January 23, 2018 6 min read
When I moved to New York after college, people warned me about a lot of things. They talked about cold winters, traffic jams, the high cost of living, and the stressful nature of life in an over-stimulating city. What people have not mentioned or just given an idea of how lonely it can be when headed to a new place away from home.
We often overlook being alone, though it’s a necessary component of becoming a functional and capable adult, one who can whether the harsh storms and the winters of life that are certain to come. Whether it’s the loss of a loved one, a move to a new city, or simply the implementation of new habits that take us away from old peers, being alone is one knock at the door away. It’s a close neighbor. A route with which we can certainly make friends.
Note that I say lonely because whether we feel lonely or alone is under our control. We can be alone without feeling lonely, just as we can feel lonely when we’re with others.
“Why would you even want to be alone?” You can ask. “Human beings are social creatures,” one might say. It’s true. We’re pack animals. We need people. We grow by building communities, neighborhoods, cities, towns and groups. Our identities in them are how we give meaning to the world and how we find fulfillment. But despite our need for each other, there still remains a place in our minds, a crevice that can’t necessarily be filled with other humans.
L’uomo religioso vi dirà che questa frattura è un bisogno di Dio. An atheist might tell you it’s simply the existential dread of being human. An agnostic might tell you that’s the void where we find meaning. Whatever definition you choose, that’s the hole that we have to fill when being alone happens. That’s the void you have to fill on sleepless nights when you have to solve problems and come to terms with your thoughts, the anxious and the afraid, all on your own. It’s the same void that has to be filled when a loved one passes away or when your aspirations and needs pull you away from communities, friends, and loved ones.
There’s an irony that to in order to be a capable companion or lover, there has to be a healthy detachment from the relationship. For a person to say they can’t live without someone, or to set that expectation, is unfair and unrealistic. What tremendous pressure. How can one live up to the ambition of being the sole bearer of another person’s inner strength? Even if it’s accomplished successfully, won’t death or illness take away the capacity to bear that responsibility?
A quote from the movie Fight Club says, “It’s only after we’ve lost everything that we’re free to do anything.” And it’s the truth. Our expectations and desires are our own chains. “Blessed is he who expects nothing, because he will never fail,” says Alexander Pope. Just as the one who seeks refuge and safety in a job, friend, lover, or community will have their earth shattered if those structures are broken or don’t live up to expectations.
But if we’ve learned to live with minimal needs and through self-sufficiency, aren’t we more capable to enjoy and give life’s gifts our all when we have them? They become addition to our lives, ones that we can be vulnerable with, because we trust the strength we’ve built inside of ourselves to be ok if we are to lose any of them. “The most important thing in life is the freedom to do things. There are only two ways to ensure this freedom: you can be rich or you can reduce your needs to nothing, says military strategist and fighter pilot John Boyd.
Whether you are religious or not, the Bible provides wisdom and deals with topics such as loneliness and independence. In 1 Thessalonians 4, 11-12 it says: “and that your ambition is to lead a peaceful life: you should take care of your business and work with your hands, as we have told you, so that your daily life is overcome by respect. for strangers and for anyone dependent “.
Because if we aren’t dependent, aren’t we more capable to give to others? Stay with them in need? There’s a reason we place the mask over ourselves in an airplane before we help those around us. We need to be able to protect ourselves before we can perform other tasks, because protecting others is actually part of our job. And we have many single peers who need companionship or help.
As for single peers, author Kevin Vost wrote his memo. He says: “Today I will meet someone lonely, perhaps in mourning, a stranger in this city, school or work, a person who feels excluded even in his own family, and that person may be ignoring me. Don’t look me in the eye, don’t return my greetings. , don’t be suspicious of me, but I will remember that these people are my brothers and sisters and God has called us to be there for each other. Therefore, I will continue to try to connect with them, even in the smallest way, to reduce the burden of their loneliness “.
Relocation to a new city or a solo backpacking trip through Europe isn’t possible for everyone. We all have duties and responsibilities to fulfill at home. The thought of being alone may not be something that resonates with you, but we can all build our mental resolutions in many ways.
Yoga. Meditation. I swim. Walking. Religion. Philosophy. There’s many options. I choose a gear. I often run without music. I especially do this if I’m aiming to run a longer distance than usual. It’s so I can be alone with my thoughts and come to terms with them. All my fears, anxieties, ambitions and needs can be resolved through movement. It’s my place to be as honest as possible with the things that go through my mind, and not only come to terms with them, but move past them. Literally.
