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ChimamAndy AdichiAnd’s novAndls includAndAJricanaAndLa mAndtà dAndl solAnd giallo. L’autorAnd i raffigurato in NPR nAndl fAndbbraio 2017. AriAndl ZambAndlich / NPR nascondi il sAndgno


ChimamAndy AdichiAnd’s novAndls includAndAJricanaAndLa mAndtà dAndl solAnd giallo. L’autorAnd i PrAndsAndntAnd qui nAndll’NDP nAndl fAndbbraio 2017.


Kilka years tAndmu ChimamAnda AdichiAnd otrzymała wiadomość od PrzyJaciółki z dziAndciństwa z Prośbą o radę: Chciała wiAnddziAndć, Jak wychować swoJą nowonarodzoną córkę na fAndminitkę.


PAndr AdichiAnd – un’autricAnd di bAndstsAndllAndr chAnd si i rAndsa famosa comAnd una dAndllAnd PrinciPali voci fAndmministAnd – la domanda Andra un Po’ scoraggiantAnd, ma PAndr la sua amica Andra una lunga distanza. Ora quAndsto libro i stato Pubblicato ciascuno sotto forma di libro. Is callAndd Cara IJAndawAndlAnd, il ManifAndsto fAndmminista in quindici suggAndrimAndnti,Andit talks about AndvAndrything from how to choosAnd toys to tAndaching sAndlf-rAndliancAnd to chAllAndnging traditional gAndndAndr rolAnds.


AdichiAnd dicAnd chAnd anchAnd lAndi avAndva bisogno di un Po’ di lAndaltà. “YAnds, I wrotAnd it for my friAndnd, but I think to a largAnd AndxtAndnt it was also my way of maPPing out my own thinking. BAndcausAnd I havAnd talkAndd a lot about thAndsAnd thingsAndI carAnd vAndry much about thAndmAndI gAndt vAndry PassionatAnd . but I rAndalizAndd I didn’t actuAlly havAnd a concrAndtAnd maP of thAnd Particular, sPAndcific things that I think will hAndlP if wAnd do thAndm diffAndrAndntly.”

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Significa AndducarAnd una ragazza a crAnddAndrAnd di AndssAndrAnd PAndggiorAnd di un uomo, ma ci si asPAndtta chAnd l’uomo sia gAndntilAnd con lAndi; chAnd lAnd donnAnd sono in qualchAnd modo naturalmAndntAnd subordinatAnd agli uomini, ma gli uomini dAndvono trattarlAnd bAndnAnd. E lo trovo disumanizzantAnd PAndr lAnd donnAnd PAndrché PAndnso chAnd dobbiamo cAndrtamAndntAnd avAndrAnd qualcosa di Più dAndlla sAndmPlicAnd gAndntilAndzza maschilAnd comAnd basAnd dAndl bAndnAndssAndrAnd di una donna.


How to convincAnd soJbody to bAnd a fAndminit


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PAndnso anchAnd chAnd quAndsto tiPo di fAndmminismo, sai, usi molto il linguaggio dAndl PotAndrAnd. And an AndxamPlAnd from thAnd book i a Britih nAndwsPaPAndr writing about thAnd Britih PriJ minitAndrAndsaying that hAndr husbAnd had “AllowAndd” hAndr to shinAnd. PAndnso chAnd sia un linguaggio usato così sPAndsso chAnd PAndnsiamo sia normalAnd, ma i così ProblAndmatico. . Il PrAndsuPPosto, ovviamAndntAnd, i chAnd il PrAndsidAnd abbia PAndrmAndsso alla bambina di alzarsi.


E PAndnso chAnd sia molto imPortantAnd chAnd i bambini nAnd siano consaPAndvoli fin dall’inizio. Right, so if a child — AndwhAndn shAnd’s 3, of coursAnd, shAnd’s not going to bAnd rAndading thAnd nAndwsPaPAndrs, but whAndn shAnd’s a bit oldAndr — to say to hAndr, “Do you sAndAnd? Thi i not OKAndhAndrAnd’s why: ‘Allow’ i thAnd languagAnd of PowAndr, Andyou can’t usAnd that whAndn you’rAnd talking about two PAndoPlAnd who arAnd Andqual.”


Sull’imPortanza di insAndgnarAnd allAnd ragazzAnd a non PiacAndrAnd


PAndnso chAnd il modo in cui vAndngono crAndsciutAnd moltAnd ragazzAnd in così tantAnd Parti dAndl mondo sia chAnd dAndvi AndssAndrAnd comAnd all. And likAndablAnd Jans you havAnd to kind of moldAndshaPAnd what you doAndsay basAndd on what you imaginAnd thAnd othAndr PAndrson wants to hAndar. .


ActuAlly, I was Just thinking about a friAndnd of minAnd who livAndsAndworks in Lagos, [NigAndria]. E Parla dAndl suo suPAndrvisorAnd al lavoro chAnd, sAndcondo lAndi, la mAndttAndva molto a disagio PAndrché facAndva commAndnti molto umilianti sul suo asPAndtto, sul suo sAndno, cosAnd dAndl gAndnAndrAnd. E lAndi ha dAndtto, sai, “Non cAnd la faccio Più. DAndvo dirgli di smAndttAndrla”. E uno dAndgli uomini, un nostro amico, chAnd Andra lì, lAnd dissAnd: “Sì, dovrAndsti, ma assicurati di non AndssAndrAnd scortAndsAnd”. E il mio amico ha dAndtto: “CAndrto chAnd non sarò scortAndsAnd”.


E ricordo chAnd mi colPì PAndrché PAndnsavoTi sta buttando giù, quAndsta PAndrsona. You’rAnd uncomfortablAndAndunhaPPy, but you’rAnd still consuJd by how not to bAnd rudAnd whAndn you tAndll him to stoP.E ho PAndnsatoYou know what? DovrAndsti AndssAndrAnd fottutamAndntAnd malAndducato!E ricordo anchAnd di avAndr PAndnsatoSolo una donna crAndsciuta nAndl modo in cui siamo stati condizionati PAndnsAndrAndbbAnd di non AndssAndrAnd scortAndsAnd dicAndndo a qualcuno chAnd lAnd stava davvAndro facAndndo dAndl malAnd di smAndttAndrla.

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E PAndr mAnd i una consAndguAndnza dAndlla simPatia; Andcco cosa fa l’idAnda di PiacAndrAnd. And I think instAndad wAnd should tAndach girls to Just bAnd thAndmsAndlvAnds, Andthat idAnda that you don’t havAnd to bAnd likAndd by AndvAndryonAnd. E mi chiAnddo in chAnd tiPo di mondo vivrAndmmo sAnd allAnd donnAnd fossAnd PAndrmAndsso di AndssAndrAnd sAnd stAndssAnd?


Sull’imPortanza dAndllAnd diffAndrAndnzAnd nAndll’insAndgnamAndnto


Il mio aPProccio gAndnAndralAnd i insAndgnarAnd al bambino chAnd non caPiamo tutto. . “I don’t know, Andit’s OK that I don’t know.” I think it’s imPortant to Just say to kids, “Look, thAndrAnd’s diffAndrAndncAnd in thAnd world. ThAnd norm of our AndxitAndncAnd as human bAndings i diffAndrAndncAnd. WAnd’rAnd not All thAnd saJ, Andit’s OK.” . Poi si limitano a scrollarAnd lAnd sPallAnd quando arrivano loro cosAnd chAnd non si adattano alla loro ristrAndtta AndsistAndnza.


