How to become a friend

How to become a friend

I’ve had lots of practice making friends. Over the last 33 years, our family has moved seven times for my husband’s job. Every time I left my friends behind. Each time we settled in a new neighborhood with new neighbors. Each time we joined a new church with a new church family.

It didn’t take long to learn that if I wanted to enjoy meaningful, solid friendships I could not waste any time. I had to make friends consciously and I had to be a friend worth having.

Sadly, today’s fast-paced, shallow culture hinders the kind of friendships God desires us to have. Before we look at biblical principles for building and keeping friendships, let’s touch on a few things we’ll want to avoid.

3 obstacles to making meaningful friendships:

Occupation – Do you feel like you never have time to enjoy long conversations with the friends you have now? Weeks go by without meeting local friends face to face? Honestly, most of us take the time to do what we really want to do. If you think you’re too busy to cultivate deep friendships, try taking time out for a week to see where your time is going. Perhaps you’re serving in some areas where God has not called you. Or maybe you’re allowing too many activities for your children to dictate your life. Deliberately build a headroom in your life. Your friendships are essential to your emotional and spiritual well-being.

Fear of transparency – While we can’t “go deep” with all of our friends, we need some to share everything with. We need people who can listen to our hearts and understand. We also need friends who hold us accountable when we cross the line. However, all too often we fear that other people will recognize our flaws. We want them to think we have it all together. But we desperately need friends who challenge us to be all that God wants us to be. Yes, it can be scary, but test the waters. Pick a personl thing you want to share with your chosen friend and see how you fare!

Extensive connections – In our social media world, it’s easy to confuse quantity with depth. Thousands of superficial “friends” mask the lack of true and deep friendships. Let’s limit our time with our online friends and get out in the real world.

11 biblical principles for making and keeping true friends:

1. Take the initiative (Acts 18: 1-4) – One of my closest friends in life chose me as her friend before I really knew about her. Janet and her family were new to our town, so when they joined our church she wanted to make friends. She introduced herself to me and immediately started making a friendship. Janet taught me to take the initiative. Yes, it can be risky, but the rewards can be great!

2. Practice forgiveness (Colossians 3:13) – True friends don’t hold grudges or remember offenses. Instead, they are flexible and forgive quickly. Contemplating God’s forgiveness can help us when we struggle to forgive others.

3. Protect your language (Proverbs 16:28, Ephesians 4:29) – Loose lips spoil many friendships. Careless words hurt feelings. Voices foster divisions. Broken trust destroys trust. Before we speak, let’s pause to consider whether our words will tear down or build up.

4. Sii un "buono" amico (Ephesians 4, 2-3) – Christ’s character fosters deep and lasting friendships. Qualities such as humility, kindness, patience, and perseverance create a solid foundation on which to build friendships for life.

5. Extend hospitality (1 Peter 4: 9, Proverbs 25:17) – Sometimes we accept hospitality quickly, but we show it a little slower. Let’s make time to not only invite our friends to our homes, but to also make them feel welcome. On the flip side, Proverbs 25:17 warns us against taking advantage of our friend’s hospitality.

6. Stay close in difficult times (Proverbs 17:17, Proverbs 27:10, Romans 12:10) – A true friend remains loyal when problems arise. Even when other “friends” leave, they remain devoted and help in any way they can.

7. Feed them (Ephesians 5:21, Philippians 2: 3-4, Romans 12:10) – Friendship will disappear without the constant stream of time, attention and resources. Let’s show our friends we care about their needs and their interests with purposeful acts of kindness and generosity. Our friendships will flourish.

8. Listen to them (James 1:19) – It takes a lot of practice to keep your mouth shut and really listen to what others are saying. But this habit is worth developing. When others feel “heard”, they feel appreciated.

9. Sharpen them (Proverbs 27: 6, Proverbs 27:17, Colossians 3:16, Hebrews 10:24) – A best friend is not just a “yes man”. Pious friends draw others closer to Jesus.

10. Pray for them (Job 16: 20-21) – Our friends need our prayerful support. Not just the usual occasional prayers, but sincere intercession with God on their behalf.

11. Love them (John 13:34, John 15: 3, 1 Corinthians 13.4-8, 1 John 4: 7) – It is actually more difficult than we think. God calls us to love our friends as Jesus loves us, not just with words, but with deliberate acts of love that can often cost us something.

Un migliore amico è "un terapeuta con cui puoi bere" e molto altro.