Sometimes on a run this means I’m thinking the same thought over and over again like a song that’s on a loop. A very physical example of overcoming something difficult literally reminds me that I can overcome other difficulties. The common denominator in all difficulties is me, so I cultivate the context of how to get the job done.
Whatever way you choose to be alone, know that it will only strengthen your resolve. As the German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche said: “No one can build you a bridge over which you and you alone must cross the river of life. There may be countless paths, bridges and demigods willing to take you; but only at the cost of a pledge and resignation. There is a path in the world that no one but you can walk. Where is it leading? Don’t ask, walk!”
Life is long. It’s hard. Some say it’s suffering. If you aren’t forced to be alone now, you will eventually. And just like the many older adults I saw in New York City who live alone and do so with ease — with their laundry list of memories and trials they’ve faced throughout their lives running through their minds — so can you. We’re cut from the same cloth. People are very flexible. We’re capable of great feats. Loneliness is something you can overcome.
Loneliness is a state of loneliness without feeling alone. It is a feeling of peace and tranquility despite being without anyone. It is accepting that, despite so many or so few people in life, we too must be alone.
Loneliness does not mean loneliness
We are programmed to seek social connections and social interactions. As science states, we are social animals. However, our desire to belong to others and to find relationships often leads us to loneliness and sadness. We feel pain and suffer when we are excluded or when we don’t have significant people in our life, such as close friends, romantic partners, parents, or a community that accepts us.
Loneliness or omission makes us feel overwhelmed and lost. We feel the pain overwhelm us. As humans, we tend to seek social interaction to find joy and happiness. There is nothing wrong with enjoying the company of others, but learning to be alone, rather than wanting or pretending to belong, can be truly EXTRUSIVE.
When you are alone, you can feel your thoughts and feelings. You can find time for yourself. Enjoy one’s company and entertain one’s self. By being alone, you can associate with yourself and connect with your soul.
How can you find happiness on your own?
Loneliness is synonymous with sadness and a sense of abandonment, loneliness is a feeling of happiness while being alone. Finding happiness despite loneliness is essential for us to face life and free ourselves from suffering and pain, because in life we will never be able to be with others forever.
There will be times when you will be lonely because you are single and not in a relationship, while others around you are dating or getting married and have children. Sometimes you will run out of friends because the people around you are different from you due to your background or beliefs. For some reason, your family may even isolate you. But when you learn to be happy, even when you are alone, you get really STRONG.
1. Love yourself
The key to being happy when alone is falling in love with yourself. You got to love yourself like you’d love a newly born baby or a new summer love. You need to be considerate and affectionate. You have to know that you are important and you have to show it to the only person who matters: YOU!
There are so many times that we say we love ourselves but in reality, we really don’t. You don’t sleep enough because you scrolled far too many minutes or hours on your phone wasting time away.
You don’t exercise because you feel it’s not important. You don’t eat right or you hurry through your meals to get back to work right away.
But this is wrong. You have to love yourself 100% to learn that you can be happy even in your company.
2. Get rid of loneliness when you are alone
When you see your friends going out together and they didn’t invite you, you feel left out and unhappy. When you’ve been wanting to be in a relationship but you can’t seem to find the one, you get lonely. But you have to console yourself when you are alone.
Make affirmations. Appreciate the freedom you have now. Don’t feel left out. Count the things that make you happy when you are alone and be happy instead of feeling a crack in your heart swallowing your soul.
LOVE YOU ENOUGH TO LISTEN TO YOUR THOUGHTS. You have to love yourself enough for yourself with the gift of time and silence. Your mind needs rest. He has to stop hitting the numbers and run all day. You need to rest. You need to be able to sit still and listen to your breath.
Now once you have meditated, it’s time to talk to yourself. Hear how your mind tells you about your hopes, dreams, fears and affirmations.
4. Motivate yourself
Nobody will ever pick you up unless you get up and decide to get up.
You have to learn to decide on life. You have to learn to set goals and work on them with passion and ambition. You are not a failure. You are wonderful and you need to create a life that your future self will be grateful for.
5. Make an appointment
Sounds fun but yeahyou have to make an appointment.Whether you are married, in a couple or single, you have to go out with yourself every now and then.