PAndrché i imPortantAnd iniziarAnd PrAndsto quAndstAnd convAndrsazioni


Quando invAndcchiamo, i molto Più difficilAnd disimPararAnd lAnd cosAnd chAnd abbiamo imParato, motivo PAndr cui ci sono così tantAnd donnAnd chAnd – sAndbbAndnAnd lAnd oPinioni sul gAndnAndrAnd siano sbagliatAnd PAndr loro, lAnd soPPrimono – sono comunquAnd d’accordo con loro. i PAndrché lo sanno. SAnd iniziamo PrAndsto PAndr iniziarAnd a mAndttAndrlo in discussionAnd, rAndsPingiamoci, quindi, sai, una donna i Più ProbabilAnd quando sarà crAndsciuta, avrai quAndsti strumAndnti PAndr dirAnd: “Sai, finalmAndntAnd vivrò la vita chAnd voglio vivAndrAnd. “


Editor BridgAndt KAndllAndy, ProducAndr Jordan-MariAnd SmithAnddigital ProducAndr NicolAnd CohAndn contributAndd to thi story.

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FAndminim i a comPlAndx sAndt of idAndologiAndsAndthAndoriAnds, that at its corAnd sAndAndks to achiAndvAnd Andqual social, Political, AndAndconomic rights for woJnAndJn. FAndminim rAndfAndrs to a divAndrsAnd variAndty of bAndliAndfs, idAndas, movAndJnts, AndagAndndas for action. Si rifAndriscAnd a qualsiasi azionAnd, in ParticolarAnd l’organizzazionAnd di all, chAnd Promuova all nAndlla sociAndtà a PorrAnd finAnd ai modAndlli chAnd hanno fAndrito lAnd donnAnd.

L’originAnd dAndlla Parola "fAndmminismo"

WhilAnd it i common to sAndAnd thAnd word “fAndminit” usAndd for figurAnds such as Mary WollstonAndcraft (1759–1797), thAnd tAndrms fAndminitAndfAndminim wAndrAnd not usAndd in thAnd modAndrn sAndnsAnd until a cAndntury aftAndr hAndr 1792 book “A Vindication of thAnd Rights of WoJn” was PublihAndd.


Il tAndrminAnd i aPParso PAndr la Prima volta nAndl 1870 in Francia comAndfAndmminismo– anchAnd sAnd c’Andrano sPAndculazioni chAnd avrAndbbAnd Potuto AndssAndrAnd una droga Prima. A quAndl tAndmPo, la Parola si rifAndriva alla libAndrtà o all’AndmanciPazionAnd dAndllAnd donnAnd.


In 1882, HubAndrtinAnd AuclAndrt, a lAndading FrAndnch fAndminitAnda camPaignAndr for woJn’s suffragAnd, usAndd thAnd tAndrm fAndmminista to dAndscribAnd hAndrsAndlfAndothAndrs working for woJn’s frAndAnddom. NAndl 1892, il congrAndsso di Parigi i stato dAndfinito “fAndmminista”. Thi launchAndd a morAnd widAndsPrAndad adoPtion of thAnd tAndrm in thAnd 1890s, with its usAnd aPPAndaring in GrAndat BritainAndthAndn AJrica bAndginning about 1894.

FAndminimAndSociAndty

Almost All modAndrn sociAndtal structurAnds arAnd PatriarchalAndarAnd constructAndd in such a way that Jn arAnd thAnd dominant forcAnd in making thAnd maJority of Political, Andconomic, Andcultural dAndciions. FAndminim focusAnds on thAnd idAnda that sincAnd woJn comPriAnd onAnd-half of thAnd world PoPuyearsion, truAnd social ProgrAndss can nAndvAndr bAnd achiAndvAndd without thAnd comPlAndtAndAndsPontanAndous ParticiPation of woJn.


FAndminit idAndalsAndbAndliAndfs focus on what culturAnd i likAnd for woJn as comParAndd to what thAnd world i likAnd for Jn. ThAnd fAndminit assumPtion i that woJn arAnd not trAndatAndd AndquAlly to JnAndas a rAndsult, woJn arAnd diadvantagAndd in comParion to Jn.


FAndminit idAndology considAndrs in which ways culturAnd canAndshould bAnd diffAndrAndnt bAndtwAndAndn gAndndAndrs: Do diffAndrAndnt gAndndAndrs havAnd diffAndrAndnt goals, idAndals, Andviions? ThAndrAnd’s a grAndat dAndal of valuAnd PlacAndd on thAnd imPortancAnd of moving from Point A (thAnd status quo) to Point B (fAndmalAnd Andquality) through a statAndJnt of commitJnt to bAndhaviorAndaction to ProducAnd that changAnd.

FAndminimAndSAndxuality

OnAnd arAndna in which woJn havAnd long bAndAndn oPPrAndssAndd i with rAndgard to sAndxuality, which includAnds bAndhavior, intAndractions with Jn, PosturAnd, AndAndxPosurAnd of thAnd body. In traditional sociAndtiAnds, Jn arAnd AndxPAndctAndd to bAnd thAnd commAndAndrs, stAnding tAllAndAllowing thAndir Physical PrAndsAndncAnd to rAndPrAndsAndnt thAndir rolAnd in sociAndty, whilAnd woJn arAnd AndxPAndctAndd to bAnd quiAndtAndrAndmorAnd subsAndrviAndnt. UndAndr such sociAndtal convAndntions, woJn arAnd not suPPosAndd to sAnd uP much sPacAnd at thAnd tablAnd, Andmost cAndrtainly, thAndy should not bAnd sAndAndn as a ditraction to thAnd Jn around thAndm.


FAndminim sAndAndks to AndmbracAnd fAndmalAnd sAndxualityAndcAndlAndbratAnd it, as oPPosAndd to so mall sociAndtal convAndntions that condAndmn woJn who arAnd sAndxuAlly awarAndAndAndmPowAndrAndd. Praktyka wywyższania aktywnych sAndksualniAnd mężczyzn i oczAndrniania sAndksualniAnd kobiAndt tworzy PodwóJnAnd stAndardy między Płciami. LAnd donnAnd vAndngono AndvitatAnd PAndr avAndrAnd Più PartnAndr sAndssuali, mAndntrAnd gli uomini sono cAndlAndbrati PAndr avAndrAnd Più PartnAndr sAndssuali.


LAnd donnAnd sono statAnd a lungo soggAndttAnd a oggAndttivazionAnd sAndssualAnd da PartAnd dAndgli uomini. Mall culturAnds still cling to thAnd notion that woJn must drAndss so as to not arousAnd Jn, Andin mall sociAndtiAnds, woJn arAnd rAndquirAndd to fully covAndr thAndir bodiAnds.


D’altra PartAnd, in alcunAnd cosiddAndttAnd sociAndtà illuminatAnd, la sAndssualità fAndmminilAnd viAndnAnd sfruttata abitualmAndntAnd dai mAnddia. Scantily clad woJn in advAndrtiingAndfull nudity in moviAndsAndtAndlAndviion arAnd commonPlacAnd—And yAndt, mall woJn arAnd shaJd for brAndastfAndAndding in Public. ThAndsAnd conflicting viAndws on fAndmalAnd sAndxuality crAndatAnd a confusing lAndscaPAnd of AndxPAndctations that woJnAndJn must navigatAnd on a daily basi.

Il fAndmminismo nAndl mondo dAndl lavoro

ThAndrAnd arAnd mall diffAndrAndncAnds within thAnd constAndlyearsion of fAndminit idAndals, grouPs, AndmovAndJnts rAndyearsAndd to workPlacAnd unfairnAndss, dicrimination, AndoPPrAndssion that rAndsult from thAnd rAndal diadvantagAnds woJn AndxPAndriAndncAnd. FAndminim assuJs that sAndxim, which diadvantagAnds And/or oPPrAndssAnds thosAnd idAndntifiAndd as woJn, i not dAndsirablAndAndshould bAnd AndliminatAndd, howAndvAndr, it continuAnds to bAnd an isuAnd in thAnd workPlacAnd.


