How to be confident as a short person

by Aaron , February 11, 2017 ,

A short man is not less than a tall man.

It took me a while to realize just that.

Today, I want to talk about confidence. It’s a topic I get asked quite a bit. Seriously, I’m an introvert.

I’m the opposite of confidence.

However, many say I look confident.

1. Be amazing at things you do.

I confess. I’m pretty competitive. My girlfriend has a love-hate relationship with that side of me. When I do something, I just have a tendency to want to be great at it. When I put my mind to it, I’ll compete.

Here are a few funny stories, when I jog at the park, I like to imagine someone in front of me as a competition. I’ll follow his speed and then try to chase him and keep my distance. That is the way I am.

Back to the topic. When you’re short, you need to be great at things. You need substance to overshadow your height.

Think Tom Cruise. He’s an amazing and successful actor. While news do pick on his height, it’s doesn’t overshadow his success as an actor. Not to mention his wife is taller than him too.

We as short men need to follow the ‘Tom Cruise Way”.

Be amazing at what you do and the money will follow. Trust me.

Being short, I realized I have to work TWICE as hard as someone who is taller than me. This means putting twice the effort in EVERY single thing that I do whether it’s

  • Work
  • Workout out
  • Anything that I do

2. Dress well.

If you dress well, you will feel better, you will look more attractive and women will like you more or find you more interesting.

One thing I noticed is when I dress well, people treat me differently. Call it judging the book by it’s cover. I’m calling it respect.

If you look presentable and dress respectfully. You’ll feel more confident.

How to be confident as a short person

3. Be optimistic

Something I’m still learning. Expect the best out of any situation, believe people perceive you attractive and desirable. Stop thinking people are judging you. It’s tough. I know.

4. Learn to look confident.

Here’s the thing, feeling confident and look confident are two different things. Some people always look confident 24/7.

Short men can learn how to look confident by practicing.

How to be confident as a short person

If you think you are confident and look confident, ask your friend or others if they think as you do.

My girlfriend always say I look confident. Deep down, I’m not. Many times I put on an act, guess what? It works!

Here’s the thing, our perception of ourselves isn’t always as accurate as we want it to be.

I always thought I lack in confident but to my surprise, it’s the complete opposite. So, feeling confident isn’t enough, you need to convince others that you are confident.

Practice, practice, practice.

5. Have faith that you will succeed.

Many times, life can get a tad shitty for short men. I know. I’ve been in your shoes.

I’ve been bullied, laughed at for being short, not taken seriously, got rejected because I was short and more.

Trust me. MOVE forward.

Have faith if yourself. It’s easier said than done but it’s something you need to do.

The thing you need to know is we will NEVER be accepted in society’s expectation of men height. The best part is, NOT EVERYONE judges us. So why give a fuck right?

It’s all bullshit. a construction, that is passed through generations. And the best way to deconstruct things like that is to prove they are wrong. The premise that tall men are better than short men comes from an ancient

Don’t let one criticism change who you are.

Short men are attractive. Don’t believe me? Read all these stories of short men dating taller men. Some women do find short men attractive.

Summing up:

Everyone can make it. Believe in yourself, you are the most important person in your life. Peace.

Anyone can make it. YOU, ME, the short guy beside you. Believe in yourself. If you don’t? Who will?

How to be confident as a short person

Weight, size and body shape matters to every women. But one thing that gets over looked is the confidence part in short looking woman. Following are some of the style tips for short girls.

Weight, size and body shape matters to every women. They spend hours and thousands of bucks on diet products, exercises and gym fees. But one thing that gets over looked is the confidence part that is really important because candidly speaking if you are too conscious, you’ll lose the charm. You must be confident no matter how tall or short you are. Confidence is the one that makes the good body look bad and bad body look good.

Following are some of thestyle tips for short girls.