You have to go out and eat alone and enjoy the meal. Go shopping or watch a movie yourself. You have got to know that being alone and having yourself for company isn’t so bad.
6. Have a hobby
Yes, it may sound cliche’ but having a hobby is a must. You need an activity that you can do and enjoy. You need a hobby that makes you feel that loneliness is wonderful. You also need to be able to get lost in this hobby and find joy in doing it.
You need to learn to spend time on your hobbies.
Many adults forget to make time for their hobbies because they feel there isn’t time for it. But this is wrong. Not devoting time to your passions and hobbies can leave you feeling exhausted and exhausted.
7. Minimize social media
Too many Facebook or Instagram can make you feel more lonely and miserable. You may feel jealous, bitter and even angry as you watch others enjoy life without you, as you sit here alone and watch them have a fun life.
When you spend too much time on social media, we tend to feel lonely, which at times consumes us to the point of pain and stress.
Don’t waste your time on social media. Look at it and check it for a few minutes but don’t turn it into a hobby. Find a real hobby instead of swiping on your phone.
The most important way to be happy with yourself is to write down your thoughts and feelings.
Keeping a journal is a necessary step in finding joy, happiness, and peace. Writing down your thoughts allows you to find release and focus. It also helps you understand what really matters. Another benefit of keeping a journal is the ability to go back in time and go back to the past on the pages of your journal.
Loneliness can be sentimental
Loneliness is not a bad thing. It is necessary to find peace and relief despite the difficulties of life.
You have to learn to accept your business and not feel the constant need to be supported by others. You have to find out for yourself how to be happy. Finding joy in solitude is the best gift you can give yourself.
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How to be happy while still being happy
“Happy are only those who focus on something other than their own happiness. By striving for something else in this way, they also find happiness. “
The pursuit of happiness is overrated. As it turns out, the key to happiness is to focus on something other than happiness. But what does happiness look like in a secular age? In an era where it is commonly understood that the universe is inherently meaningless, what does meaning also mean?
To the extent that happiness and meaning are man-made concepts, it is understandable that it is the individual’s responsibility to determine what makes him happy. It just happens that what usually makes people happy is to focus on meaningful experiences, not happiness itself.
For real. After all, the meaning of life is what you want your life to matter. This life-bringing meaning will bring happiness “by the way”. Especially in regards to the following four focal points for conveying meaning in a meaningless universe: autonomy and curiosity, competence and creativity, kinship and kindness, lack of attachment and a good sense of humor. Let’s break it down…
1.) Focus on autonomy and curiosity:
“I don’t want to survive. I want to live.”
What makes your life meaningful? To answer this question you need autonomy and curiosity. Autonomy is being the author of one’s own story. Curiosity is the joy of discovering what to write about.
It starts from the will. You have to be free to make individual choices. You must be free to practice your value system and pursue goals that you deem worthy.
This could mean asking deeply unpleasant questions (self-questioning). This can mean thinking outside the box, regenerating cultural determinants, or bravely stepping out of the comfort zone. It will certainly mean coming to terms with unique psychological, genetic and social predispositions.
Autonomy and curiosity will help you discover the meaning of your journey. Happiness becomes a by-product of the journey being the goal of happiness. In short, self-discovery creates meaningful happiness despite happiness itself.
2.) Focus on competence and creativity:
“Don’t be too timid and squeamish about your actions, all life is an experiment. The more experiments you do, the better. “
Instead of happiness, look for competence and creativity. By focusing on a skill set, knowledge domain, or art – and proactively increasing your skills – happiness will come from a sense of mastery and commitment to a worthwhile endeavor.
If you’re having difficulty discovering a skillset or an artform to devote yourself to, simply go back to phase one and focus on what makes you feel autonomous and curious. You’re sense of freedom and deep curiosity will guide you toward a worthy endeavor.
Creativity and competence will take your skills to the next level and increase your happiness as well. Focusing on creativity will enhance your uniqueness by giving art an aesthetic quality and a sense of beauty.
Happiness comes when you focus on competence and creativity while living in the moment by creating art and beauty that can lead to greater fluidity. When you strive to increase your creative skills, you are happy despite your happiness. In short, self-improvement creates meaningful happiness despite happiness itself.
3.) Focus on kinship and kindness:
"L’ultima fonte di felicità non è il denaro e il potere, ma la cordialità".