How to become a friend

When we are young, it seems that there is no shortage of “best friends”. However, as we mature, the nature of our friendships changes. Having or being a best friend is no longer as simple as calling someone our best friend and reciprocating.

Other more important factors come into play, including:

  1. Emotional support. This is probably the most important part of any adult friendship. Best friends refrain from unnecessarily criticizing each other and usually don’t judge.
  2. Your best friend will listen to you and answer wisely, noto react to what you’ve said even if you have triggered something in him or her. Being able to hear what someone else is saying is one of the best parts of a friendship.
  3. Best friends do everything for the people they care about, and it’s good for both parties. You can tell who your true friends are when you need help getting around or driving to the airport.
  4. Prudence is a trait that deepens and strengthens every friendship. Being able to see someone else’s needs—and to do what you can to fulfill those needs—enables bonding experiences. Our best friends do things for us that no one else would have thought of.
  5. Reliability. When you know you can call your best friend to save yourself from trouble 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, you will feel better and increase your overall confidence.
  6. Best friends accept you and all your faults. They don’t expect perfection. When you aren’t at your best, they are understanding rather than critical. If you’re having a bad day, someone who cares for you will ask if they can help or if they should let you be alone if that’s what you need.
  7. A friend once gave me a cocktail napkin that read, “Friends are therapists you can drink with.” A good friendship is truly therapeutic, even if a good friend isn’t the same as a drinking buddy.
  8. A strong friendship defines both of you and helps each of you navigate what is called life. Your friend is a mirror that reflects who you are to him. In other words, your best qualities shine and those elements that need improvement are not judged but understood.
  9. Some of us find it difficult to cry alone. Instead, we may need a shoulder to cry on, and having a friend you feel comfortable with is a gift. In the face of difficulties, having someone with whom you can truly ease your pain can be invaluable.
  10. Your best friends support you. Knowing that you can trust someone else to be comfortable with yourself allows you to both discover and enjoy more new things than on your own.

It’s a life affirmation to have a best friend who helps you grow but not bring you down. You have to be willing to give as much as you want to get, but I don’t know anyone who thinks a good friendship is not worth the effort.

How to become a friend

I’ve had lots of practice making friends. Over the last 33 years, our family has moved seven times for my husband’s job. Every time I left my friends behind. Each time we settled in a new neighborhood with new neighbors. Each time we joined a new church with a new church family.

It didn’t take long to learn that if I wanted to enjoy meaningful, solid friendships I could not waste any time. I had to make friends consciously and I had to be a friend worth having.

Sadly, today’s fast-paced, shallow culture hinders the kind of friendships God desires us to have. Before we look at biblical principles for building and keeping friendships, let’s touch on a few things we’ll want to avoid.

3 obstacles to making meaningful friendships:

Occupation – Do you feel like you never have time to enjoy long conversations with the friends you have now? Weeks go by without meeting local friends face to face? Honestly, most of us take the time to do what we really want to do. If you think you’re too busy to cultivate deep friendships, try taking time out for a week to see where your time is going. Perhaps you’re serving in some areas where God has not called you. Or maybe you’re allowing too many activities for your children to dictate your life. Deliberately build a headroom in your life. Your friendships are essential to your emotional and spiritual well-being.

Fear of transparency – While we can’t “go deep” with all of our friends, we need some to share everything with. We need people who can listen to our hearts and understand. We also need friends who hold us accountable when we cross the line. However, all too often we fear that other people will recognize our flaws. We want them to think we have it all together. But we desperately need friends who challenge us to be all that God wants us to be. Yes, it can be scary, but test the waters. Pick a personl thing you want to share with your chosen friend and see how you fare!

Extensive connections – In our social media world, it’s easy to confuse quantity with depth. Thousands of superficial “friends” mask the lack of true and deep friendships. Let’s limit our time with our online friends and get out in the real world.

11 biblical principles for making and keeping true friends:

1. Take the initiative (Acts 18: 1-4) – One of my closest friends in life chose me as her friend before I really knew about her. Janet and her family were new to our town, so when they joined our church she wanted to make friends. She introduced herself to me and immediately started making a friendship. Janet taught me to take the initiative. Yes, it can be risky, but the rewards can be great!

2. Practice forgiveness (Colossians 3:13) – True friends don’t hold grudges or remember offenses. Instead, they are flexible and forgive quickly. Contemplating God’s forgiveness can help us when we struggle to forgive others.