Don’t slouch:
Standing up straight is really important. This is the right kind of posture that makes you look trimmer and your body in symmetry. If you tuck your tail bone in and pelvis straight then automatically your belly would be in. if you are slouchy then it’ll deduct another inch from your petite height. If you walk straight despite of the fact what height you are, but it naturally gives a glow to your face and perk up the mood. This is the best style tips for short girls because medically when the chin is up and you look at the world confidently, eventually your brain works with the same enthusiasm actively. This one style tips must be adopted by every Pakistani women.

What to wear?
This is a very important choice that you should make wisely therefore I bring you a Pakistani style tip for short girls. While choosing the pattern of your dress, if you must wear stripy dress, do make sure that you wear stripes that are vertical instead of horizontal. Because vertical stripes will not just make you look slimmer but you’ll appear to be taller. However, horizontal stripes have the opposite effect. Moreover, one should try not to wear too revealing dressing neither too long; adopt the mid-way. Select three quarter sleeves because it will make your arms and upper body look longer.

Sit straight:
Whenever, you are sitting in your office, home or school on the chair or sofa. Keep your back straight and don’t lean or slouch. You should be careful especially when you are working on the computer keep your back straight and reach the keyboard comfortably in your access. Slumping over the desk or computer is also very harmful for the back.

Shoes:
Try to wear high heels as it’ll make you look taller and you’ll walk really confidently. These days one style that is really in these days are wedges, which are heels yet comfy and also the platform heels. Wedges look equally nice with the eastern as well as the western dresses. Stilettos are also a very good option for petite girls. But they are formal shoes which one must wear occasionally. Walking with high heel/ sandals on women always walk very gracefully.

There are number of celebs in the Hollywood, Bollywood or our own Pakistani stars and models who are petite but they dazzle and rock whatever they are striving for. Shakira, a very famous singer a hip hop and belly dancer, who sung Waka Waka for FIFA cup 2010, is only 5 feet 1 inch tall and so as Nicole Richie and Kristen Bell are 5 feet 1 inches tall. But they all manage to look so beautiful and ravishing. Juggan Kazim our own Pakistani TV actress, anchor and famous model who has been a participant of best model of the year, acted in a movie when she was in Canada and has been modeling for Nishat Linen magazine, looks so pretty and beautiful even with the height of 5 feet 3 inches. You know what the key of all their success and beauty is that despite of being petite they are confident. They believe in themselves and so must you. BEST OF LUCK!

Size is relative: Daniel Radcliffe, right, in Kill Your Darlings. Photograph: c.Sony Pics/Everett/REX

Size is relative: Daniel Radcliffe, right, in Kill Your Darlings. Photograph: c.Sony Pics/Everett/REX

T he average British male is 5ft 10in and will tell you that he’s about 5ft 11in, while the average woman is 5ft 4in and will probably apologise for it. That last thought’s guesswork, but the rest is fact, or at least a well-sourced Wikipedia entry. How tall we are, according to new research by the clinical psychologist Prof Daniel Freeman, correlates closely with how confident we feel. Freeman is interested in the relationship between paranoia and a sense of inferiority. In his experiment his subjects were fooled by virtual reality into thinking for part of the time they were surrounded by people taller than themselves. It showed there was a strong connection between being small, or at least smaller than the people around you, and feeling small, between the perceived physical reality and the internal emotional reaction.

There are obvious evolutionary reasons for feeling safer when you’re bigger than the likely opposition. But it’s aeons since the brain triumphed over brawn when it came to getting hold of power and keeping it. Yet we are still apparently conditioned to regard taller people with the kind of respect that comes from an atavistic fear that they might thump us, and it’s so persistent that tall people, it is claimed, get better jobs, earn more and generally have a better time of it than their shorter brothers and sisters.

Until a generation or so ago, there was definitely a class thing going on. In the mid-18th century, the difference between officer recruits (always upper class since joining the army took more ready cash than most people saw in their lifetimes) and the ordinary soldier was an astonishing 7.5in. Even in 1950 there was still a three-inch difference between manual and non-manual workers. But that doesn’t quite explain Freeman’s results, which were about confidence, and anyway there are plenty of people around who aren’t tall doing very well thank you, including those whose appearance is at least part of their work, such as the actor Daniel Radcliffe.