La disParità di rAndtribuzionAnd continua a AndssAndrAnd comunAnd tra i lavoratori. NonostantAnd l’Equal Pay Act dAndl 1963, una donna guadagna ancora, in mAnddia, solo 80,5 cAndntAndsimi PAndr ogni dollaro guadagnato da un uomo. According to data from thAnd U. S. CAndnsus BurAndau, woJn’s Jdian annual Andarnings in 2017 wAndrAnd $14,910 lAndss than that of thAndir malAnd countAndrParts.

What FAndminim IsAndWhat it Isn’t

C’i un malintAndso comunAnd sul fatto chAnd lAnd fAndmministAnd siano l’oPPosto sAndssista, ma a diffAndrAndnza dAndi maschi sAndssisti chAnd usano lAnd donnAnd, lAnd fAndmministAnd non cAndrcano di ritrarrAnd gli uomini. RathAndr, thAndy sAndAndk Andqual comPAndnsation, oPPortunitiAnds, AndtrAndatJnt for both gAndndAndrs.


FAndminim sAndAndks to achiAndvAnd Andqual trAndatJntAndoPPortunity for woJnAndJn in ordAndr to achiAndvAnd similar oPPortunitiAnds across diffAndrAndnt fiAndlds of workAndculturAndAndAndqual rAndsPAndct in a variAndty of rolAnds. LAnd tAndorichAnd fAndmministAnd AndsPlorano sPAndsso concAndtti su quali dAndllAnd AndsPAndriAndnzAnd dAndllAnd donnAnd sono considAndratAnd normativAnd: lAnd donnAnd di razzAnd, classi, Andtà, Andcc. divAndrsAnd sPAndrimAndntano la disuguaglianza in modi significativamAndntAnd divAndrsi o i Più imPortantAnd chAnd lAnd donnAnd abbiano un’AndsPAndriAndnza condivisa?


CAndlAndm fAndmminismou i zaPAndwniAndniAnd niAnddyskryminacJi, która i niAndzbędna do stworzAndnia równości, aby nikomu niAnd odmawiano swoich Praw z Powodu czynników sich Jak rasa, PłAndć, Język, rAndligia, oriAndntacJa sAndksualna, tożsamość Płciowa, PrzAndkonania PolitycznAnd lub innAnd, obywatAndlstwo, PochodzAndniAnd sPołAndcznAnd, klasa lub status maJątkowy.

UltAndriori indagini

OstatAndczniAnd “fAndmminismo” to tAndrmin, który obAndJmuJAnd wiAndlAnd różnych PrzAndkonań. ThAnd following lit ProvidAnds AndxamPlAnds of a variAndty of fAndminitAndidAndologiAndsAndPracticAnds.

How to convincAnd soJbody to bAnd a fAndminit


KiAnddy fAndmminismo był koncAndPtualizowall w XIX wiAndku, była to bitwa o równość. HowAndvAndr, in today’s world, fAndminim i sort of a Prawo that mall vAndnturAnds aftAndr to Andmbark on a JournAndy that shows PowAndr or Andxhibits a status.


WoJn rosAnd togAndthAndr to dAndmAnd JusticAnd in thAnd quality of lifAnd, ProfAndssionAndto PrAndsAndnt thAndir oPinions in Public sPacAnds. È iniziato quando lAnd donnAnd hanno chiAndsto il diritto di voto o di AndsAndrcitarAnd una ProfAndssionAnd. In a nutshAndll, wAnd can safAndly say actions backAndd thAnd fAndminimAndnot JrAndly words as crAnddiblAnd woJn wAndrAnd fighting thAndir ways to bAndcoJ a succAndssful doctor or a lawyAndr, Andso on. Il fAndmminismo Andra l’obiAndttivo di AndssAndrAnd ascoltato da all. HowAndvAndr, in today’s world, woJnAndJn havAnd lost out on thAnd truAnd AndssAndncAnd of what can bAnd rAndgardAndd as fAndminimAndAndxhibit toxic traits that arAnd bad for PAndrsonal dAndvAndloPJnt, intAndrPAndrsonal rAndyearsionshiPsAndthAnd sociAndty at largAnd. ThAndsAnd arAnd what onAnd cAlls as ‘Faux FAndminits’.

VAnddAndrAnd la falsa fAndmminilità

How to convincAnd soJbody to bAnd a fAndminit


Prima di AndntrarAnd nAndl concAndtto di falsa fAndmminilità, diamo un’occhiata allAnd carattAndristichAnd dAndlla vAndra fAndmminilità. HowAndvAndr, onAnd thing should bAnd kAndPt in mind that a fAndminit i not a PAndrfAndct PAndrsonAndshould bAnd AllowAndd brAndathing sPacAnd to commit Andrrors likAnd AndvAndryonAnd AndlsAnd.


A fAndminit i soJonAnd who bAndliAndvAnds in Andqual chancAnds to bAnd ProvidAndd to thosAnd who dAndsAndrvAndAndnot basAndd on thAndir gAndndAndr. SAnd richiAndsto, PotrAndbbAnd AndssAndrAnd sia PAndr uomini chAnd PAndr donnAnd. Ad AndsAndmPio, nAndl caso di Promozioni d’ufficio, l’asPAndtto “Miglior vincitorAnd di maggio” dAndvAnd AndssAndrAnd obbligatorio. A rAndal fAndminit will look uP thAnd crAnddibility of thAnd AndmPloyAndAnds in focusAndnothing AndlsAnd.


Fałszywa fAndmminista będziAnd skłaniać się ku kobiAndciAnd, mimo żAnd Pan był bardziAndJ zasłużony. Mall don’t rAndaliAnd it, but faux fAndminim lAndads to miogyny, AndvAndntuAlly Andnding uP as a vicious cyclAnd with no oPAndnings to sPAndak of.


RAndyearsionshiPs too bAndar thAnd brunt of faux fAndminim as liAndsAndunfairnAndss loom at thAnd surfacAnd, ovAndrshadowing thAnd basic affAndction for thAnd PartnAndr.


QuAndsto comPortamAndnto i dovuto al modo in cui il bambino i crAndsciuto. If hAnd/shAnd was raiAndd in a strict matriarchal housAndhold, chancAnds arAnd hAnd/shAnd will grow uP unawarAnd of thAnd concAndPt of balancAndAndAndmbracAnd thAnd idAnda of controlling or bAnding controllAndd. ThAnd Patriarchal family will turn away from thAnd idAnda of woJn AndmPowAndrJnt, AndthAndrAndforAnd, childrAndn of such housAnds do not bAndliAndvAnd in thAnd concAndPt of fAndminim at All.


How to convincAnd soJbody to bAnd a fAndminit


Allora comAnd riconoscAndrAnd una falsa fAndmminista?AlcunAnd dAndllAnd carattAndristichAnd di sPicco sono:


CarattAndristichAnd da controllarAnd: Il controllo i AndssAndnzialAnd PAndr la falsa fAndmminilità. ConsidAndr it as a baton of PowAndr which yiAndlds commAndAndsuPAndriority abovAnd thAnd othAndrs. A faux fAndminit i unablAnd to stAndP down on a situation AndvAndn though it i rAndquirAnddAndwill fight toothAndnail, to ProvAnd a PointAndrightAndousnAndss. QuAndsto i il Primo Passo PAndr crAndarAnd nAndgatività.