If you want happiness and a more meaningful life, raise your level of kinship and kindness. Nothing will make you happier than bringing happiness to others.
Kinship is the feeling of being connected and caring for others. Benevolence is a desire to have a positive influence in people’s lives while improving mankind and the world. If you combine these two and then put them into practice, you will become a force of happiness to be reckoned with.
Bringing happiness to others can take the form of small or large acts of kindness – writing an influential article or novel, spending time and money on social causes, or using your expertise and creativity to bring joy to others. And so on.
It can also be as simple as laughing or smiling. When you feel you have a healthy influence on the lives of others, your sense of meaning increases as you feel your life matters. Your sense of belonging to something greater than you increases both meaning and happiness.
Happiness comes when you focus on kinship and acts of kindness because a deep sense of community and interdependence will make you feel more connected to others. When you focus on the happiness of others, you will be happy despite the happiness. In short: Interconnectedness creates meaningful happiness despite happiness itself.
4.) Focus on lack of attachment and a good sense of humor:
"La razza umana ha solo un’arma efficace, ed è la risata."
When it’s all said and done, you have to be able to let go. After autonomy and curiosity, after competence and creativity, after kinship and kindness, detach yourself from the result.
Take a deep breath. Have a laugh. Your defeats won’t last, but neither will your victories. Celebrate your successes and learn from your failures, then let it all go away with a carefree attitude. Remember: travel is the most important thing.
Ironically, you are more likely to live well if you can break away from the need for a good life. And the only correct answer to irony is a sense of humor. The ability to laugh at oneself and even at a cosmic joke is priceless.
Practicing healthy detachment and a good sense of humor will keep you from taking yourself too seriously. It will prevent you from sticking to a certain result, certainty or belief. It will help you “go Meta,” giving you a bird’s-eye-view perspective over your life, which can help you reprogram obsolete programing and recondition unhealthy conditioning.
Happiness comes from practicing non-attachment and a good sense of humor as you are able to gain a healthy perspective that will help you adapt better to unexpected changes. In short: the cross between detachment and Meta’s good sense of humor creates meaningful happiness despite happiness itself.
Ultimately, the biggest irony is that by using these four tools to focus, you can live happily without ever being happy.
This article was written by Trudi Griffin, LPC, MS. Trudi Griffin is a licensed professional counselor from Wisconsin specializing in addiction and mental health. She deals with people struggling with addictions, mental health and trauma in the healthcare setting and in private practice. She earned a Masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Marquette University in 2011.
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Up to half of the population is estimated to be introverted (sometimes referred to as “loner”).  X Research source Despite these statistics, it seems that society is making those of us who would rather spend time alone feel somewhat wrong. Fortunately, the truth about this is that many people love to be alone and prefer to lie down on the sofa and watch a movie rather than go to a big party. Se sei un solitario, prendi provvedimenti per accettarlo dentro di te, trova il modo di trascorrere del tempo da solo e impara a divertirti ad uscire e a fare le cose da solo. You will realize that you are fine just the way you are and that there are many others who are the same.
Learn the healthful aspects of loneliness.
In today’s ever-interconnected world, finding solitude has become a lost art. We tend to equate the desire to be alone with lonely, sad or antisocial people. But seeking solitude can be quite healthy. In fact, spending time alone has many physical and psychological benefits.
The benefits of seeking solitude
1. Loneliness allows you to restart your brain and relax. Being constantly “on” doesn’t give the brain a chance to rest and recover. Being alone, without being distracted, gives you a chance to clear your mind, focus and think more clearly. It is an opportunity to revitalize the mind and body at the same time.
2. Loneliness helps improve concentration and increase productivity.By removing as many distractions and interruptions from your day as possible, you’ll be able to focus better, which will help you get more work done in less time.
3. Loneliness gives you the opportunity to discover yourself and your own voice.When you are part of a group, you are more likely to agree with what the group is doing or thinking, which is not always the actions you would take or the decisions you would make if you were alone.
4. Loneliness gives you time to think deeply. Daily chores and commitments can make your to-do list seem endless. This constant movement prevents deep thinking, which inhibits creativity and reduces productivity.
5. Loneliness helps you deal with problems more effectively.It is difficult to find effective solutions to problems when you are distracted by incoming information, whether it is an electronic or human source.
6. Loneliness can improve the quality of your relationships with others. By spending time with yourself and better understanding who you are and what you want in life, you have a better chance of making better choices about who you want to be. You may also enjoy your relationships more after spending time alone.