Film is particularly adept at blurring the difference. Size matters only where it is relative. It seems obvious: you can’t feel small when you are taller than everyone in the room. Wrong. Speaking as a taller than average 5ft 8.5in, you can. Or at least I could as a tall child in a single-sex school, perpetually stooped in an attempt to make eye contact with my friends, always taller than the rest of my class. Except then feeling small was actually feeling tall, being different – wearing glasses and having a mortifying tendency to knock things over – and not in a good way. What I most wanted in life was to be able to do a backflip like my lithe best friend. Playing Romeo because I was tallest was not really compensation.

Yet that discrimination may be at the heart of it. It’s not that tall people feel superior, or more effective, or demand to be talked to with particular deference. It’s just how shorter people treat them. For a start, you literally have to look up to the taller person. And the taller person has to look down. Tall people get more space because they take more space. Maybe that reads across into their attitude to life. But maybe the tall person isn’t taking an advantage. They’re being given it. Just like the people in the experiment.

This is the emotion Gloria Steinem identified on the streets of Tokyo when, analysing an unexpected sense of ease, she realised that – for the first time in her life – most men were shorter than her. As she says, we aren’t in the habit of recognising how our sense of our selves in physical space shapes the way we think and forms part of our mental wellbeing. It is not just our mind speaking to our body: it’s our body speaking to our mind.

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent, Eleanor Roosevelt once said. Somehow, it seems significant that Mrs Roosevelt was 5ft 11in.

Being The Loudest One In The Room Isn’t Always A Good Thing

How to be confident as a short person

Jun 14, 2018 · 4 min read

Quiet and confident don’t seem like they go together, but they do.

You may think that confident people are the loudest ones in the room. There is an assumption that you have to be an extrovert and talk a lot in order to be deemed a confident person.

A quiet person can still be seen and heard by others.

Confidence isn’t only about being the cen t er of attention. Yes, some people thrive in this place. However, I believe that true confidence is a lot quieter. It is a state of being that you create within yourself. It’s about trusting who you are and what you can stand for.

Dharmesh Shah, the co-founder of HubSpot, said it best — “Confidence is not bravado, or swagger, or an overt pretense of bravery. Confidence is quiet. Confidence is a natural expression of ability, expertise, and self-regard.”

Research shows that quieting the ego is so much more effective in cultivating well-being, growth, health, productivity, and a healthy, productive self-esteem, than focusing so loudly on self-enhancement.

I am living proof that a shy and introverted person, by nature, can still exude confidence. I was always told by people that I needed to be louder, but that never resonated with me.

When I was younger I struggled with confidence. When it came to meeting women, I literally froze up and ran the other way.

I was sensitive, soft, and caring, but that still didn’t cut it. It was confusing. Isn’t that what women want??

However, after diving into the world of self-development, I eventually realized that I was missing the secret to sexual attraction — confidence.

Women are attracted to confident men, but not confidence that is boastful or sleazy. Rather, confidence that is quiet and humble. A man that isn’t obsessed with himself because he has worked through his insecurities. A man whose mere presence takes over a room just by being himself.

To this day, I’m still introverted, but I’ve built up my confidence, in a way that allows me to be myself, unapologetically and proudly. In doing so, I have engendered trust from others.

“Always be yourself and have faith in yourself. Do not go out and look for a successful personality and try to duplicate it.” — Bruce Lee

Quiet confidence is all about being quietly curious and open to life’s possibilities. Here are 3 ways that you can develop quiet confidence.

Someone who possesses quiet confidence doesn’t talk over people. Rather, they actively listen, without judgment. Their intention isn’t to give their opinion or advice unless it is asked for because they possess an innate curiousness about the other person’s life.

Oftentimes, we fight the urge to fill our moments with words. Enjoy the silence that comes from pausing and taking a breath. Beautiful things can emerge in a dialogue between two people when this happens.

Talking with quiet confidence will always beat screaming with obvious insecurity

The research on the quiet ego shows that “The volume of the ego is turned down so that it might listen to others as well as the self in an effort to approach life more humanely and compassionately.”