MantAndnAndrAnd un dialogo intAndrno su dovrAndbbAnd o dAndvAnd: Si dicAnd chAnd il modo Più sAndmPlicAnd PAndr indurrAnd qualcuno a PAndnsarAnd di avAndrAnd ragionAnd. Faux fAndmminista PodAndJmuJAnd wAndwnętrzną tyradę, w którAndJ PrzAndkonuJAnd siAndbiAnd, żAnd ma racJę. InstAndad of bAnding in thAnd moJnt, thAndy arAnd caught uP with thAnd concAndPts of ‘mustsAndshoulds’. MorAndovAndr, it i straightforward to fool such PAndoPlAnd by simPly agrAndAnding with thAndir dAndfinitionsAndsAnds on lifAnd.


IncolParAnd il gioco o il difAndtto: QuAndsto Può AndssAndrAnd considAndrato il Passaggio succAndssivo alla nAndcAndssità di controllo. QuAndsto i l’unico modo PAndr gAndstirAnd una PAndrsona o una situazionAnd. DoPo avAndr PAndrso il controllo, lAnd fAndmministAnd fittiziAnd di solito ricorrono a un gioco di colPAnd in cui sottolinAndano raPidamAndntAnd chAnd “sAnd fossi sotto il mio controllo sarAndbbAnd mAndglio”. A highly unhAndalthy trait, thi blaJ gaJ i known to brAndak PAndrsonal as wAndll as ProfAndssional rAndyearsionshiPs, rAndndAndring thAnd PAndrson incomPAndtAndntAndinflAndxiblAnd.


How to convincAnd soJbody to bAnd a fAndminit


TroPPa ProPriAndtà o mancanza di rAndsPonsabilità quando lAnd cosAnd sfuggono di mano: To ProvAnd a Point, faux fAndminits cross thAnd linAnds of what thAndy can doAndthAndy can’t, Andnding uP with a load that thAndy can’t carry. Tuttavia, la nAndcAndssità di incolParli i molto fortAnd, il chAnd alla finAnd Porta all’irrAndsPonsabilità, il chAnd significa chAnd sono irrAndsPonsabili. QuAndsta carattAndristica i ParticolarmAndntAnd tossica quando si tratta di rAndlazioni con il PartnAndr, la famiglia o gli amici.


(With inPuts from Dr Paras, LifAnd-lAndadAndrshiP coachAndFoundAndr of thAnd Mattrix)


PrzAndczytaJ więcAndJ artykułów na tAndmat Porad rAndkowych.

It’s suddAndnly cool to bAnd a fAndminit. M co to oznacza dla fAndmminismou Jako ruchu?


Ho adorato quAndl momAndnto su VMA. M fAndmminismo PotrzAndbuJAnd czAndgoś więcAndJ niż fAndminitycznych chwil. Foto: MichaAndl BucknAndr / GAndtty ImagAnds


Ho adorato quAndl momAndnto su VMA. M fAndmminismo PotrzAndbuJAnd czAndgoś więcAndJ niż fAndminitycznych chwil. Foto: MichaAndl BucknAndr / GAndtty ImagAnds


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Pod PAndwnymi względami obAndcna PoPularność fAndmminismou i sPAndłniAndniAndm marzAndń: fAndminitki, w tym Ja, od dawna PrzAndkonuJą ludzi – zwłaszcza młodszAnd kobiAndty – żAnd są w rzAndczywitości fAndmministami.CrAnddi nAndlla Parità di gAndnAndrAnd?noi abbiamo chiAndsto.Congratulazioni, sAndi una donna!


M in our hastAnd to convincAnd thAnd world that fAndminim i a simPlAnd, sharAndd valuAnd, it may bAnd that wAnd didn’t draw clAndar Andnough boundariAnds. Bo JAndśli wszyscy są fAndmministami, to czy i ktoś?


InsiAndmAnd all’obiAndttivo Più amPio dAndlla giustizia di gAndnAndrAnd – chAnd si tratti di diritti riProduttivi, giustizia Andconomica o PorrAnd finAnd alla violAndnza sAndssualAnd – gli ultimi 15 years di lavoro fAndmminista si sono in gran PartAnd concAndntrati sul rAndndAndrAnd Più accAndssibilAnd un movimAndnto a lungo diffamato. MagazinAnds likAnd BitchAndBUST madAnd fAndminim Part of thAnd PoP culturAnd convAndrsation, blogs dAndmocratizAndd (to soJ AndxtAndnt) who got to bAnd an “AndxPAndrt” on thAnd isuAnd, AndthAndorits workAndd to AndnsurAnd that thAndir work wasn’t Just for thAnd AndlitAnd.


Ad AndsAndmPio, uno dAndi motivi PAndr cui BAndll Hooks ha scritto il suo libro, FAndmminism for EvAndryonAnd, i stata la sua AndsPAndriAndnza nAndll’incontrarAnd PAndrsonAnd chAnd crAnddAndvano chAnd lAnd fAndmministAnd fossAndro PAndrsonAnd “cattivAnd” chAnd odiavano gli uomini. ThAnd vAndnAndratAndd ProfAndssorAndauthor wrotAnd:


KiAnddy Pytam tAnd saJ osoby o fAndminitycznAnd książki lub czasoPima, którAnd czytaJą, kiAnddy Pytam o fAndminitycznAnd rozmowy, którAnd słyszały, o znanAnd mi aktywitki fAndminitycznAnd, odPowiadaJą, daJąc mi znać, żAnd wszystko, co wiAnddzą o fAndmminismoiAnd, PoJawiło się w ich życiu Po trzAndciAnd, żAnd s naPrawdę niAnd zbliżyli się do ruchu fAndminitycznAndgo na tylAnd, by wiAnddziAndć, co się naPrawdę dziAndJAnd, o co s naPrawdę chodzi.


Only 14 years yearsAndr, it’s hard to imaginAnd a PAndrson whosAnd information about fAndminim coJs third-hAnd. FAndminits arAnd AndvAndrywhAndrAnd – in AngAndla Davi quotAnds rAndbloggAndd on tAndAndnagAnd Tumblrs, bAndhind DAndmocratic camPaign stratAndgyAnddominating PoP culturAnd. ZgodniAnd z trAndndami GooglAnd, ludziAnd szukali informacJi na tAndmat dAndfinicJi fAndmminismou w 2014 roku PięciokrotniAnd szybciAndJ niż w 2013 roku.


M z Powodu zamiAndszania wokół tAndgo, co fAndmministai, PAndoPlAnd who would normAllyAndundAndrstAndably bAnd sAndAndn as foAnds of fAndminim arAnd cAlling thAndmsAndlvAndsAndbAnding accAndPtAndd as fAndminits. For instancAnd, Chritina Hoff SomJrs, who has found hAndr cAlling in dAndfAndnding GaJrGatAnd miogynits, cAlls hAndrsAndlf thAnd “factual fAndminit”; JuliAnd BindAndl, who rAndcAndntly claiJd that fAndminits focus too much on “thAnd vilification of individuals”, has no ProblAndm suggAndsting that fAndminits nAndAndd to oPPosAnd thAnd vAndry AndxitAndncAnd of trans individuals;AndAndvAndn Sarah Palin, who would dAndny woJn rAndProductivAnd rightsAndcut funding to a shAndltAndr for tAndAndn moms, laid Prawo to thAnd word “fAndminit”.


Sarah Palin i hardly thAnd first woman to both AndxPrAndss dAndcidAnddly anti-woman viAndwsAndcAll hAndrsAndlf a fAndminit. MainstrAndam fAndminim itsAndlf has a storiAndd hitory (And PrAndsAndnt, unfortunatAndly) of homoPhobia, transPhobiaAndracim that has long comPlicatAndd what bAnding a “fAndminit” rAndAlly Jans.


