How to apply makeup without your parents noticing

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It can be really frustrating when you want to wear makeup but you aren’t allowed. Your parents might feel like you’re not old enough yet or they may have other reasons for disapproving. It’s important to always be respectful, but if you’re determined to go around your parents, there are ways you can wear makeup that look very natural so they might not notice. You might also need to take extra precautions, like putting on your makeup after you go to school and not leaving your makeup where your parents will find it.

How to apply makeup without your parents noticing

How to apply makeup without your parents noticing

How to apply makeup without your parents noticing

How to apply makeup without your parents noticing

How to apply makeup without your parents noticing

Tip: Trying to minimize the products you have on hand? Buy liquid concealer, then mix a little of your face moisturizer with the concealer to create your own tinted moisturizer!

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Apparently, you want to experiment with adjusting the way your face appears.

There’s a reason why your parents don’t want you to wear makeup. You are best advised to discuss this underlying reason with them, and come to some agreement about the ‘real issue’, which probably isn’t makeup at all.

Then, take your mum with you to a department store makeup counter, and with your mum, learn how to use your face as a canvas and apply the paint, so that you can accentuate your best facial features and minimize those that detract from your natural beauty.

Also, learn the best way to clean paint off your skin, so that your skin doesn’t harbour bacteria and other germs that can cause or foster acne and pimples.

Strike a bargain with your parents so that together you define special times when you can wear makeup, and learn now to enjoy it and use it to maximize your individual good looks.

If you are younger than about 16, don’t try this at home. Keep your face clean so that your skin can maintain its best tone and condition. Your youthful skin won’t remain youthful very long; enjoy it as long as you can.

How to apply makeup without your parents noticing

I love makeup, but my mom won’t let me wear any! HELLO. I’m 14 years old. Most of my friends have been wearing makeup for like two years now! How do I get her to let me wear makeup too?!

Hi Makeup Meltdown,

UGH, that STINKS! Makeup can be so much fun. I could spend HOURS at Claire’s or Sephora just looking at all the glittery, colorful lip gloss and eye shadow. So, if your friends are all wearing makeup, I totally get why you’d feel left out!

I’m definitely on your side in this one. 🙂 But first, let’s try to figure out why your mom won’t let you wear it. Has she ever told you WHY she doesn’t want you to wear any? Has she said there’s an age when you can?

Let’s look at some reasons why your mom might not like you wearing makeup and the possible solutions. I’m not guaranteeing the solutions will work, but they’re still things you could talk to your mom about.

  1. WORRY: Makeup will make you look much older than you are. It’s hard for parents when kids grow up! (Which is funny, considering how much they want us to act more mature…)
    SOLUTION:
    You don’t have to start with a full face of prom makeup! Talk to your mom about starting small. Lip gloss is a great first step. You can pick out a color that’s not too bright, and it’s hard to over-apply. (I mean, somehow Mackenzie manages, but…) You could also pick out a neutral eye shadow and mascara. “Neutral” just means it’s about the same color as your skin, so it doesn’t stand out as much.
  2. WORRY: You’ll apply it badly and look like a clown. Sometimes when we start wearing makeup, we’re all overexcited and go bonkers with the glitter eye shadow and purple eyeliner, etc. Some kinds of makeup are easy – it’s hard to mess up lip gloss. But some techniques are really tricky! I’ve been playing with makeup for a while and I still CANNOT apply eyeliner without looking like a raccoon!
    SOLUTION:
    You could take a makeup class. Lots of department stores offer these for young people who are new to makeup. You might even suggest it as a fun mother-daughter bonding activity. But, if money’s an issue or your mom doesn’t have the time, there’s always YouTube. I know you’re a teenager, but if you search the web for “tween makeup,” you’ll find tons of videos for people just starting to wear makeup. If she sees you applying makeup correctly, that might help!
  3. WORRY: You’ll put the makeup on but not get all of it off at the end of the day. Once you start wearing makeup, you have to be more careful about skin care. A lot of parents don’t want their kids to get their ears pierced until they’re old enough to take care of their ears after they’ve been pierced. So, they might have the same worry about makeup and taking good care of your skin.
    SOLUTION:
    Start paying attention to skin care now, even before your mom lets you wear makeup. When you talk to her about makeup, also talk about your plan for taking good care of your skin. Be sure to wash your face every night. Get a gentle cleanser and moisturizer from the drugstore, or makeup removal wipes. There are even products you can make for yourself using household ingredients Just don’t do what I did in my eleventh diary when I went crazy with the blueberry yogurt and ended up turning my whole face BLUE 🙁 !!
  4. WORRY: I think this might be the biggest worry of all—if you start wearing makeup, you won’t believe in your natural and inner beauty. You’ll think you only look good if you’re wearing makeup. Your mom was a young girl once, and she knows what it’s like to live in a world of fashion magazines and TV stars. She didn’t grow up with Instagram filters, but she still knows what they’re for. She wants, more than anything, for you to know you ARE beautiful and enough without makeup!
    SOLUTION:
    Tell your mom that you want to wear makeup because it’s fun, and because you get to be creative and express yourself. Also show her how much you appreciate your natural beauty and never let makeup replace it!