When people feel comfortable in your presence, they feel safe to be their authentic selves.

People who exude quiet confidence don’t boast that they know everything. Rather, they adopt an attitude of curiosity towards life.

A proverb once said, “A wise man never knows all. Fools know everything.”

Researchers have found that those with a quiet ego report being more interested in personal growth and balance and tend to seek growth through competence, autonomy, and positive social relationships.

These types of people are committed to doing the work and challenging themselves to meet their own standards of success. That being said, they are still open to constructive feedback from others and never shy away from insights that could level up their lives.

Arrogance involves praising and bragging about one’s character or accomplishments. People who display quiet confidence don’t try to fight for the limelight.

Rather, they want to inspire other people to be confident and become the best version of themselves. They don’t need the validation of others, because they are so comfortable in their own skin.

“Confidence is knowing who you are and not changing it a bit because of someone’s version of reality is not your reality.”

Having quiet confidence means that your mere presence speaks so loudly that anyone can hear it. Don’t waste your time trying to be someone that you are not. Believe in yourself and trust that, you alone, are enough.

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How to be confident as a short person

Today I’m going to teach how you to appear more confident.

Why? Because confidence is one of the most important skills in life that you can acquire (other than learning to use the Force, obviously).

I know how important even a little bit of confidence can be in everyday situations, whether it’s negotiating with your boss for a raise, buying a car, giving a presentation, or meeting your fiance’s parents.

We’re naturally attracted to and will have our opinions swayed by those who have (or appear to have) a lot of confidence.

Nerds usually get the short end of the stick in the “naturally confident” department, but that doesn’t mean we can’t acquire it like a new skill, Matrix-style!

How to be confident as a short person

So today we’ll discuss five steps that you can take to start seeing a difference in self-confidence immediately.

Before we jump in, I should note that many of our coaching clients report “increased confidence” as a consequence of the program. Which makes sense, because after you’ve changed your nutrition strategy, lost some weight, and learned to pick up a barbell, you start to understand what you’re truly capable of. Which is a huge confidence boost!

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How to be confident as a short person

Stop slouching

How to be confident as a short person

If you can develop good posture, a trait that always seems to bypass nerds, you’ll appear approximately 145% more confident within seconds (I definitely made up that stat, by the way).

I used to have awful posture through most of my life (which caused lots of lower back pain). It wasn’t until I made a conscious effort to focus on standing up straight and strengthening my lower back that the pain went away.

In order to stay on target, I actually hung a “POSTURE!” post-it on my bedroom door so I wouldn’t forget each morning. Here’s how you can get started:

  1. Stand up as TALL as you can, like you’re a puppet and somebody just pulled the string that’s attached to the top of your noggin.
  2. Pull your shoulder blades down and back as far as possible – This will feel really weird if you spend a lot of time hunched over a desk.
  3. Pick your chin up and look straight ahead – stop looking down while walking around, there’s a whole world out there for you to see.

How to be confident as a short person

If you have trouble pulling your shoulder blades back, try doing two back exercises (say, lat pull downs and dumbbell rows) for every one chest exercise in your workout. This will build up the muscles in your upper back and allow you to actually pull those shoulder blades back together.

Want something easier?

Try standing with your heels, butt, and head against a wall, and then pull your shoulder blades back until they’re touching the wall too. Do this daily and increase the length of the stretch each time.

If you spend all day in a chair, try this: sit down in your chair, and then stand back up WITHOUT having to rock forward. If you have to lean forward even slightly, you’re doing it wrong.

Sit straight up like you’re always ready to stand without having to lean forward. Your lower back will probably get tired as hell sitting like this because it’s not used to the new position – work on it.

Do planks every other day (working your way up to two minutes), and you’ll have a rock-solid core and incredibly strong lower back.

This is probably the hardest step of all, as you’ve probably spent years and years developing poor posture without even thinking about it. Spend a month making a concerted effort to have better posture however, and you’ll be well on your way to a more confident appearance. Pretty soon you won’t even have to think about it!