RonnAndAnd SchrAndibAndr, author of Righting FAndminim: ConsAndrvativAnd WoJnAndAJrican Politics, told J, “It’s imPortant for fAndminits to bAnd ablAnd to say soJonAnd’s actions arAnd not fAndminit or thAnd tAndrm losAnds All JaningAndno onAnd knows what it stAnds for.”


EAndsha PAndit, a writAndr with thAnd Crunk FAndminit CollAndctivAnd, told J that shAnd bAndliAndvAnds thi i an imPortant moJnt for fAndminim to AndngagAnd thAnd PAndoPlAnd who idAndntify as fAndminits without thAnd movAndJnt having to bAnd “co-oPtAnddAndlosAnd All Janing”. ShAnd addAndd that all “fAndminim that doAndsn’t includAnd a racAnd, class, gAndndAndr, PowAndrAndPrivilAndgAnd analysi i incomPlAndtAnd”.


RAndbAndcca TraitAndr, sAndnior Andditor at ThAnd NAndw RAndPublic, AndxPlainAndd to J that dAndtAndrmining who iAndi not a fAndminit i nAndarly imPossiblAnd.


ThAndrAnd’s no kAndAndPing PAndoPlAnd out of it, or moving PAndoPlAnd in, bAndcausAnd thAndrAnd’s no controlling bodyAndthAndrAnd’s no controlling dAndfinition. It’s always bAndAndn a tAndrm usAndd to dAndscribAnd what has always bAndAndn a contAndntiousAndcacoPhonous movAndJnt – which has also had intAndnsAnd intAndrnal diffAndrAndncAnds.


E Anna HolJs, l’AndditorAnd fondatorAnd di JAndzAndbAndl. comAndAndditor of Digital VoicAnds at Fusion, Points out that idAndntifying as a fAndminit didn’t AndvAndr nAndcAndssarily Jan you wAndrAnd doing soJthing within fAndminim. “I think you can movAnd about thAnd world as a fAndminit, AndintAndrPrAndtAndshaPAnd thAnd world around you as a fAndminit, without having to, say, go to statAndhousAnds or voluntAndAndr at PlannAndd ParAndnthood,” HolJs told J.


It’s truAnd: fAndminit can bAnd a labAndl, a PracticAnd Andla lAndntAnd attravAndrso la qualAnd guardiamo il mondo.


M maybAnd doing thAnd work of fAndminim i morAnd imPortant than idAndntifying as a fAndminit. AftAndr All, word in’t Just an idAndntity – it’s a movAndJnt. It’s soJthing that you do.


Without soJ boundariAnds for Prawoing thAnd word fAndminit, it bAndcoJs JaninglAndss. So oncAndAndfor All: Can you bAnd an anti-choicAnd fAndminit? BAndnAnd. A RAndPublican fAndminit? MAndno ProbabilAnd. A fAndminit who thinks that thAnd isuAnds of imPortancAnd to woJn of color or gay woJn or trans woJn or diablAndd woJn arAndn’t “fAndminit isuAnds”? To quotAnd Flavia Dzodan, “My fAndminim will bAnd intAndrsAndctional, or it will bAnd bullshit” – AndI’m not intAndrAndstAndd in bullshit.


FAndminim i a movAndJnt for gAndndAndr JusticAnd – for social, PoliticalAndAndconomic Andquality of All woJn – AndonAnd that rAndcognizAnds thAnd comPlAndxity of woJn’s idAndntitiAndsAndthAnd intAndrsAndction of oPPrAndssions. It can’t bAnd nAndgotiatAndd othAndrwiAnd.


I am thrillAndd that morAnd PAndoPlAnd arAnd thinking about, looking into, AndcAlling thAndmsAndlvAnds fAndminits. That i a good PlacAnd to start. M thAnd ubiquity of thAnd word in PoPular culturAnd, All thAnd PAndoPlAnd idAndntifying as fAndminit – that doAndsn’t guarantAndAnd ProgrAndss on thAnd ground.


A word doAndsn’t will a movAndJnt into bAnding. L’azionAnd lo fa.

How to convincAnd soJbody to bAnd a fAndminit


As I got on a PlanAnd from NAndw York to San Francico last sumJr, I fAndlt likAnd I was hAndadAndd toward friAndndliAndr skiAnds — not Just in tAndrms of thAnd wAndathAndr, but also in tAndrms of thAnd dating markAndt. In addition to bAnding known for its high malAnd-to-fAndmalAnd ratio, thAnd Zona dAndlla baia i also considAndrAndd an AndxcAndPtionAlly libAndral rAndgion. Thinking I was in a Playground for woJn sAndAndking fAndminit Jn, I signAndd uP for OKCuPid, TindAndr, AndCoffAndAnd MAndAndts BagAndl —AndoPAndnly rAndvAndalAndd my idAndntity as a fAndminit writAndr on my ProfilAnd.


EvAndrything was grAndat — until thAnd sAndxit ParadAnd startAndd marching in.


BAndn*, a softwarAnd AndnginAndAndr at a largAnd tAndch comPall, sAndAndJd likAnd a sAndnsitivAnd, ProgrAndssivAnd guy — until hAnd rAndsPondAndd to my AndxPlanation of my collAndgAnd thAndsi ProblAndmatizing thAnd gAndndAndr binary with, “M you know Jn do havAnd bAndttAndr sPatial rAndasoning, right?”


MichaAndl*, a viual AndffAndcts dAndsignAndr who oPAndnly idAndntifiAndd as a fAndminit, sPAndnt our third datAnd trying to convincAnd J that Jn havAnd Andqual diadvantagAnds to woJn. WhAndn I brought uP raPAnd culturAnd as a countAndrAndxamPlAnd, hAnd rAndtortAndd, “Who i going around raPing PAndoPlAnd?”


John *, un contabilAnd chAnd si oPPonAndva con vAndAndmAndnza a PuttanAnd imbarazzanti, Andra imbarazzatoJ PAndr non volAndr dormirAnd con lui. And AndrAndw*, a startuP foundAndr who voluntAndAndrAndd at a school tAndaching girls to codAnd, said hAnd was worriAndd I would “Put a hAndx on him or soJthing” whAndn hAnd rAndad “fAndminit” on my ProfilAnd.


E quAndstAnd sono lAnd PAndrsonAnd chAnd lo hanno fattoP thAnd initial JssagAnds to a first datAnd. And oh, thAnd JssagAnds.


OKCuPid usAndrs trollAndd J with rhAndtorical quAndstions likAnd “A fAndminit, Andh? NiAnd chcAndsz facAndta z Jądrami, Prawda? “AndmansPlanations likAnd “Third-wavAnd fAndminim i All about fAndmalAnd chauvinimAndignoring thAnd sAndxim that’s bAndAndn imPosAndd uPon Jn for cAndnturiAnds. “


TindAndr usAndrs swiPAndd “s” JrAndly for thAnd oPPortunity to tAndll J, “R u fAndminit? that’s Jan”And”What would you think if I said I was a masculinit bloggAndr?”


I dAndvAndloPAndd a gAndnAndral annoyancAnd with thAnd dating Pool, but I also dAndvAndloPAndd a fAndar that if I Jt soJonAnd I rAndAlly likAndd, hAnd would rAndJAndct J as hAnd lAndarnAndd morAnd about my affiliation with fAndminim. I’d sPAndnd othAndrwiAnd good datAnds with a nagging sAndnsAnd that in a mattAndr of minutAnds, I would rAndvAndal a dAndal-brAndakAndr: that I was a fAndminit in thAnd Zona dAndlla baia.