3. Protect your language (Proverbs 16:28, Ephesians 4:29) – Loose lips spoil many friendships. Careless words hurt feelings. Voices foster divisions. Broken trust destroys trust. Before we speak, let’s pause to consider whether our words will tear down or build up.

4. Sii un "buono" amico (Ephesians 4, 2-3) – Christ’s character fosters deep and lasting friendships. Qualities such as humility, kindness, patience, and perseverance create a solid foundation on which to build friendships for life.

5. Extend hospitality (1 Peter 4: 9, Proverbs 25:17) – Sometimes we accept hospitality quickly, but we show it a little slower. Let’s make time to not only invite our friends to our homes, but to also make them feel welcome. On the flip side, Proverbs 25:17 warns us against taking advantage of our friend’s hospitality.

6. Stay close in difficult times (Proverbs 17:17, Proverbs 27:10, Romans 12:10) – A true friend remains loyal when problems arise. Even when other “friends” leave, they remain devoted and help in any way they can.

7. Feed them (Ephesians 5:21, Philippians 2: 3-4, Romans 12:10) – Friendship will disappear without the constant stream of time, attention and resources. Let’s show our friends we care about their needs and their interests with purposeful acts of kindness and generosity. Our friendships will flourish.

8. Listen to them (James 1:19) – It takes a lot of practice to keep your mouth shut and really listen to what others are saying. But this habit is worth developing. When others feel “heard”, they feel appreciated.

9. Sharpen them (Proverbs 27: 6, Proverbs 27:17, Colossians 3:16, Hebrews 10:24) – A best friend is not just a “yes man”. Pious friends draw others closer to Jesus.

10. Pray for them (Job 16: 20-21) – Our friends need our prayerful support. Not just the usual occasional prayers, but sincere intercession with God on their behalf.

11. Love them (John 13:34, John 15: 3, 1 Corinthians 13.4-8, 1 John 4: 7) – It is actually more difficult than we think. God calls us to love our friends as Jesus loves us, not just with words, but with deliberate acts of love that can often cost us something.

Marriage, like any friendship, begins in common spaces, but the stress of normal daily life – children, work, finances, illness, caring for elderly parents – can put a strain on the relationship and cause it to break up. Traditional marriage counseling is one way to deepen your friendship, but you can also engage in some simple practices.

Here are 12 tips for developing a stronger relationship with your spouse. I’ve also included quotes from average folks who have successfully built this kind of friendship:

  1. Understand that building friendships takes a lot of time and work. Cut the fat of your day.“We’ve made some significant concessions for the sake of our friendship. Phil lives close to his work so he can come home as often as possible for lunch. The short drive to work improved his mood and his energy. “– Amy
  2. Set a time each week to spend time together and then protect that time with your life!
  3. Choose to spend time together, not alone. This could mean sacrificing good things for the season, such as small groups, ministry, or time spent bonding with boys or girls.
  4. Find out about your spouse’s interests, whether it’s baseball, art, musical theater, gardening, or hunting. Find out what they are passionate about and join them. It often takes some dedication.“I purposely study things that concern my wife. If you are dealing with a new area of ​​interest or reading a new book, I have to do it too. “– Account
  5. Take some time to find common interests and then get involved with them.“We’ve tried many things together over the past 35 years. We love to cook and work in the garden and, as far as I can remember, we spend time away from the kids in the summer to backpack. Part of the fun is doing research on hiking trails, camp sites, packs, tents, and cooking stoves … it’s the planning together that has grown our friendship.”– gen
  6. Use conflict to sharpen and purify your friendship.“I thought I was particularly happy because my husband and I rarely argued: we agreed on almost everything. Healing from adultery revealed unhealthy communication on both sides. Now we have more disagreements, but they come about because we’re being honest with one another, which is helping us get to know each other more all the time.”– And I
  7. They eat and take care of each other. Be kind to each other.“We have lost our first child. We more than comforted each other. We held each other close … we raised each other … and we knew on a deep level that our best friend in the world was going through the same. “– Glenn
  8. Mutual responsibility and respect, including in the areas of sexuality, finance and relationships, should be a priority.“My wife knows all about my fracture. I was the first to find her in difficult situations. There’s a small circle of people who know me and know my depravity. My wife is in that circle. This transparency has given me strength, clarity and tremendous freedom “.– George
  9. Establish daily habits, especially by praying together.“Praying together each morning not only sets the tone for our day and relieves the burdens on our hearts, it puts us on the same page in so many areas. God meets us every morning in the midst of our friendship ”.– Justina
  10. Affirm each other every day. Be intentional in communicating the other’s strengths.“My wife and I have a habit of communicating regularly those things that we admire or appreciate in the other person. This practice has strengthened our friendship. “– To the
  11. Be transparent with yourself.“One of the activities I suggest to married couples is to recognize the emotional reality of their spouse at some point in the day. Label that feeling in a self-disclosing way such as ‘I’m angry, fearful, resentful.’ We often limit our conversation to reporting events rather than communicating how we really feel. “– Account
  12. Communication. Most experts agree that regular communication builds a friendship that will survive the storms of life.“For us, communication is partly about negotiating the rules that will make our relationship better or easier.