I mentioned earlier that back exercises like pull-ups and inverted rows can help a lot with posture. If you have no clue where to start on your strength training journey, make sure you download our guide: Strength Training 101: Everything You Need to Know.

It walks you through every aspect of starting a strength training practice, from equipment, specific workouts, and how to know when you should progress to lifting more weight. You can grab it for free when you join the Rebellion below!

People who possess confidence seem to have more success in their careers and tend to get ahead in life. Confidence is a state of mind that determines how you feel about yourself and your abilities. In this article, we explore what confidence means, what causes some people to lack confidence and how to become a more confident person.

What is confidence?

Confidence is an individual’s trust in themselves and their ability to succeed. Confident people tend to create their own happiness. They are proud of their accomplishments because they know they have worked hard.

They tend to speak with conviction and do not usually doubt themselves. If they are unsure of something, they are not afraid to ask for help and learn from someone with more expertise.

Confident people understand that taking on too many tasks can be stressful and know how to say no with assurance. They take time to listen to others as this gives them a chance to learn something new. Confidence is an important skill to have, not only in your personal life but also in your career.

What can cause a lack of confidence?

Many things can contribute to a person’s lack of confidence. Family life, things they may have experienced in their childhood and other life experiences tend to play a role in shaping an individual’s confidence. Genetics can affect an individual’s confidence as well.

For example, a person with a low amount of serotonin and oxytocin due to genetics can cause feelings of low confidence. Your own temperament may also play a part in your level of confidence. People who are naturally cautious tend to be more unsure of themselves and the decisions they make. In some cases, a lack of confidence is caused by bullying or trauma.

Confident people are happier in life and more successful at work, so it’s important to find ways to boost your confidence.

How to become more confident

Here are eight tips for becoming a more confident person:

  1. Be proud of the small things.
  2. Do not judge others.
  3. Learn to say no.
  4. Speak up.
  5. Take time to listen.
  6. Believe in your cause.
  7. Accept that it’s okay to be wrong.
  8. Get exercise.

1. Be proud of the small things

Those with confidence believe in their goals. On your journey to achieving greater confidence, come up with a goal or several small goals. Use a journal to write down these goals and track your progress.

Celebrate every victory, no matter how small they might seem. For example, you may be a single parent who wants to obtain a specific career. The first step toward obtaining that career is finding a reliable child-care provider. Once you find one, celebrate that goal. Every accomplishment you have will build your confidence in yourself and your abilities.

2. Do not judge others

Judging others tends to mean that they have something you are lacking. Rather than judging someone, try to find what makes them special and find ways to encourage them. Every person has a gift that makes them unique that they can offer the world. Consider that the person you were going to judge might also lack confidence and a compliment from you may help them feel more confident.

3. Learn to say no

Telling people no can be healthy, especially if it’s something that you do not want to be a part of. You do not have to help your best friend move if you already have plans with your children. You do not have to feel guilty about telling someone you cannot make it to an outing or a potluck because you want to rest on your day off. Learn to say no to things you do not want to do with confidence and avoid using phrases like “I will think about it” or “I will get back to you.”

4. Speak up

Confident people are not afraid to speak up and make their opinions known. If they have something valuable to share, they do so with confidence. They are not afraid to be wrong and see input from others as an opportunity to learn. Be confident about your opinions and don’t take being wrong about something personal. Instead, use feedback as a way to improve.

5. Take time to listen

Listening to others gives you a chance to learn new things, especially from those who are more experienced. It allows you to gain knowledge and learn new skills that can help improve your confidence levels. By actively listening and paying attention to others, you can have more productive and rewarding interactions.

6. Believe in your cause

Confident people tend to stick to their beliefs and opinions, even if they feel unsure. If you are confident, optimistic and believe in your cause, others are likely to follow suit. For example, if you believe a change is needed for you and your coworkers, speak on behalf of them and do so with confidence. People are more likely to listen to your ideas and what you have to say when you express them with conviction.