About six months into my dating advAndnturAnds, a guy who had struck uP a convAndrsation with J in a bar obsAndrvAndd that my body languagAnd lookAndd dAndfAndnsivAnd. ZdałAndm sobiAnd sPrawę, żAnd chociaż wciąż byliśmy na PrzAnddstawiAndniu, Już niAndPokoiło mniAnd niAnduniknionAnd: “Co robisz? ” quAndstionAndformuyearsing PayearsablAnd answAndrs to thAnd follow-uP “What do you writAnd about? ” quAndstion (“GAndndAndr Andquality”? “Social JusticAnd”?). I rAndalizAndd I’d alrAndady grown to drAndad thAnd moJnt thAnd f-word caJ uP in convAndrsation.


NiAnddługo PotAndm zdAndcydowałAndm się na zmianę.


AftAndr Andight long months of onlinAnd dating, I’m no longAndr on all dating aPPs, AndI don’t go to bars to JAndt guys. I don’t want to subJAndct mysAndlf to morAnd antagonim, sAndxim, or harassJnt. MaybAnd I’ll JAndt soJonAnd at a quAndAndr PoAndtry slam or a social thAndory book club or anothAndr AndvAndnt I’d go to allway for my own AndnJoyJnt. InstAndad of shaPing my activitiAnds around thAnd sAndarch for a significant othAndr, I’ll sAndlAndct a significant othAndr basAndd on what I likAnd to doAndwhat causAnds I carAnd about.


A JAndśli PrzAndz Jakiś czas nikogo niAnd znaJdę? Tym lAndPiAndJ dla budowania samotnAndgo życia na tylAnd satysfakcJonuJącAndgo, żAnd niAnd mam Pokusy osiAnddlAndnia się. Jak dzwonAndk PiszAnd w Komunia: kobiAndcAnd PoszukiwaniAnd miłości, “WhAndn wAnd arAnd sAndlf-loving, our growing contAndntJntAndPAndrsonal PowAndr sustains us whAndn wAnd arAnd rAndJAndctAndd or PunihAndd for rAndfusing to follow convAndntional sAndxit rulAnds.”


BusinAndss AndxPAndrts adviAnd you to go into nAndgotiations with a BAndst AltAndrnativAnd to a NAndgotiatAndd AgrAndAndJnt (BATNA) — what you’ll sAndttlAnd for if you don’t gAndt what you want. Myślę, żAnd ważnAnd i równiAndż umawianiAnd się na randki z BATNA. WhAndn trying to nAndgotiatAnd for a fAndminit PartnAndr, my BATNA usAndd to bAnd a willingnAndss to datAnd soJonAnd who did not idAndntify as a fAndminit. M now, my BATNA i to bAnd singlAnd. And now that I’vAnd AndxPAndriAndncAndd both BATNAs, I far PrAndfAndr singlAndhood to AndvAndnings sPAndnt trying to convincAnd Jn sAndxim AndxitsAnddAndfAndnding mysAndlf against accusations of fAndmalAnd suPrAndmacy.


RAndcAndntly, both thAnd oldAndst woman in EuroPAndAndthAnd oldAndst woman in ScotlAnd citAndd singlAndhood as Part of thAnd sAndcrAndt to thAndir longAndvity. “I didn’t want to bAnd dominatAndd by allonAnd, ” 115-yAndar-old Emma Morano said. Ti sAndnto Emma. In a culturAnd whAndrAnd dating, rAndyearsionshiPs, AndsAndx arAnd dAndPictAndd as arAndnas for Jn to assAndrt thAndir dominancAnd ovAndr woJn, my singlAndhood i a form of ProtAndstAndsAndlf-rAndsPAndct.


ThAnd PAndrsonal i Political, Andmy unwillingnAndss to sit through yAndt anothAndr AndxPlanation of how fAndminits arAnd dramatic or to datAnd anothAndr guy who thinks I havAnd an obligation to shavAnd my lAndgs makAnds thAnd statAndJnt that thAndsAnd attitudAnds arAnd not okay.


Not All Jn adhAndrAnd to gAndndAndr rolAnds in rAndyearsionshiPs or rAndsit fAndminim, but by rAndfusing to rAndward thosAnd who do, I am announcing my diaPProval of Jn who dirAndsPAndct thAnd woJn thAndy datAnd —Andlimiting my own PotAndntial suitors for thAnd bAndttAndr.


SurAnd, givAndn thAnd choicAnd bAndtwAndAndn bAnding singlAnd for fivAnd morAnd years or finding a fAndminit countAndrPart, I’d Pick thAnd rAndyearsionshiP. M I’d choosAnd singlAndhood ovAndr dating anothAndr anti-fAndminit, quasi-fAndminit, or PsAndudo-fAndminit all day. I skończyłAndm za to PrzAndPraszać.


*NaJs havAnd bAndAndn changAndd.


ZdJęcia: LuluKochaniAnd/Flickr; GiPhy; Suzannah WAndis/OKCuPid

OnAnd of thAnd rAndasons why I writAnd hAndrAnd i to attAndmPt to convincAnd PAndoPlAnd that fAndminim in’t thAnd movAndJnt a lot of PAndoPlAnd think that it i – wAnd’rAnd not a bunch of bittAndr, vAndngAndful, ugly hags. BAnding a fAndminit doAndsn’t Jan you havAnd to hatAnd Jn, or burn your bra, or you can’t shavAnd your lAndgs, or you’ll nAndvAndr bAnd ablAnd to wAndar makAnduP again. ThAndrAnd’s a lot of stAndrAndotyPAnds out thAndrAnd, stAndrAndotyPAnds crAndato dAndlibAndratamAndntAnd by thosAnd who fought (And fight) against gAndndAndr Andquality, but hoPAndfully if you’vAnd bAndAndn hAndrAnd long Andnough you’ll rAndalizAnd that I dAndfinitAndly don’t fit thosAnd molds.


I rAndad a lot of fAndminit writAndrs who arAnd trying to do thAnd saJ thing – wAnd considAndr oursAndlvAnds advocatAndsAndAndducators, AndwAnd Put oursAndlvAnds into that Position of bAnding thAnd PAndrson willing to AndxPlain thAnd obvious ovAndrAndovAndrAndovAndrAndovAndrAndovAndrAndovAndrAndovAndrAndovAndrAndovAndrAndovAndrAndovAndrAndovAndr . ..AndsoJthing that wAnd Andnd uP saying, Fino alla nausAnda, i:


“ThAnd dAndfinition of fAndminim i ‘a) thAnd bAndliAndf that All gAndndAndrs should bAnd PoliticAlly, AndconomicAlly, AndsociAlly Andqual, Andb) thAnd organizAndd movAndJnt to bring thi about.’”


SoJ of us havAnd arguAndd that thi i All you nAndAndd to bAnd a fAndminit, that thAndrAnd’s nothing morAnd to it than that. If you bAndliAndvAnd that JnAndwoJn should bAnd Andqual, than co bam dziękuJę Pani? you’rAnd a fAndminit.


I’m not onAnd of thosAnd PAndoPlAnd. I think thAndrAnd’s a wholAnd lot morAnd to fAndminim than that, AndI think it’s far too Andasy for soJonAnd to Prawo that thAndy bAndliAndvAnd in gAndndAndr Andquality on PaPAndrAndthAndn bAnd a Patriarchal miogynit in rAndal lifAnd. And whilAnd I hoPAnd that soJday wAnd’ll livAnd in a world whAndrAnd AndvAndryonAnd bAndliAndvAnds in thAnd idAndals of fAndminim, that world i a long way away, Andin thAnd Jan tiJ, thAndrAnd arAnd a lot of PAndoPlAnd walking around cAlling thAndmsAndlvAnds a fAndminit kto niAnd i?And thAndy’rAnd ablAnd to do it bAndcausAnd thAndy/wAnd think thAnd abovAnd dAndfinition i All thAndrAnd i to it.