For example, I recently found out that my bicycle tools should be on the kitchen table. My wife, Annie, questioned this hypothesis and a conflict arose. At the end of our negotiations, we have developed a new rule: bicycle tools never end up on the kitchen table.

It sounds silly, but his request was a threat to my action, and therefore to my personlity, my manhood. In that encounter I had to learn that I was no less Jason, no less a man, no less a person, to concede to my wife’s demands that certain spaces are set aside for certain purposes. My personlity goes further and is deeper “.– Jason

How to become a friend

“Don’t wait for people to be friendly. Show them how.

The other night I called an old friend I hadn’t talked to in a while. As we caught up, shared stories, and laughed over private jokes that would sound ridiculous had the phone been tapped, I wondered why I let so much time go by since I’d last given her a call.

We don’t live close to each other, so grabbing a drink or hitting up a yoga class isn’t an option. But really connecting with her, sharing pieces of my life and receiving the pieces she wants to give, doesn’t require specific geography.

We can be great friends for each other, despite the distance, if we choose to make an effort. If we remember to take the time, we can have the kind of meaningful and rewarding conversations that make us feel seen, understood, appreciated, and supported.

Then I started thinking about all the times I was busy and lost touch with my friends who live down the street, moments when I got caught up in everything that was going on in my life and forgot to cultivate. my relationships.

We need meaningful connections with other people.

Not everyone has to be close friends, but an integral part of our happiness is that we show people who we really are, in return we let them know, and then we remind each other through the actions, big or small, that we care about.

We never need to be or feel alone in this world, but it’s up to us to create and allow opportunities to be together, enjoy each other, and be there for each other. It’s up to us to make our relationships priorities.

Con questo in mente, di recente ho chiesto su Facebook: "Cosa significa essere un vero amico?

I have compiled some of the ideas that impressed me strongly (some have been paraphrased or slightly modified to make them easier to read).

Here’s what Tiny Buddha readers have to say:

1. Always be thereeven in silence. (Nerrisa Nam)

2. Be kind and listen. Be fun and light. If necessary, be serious, love intensely and always forgive. (Sandra Kawałek)

3. Don’t be afraid to tell yourself the truth, no matter how hard it may be. (Ewa Valencia)

4. Guide each other in times of need with your sincere opinions. (Asna Singh)

5. A true friend is someone who always listens and is genuinely interested in good and evil and also in someone who calls or writes just to say hello. (Kimberly McCarthy)

6. Be loyal in confidence and characteralways open and encouraging to share concerns, always honest, even if you disagree. (Peggy Turner Beatty)

7. A true friend tries to cheer you up when you are nervous and it makes you feel special. (Kalpana Tewani)

8. Try to improve your life despite your friendship. (Barry Cassidy)

9. Be who you really are, be so sensitive, and give the other person space, security, and the opportunity to do the same. (The Hunt for Cynthia Ruprecht)

10. Be genuinely happy when they get, get, or get something you really want.(Erica Tucker)

11. Share the truth in your heart, without fear of misunderstanding. (Ricardo Marchesi)

12. Be loyal and forgive but above all: love and respect. (Casey Jo Wagner)

13. Accept the person as he is, as an individual, without any conditions. Also, while it is important that you are there for them, sometimes you have to want them to be there for you. (Casey Kim)

14. Stay friends despite life’s choices and don’t bail on them when they aren’t who you want them to be. (Kim Shaw)

15. A true friend is always supportivepersonbut I don’t feel obligated to supportsituation. A true friend knows how and when to say “No” to the company. (Leslie Mollay)

16. Help yourself and your loved ones grow. To live is to grow up and a true friend is someone you can honestly say has helped you define yourself as an individual. (Kevin Ball)