Despite knowing these benefits, finding time alone in a world that never seems to sleep can be a challenge. Here are some ideas to help you find more time for yourself.
- Disconnect. Take time each day to disconnect from all ways of connecting with others. Turn off your cell phone. Turn off the Internet. Turn off the television. Se utilizzi il tuo computer per comporre, ad esempio, scrivere, scrivere senza tutte le suonerie, i suoni e i segnali acustici forniti con la tua connessione Internet. You will be surprised at how much else you can do when you are not distracted.
- Get up or get up early. Wake up half an hour or an hour earlier than everyone else in the house and use this time to create, produce, solve problems, meditate, or anything else that makes you happy. This strategy also works when you can get to work before everyone else arrives and before the phones start ringing.
- Close your door. It’s simple, but it can be very effective. A customer who owns a community magazine puts a sign on her door when she wants to spend time alone. The sign reads: “I edit or write. If the police are here, the office is on fire, or if George Clooney calls or comes by, you can interrupt me. If not, please keep all questions at bay until my door opens. “He said he decided to put up the sign after realizing that his presence in the office was a stimulus for questions.” Every time that I was in the office, “he said,” I thought there was question after question. I was interrupted all the time and it was hard for me to get the job done. After that, I noticed that on the days I was working on the story outside the office my phone hardly ever rang, even though I was away all day. Apparently all questions were somehow resolved without me. I realized that just being in the office is a question magnet. So I left a mark and it works like a spell.
- Use lunch time. Don’t waste time working at your desk. Don’t spend it on running errands. And if you go out for lunch regularly, don’t think that you have to be with others all the time. Once a week, or even several times a month, decide to spend dinner together. To go. Sit out in the sun. Go to the park and eat. Enjoy the time you have alone.
- Plan for solitude. Literally. Mark the time on your diary or calendar to spend alone with yourself. If you can find time for all the little extras that fit your day, like stopping by Starbucks or buying something at the mall, you can schedule solitude time on your calendar. It doesn’t have to last long. Whenever you can spend alone with yourself to restart your computer, meditate, concentrate, relax, create, produce and / or think deeply it is better that there is no time.
In my next post, “Why You Shouldn’t Feel Guilty About Stealing Some Time For Yourself,” I talk about ways to negotiate one-on-one with friends and family and how to avoid feeling guilty about it. And if you have effective strategies you use to steal some time for yourself, share them with readers in the comment section below.
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Seize the thought
September 14, 2019 5 min read
I never really matched the crowd. I feel more alone when I’m in a room full of people. I always have the annoying feeling in the back of my head of grabbing a book, finding a secluded spot, and disappearing into a new world.
Today, all loneliness is judged and locked in a cage by the constant demand for decency. However, this is a key feature for living life to the fullest. This bizarre account has been the subject of much debate with high-ranking writers. Emerson and Thoreau, two giants of literature – – – – the teacher and protégé hid every day in the pastures to compose poetry. They went in many ways to hide, planting trees around their home so that no one could see them.
“ Genius feels the necessity of isolation” — Emerson
Our society proclaims that we cannot find true happiness without partners, soulmates or close friends and the need to share time with other people is emphasized in our early life. On the contrary, there have always been people who have had a hard time connecting with others, this concept has made us feel abnormal and excluded. We destroy our desire for solitude.
Anthony Storr in his book — — Loneliness argues that satisfaction can come in different forms, places and through creative projects. It can be as easy as expressing yourself. There is no single formula and relationships aren’t the only pot of gold we should be chasing.
"Loneliness scelta deliberatamente è una parte fondamentale di una vita creativa e dovrebbe essere accettata se ci fa comodo" – – Storr in Loneliness.
Sarah Maitland has been my go-to for learning about this, she hasn’t lived the quietest of lives, and actually she was the second child of soon to be six children in a family of six. She has lived a noisy life with a constant influx of visitors due to her outgoing parents. Over time she became obsessed with silence and thus in her early works talks about solitude.
“I was fascinated by the silence; from what happens to the human spirit, to identity and personality, when talking stops, when you press the off button, when you vent into this vast void. Interesowała mnie cisza jako zagubiony fenomen kulturowy, jako rzecz piękna i jako przestrzeń, która była wielokrotnie eksplorowana i wykorzystywana przez różne jednostki, z różnych powodów i z bardzo różnymi skutkami. I started using my life as a kind of laboratory to test some ideas and find out what it was like. To my surprise, I found that I love silence. I was fine with it. I want more. In my hunt for more silence, I found this valley and built a house here, on the ruins of an old shepherd’s cottage.
