wastebasket, the top of a storage bin, or any item of flexible plastic of appropriate size. В I used a tin snip to cut out and then sanded edges smooth. A good scissors would probably work. For lack of a better term we will call this plastic a Cleavage Enhancer.
I have experimented with sizes and shapes and have found the two following to be most beneficial. The size of the green one is 9″w X 5″h X 1/16″ and the blue one is 11″w X 5″h X 1/16″.
A slightly snug bra and breast forms (water balloons or anything with some mass could also work read breastforms) help to keep the plastic in place, but with movement and moisture the skin will eventually let the plastic move and the cleavage will disappear. A few pieces of Transpore tape will help keep it in place. But be careful not to place the tape where it will adhere to the breast form.
An even more secure method is to use a multi-purpose craft adhesive spray. I have found that spraying this adhesive on the inside of the Cleavage Enhancer keeps it in place. Spray a light coat and be sure to let the craft glue dry for 10 to 15 minutes before using.
Insert the Cleavage Enhancer between the breast forms and the chest. Give the skin a little tug toward the center of your chest and up as each side is slipped into place. The coating should lightly stick to the skin and the pressure from the form and the bra will hold the skin in place. This coating will last for several wearings. To finish the illusion, use some dark and/or light powder to contour the breast.
One of my sisters uses an almost identical item, except she has covered her plastic with adhesive tape and coated the inside with rubber cement to make it slightly tacky. Let it dry to become tacky.
Using this insert is inexpensive and much more comfortable than tape.
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I wanted to write to thank you for your excellent and informative page. I especially found the crating cleavage page helpful; as I was having difficulty with the tape. I made a simple plastic piece and it works great; instead of using glues or adhesives; i bought a small simple luggage strap to hold the plastic in place below my breast forms.
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Male feminization is a term that refers to the process of a male becoming feminized through changing their physical image.
In this article Marcy discusses some male feminization steps that can be used to create a more convincing feminine image when it comes to crossdressing!
This can mean wearing women’s clothing, putting on makeup, using mannerisms that are more on the feminine side and in some cases, taking female hormones to make some physical changes.
This is voluntary feminization, not to be confused with forced feminization such as in a BDSM situation which is totally different.
For a transgendered person or a crossdresser, it is not an easy thing to be accepted as a woman. It does not matter that you feel like a woman on the inside; on the outside you are still 100% male!
This is where feminization techniques come into play. In order to feminize yourself, you have to change the outside as the inside is already there.
There are many ways that a crossdresser can go about feminization. As mentioned above, clothing is a popular first step. Many men begin with female undergarments and lingerie for the most part. For one thing, they are soft and comfortable and for many really arousing. For another thing, they are perfect for the man who is not yet ready to come out to the world as a transgendered person or crossdresser. They can feel more feminine without outwardly showing it and this can be an ongoing evolution as the person becomes more comfortable with outward feminization.
Aside from dressing up, many crossdressers begin to experiment with makeup. The novice uses regular female makeup products before figuring out that this simply will not do. Some of my male friends who are feminized have shared this information with me. The male face has a totally different bone structure than a woman’s. Because of this, the makeup that should be used for optimal effect is specialized, such as stage makeup. This type of makeup makes the lines and contours of the face smoother and less masculine. Finding the right color blends is the key. Practice makes perfect and for many it will take many attempts to fully master the basic art of applying makeup. I plan to add some videos in the future dealing with properly applying makeup to create a more feminine appearance.
Learning feminine mannerisms can be a snap or a challenge depending on the person. Some men naturally have them while others have to work at it. It is all about practice which is something else I learned from the transgender community. Many men practice in private before trying it out while they are out in public dressed. For those who have trouble with this aspect of male feminization, there are many videos online that can be very helpful.
Finally, hormones can be used for feminization. This is a bit more of a drastic step but one that really sells the outer shell as female. Taking hormones known as estrogen’s, can stop or in some cases reduce hair growth, change the shape of the body in some areas. This is usually a last step after one is comfortable with going out in public as a woman and the step below having gender reassignment surgery.
There are also many herbal products that will help a crossdressers develop breasts and a more girly body. I will be writing an article soon that will reveal some very powerful herbals I have personally tested to enhance my breasts and add fat to my lower body. Let me know by emailing me if this is an area you would want top learn more about and I will push it to the front of the queue.