17. Celebrate the victories and support the losers. Keep your word and acknowledge it when you don’t. (Daisy branch)

18. Come to the aid of a friend when others leave.(Larry Stilts)

19. Do not hold a grudge for small misunderstandings.(Annika di Corte)

winds. Show! You can pretend you care, but you can’t pretend to introduce yourself. (Sherri Levy)

21. A true friend is someone you feel as comfortable with as when you are alone. Without illusions, without holding back. (Liz McComy)

22. Sii presente per l’altra person nello stesso modo in cui saresti per te stesso. Granted, if you can’t be there for yourself, that’s probably something you should address first. (Elizabeth McDaniels)

23. Don’t let your stuff get in the way. The ego is powerful. (Sabrina Toffey)

24. Discover someone’s least admirable qualities and continue to love and support them. (Talia Startsman)

And I’d like to add the last one: share your sincere appreciation whenever the opportunity arises.

I don’t know all of you, but I’ve gotten to know quite a few. To all the beautiful and inspiring people who come here and share pieces of themselves, thank you for being yourself and for taking me as I am.

Do you have something to add to the list?

About Lori Deschene

Lori Deschene is the founder of the Little Buddha. She’s also the author of Little Buddha’s Diary of Gratitude and other books, and co-founder of Recreate Your Life Story, an online course to help you forget your past and live the life you love. He recently introduced the Mindfulness Kit, which helps reduce stress and increase our peace and joy. For daily wisdom, join the Little Buddhas list here. You can also follow Tiny Buddha on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

Sadie married her best friend 20 years ago and she couldn’t have been happier. She believes that couples should try to be their closest companions.

Do you want to improve your marriage and bring more joy and spontaneity into your life together? Here are 15 little ways to remind your husband how much his love and friendship mean to you.

How to become a friend

Is there anything more comforting than hugging your best friend?

1. Be kind to each other. Look at your words. It costs absolutely nothing to say “please” and “thank you” often. Good manners matter, no matter how long you’ve been married! Essere il tuo migliore amico con il tuo amante non significa solo essere a tuo agio e a tuo agio con lui tutto il tempo. Don’t forget that building a strong friendship with someone means being kind, thoughtful, and grateful.

2. Share your notes. Write a love letter to your partner at least once a month, but try to write a love letter at least once a day. Love notes can be as simple as a sweet sticky note left on her briefcase, a sexy scribble on her bathroom mirror, or a romantic quote sent in an email. Remember when you were a kid in high school and how fun it was to sneak your handwritten notes to your best friend in class. Love notes and love letters are a great way to do this

3. Don’t take your husband for granted if you want him to be your best friend too. Express your appreciation and gratitude every day. Celebrate even the simplest of occasions by toasting your husband before a meal, even if that meal consists of eating takeaway sushi while browsing NetFlix trying to decide what to watch together.

4. Make small sacrifices. Quando decidi cosa guardare insieme in TV, guarda i programmi o i film che la person amata ama, anche se i suoi preferiti non fanno per te. Time spent together is precious no matter what you do. Being your spouse’s best friend involves giving and taking.

5. Read the books aloud. Remind yourself how safe and loved you felt as a child when your parent, grandparent, or other trusted friend read to you before bed. Or do you remember when you and your best friend were reading comics or teen magazines together? It has always been fun to share stories with your best friend when you were a kid, so why not do the same as an adult.

6. Pay attention. Notice when your spouse does something unexpected. Then he says thank you! If you want to be your husband’s best friend, don’t take anything for granted.

7. Be the first to apologize to yourself after an argument. It doesn’t matter who started it (you’re not eight, after all). When you are your spouse’s best friend, you don’t have to be bold or proud. Showing mutual sensitivity is what makes a friendship strong. When you are your spouse’s best friend, you don’t want to get angry because you know that every moment lost in anger is a moment lost in getting together and enjoying life together!

How to become a friend

Being your husband’s best friend is like winning a life of hugs!

8. Love (or at least be nice to them) the people you love.Treat your partner’s family and friends with the same love, attention, and respect that you treat those who are important to you!

9. If you are sharing the car, fill up with fuel. Take him to the car wash. Detail the interior. When your partner is stressed out and in a hurry to get to work, the last thing he wants when he’s already late is to have to stop and get gas or ride around in a smelly car. Best friends find ways to make life easier and reduce stress.