As a society, we have reached the point where individuality and self-realization are considered the variables that lead to success, but at the same time we avoid the process of improving individuality; fear of loneliness.
"Everyone is Unique" è sempre stato un inno umano, ma disdegniamo il metodo più antico per sviluppare l’unicità: la solitudine.
The Psychologist Karin Arndt talks about her research as she explains in her article. She inferred that people would rather be in the company of others who they don’t enjoy than be alone, noticing common habits like compulsively talking on call just to not feel left out in group settings. How many times have we turned on the TV ourselves when we got home so as not to feel alone?
Sarah Maitland states further in her book How to be alone on how we have arrived at this stage.
“No wonder we fear loneliness, even if only a little more than is allowed in recent social forms. No wonder we want loneliness to be “sad, crazy and mean” – consciously or unconsciously, those of us who want to do something so clearly countercultural reveal or even broaden the dividing lines.
But the truth is, the current paradigm doesn’t really work. Despite the intense care and attention shown to the individual self; despite more than a century of attempts to “raise your self-esteem” in the belief that it will simultaneously strengthen individuality and create good citizens; despite the courageous attempts to consolidate relationships and the weakest inhibitions; despite intimidating efforts to make dragons more independent and creative, to become “team players”; despite the promises of personal freedom made to us by neoliberalism and the cult of individualism and rights, the well seems to dry up. We live in a society marked by unhappy children, alienated youth, politically disengaged adults, astounding consumerism, growing inequalities, deeply frightening unrest throughout the economy, rising rates of mental illness, and a planet so devastated that we could end up destroying an entire business. .
Of course, we also live in a world of great beauty, selfless and passionate love, tenderness, prosperity, courage and joy. But quite a lot of this seems to happen regardless of the paradigm and lofty thoughts of philosophy. It has always been like that. Precisely because it has always happened, we face these problems in the hope that it will happen more often and for more people ”.
How have we come to believe that a list of few people on social media would lead to security or seeking marriage just because you ‘shouldn’t’ be alone? The overtime development of the now ingrained way of condemning anyone seeking solitude has killed many people’s desires of being happy by themselves.
Storr examines the hypocrisy in our thinking. We would still rather be described as sensitive, soulful, and contemplative and all the softer qualities that usually come with so-called ‘perverse’ introversion. Anyone and everyone would choose to be a lone traveler rather than a travel agency, intellectual rather than an official.
"If you tell people enough times that they are unhappy, incomplete, maybe crazy and downright selfish, there will surely come a gray morning when they’ll wake up with the onset of a bad cold and wonder if they’re not lonely or just" lonely. " – – Sara Maitland.
Be proud loners, treat introversion as a character trait, not a flaw.
Well, to live happily alone, you need to understand a term‘Loneliness’.
Most people only know about loneliness, nobody talks about loneliness. Even if you tell someone that you are happy alone, they have come to think that you are alone.
The importance of loneliness
Lonelinessit’s something when you want to talk to someone, be with you, but you don’t have anyone.
How to deal with loneliness?
Loneliness = samotność, to proces myślowy niektórych ludzi. We just need to understand the importance of loneliness.
The meaning of loneliness-
Lonelinessit’s the kind of feeling where we really want to be happy with ourselves and want to think about a healthy life.
They are two different terms: Loneliness can lead to depression, fear, regret, and loneliness to help you move forward in life. On the other hand, loneliness is a negative term and loneliness is a positive term.
#How can we become alone?
Loneliness is all about the realization of this fact that ‘I am suffering’ for that you have to get that much responsibility to know what ‘suffering’ really means. A person responsible enough to see what suffering actually is will never be alone in life. That means he already attained Loneliness.
How to be happy alone?
There are two things in life.
1> Temporary things
-> Things which born and die.
2> Permanent things
-> Things which not born nor die.
Living truly happily while developing loneliness is very important.
Loneliness is already there in you, it’s just that you never try to develop it, once you starting realizing that "Voglio vivere la mia vita a modo mio" ci arriverai.
Human beings are social beings. They love to be together. Whether it’s at home, work or community, people love to be together with their mates.
