How to be a better husband

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How to be a better husband

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A good husband and father makes time for both his children and his marriage, and contributes more than just a paycheck to the family. To truly be a good husband and father, you have to spend quality time with your family and strive to be a loving role model.

Balance

Family coach and Episcopal minister David Code, author of the book “To Raise Happy Kids, Put Your Marriage First,” warns against leading a life too focused on parenting. “These days, many parents seem to be married to their children instead of their spouses,” says Code. “This creates stressed-out parents who feel disconnected from each other and demanding, entitled kids who act out.” Part of being a good husband and father, says Code, is making both your marriage and your children a priority, and not allowing one to overshadow the other.

Involvement

Children need involved father figures who actively participate in their children’s lives and show love and support. “An involved father figure reads to his child, takes outings with his child, is interested in his child’s education, and takes a role equal to the mother’s in managing his child,” says psychologist Eirine Flouri from the University of Oxford in England, who studied parental involvement and academic success among 17,000 British school children in 2004.

Active involvement may also mean the difference between a happy marriage and a marriage lacking love and intimacy. “When women feel overwhelmed or resent that their husbands aren’t doing their share, a desire for sexual intimacy can go out the window,” says sex therapist Joy Davidson, Ph.D. Reduce your partner’s stress levels by sharing household chores and making time for relaxation and intimacy.

Benefits

According to research conducted by pediatrics professor Maureen Black, Ph.D., from the University of Maryland School of Medicine, children whose fathers play an active role in their lives benefit both socially and academically. Black contends that children with actively involved fathers have fewer behavioral problems and better language skills than children with absent, uninvolved fathers.

Safety

A good husband and father creates a safe and loving environment for his wife and children. This means more than just financial support. Wives and children need emotional support as well. “One of the things we seek in marriage is a haven. We want the feeling that home is a safe place to go,” says psychologist Judith Sills.

Men in particular need to watch how they react to stress when it comes to balancing work and family obligations, says psychologist Ron Palomares. Because children mold their behavior after their parents, developing healthy responses to stress helps children feel safe and teaches them how to appropriately handle their own anxieties, says Palomares.

When I married my husband, Kevin, 10 years ago, I didn’t realize all it takes for a man to be a good husband. I knew Kevin was a good man. I knew he loved God. And I knew our desires for the future — family, ministry, adventure — aligned. All of that provided a great foundation for our relationship, but I had no idea the things we would experience together — three job changes, a move across the country and raising four children, including one with special needs.

As our life together unfolded, I began to see Kevin’s strengths and weaknesses — just as he saw mine. But despite everything, he was (and is) a good husband.

Scripture presents a pretty high bar when it comes to married men. “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25). That may sound like an impossible task, but this love is the foundation of all good husband qualities.

While there are many qualities involved with being a good husband, here are three I’ve discovered in mine:

A good husband seeks to understand his wife

From personality to love language to biological makeup (ahem, hormones), each wife is unique. Husbands ought to become students of their wife — learning what her needs are and what makes her different. The goal is to understand her.

First Peter 3:7 says, “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”

I may not like to think of myself as “the weaker vessel,” but I know what it feels like when my husband understands me. This is especially important in times of transition and stress, such as after the birth of a baby or a big work deadline.

Not long ago, I was feeling completely overwhelmed by everything on my plate. Kevin was putting in long hours at work, while I took up the slack at home with our four young children. I felt as if I were getting further and further behind. One night the stress I was experiencing came to a head and I broke down in tears. A few nights later, Kevin told me he had found an inexpensive rate at a nearby historical hotel and was sending me on a mini-retreat for the night.

While I appreciated the grand gesture, what meant the most to me was that my husband was seeking to understand how I was feeling and offered the refreshment I needed.

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A good husband treats his wife as a gift

Proverbs 5:18 says to “rejoice in the wife of your youth” and Proverbs 18:22 says, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” In times of relational stress, both spouses are probably not viewing each other as “a gift.” But Scripture makes it clear that a wife is a good thing that comes from God.

I’m sure we can all think of a cute, old married couple, where the husband writes his wife a daily love letter or still holds hands with her on walks. Those are the things that keep romance alive and make a woman feel cherished by her spouse.