7. Accept that it’s okay to be wrong

People with confidence are not afraid to be wrong. Instead, they view being wrong as an opportunity to learn from their mistakes. When they are wrong about something or a mistake has been made, confident people tend to hold themselves accountable and find ways to improve for the future. Accept that everyone, even the most confident of people, can be wrong at times.

8. Get exercise

Exercise can be a great way to boost your confidence. Everyone, regardless of their health or fitness levels, can benefit from exercise. Set goals for yourself and keep a journal to track your progress. As you build your strength or achieve other fitness goals, you may improve your confidence in the process.

How to be confident as a short person

Self-confidence is a combination of a state of mind and a strong feeling of self-belief which is commonly used when one needs self-assurance especially in one’s personal judgment,power, ability etc. It is that voice which comes from your inside and gives you a boost to do something which fears you. In today’s epoch, there is no place for those who lack self-confidence because there is no shortage of competition now. Infinite number of people possess it. And, a great many people are achieving their goals using confidence as a ladder.For students , confidence plays a key aspect of their school life. Higher the self-confidence, more the chances of success.

Importance-

Anyone who has inculcated this ability enjoys various perks. One of them is that the magnitude of the difficulty of a tough job decreases. It keeps you going when you face failure in your life. It helps you to focus on the areas which laid you down. It gives a spark to your mind to improve and excel in the next try. If you are deficient in this much-needed ability then, there are chances that you would be dominated by pessimism. The absence of confidence can be the reason for your sorrow and dissatisfaction. Simple chores of daily life seem to be challenging when you lack confidence.

Building confidence-

Self-confidence is the pre-requisite to success and happiness. For many, it would be a challenging thing to be confident all the time.

If you too fall in the same category, then, you must learn the techniques of developing self-confidence by following the below-explained ways-

Work out-

When you exercise, your body releases endorphins which gives your mind a feeling of happiness. Furthermore, you are in the direction of gaining a healthy as well as a fit body which would automatically give a boost to your self-confidence level.

Modify your wardrobe-

It may sound absurd to you at the beginning but it makes a difference. Your attires can change the way you look and feel about yourself. Wearing the clothes according to the latest fashion gives a sense of confidence to a person. The chances of having inferiority complex become fair. So, go shopping and spend some pennies. It is worth for regaining your self-confidence.

Avoid Overconfidence-

Excess of everything is bad. Surplus amount of confidence is also not beneficial. Over-confidence has become the reason behind the failure of many. People who are experiencing it overlook the other side of the coin and tend to embrace themselves every now and then which at some point in time proves harmful. Hence, they end up with defeat.

Practice power poses-

Combination of the three P’ is just magical. You can vanish all your stress and anxiety by learning and practicing the power poses. Practicing a power pose is an instant solution to this. When you practice the poses, your mind releases such hormones which uplift the level of self-assurance. Ask your teacher to take a session on “power poses” in a classroom and explain in detail what practicing power poses can actually do to your mind.

Go Get a Goal-

A person lacks confidence when he/she is in a doubtful situation and that state of mind is natural during that phase. And the most prominent problem which the youth face today is the absence of a goal. They do not know what they are passionate about and what they want to achieve in life. The picture is blurred and hence they are confidence deficient.

Setting a goal and working towards it gives a sense of satisfaction in life. So, just begin the process of introspection and get rid of this problem.

Meditate-

Meditation introduces you to your soul. It takes you to another world and familiarizes you with the truth of life. Meditation holds the power of taking a person to peace and give him/her a stable state of mind. If you are in harmony then, there is no question of absence of self-confidence. All the negative vibes of the outside world cannot affect you when you reach that level in the process of meditation.

Become a helping hand-

You must have experienced this many times that when you help someone in any way it gives you a feeling of contentment and you tend to experience the presence of positive energy in the environment. And, moreover, you see yourself as a better person. Not only this, you begin the chain of assisting others and that feeling is sufficient to have an amplification in your self-confidence.

These were the most powerful and easy tips and tricks through which you can transform your life by escalating towards self-confidence.