When someone tries to be alone, it is generally viewed as antisocial behavior.
Despite differing views on loneliness, being away from the crowd has its advantages. Isolation is calm if you know how to be together.
This article discusses beauty and freedom in solitude.
Loneliness vs. feeling lonely
Loneliness to uczucie, że nikt się o ciebie nie troszczy. You may feel alone even when you are in the congregation. This is where you feel isolated when you don’t want to be isolated.
For example, suppose you are at a party. While the others are enjoying the moment, you are sitting in the corner of the room. Even if you want to join others, you don’t feel or know how to connect with them. This is loneliness.
Loneliness is a voluntary decision to be with yourself. It’s time to relax and reconnect with yourself, enjoying the bliss of solitude.
Especially after a long day, nothing could be better than taking the time to reflect on your day, resolve any issues and allow time to rejuvenate.
Loneliness fa bene?
Loneliness a breve termine ha un effetto positivo sulla salute fisica e mentale. Here are some of the benefits of loneliness.
It’s time to navigate your inner self:
You need to interact with family and friends. At the same time, it is good to have time for yourself to move within your interior.
You can practice short “me” periods. This means a few minutes for myself.
It will help you see how you are doing.
Se ci sono emozioni negative in te, come senso di colpa, preoccupazione, tristezza, gelosia, ecc., "il mio tempo" ti consente di affrontare queste emozioni.
If you let negative emotions go unanswered, your mind becomes impure. As a result, your words and actions will also be unclean.
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A few minutes of downtime is the best opportunity to recharge. We use energy in the workplace or at home. We need to let the body and mind regain positive energy through solitude.
· Loneliness gives freedom:
People who seek spiritual development practice solitude.
If you represent a group of people, you are limited by the values and responsibilities of that particular group.
When you are alone, nothing stops you. This way your creativity, positive thinking and spiritual development will develop.
Most philosophers, scientists and spiritual leaders spend their time alone.
How to practice solitude?
Stay away from digital media
Being alone doesn’t mean spending all your time on the phone or other digital media. Make sure you take a break from digital media before getting ready for “me time”.
Some people spend rare moments in their life on cell phones. They fill minds with loads of thought-stimulating information.
This is not a loneliness goal. Therefore, you absolutely have to go offline.
Take a walk in nature
Weather permitting, it’s best to take a nature walk to get some fresh air. This gives you energy to do other activities throughout the day.
Scientists have found that grounding allows for electron charges stored in the ground to be received.
Engage in things you enjoy doing
Our life commitments keep us away from the things we love to do. Whether you work in the garden, raise a pet, or do yoga, you have plenty of time for the activities you enjoy.
Follow the relaxing method:
Following the method of enjoying the quiet moments is one aspect of loneliness.
Find a discreet place and go to meditation. You can practice deep breathing, loving-kindness for a few minutes, and even contemplate the death meditation.
This will help you go deeper into yourself. Gradually, the meditation stifles your racing thoughts.
At the end of the session, you find peace and harmony.
In your “time for me” rediscover yourself. See if you are okay, if there are worries in you, how you can overcome unpleasant memories from the past, etc. Let all the negative energy flow out of you.
You love yourself more than anyone else in the world. Apprezza chi sei, cosa hai fatto finora e i tuoi risultati. Celebrate yourself and be grateful for everything you have received in this life.
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How do I find time to be alone during the day?
We play various roles as a mother, spouse, employee and even as a person staying at home. Regardless, it can be difficult to find time for yourself without disturbing others.
Maybe you can wake up a few minutes before others wake up to have those precious moments for you.
Postpone the urge to check your phone as soon as you wake up.
Take a deep breath to relax.
Pay attention to the in and out breath.
Spend some beautiful moments in silence.
Hour of the day:
Make sure you take a deep breath as you move from one activity to another.
If you have a 15 minute break, go for a walk. Forget the next task you need to do. Take advantage of this “moment for me” to cultivate inner peace.
It’s a time when everyone else gets together, has dinner, watches TV, or just doesn’t do anything.
Some of us have a habit of reflecting on this day at this point.
After spending time with your family, take just a few moments to wish yourself the well-being and well-being of others.
You can end the day with a happy mind.
Finally, we can find opportunities to practice solitude every day. When you understand its beauty, you will look for more opportunities to enjoy your freedom.