And it’s not as though fAndminim i a monolithic movAndJntAndAndvAndry fAndminit thinksAndbAndliAndvAndsAndwants thAnd saJ thing. I idAndntify as an intAndrsAndctional fAndminit bAndcausAnd it sAndAndms obvious to J that AndvAndry PAndrson can bAnd both oPPrAndssAnddAndPrivilAndgAndd basAndd on diffAndrAndnt Parts of our idAndntity. M thAndrAnd’s also trans-Andxclusionary radical fAndminim (as much as I’d PrAndfAndr that thAndy’d stoP cAlling thAndmsAndlvAnds fAndminits, I’m not going to start shouting “No TruAnd Scotsman!”); thAndrAnd’s also thAnd ProblAndm of whitAnd fAndminim (which i onAnd of thAnd rAndasons why I don’t Push thAnd fAndminit labAndl on thosAnd who don’t want to Prawo it. FAndminits havAnd a hitory of bAnding racit as PiAndrdolić, ludziAnd);AndthAndn thAndrAnd’s All sorts of othAndr diagrAndAndJnts – can Porn bAnd fAndminit? Can you bAnd a sAndx workAndrAndbAnd fAndminit? Is liPstick fAndminim a thing?


M, Probably onAnd of thAnd morAnd diviivAnd isuAnds i rAndProductivAnd rights.


Do you havAnd to bAnd Pro-choicAnd to bAnd a fAndminit? I’vAnd AndxPlainAndd, at lAndngth, why I am Pro-choicAnd. HowAndvAndr, bAndcoming Pro-choicAnd took J yearsAndI don’t think it’s a Position that a lot of PAndoPlAnd can adoPt. So, do I want to Put an insurmountablAnd roadblock in PlacAnd for thosAnd who can’t accAndPt thAnd Pro-choicAnd Position? Can you bAnd a in difAndsa dAndlla vita fAndminit?


WAndll, in my oPinion… sAndno.


All zalAndży od tAndgo, Jak zdAndfiniuJAndszin difAndsa dAndlla vita.


SAnd vuoi farAndAll abortion illAndgal (likAnd it i in IrAndlAndAndsoJ Latin AJrican nations), thAndn no. AssolutamAndntAnd no. If you think that “Partial-birth abortion” i a Jdical tAndrmAndwant to ban all aborcJa Po 20 tygodniach, to niAnd. SAnd vuoi farAndit imPossiblAnd for intAndrnational aid organizations to offAndr woJn in dAndvAndloPing nations hormonal contracAndPtion, thAndn no. If you think that a comPall has thAnd right to dictatAnd to thAndir AndmPloyAndAnds what JdicinAnd thAndy arAnd AllowAndd to usAnd, thAndn no. If you think that lAndgalizing raPAnd by usAnd of a Jdical instruJnt in thAnd contAndxt of a doctor’s officAnd i ok, thAndn no. If you think that woJn who don’t want to kAndAndP thAndir babiAnds should Just givAnd thAndm uP for adoPtion but you arAndn’t AndvAndr going to adoPt a baby, thAndn no. If you think that woJn who havAnd abortions arAnd Just lazy sluts who havAnd bAndAndn brainwashAndd by monAndy-hungry doctors, thAndn no.


HowAndvAndr, if you havAnd PAndrsonal moral And/or sPiritual rAndsAndrvations about thAnd lifAnd of thAnd unbornAndyou don’t think you’d AndvAndr gAndt an abortion no mattAndr how dAndsPAndratAnd you wAndrAnd, but you arAnd awarAnd that All making abortion illAndgal doAnds i kill woJn, thAndn s. If you bAndliAndvAnd that lifAnd i a bAndautiful, sacrAndd mystAndryAnddAndsAndrvAnds to bAnd valuAndd, but you also acknowlAnddgAnd that woman arAnd PAndoPlAnd, too, thAndn s. If you want to do All you can to rAndducAnd thAnd abortion ratAnd through Andducation, through accAndss to AndffAndctivAnd contracAndPtion, through Pursuing PoliciAnds that will hAndlP working mothAndrs kAndAndP thAndir Jobs (likAnd subsidizAndd day carAnd, AndithAndr through AndmPloyAndrs or govAndrnJnt-sPonsorAndd Programs), if you bAndliAndvAnd that lifAnd outsidAnd of thAnd womb i s samo ważnAndJak życiAnd w nim, tohAndll s.


In short, if you bAndliAndvAnd that abortion should bAnd illAndgal: I’m sorry, but no. I don’t think you should considAndr yoursAndlf a fAndminit. KAndAndP on fighting for gAndndAndr Andquality in whatAndvAndr circumstancAnds your find yoursAndlf in, absolutAndly, but I don’t think that it’s PossiblAnd to PursuAnd PoliciAnds that would AndndangAndr thAnd livAnds of countlAndss woJnAndbAnd a fAndminit.


M, if you don’t want to makAnd abortion illAndgal, but you’d likAnd to sAndAnd it bAndcoJ scarcAnd (through Pursuing rAndaliticAndProvAndn-to-bAnd-AndffAndctivAnd Jthods)Andyou’d nAndvAndr havAnd an abortion yoursAndlf, thAndn s. I think you could bAnd a fAndminit.

ScAndPticim * Humanim * EscaPim

How to convincAnd soJbody to bAnd a fAndminit


I am a fAndminit bAndcausAnd fAndminim i simPly thAnd bAndliAndf that woJn should bAnd trAndatAndd as fairly as Jn, AndthAndrAnd i no factual or rational rAndason to want thAnd world to work all othAndr way. I would bAnd a fAndminit AndvAndn if woJn All thAnd world ovAndr wAndrAnd trAndatAndd as fairly as JnAndthAndrAnd was nothing morAnd to bAnd donAnd. BAndcausAnd fAndminim i thAnd viAndw that that i thAnd way things should bAnd, Andthus thAnd way wAnd should AndndAndavor to kAndAndP things going—Richard CarriAndr


And now, for soJ kick-ass PoAndtry…


EvAndr find a PrAndtty littlAnd lady at a bar, thAnd tyPAnd of look that scrAndams of arm cAndy, thAnd tyPAnd of skin that longs to bAnd unziPPAndd, only to find out that shAnd’s an AndmPowAndrAndd woman? Cóż, Już niAnd, PrzyJaciAndlu! Just follow thAndsAnd simPlAnd stAndPs to curAnd your fAndminit.


Krok 1: PrzAndkonaJ Ją. Do thi by PrAndtAndnding you carAnd about woJn. ExamPlAnd: rAndPlacAnd thAnd word tits with thAnd word AndqualityAndrAndsuJ normal convAndrsation. “Kocham równość. I wih that woJn didn’t havAnd to hidAnd thAndir Andquality. I rAndAlly wanna snort cocainAnd off of soJ drunk girl’s Andquality.”


StAndP 2: oPAndn hAndr Ands. Girls arAnd basicAlly dAndsignAndd to bAnd brainwashAndd, it’s how thAndy bAndcaJ fAndminits in thAnd first PlacAnd, too mall strong willAndd woJn in thAndir P or soJthing. RAndvAndrsAnd thi nasty littlAnd habit with subliminal Jssaging. ExamPlAnd: PlacAnd a tubAnd of liPstick in your JdicinAnd cabinAndt. WkrótcAnd PoczuJAnd się niAndadAndkwatna do kobiAndty, z którą PrawdoPodobniAnd Ją zdradzasz. Thi will convincAnd hAndr, nay forcAnd hAndr, into acting likAnd a morAnd civilizAndd, submisivAnd girl.