Not long ago, I went on a short trip out of state while Kevin stayed home with the kids. When I returned home a few days later, the house was clean and the kids were happy. All evidence pointed to the fact that I was redundant. And yet, after embracing me, my husband’s first words were, “I’m so glad you’re back. I don’t think we could have held out much longer without you.”

Kevin’s admission of my importance to him and to our family was lifegiving to me. In daily life, I thrive on hearing my husband say that he values my opinion and expertise. I love when he notices how hard I’m working or the sacrifices I’m making. Every expression of gratitude goes a long way. And when I feel like I’m a gift to Kevin, I am motivated to give even more.

A good husband suffers well

While future suffering may not be a hot topic at premarital counseling, trials are inevitable. Hard circumstances, such as a job loss, health crisis or the death of a loved one can elevate stress and change the dynamic of the relationship.

As a single woman, I didn’t think about needing to marry someone who could persevere through trials. But I’ve been so thankful my husband has this trait. Research confirms that “there is a clear negative relationship between minor stress and relationship quality.” If that’s the case, just think about what “major stress” can do! In fact, the inability to cope with stress is a leading contributing factor to marital dissatisfaction.

My husband and I have had our share of stress, from dealing with a child’s medical emergency and subsequent special needs, to moving three times in three years. But as the God-ordained servant leader of our family, Kevin has endured these times of stress well, offering me support and relief along the way. Good husband qualities are reflected in Paul’s words in Ephesians to walk in “all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love.”

Shortly after the birth of our third child, we experienced a particularly stressful season in which neither of us felt our needs were being met. Realizing stress was a major component to our relational struggles, Kevin took action, setting up a weekly date night for us. Every Tuesday we went out while a trustworthy babysitter watched our three young children. I cannot fully express how this action breathed life into our marriage and helped us to be a team again.

No husband will be perfect. But he can seek to love his wife like Christ. By seeking to understand her, choosing to cherish her, and suffering well with her, he will demonstrate that love. The good news is, God has given him all he needs to succeed at being a good husband.

How to be a better husband

Everything else appears to be wonderful if you have a happy marriage. But if your marriage is in trouble, it doesn’t matter what else is going well in your life; a tense home may quickly spill into other areas of your life and foul your mood regardless of how fortunate the remainder of your life turns out to be.
Many spouses believe their partners could be acting differently. But the truth is that you can’t change anyone unless you first change yourself. If you make a real, sincere attempt to be a better husband, your marriage will improve. To that end, here are some suggestions for immediately becoming a better husband.

1. Take Over One of Their Chores

The majority of relationships, especially at work, are reciprocal. Unfortunately, it isn’t the case when it comes to marriage. Relationships based on the idea of „you scratch my back, I’ll scratch yours“ lack the element of love, a feeling that is expressed most fully in the act of giving. After all, you only have control over how much love you give. When they first meet their soulmate, many men are chivalrous and helpful. However, when their awe fades, and habit takes hold, they begin to form expectations. They’ll expect something in return if they’re asked to assist.

Stop looking for that quid pro. Look for responsibilities that your spouse usually takes on and take them on yourself. It will be easier for you to live if you make things easier for your partner. Get the kids from school so your partner may relax in the afternoon and have a me-day. Let them watch their favorite show or read a good book while you do the dishes (listening to podcasts like Go Hard helps). Make a call to the utility company to correct the billing error, so they don’t have to. Not only will these helpful habits make your partner happy, but you’ll also begin to develop into the role of caregiver and provider, which will make you feel much more content.

2. Make an „I’m Grateful For“ List

When you and your spouse first met, you were probably looking at each other through rose-colored glasses. When you’re enamored with someone, it’s easy to overlook the aspects of them that you find bothersome or problematic. However, as time passes, stressors such as job, life, personal finances, and health take their toll, and you might become more sensitive to the things that irritate you in your partner. Instead, fill your heart with thankfulness and positivity, and let the negativity out.

Every day, make a list of five things you’re grateful for about your spouse. If they don’t come to mind right away, do some mental work and reflection to come up with something. Nothing is too insignificant to be noticed. If you do this every day, you’ll notice a significant change in your attitude toward your partner. Better still, express your gratitude to them and make them feel special. You’ll see them light up and feel the same way if you do this. There is no such thing as too much thankfulness when it comes to gratitude, and as you begin to practice it, your cup will overflow into all other areas of your life.