10. Make him smile even when you are not with him.Send your partner spontaneous text messages or links to funny websites throughout the day.

11. When your partner is tired, let him sleep. When he’s irritable, so be it. When he’s hungry, offer him a snack. Responding to your partner’s physical and emotional needs is a kind way to say ‘I love you!’ If your best friend felt tired and exhausted, you’d be there to offer love and comfort, right? So he thinks about how to offer love and comfort to your husband when he is having a bad day and may need some TLC.

12. Don’t gossip about your love life. If you need guidance on sex and romance, talk to a professional, counselor, anyone you can trust to keep your private life private. Think about how you would feel if you knew that your partner’s beer buddies knew all your favorite bedroom moves.

13. Don’t interrupt. Sometimes, when you know someone really well, you feel like you can finish their sentences. But just because you can, doesn’t mean you should. Say ‘I love you’ by being a good listener.

14. Don’t be afraid to ask for hugs and kisses when you need them. And be generous in return. When you are willing to ask for more affection, he will be more open to giving love and affection.

15. Remind him why you are crazy about him. Tell your partner how smart, sexy, funny, funny you think he is (insert your favorite adjective here). Don’t just offer compliments on the bad days, offer them randomly for no reason at all other than to remind him how wonderful he is!

How to become a friend

Does your husband have any special skills or talents that you admire and value? So don’t forget to tell him! being best friends means supporting and encouraging each other for their hopes and dreams.

Questo contenuto è accurato e veritiero al meglio delle conoscenze dell’autore e non intende sostituire i consigli formali e personlizzati di un professionista qualificato.

© 2016 Sadie Holloway

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Cecilia Jimenez GutierrezMarch 15, 2019:

While you can’t apply for an immigration visa or a friend’s Green Card (only family members can), you can financially sponsor a friend’s immigration petition using Form I-864, Affidavit of Support.

If your friend is applying for an immigration visa, you should submit Form I-864 when your friend schedules an interview with a consular officer at the U. S. embassy or consulate. If your friend is already in the United States and needs you to sponsor him to change his permanent resident status (called a Green Card), you can submit Form I-864 when he applies for a change of status.

However, before you commit to financially sponsoring your friend’s immigration petition, you should understand exactly what it is that you’re committing to. As a financial sponsor, you ensure that the immigrant receives sufficient financial support from their employment and your financial help so that it does not become a public levy.

If your friend receives benefits from an income-based government assistance program, you will be liable for a fine and / or civil lawsuit to pay the debt to the US government. This commitment lasts until the immigrant becomes a naturalized US citizen or pays Social Security for 40 quarters (typically 10 years), whichever comes first.

The good news is that your financial responsibility ends with government aid programs. Contrary to popular opinion, you are not liable for your immigrant friend’s personl debt, credit cards, or medical bills. As long as you make sure it’s not covered by income-based government aid programs, you’re safe.

Demonstrated federal public benefit for funding

In general, immigrants are prohibited from receiving assistance from any of the following income-related public benefit programs. Participation in one of these programs will result in direct liability to the sponsoring family member or friend.

  • Food stamps
  • medical help
  • State Child Health Insurance Program (SCHIP)
  • Income from Supplemental Securities (SSI)
  • Temporary assistance for families in difficulty (TANF)

Government aid programs excluded

Not all government assistance programs are open to immigrants. Your immigrant friend can accept help from any of the following programs without any liability to you (their sponsor):

  • Certain forms of foster care or adoption assistance under the Social Security Act
  • Emergency medical services
  • Head Start Programs
  • Vaccinations, tests and treatment of infectious diseases
  • Programs of the Partnership Act in the field of vocational training
  • Programs to control wealth under the Primary and Secondary Education Act
  • Services provided under national school meal and child nutrition laws
  • Short-term urgent cashless assistance
  • Aid to students on the basis of the Higher Education Act and the Public Health Service Act

Income requirements

Although anyone can sponsor an immigrant financially, there are some basic income requirements that a sponsor must meet in order to be considered eligible for sponsorship. It is worth noting that your family income must be above 125% of the US poverty level for your family size. In conjunction with the US Department of Health & Human Services, USCIS has issued the following guidance on the matter:

  • Family 2 – $ 20,575
  • Family 3 – $ 25,975
  • Family 4 – $ 31,375
  • Family 5 – $ 36,775
  • Family of 6 – $ 42,175
  • Family of 7 – $ 47,575
  • Family of 8 – $ 52,975
  • For each additional family member, add $ 5,400

In this case, your household includes you, your dependents, any relatives living with you, and any immigrants you sponsor. For example, if you and your spouse live alone with no children, your family includes three people. If your parents moved to the basement, your family size would increase to five.