Finally, many transgenders and crossdressers give themselves a female name to use when they are dressed. From what I understand, this really puts us in a place to feel like we are really women both inside and out. There are many ways that male feminization can occur. The choices that are made are very personal and for every individual.
One program I have personally used to develop my and enhance my feminine counterpart is Stepping Out Secrets. This program contains many instructional videos and tutorials on how to walk, talk, dress and develop your femme allure. Makeup is also covered in video format and there are also tips on how to pose for the camera if you really want to create sexy and feminine glamor photos. My friend Lucille has done a super job in creating this unique program and I highly recommended it to every crossdresser.
For more details about the program go here.
About the Author:
Hi, I’m Marcy Simpson, the founder and creator of Crossdresser Society. I have been a crossdresser for over 25 years and I am also an author, photographer, entrepreneur, and admirer of the feminine realm. I currently work and live in Los Angeles, California.
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Marcy thanks for everything, I totally agree with you, and very good I would teach us other forms of crossdressing including increasing our breast size or my lower body. Thanks again my friend girl.
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I am 40year male feel women in a man body. What i do? Please tell me.
It were a walk home on a Saturday night, after we had been to the Club, to play Bingo and afterward, listen to a live show there. Gloria’s home, were through the woods, which had a tarmac path.
I began the conversation, by telling her, “After we marry, you can give up working, if I make sufficient money to keep us both.”
Gloria: Why should I give up my job,she snapped, I like my job.
Graham: Well to stay at home to cook and clean, I explaining.
Gloria: Oh I can’t cook and hate housework, her again her tone were not quiet.
Graham: Well I can cook and I have done housework, for my mom.
Silence as we walked that late autumnal evening, among the trees. Then feeling her contemplating, she came out with the answer.
Gloria: I know, if you can cook and like housework, I go out to work and you stay at home, to do these jobs.
Graham: Oh you would like that, you wearing the trousers, I now putting, it that it be me the man, not her.
Gloria now on fire, “YES, and you would look good in a pinafore.”, she laughed and run ahead of me.
Graham: I suppose you would have me wearing knickers as well.
Gloria, stopped suddenly, thought and saying, yes, that be a good idea. We then carried on walking, and dropped the subject.
A few weeks past and we again now walking a lane, but not the path, and we stopped, to kiss. It were now a chilly night, with a full moon.
Graham: Are you not cold ?
Gloria: Cold, no, why do you ask?
Graham: Well you wearing a skirt.
Gloria: Graham, a skirt can be as warm as trousers, if not warmer with some skirts.
Graham: Well I wouldn’t know, as I have never worn a skirt.
Gloria: Well you can wear this one, when we arrive at my home.
Graham: Well that be no trial, just the skirt and indoors, me telling her.
Gloria: Well go up around the garden, no one will see you, as it being dark.
Graham: Yes, but I will have only your skirt on and it still not be the right test.
Gloria: Well I tell you what, you can wear all the clothes that I am wearing now.
Gloria: Yes, everything.
Graham: Even your knickers?
Gloria: Yes, even my knickers.
Graham: Oh Gloria, I am afraid.
Gloria: Afraid of what, her asking?
Graham: What if I like wearing your clothes?
Gloria:Well, you can wear them all the time, you come up to see me. But your mom, be there. What will your mom say about it?
Graham: You best tell her Gloria.
Gloria: No Graham, you will tell my mom.
Graham: Oh gosh, what do I say to her?
Gloria: Tell her, you like wearing women’s clothes.
Graham: What will your mom say?
Gloria: Mom will probably advocate it, and take you to buy some of your own, so you not wear mine anymore.
Graham: Can’t your mom and you go for me?
Gloria: No Graham, it be with my mom, or the three of us go, as you will be needed to be measured.
Graham: measured for what?
Gloria: Well your dress size, your women’s shoe size, your bra size.
Graham: Bra? I’m not wearing a bra Gloria.
Gloria: You will have to, or your bust be flat, and people will notice it.
Graham: People? I will not be going out in public, dressed as a woman.
We’ll see, her now seeming to be enjoying this, and the knowing my feminization will soon begin, in readiness for our marriage and me the stay at home housewife. Little were I aware of it all, but Gloria, and her mom Hilda, were very serious about it all, that it be me wearing the skirt and in the petticoats, after the marriage.
Next time, Graham takes new vows, in Gloria’s wedding bridal gown even wearing the lingerie she wore on our wedding day.
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