3. Be a Good Listener

When your partner shares their feelings and thoughts with you, they are seldom interested in seeking assistance. Instead, they’re attempting to flesh out their ideas by talking them out. Don’t give them advice unless they specifically request it. Try acting with empathy instead. Instead of instantly trying to come up with answers to their difficulties, repeat back to your partner a shortened version of what they’re saying. This acknowledges their feelings, and by doing so, you are assisting them in asking the proper questions rather than simply imposing yourself and demonstrating why you know better.
Being a good husband doesn’t have to be difficult, but it does take some work.

How to be a better husband

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When I applied for a marriage license a year after I graduated from college, all I had to do was pay a fee.

There was no training, no video and no job description.

In spite of the fact that I lacked many of the fundamental skills to make a marriage work, the license was granted.

I know there are many men today who try to figure out exactly what God expects of them as husbands.

So I came up with a list of the things I believe are central to being a godly husband.

1. Love God More Than You Love Your Wife

After three years of dating Mary Ann, we began talking about marriage. A little while later, we broke up. I was devastated.

While praying one night, things became crystal clear: Mary Ann had become an idol in my life. I cared more about what made her happy than what made God happy.

God’s purpose for marriage is to make us more like Christ.

It was as if God was saying, “You will have no other gods before me, and if you put something or someone else in My place, I will remove it.”

In 25 years of marriage, I still run into the same problem. I keep myself in check with this question: Whom do I fear more — my wife or God?

The level of pain may be more immediate or more pronounced when I don’t please my wife because when I don’t please God, He doesn’t go into the other room and go silent on me.

But God reminds me, “You do the right thing even if for the moment it doesn’t make her happy.”

2. Be a Spiritual Leader

Both you and your wife may have come into your marriage with some idealized image (or expectations) of what your spiritual walk together would look like. Maybe it was sitting around a table eating breakfast and doing devotions.

She imagined you leaving for work and saying, “I’ll be back this evening, and we can have devotions again.”

About a month into the marriage, your wife was probably thinking, “What happened? Reading the Scriptures and praying together is so important.” If I could rewind my marriage and start this practice earlier, I would do it in a second.

No matter how long you’ve been married, now is the time to develop a pattern that can work in your marriage. Remember, it’s a husband who ought to initiate this.

“A man may not be a vocational theologian,” says Doug Wilson, author of “Reforming Marriage.”

“But in his home, he needs to be the resident theologian.”

3. Lead With Humility

A big reason there is such a debate about whether men ought to be leaders in a marriage relationship is because too many men have not led with humility.

Men may be called by God to lead their wives, but our leadership should be selfless.

Philippians 2:3 says, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.” (New International Version).

Put this verse into practice, and it will solve 95 percent of the issues you face.

I have never met a woman who says, “I resist my husband’s leadership even though he is very humble and Christlike.”

The women I’ve met are craving godly leadership in their marriages.

4. Have Godly Courage

First Corinthians 16:13 gives a clear definition of biblical masculinity: “Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong” (NIV). Before we can be godly husbands, we must be courageous.

Wrapped up in that definition of what it means to be a man is the idea of courage.

And the essence of courage is to have such a great fear of God that you fear nothing else.

5. Be a Provider

1 Timothy 5:8 says if a man fails to provide for his household, he is worse than a pagan. That’s not the kind of reputation I want to have in the community.

Part of the root meaning of the word provider means “to look ahead.”

A provider is one who anticipates and does the strategic planning for the household. He thinks about the goals — not just the financial goals, but the spiritual goals and emotional goals.

In a sense, he is the chief executive officer of the corporation. It’s his responsibility to set the direction.

And many times, his wife is the chief operating officer. The two of them need to unify their direction for the good of the family.

6. Love Her Biblically and Extravagantly

To love her biblically, we need to ask, “What is God’s love for us like?”

The essence of His love for us is reflected in His commitment to us and His sacrifice for us. That’s what our love for our wives needs to look like too.

For me, it often means placing my wife’s needs ahead of my own. And it means that I will still sacrifice for her even when we disagree. She must be my priority.

Remember the little line in the marriage vow, “Forsaking all others, until death do us part”?

That means your relationship with your wife is more important than any other relationship — friends, your boss or even your children.

Put simply, after our love for God, we must love our wives more than anything on earth. That is the essence of the marriage relationship.

D.L. Moody summed it up best: “If I wanted to find out whether a man was a Christian, I wouldn’t go to his minister. I would go and ask his wife.