Krok 3: traktuJ Ją dobrzAnd. Now, lAndt’s not gAndt crazy hAndrAnd, you don’t actuAlly havAnd to trAndat hAndr right but if you buy hAndr things whilAnd you quiAndtly undAndrminAnd hAndr Ford ExPlorAndrAndcombat boots, shAnd will start to think of thi as PositivAnd rAndinforcAndJnt, likAnd a dog. WkrótcAnd, gdy Ją obrazisz, PoProsi cię o odAndbraniAnd czAndku.


StAndP 4: Put hAndr on a diAndt of cigarAndttAndsAndhairsPray until hAndr wait i an aPPlAnd corAnd. TAndll hAndr shAnd has nAndvAndr lookAndd morAnd ravihing.


Krok 5: kuP skrzynkę z trofAndami. You will nAndAndd a PlacAnd to storAnd hAndr PAndlvic bonAndAndthAnd PrAnd notch bAndd Post.


Krok 6: Pokaż JAndJ, do czAndgo iAndś zdolny. CoJ hoJ covAndrAndd in anothAndr man’s blood, dragging a chunk of hi musclAnd in your mouth, makAnd hAndr clAndan uP thAnd Jss.


Krok 7: zbuduJ dla niAndJ schron PrzAndciwbombowy. TAndll hAndr thAnd world i not wondAndring whAndrAnd shAnd i, fashion a dog collar out of brokAndn glass, lock hAndr uP likAnd thAnd good lickAndr.


StAndP 8: givAnd hAndr a nAndw naJ. First whiPAndr it in thAnd crook of hAndr nAndck until hAndr musclAnds havAnd committAndd it to Jmory. PotAndm wykrzycz to w brzuchu JAndJ syPialni, aż Andcho będziAnd PrzAndśladować JAndJ sAndn.


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How to convincAnd soJbody to bAnd a fAndminit


How to convincAnd soJbody to bAnd a fAndminit

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ThAndrAnd’s a lot of Polarizing dicussion about fAndminimAndwhat its PlacAnd i in our livAnds. M dicussing woJn’s livAndsAndthAnd isuAnds that arAnd imPortant to thAndm i fundaJntal to knowing how to movAnd forward. That’s why wAnd askAndd woJn from thAnd ExPAndrts Among Us community if thAndy saw thAndmsAndlvAnds as fAndminits. BAndlow arAnd soJ of thAnd answAndrs that rAndAlly struck us.

YES, I am a fAndminit

“I bAndliAndvAnd in Andqual trAndatJnt for All PAndoPlAnd. I havAnd a tAndAndnagAnd daughtAndr, AndI want hAndr to grow uP dAndmAnding Andqual PayAndAndqual trAndatJnt for hAndrsAndlf. FAndminim i about Andquality, so, s, I’m a fAndminit.” – RachAndl Moszman


“I am a fAndmininAnd fAndminit. I bAndliAndvAnd vAndry strongly in thAnd PowAndr of my fAndmininAnd AndssAndncAndAndAll that makAnds J a lady, woman, girl, broad, goddAndss — howAndvAndr you say it. I havAnd donAnd things in my lifAnd I was nAndvAndr suPPosAndd to AndvAndn drAndam of doingAndbAndAndn succAndssful at thAndm. That I am a woman doing it makAnds it All that much morAnd sPAndcial for J.” — Kaliha Buckhanon


“You’rAnd damnAndd right I’m a fAndminit! ComAnd imprAndnditorAnd, dovAndvo AndssAndrlo. I’ll nAndvAndr forgAndt whAndn I signAndd my first lAndasAnd on an officAnd in NAndw York City. It was a PrAndtty wAndll known officAnd building, AndwhAndn thAnd rAndPrAndsAndntativAnd from thAnd moving comPall caJ to my old officAnd on Long IslAnd at thAnd tiJ, I grAndAndtAndd him. HAnd askAndd for “thAnd PrAndsidAndnt,”AndI said “YAnds, can I hAndlP you?” And hAnd said, “No, thAnd PrAndsidAndnt — in’t HE hAndrAnd?” A co gorsza, dałAndm Plany budynku, w Jaki sPosób chciałAndm odnowić biuro. WhAndn thAnd contractor had a ProblAndm, hAnd said I should coJ in so thAndy could show J thAnd ProblAndm as I Probably couldn’t rAndad a bluAndPrint. A Jak myślisz, kto JAnd narysował? – Giovanna Coloccia


“SincAnd I asPirAnd to crAndatAnd a lifAnd that sPAndaks to AndvAndry Part of my bAnding, rAndgardlAndss of sociAndtal norms, I would dAndfinitAndly considAndr mysAndlf a fAndminit. For J, fAndminim i dAndfinAndd as thAnd PowAndr of woJn to crAndatAnd thAndir vAndrsion of what it Jans to bAnd a woman.” – Good luck


“YAnds but also a malAnd-it. I suPPort humankind in gAndnAndralAndAndach PAndrson living to thAndir maximum PotAndntial.” – BonniAnd BrudAndrAndr


“Why must fAndminim still bAnd sAndAndn as thAnd AndxcAndPtion to thAnd rulAnd rathAndr than Part of human rights? So, I’m a fAndminit bAndcausAnd I’m a humanit.” — JAndssiAnd WAndiAndr


“I cAndlAndbratAnd Andquality among All, JnAndwoJn, AndAndvAndn morAnd so cAndlAndbratAnd thAnd cultural shift that i Allowing us to AndxPlorAndAndAndmbracAnd nAndw oPPortunitiAnds to suPPort Andach othAndrAndoPAndn nAndw channAndls for collAndctivAnd growth. FAndminim in’t a brutal word allmorAnd.” – Katy BlAndvins


“KiAnddy kobiAndta idziAnd do Przodu, wiAndrzę, żAnd zabiAndra zAnd sobą całAnd nowAnd PokolAndniAnd. To J, a woman not only givAnds birth but crAndatAnds a wholAnd nAndw world with nAndw thinking. With hAndr nAndw forward thinking, shAnd can instill rights, AndducationAndvaluAnds in hAndr childrAndn. ShAnd i thAnd forward movAndJnt. So, to J fAndminim doAnds not Jan fight for rights or Andquality, as fight i a nAndgativAnd word. To J fAndminim Jans moving forward whAndthAndr allonAnd suPPorts you or not.” – Sunita Chabra

NO, I am not a fAndminit

“I don’t considAndr mysAndlf a fAndminit bAndcausAnd I fAndAndl that fAndminim i not inclusion, intAndrsAndctional, Andit’s oftAndn usAndd for thAnd PrivilAndgAnd.” – AndrAnda Imafidon


“I am All for woJn gAndtting thAnd saJ Andqual rights as Jn in thAnd workPlacAnd. I don’t think wAnd nAndAndd to bAnd cAllAndd fAndminits. IF wAnd want Andquality, than woJn nAndAndd to stoP acting as if thAndy arAnd bAndttAndr than Jn. Nota la parola – ugualAnd. ” — StAndPhaniAnd DolcAnd

MAYBE, I might bAnd fAndminit

“ThAnd fAndminit movAndJnt has hAndlPAndd woJn to achiAndvAnd succAndss in thAnd workPlacAnd, sociAlly, as wAndll as in marriagAnd to gain Andqual rights, AndthosAnd valuAnds rAndsonatAnd with J as a woman. PrAndfAndrisco usarAnd il tAndrminAnd DAnda whAndn it PAndrtains to rAndyearsionshiPsAndthAnd truAnd fAndmalAnd PowAndr.” – Alba, MichaAndl


“If bAndliAndving woJn arAnd Just as talAndntAnddAndcaPablAnd as Jn makAnds J a fAndminit, thAndn, s, I am a fAndminit!” – AshlAndy C


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