Financial sponsors active in the US military have a little more leeway. Instead of placing a 25% premium on the US poverty line, active duty sponsors would only need to present income that is equal to the US poverty level for their household size (i. e. 100% of the US poverty level).

How to submit a statement of support?

After completing Form I-864, sign the form in the presence of a notary to authenticate the declaration. Then print a copy of your most recent federal and W-2 tax return to verify your annual income and provide proof of employment. To strengthen your case, you’re welcome to include up to three years of tax returns, six months of pay stubs, and a letter from your employer.

A seconda della situation, potrebbe essere necessario allegare uno o più dei seguenti documenti giustificativi:

  • If you are self-employed, please include a copy of Appendix C, D, E, or F from your most recent federal tax return
  • If you are on active duty with the US military or the US coast guard and rely on the modified US 100% poverty line requirement, include proof of active military status
  • Se stai utilizzando il reddito di altri membri della famiglia, compila un modulo I-864A separato per ogni person
  • Se stai utilizzando il reddito di membri della famiglia che non sono elencati come persone a carico nella tua dichiarazione dei redditi federale, fornisci la prova della residenza di quella person nella tua famiglia e la prova della loro relazione con te
  • If the immigrant is a co-sponsor of your petition, provide evidence that his current employment will continue from the same source
  • Se stai contando sul valore equo di mercato dei tuoi beni personli o domestici, includi la documentazione di proprietà, ubicazione, data di acquisizione e valore per qualificarti. If there is a lien or other liability on the asset, provide proof of the pledge or liability
  • If you are a US citizen, please attach proof of your citizenship status (birth certificate, naturalization certificate, passport)
  • If you are a legal permanent resident (green card), please include a copy of both sides of Form I-551, permanent residence card

When your sponsorship package is complete, give it to your immigrant friend. If they are outside the US and require an immigration visa, they will send the package to the US embassy or consulate where they will conduct the visa interview. If they are located in the United States and require a change of state, they can file an affidavit along with the application package.

Un migliore amico è "un terapeuta con cui puoi bere" e molto altro.

How to become a friend

When we are young, it seems that there is no shortage of “best friends”. However, as we mature, the nature of our friendships changes. Having or being a best friend is no longer as simple as calling someone our best friend and reciprocating.

Other more important factors come into play, including:

  1. Emotional support. This is probably the most important part of any adult friendship. Best friends refrain from unnecessarily criticizing each other and usually don’t judge.
  2. Your best friend will listen to you and answer wisely, noto react to what you’ve said even if you have triggered something in him or her. Being able to hear what someone else is saying is one of the best parts of a friendship.
  3. Best friends do everything for the people they care about, and it’s good for both parties. You can tell who your true friends are when you need help getting around or driving to the airport.
  4. Prudence is a trait that deepens and strengthens every friendship. Being able to see someone else’s needs—and to do what you can to fulfill those needs—enables bonding experiences. Our best friends do things for us that no one else would have thought of.
  5. Reliability. When you know you can call your best friend to save yourself from trouble 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, you will feel better and increase your overall confidence.
  6. Best friends accept you and all your faults. They don’t expect perfection. When you aren’t at your best, they are understanding rather than critical. If you’re having a bad day, someone who cares for you will ask if they can help or if they should let you be alone if that’s what you need.
  7. A friend once gave me a cocktail napkin that read, “Friends are therapists you can drink with.” A good friendship is truly therapeutic, even if a good friend isn’t the same as a drinking buddy.
  8. A strong friendship defines both of you and helps each of you navigate what is called life. Your friend is a mirror that reflects who you are to him. In other words, your best qualities shine and those elements that need improvement are not judged but understood.
  9. Some of us find it difficult to cry alone. Instead, we may need a shoulder to cry on, and having a friend you feel comfortable with is a gift. In the face of difficulties, having someone with whom you can truly ease your pain can be invaluable.
  10. Your best friends support you. Knowing that you can trust someone else to be comfortable with yourself allows you to both discover and enjoy more new things than on your own.

It’s a life affirmation to have a best friend who helps you grow but not bring you down. You have to be willing to give as much as you want to get, but I don’t know anyone who thinks a good friendship is not worth the effort.