“If a man doesn’t treat his wife right, I don’t want to hear him talk about Christianity. What is the use of talking about salvation for the next life if he has no salvation for this?”

This past May, Mary Ann and I celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary in Maui, Hawaii. The surroundings were incredible, but really, we were just happy to be together.

Over dinner that night, we could both say that, in spite of any challenges that have come our way, we wouldn’t change the outcome of our shared 25 years.

That’s because God has used our relationship with each other more than anything else to make us more like Christ. And, ultimately, that is His purpose for marriage.

How to be a better husband

If you’re newly married, you’re probably over the moon with happiness and excitement. It’s the next step in your life’s journey, and you get to spend it with the person you love.

With that being said, as a newlywed man, you might not know how to be a good husband. You see all these men around you doing the bare minimum and being bad husbands, and it just doesn’t seem right.

Or maybe you’ve been married a while and your wife wants a divorce, this article is the first step.

You want to be a better husband. Maybe you want to be a better husband than you have been, or perhaps you want to be a better husband than all of the deadbeats out there.

Today we are going to tell you how you can be a better husband.

  • How to Be a Better Husband
    • Stop Interrupting Her
    • Share Your Feelings
    • Help Out Around the House
    • Respect Her Friends
    • Keep in Shape
    • Stop Mansplaining
  • Conclusion

How to Be a Better Husband

Stop Interrupting Her

Men often think that what we have to say is the most important thing and needs to be said right now. We also often believe that we know best and that no matter what, we need to relay our crucial information to our wives as soon as possible.

We tend to interrupt because we think that we know best. If someone always interrupts you and never lets you finish a sentence, you know just how annoying this can be.

Guys, let your wife talk and let her finish her sentences, even her whole thoughts. Wait your turn to talk.

This will make your wife feel like you are listening to her and that you value her opinion. Whether man or woman, it’s what most of us want—someone to listen and make us feel important. You won’t make anybody feel important if you keep interrupting them.

Tips like these are what you will learn in the “Mend the Marriage” program, an excellent self-help marriage counseling program that can save even the most broken of marriages.

Share Your Feelings

There is a common opinion that men shouldn’t have feelings, and if they do, they shouldn’t talk about them.

While this may have been acceptable a few decades ago, it isn’t the case anymore. If you want to be a better husband, you need to share your feelings with your wife, and you need to be honest about them.

A big part of being a good husband and having a successful marriage is having both parties openly talk and communicate their feelings.

Being a good husband is not just doing things for your wife, but also letting her know what she can do for you and letting her know how you feel.

Men often say, “I’m not psychic!” because it often seems like women expect men to just know what to do and say.

Simply put, tell your wife how you feel. Honesty and communication are crucial for a successful and long-lasting marriage.

Help Out Around the House

One of the things that causes so many fights in marriages is that men never want to do any real housework.

Like with sharing feelings, the opinion that women are meant to do all of the housework is long gone. This is not 1950 anymore; the man is no longer the sole breadwinner, and the woman is no longer the housewife.

Think of it this way, if you have kids and you still follow that 1950s outlook on life, you as the man work; then you come home and put your feet up.

For the wife taking care of the kids, her job is 24/7, so it never ends. One of the best things you can do is help out around the house to be a better husband.

Figure out how to use the washing machine and do the laundry. Clean the kitchen and do the dishes, even when it’s not your turn.

Bust out the vacuum and get to sucking up some dust bunnies. Whatever it may be, a part of being a good husband is to share the workload with your wife. Marriages should be equal in every regard, and this includes the division of labor in the home.

Respect Her Friends

We men often don’t get along too well with our wives’ friends. It’s not always the case, but often. Whether you like your wife’s friends or whether they like you is totally irrelevant.

Those are your wife’s friends, the people who have been at her side, possibly for decades. You need to be nice to them for no other reason than because they are your wife’s friends.

All too often, husbands and wives get into fights due to issues with friends. If you want to be a better husband, be nice to your wife’s friends, but keep the focus on her.

If you are continually fighting with her friends, it will put a lot of stress on your marriage and friendship. Forcing your wife to choose between you and her friends will never end well for anybody involved.

Keep in Shape

Marriages aren’t just about looks. You married your wife because of the way she looks and dozens of other things, and hopefully, this is the case for your wife and why she married you too.