How to be confident as a short person

Confidence is somewhat elusive. You know you have to be confident if you want to make a good impression in the professional world, but earning that confidence isn’t as easy as it seems. For some, confidence comes naturally, but for most, it’s harder to achieve–especially in unfamiliar situations or with unfamiliar people.

Rest assured that you aren’t alone, and remember one critical fact about confidence: In most situations, it doesn’t matter if you feel confident on the inside as much as it matters that you look confident on the outside. The goal is to appear confident, even if you really aren’t, and there are several tricks you can use to accomplish this.

1. Stand tall.

Take up space by standing tall. Keep your shoulders back, and keep your spine straight. This is going to offer you a host of physical benefits, including better breathing and better back support, but just as important, it’s going to make you look and feel more confident. People who slouch or minimize their bodies tend to be viewed as unconfident or uncertain. You can also practice the “power pose” technique before you enter the room by stretching your arms far above your head or putting your hands on your hips with your elbows wide. These “power poses” are experimentally proved to increase confidence, but you might look a little silly doing them during your event, so keep them as a preliminary ritual.

2. Make eye contact.

Eye contact is crucial for increasing your perceived confidence, and without it, you’ll appear scattered or inattentive. When you speak, look at your recipient’s eyes, or if you’re in front of many people, alternate between them. Even in a crowd, you should be making eye contact with the various individuals in your audience. It’s also important to maintain eye contact when the other person is speaking–the more you break eye contact or look around, the more indecisive or shy you’ll seem. Just don’t stare people down like you’re a serial killer–do take occasional breaks.

3. Don’t fidget.

Fidgeting is a major betrayer of low confidence, and most of us fidget without even realizing it. Different people fidget in different ways; for example, some people have a nervous leg-jiggling habit and others tend to wave their hands around in a flailing motion when they talk. You might also find yourself adjusting your standing position or nodding excessively. Instead, try to stand still and only move when it’s in an appropriate, deliberate way. This can be tough, especially if you aren’t conscious of your fidgeting habits. Practice speaking with someone you know and ask him or her to identify any peculiar quirks you may not notice about yourself.

4. Speak slowly and clearly.

Speaking too quickly or in a low tone of voice can make you appear less than confident. It also leaves you vulnerable to saying things you don’t mean or slipping up with verbal nonsense. The solution to these problems is to speak slowly and clearly. Take your time with your sentences–it will give you time to come up with better word choices and will make you seem more confident at the same time. Practice articulating your words clearly and in a loud voice so you’re used to the approach.

5. Allow silences.

There’s nothing wrong with a little bit of silence. Too many people denounce the “awkward silence” as the indicator of a bad conversation, but it’s actually a useful and necessary social tool. Use silences to your advantage; for example, you can end an important sentence with a long pause to let it sink in. You can allow a beat in the conversation between the other person speaking and you speaking to show that you really listened. Silences allow for consideration, and they show that you’re confident in your speaking abilities. Don’t neglect them.

6. Keep your hands visible.

Your hands say a lot about you, whether you realize it or not. Keep them visible and marginally active in the conversation. For example, you can gesticulate your words with a few deliberate actions–just don’t go crazy and violate rule number three. You could also use your hands to offer occasional moments of touch if the situation warrants it. It’s also important not to hide your hands by stuffing them in your pockets or folding your arms. Keep them visible to appear more confident.

7. Take big steps.

This one comes into play when you enter, exit, or move around in a room. Take wide, surefooted steps with every move, rather than quick, hurried, or frantic steps. Don’t be in a hurry to get anywhere, and remember to keep your body posture aligned. This slow, deliberate series of movements will make you appear confident, so much so that people several yards away from you will be able to pick up on it.

The great thing about pretending to be confident is that eventually, you’ll trick yourself into actually being confident. Like with good posture and conversational manners, the only thing preventing you from being able to implement these strategies regularly is practice. The more you practice appearing confident, the more naturally it will come to you, and the more confident you’ll look and feel. With your newfound confidence, you’ll be able to speak more articulately, command a more attentive audience, and be viewed with more respect by your peers.