Looks are by far not the most crucial thing in a marriage. However, that said, if you have been married for quite some time, and you start letting yourself slip, your wife is going to notice that.

If you stay in shape, you will probably live longer, something that your wife will appreciate. Moreover, if you are in condition, you will probably be a more active and intriguing person.

Visit the gym a few times a week; toss the underwear with holes in it; put on a clean shirt without any stains; brush those teeth; and keep in good. Your partner deserves to see the best in you, both inside and out.

Stop Mansplaining

Mansplaining is a term used to describe when a man feels the need to explain things to a woman, even if those things are common knowledge that the woman clearly knows.

For some reason, men think that women don’t know anything and that even the smallest things need to be explained—kind of like we are doing here right now!

Many men do this, and every woman out there hates it, and for a good reason—it makes a woman look and feel stupid. Imagine being 40 years old and having someone explain some trivial fact that you learned back in grade school.

It’s demeaning when people assume that you don’t know anything. When it comes to your marriage, if you want to be a better husband, assume your wife knows everything, and then only explain something if she asks. Your wife probably knows more than you do—she’s not a blank slate.

Conclusion

Today we covered only a few of the hundreds of tips we could share with you, all of which can lead you to be a better husband.

If you really want to find out how to be a better husband, we recommend checking out the “Mend the Marriage” program, an excellent self-help guide for both men and women to have a healthier and happier marriage.

How to be a better husband

Everything else appears to be wonderful if you have a happy marriage. But if your marriage is in trouble, it doesn’t matter what else is going well in your life; a tense home may quickly spill into other areas of your life and foul your mood regardless of how fortunate the remainder of your life turns out to be.
Many spouses believe their partners could be acting differently. But the truth is that you can’t change anyone unless you first change yourself. If you make a real, sincere attempt to be a better husband, your marriage will improve. To that end, here are some suggestions for immediately becoming a better husband.

1. Take Over One of Their Chores

The majority of relationships, especially at work, are reciprocal. Unfortunately, it isn’t the case when it comes to marriage. Relationships based on the idea of „you scratch my back, I’ll scratch yours“ lack the element of love, a feeling that is expressed most fully in the act of giving. After all, you only have control over how much love you give. When they first meet their soulmate, many men are chivalrous and helpful. However, when their awe fades, and habit takes hold, they begin to form expectations. They’ll expect something in return if they’re asked to assist.

Stop looking for that quid pro. Look for responsibilities that your spouse usually takes on and take them on yourself. It will be easier for you to live if you make things easier for your partner. Get the kids from school so your partner may relax in the afternoon and have a me-day. Let them watch their favorite show or read a good book while you do the dishes (listening to podcasts like Go Hard helps). Make a call to the utility company to correct the billing error, so they don’t have to. Not only will these helpful habits make your partner happy, but you’ll also begin to develop into the role of caregiver and provider, which will make you feel much more content.

2. Make an „I’m Grateful For“ List

When you and your spouse first met, you were probably looking at each other through rose-colored glasses. When you’re enamored with someone, it’s easy to overlook the aspects of them that you find bothersome or problematic. However, as time passes, stressors such as job, life, personal finances, and health take their toll, and you might become more sensitive to the things that irritate you in your partner. Instead, fill your heart with thankfulness and positivity, and let the negativity out.

Every day, make a list of five things you’re grateful for about your spouse. If they don’t come to mind right away, do some mental work and reflection to come up with something. Nothing is too insignificant to be noticed. If you do this every day, you’ll notice a significant change in your attitude toward your partner. Better still, express your gratitude to them and make them feel special. You’ll see them light up and feel the same way if you do this. There is no such thing as too much thankfulness when it comes to gratitude, and as you begin to practice it, your cup will overflow into all other areas of your life.

3. Be a Good Listener

When your partner shares their feelings and thoughts with you, they are seldom interested in seeking assistance. Instead, they’re attempting to flesh out their ideas by talking them out. Don’t give them advice unless they specifically request it. Try acting with empathy instead. Instead of instantly trying to come up with answers to their difficulties, repeat back to your partner a shortened version of what they’re saying. This acknowledges their feelings, and by doing so, you are assisting them in asking the proper questions rather than simply imposing yourself and demonstrating why you know better.
Being a good husband doesn’t have to be difficult, but it does take some work.

When you are married you would want to be a better husband or a better father and vise-versa.

But how to be a better husband? There are several ways to be a better husband for your wife, all you need is love and know certain things.

If you want to improve your marriage and your relationship with your wife, I am sure you would want to improve a few habits of yours or would love to do something for your wife that will make her happy.

Once you are married, you are not your own anymore. You have your beautiful wife with whom you dream of sustaining a happy married life.

Sometimes there occur issues in a marriage where the situation demands a husband and wife to takes care of their relationship. But why to wait till that?

If you follow simple daily steps to be a better husband and wife, your marriage will be happier and last till death.

So, in this article, I will share a great many ways that if a husband follows, can improve themselves and be a better husband with time for your beloved wife.

I guess you must be thinking that why it has to be only a husband, why I am not talking about ‘how to be a better wife’?

Well, if you could wait and keep following my blog, then I can tell you that in the next article, I will share ‘How to be a better wife.’

But for now, let’s focus on how you can please your wife and become not only a better husband but also a better person which is more important.

How to be a better husband

David N Johnson

I’m asked all the time, how can I be a better husband? I’ve been asked that question by men of all ages in marriages of all lengths. I’ve had husbands in good marriages and husbands in bad marriages ask me that very same question. So, I wrote a short eBook (15 pages or so) that outline the 5 principles that every husband should know. Want to be a better husband and create the kind of marriage that both you AND your wife want? Click the button below to get my FREE guide.

Is Your Marriage Not Where You’d Like it to Be?

Life happens. Things get in the way. Work is demanding and bills are always in need of paying. It’s easy to neglect your marriage because she knows you love her, right? Right? Lack of intention is the single biggest contributor to an unhappy marriage. If you want to be a good husband you must be intentional with your love. Put in the effort required and reap the benefits of a happy marriage:

Mindfulness is key to longevity in a marriage. Men who are looking to become better husbands must understand that in order to do so that they must create the kind of marital environment that puts the relationship above all else. Even before being right!

Husbands, know this to be true: If your marriage is failing, it’s totally within your power to fix your part of the reason why. And in doing so, your wife will be inclined to fix her part. It all starts with you and your desire to have a lasting marriage and to become a better husband.

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Don’t Be Another Divorce Statistic

Divorces in the United States have been on a decline, which shows that there is an increase in secure relationships, and that’s always a good thing. However, while divorces are decreasing, so are marriages. What does that mean? It means that the younger generations (millennials and older gen z) are spending more time cohabitating before getting married, many of which never do.

What that really means is that while divorces are on a decline, breakups are not. Many times, lengthy cohabitation involves children and while there doesn’t appear to be much research on the topic of cohabitating parents, single parents make up over 40% of all households in the US with over 75% of children who are born to unwed couples no longer live with both of their biological parents by fifteen.

Good Husbands Understand They Can Make a Difference

Relationships are hard. Many times couples feel that it’s easier to give up than it is to reconcile their differences and make it work. Think back to the beginning and how your wife made you feel BEFORE you proposed. Would you like to feel that way again? What if I told you that it’s totally within your power to make it so? Well, consider yourself told. Get the FREE eBook HERE.

Divorce doesn’t have to be the end of your story. There are things that can be done. You may have to look inward and make a few changes, but what is that compared to a lifetime of happiness with the woman you love?

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What Married Couples Want

% of married adults who say __ is ‘very important’ to a successful marriage*

If you’re here, odds are you’re a married man looking for ways to become a better husband. First and foremost, get the D-word out of your vocabulary. Focus on the things you can change and keep in mind that you can’t change your wife, but you can influence her to want to follow your lead.

You do that by focusing on some of the things that interest her and getting involved. Show your wife that you care enough to do what she likes. 64% of married adults say that having shared interests is very important to a successful marriage. What are some things that your wife does that you can have a genuine interest in?

Along those same lines, 56% of married adults say that sharing household chores is important to a successful marriage. As a husband, are you sharing in the chores that need to be done around the house? Just like with shared interests, this is an easy way to create a healthy marriage.

At the end of the day, a happy, healthy marriage is all about your level of intentionality. Make your marriage a priority and stop letting life get in the way; there is nothing worse than making your wife feel lonely when you’re both in the same room.

So, if you’re goal is to be a better husband, just make it a priority. Sound simple? It is. Show your wife that your marriage is important, and she will meet you halfway.