Hopefully, all of this will help your mom understand why you want to wear makeup, and she’ll finally agree to it.

There aren’t many things that can ruin a perfect face of makeup like two huge parentheses around your mouth (aka those smile lines). Even the delicate skin underneath your eyes can fall victim to tiny folds, but there are a few tips and tricks that will help minimize cosmetic creasing. We turned to makeup expert Fiona Stiles, and she explained the steps that she uses on celebrity clients like Gabrielle Union and Elizabeth Banks.

First, she assured us, those fine lines and wrinkles aren’t so bad. Most are a result of movement, which means that you probably have a lot to smile about. The constant expressions, she explained, cause “makeup to gather in the areas it’s pushed into.”

The pro said that tackling the problem with great skin care is key. “Using the right cream for your skin type hugely impacts the staying power of makeup.” It doesn’t matter if you have dry or oily skin, hydrating with formulas that are tailored to your complexion is crucial.

Stiles also settled the cream makeup versus powder debate once and for all. “I lean towards cream products and powder minimally. Even though creams tend to move around a bit more, powders really ‘settle’ into fine lines and creases.” And there’s one area to always avoid: “Steer clear of too much powder under the eyes. It just exacerbates the problem!” she said.

When applying foundation on her clients, Stiles takes a less-is-more approach. “The more there is on the face, the more product there is to snuggle into creases and lines.” She prefers to use a two-step application technique to get full coverage with the smallest amount of product possible. “I find that a foundation brush and a damp Beautyblender ($20; sephora.com) gives the most flawless results. If two steps seem like one step too many, then opt for the foundation brush. It really does make a difference in how the product sits on the skin.”

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And if you still end of noticing a line or two, “a clean concealer brush can work wonders for freshening up the face!” said Stiles. You can really control the product with the helpful tool, and smooth out any ridges. She also suggested keeping a small amount of blotting powders on hand to help smooth out your look. “They don’t have a lot of pigment in them and just take away the shine without adding more product to the skin.”

I’m a girl and I recently got a boyfriend for the first time in my life. However now I’m so stressed about the prospect of him seeing me without makeup. And it’s not like I wear a full face mask every day; my routine makeup consists of a BB cream, concealer, mascara and lip gloss, and barely takes 5 minutes. However makeup drastically alters my appearance; I have very short eyelashes, discoloured pale lips, dark under eyes and unsightly blemishes on my skin. I can guarantee that people look at me differently on the rare occasions I step out of the house without makeup.

Hell even my mum who always tells me how pretty I am recently admitted I don’t look pretty without makeup (in more lenient words) and when we Skype she comments on how pretty I look ONLY when I have makeup on.

I know that my beau will inevitably see my bare face at some point, but I’m so afraid he’s be disappointed and feel deceived because I never showed him my real face. If you’re a guy, would you feel disappointed to discover your girlfriend doesn’t look as pretty without makeup?

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Did you tell your boyfriend that he normally sees your “makeup face”, and ask him if he would be okay with seeing you without makeup on?

(A “true” boyfriend would answer yes, because he loves you for who you are )

He should love you for who you are not how a bit of mascara alters your face. If his opinion of you changes because you take it off then you are too good for him.

As you get older you realise it’s not all about appearance. It’s not like you’re going to never wear make up again.

Be proud of your natural appearance. Who cares what others think, you are beautiful.

The amount of make up people wear in this country is quite shocking. even (surprisingly) compared to Americans. My mates from mainland Europe always comments on the amount of make up girls wear even day to day over here, and I didn’t really notice for myself until I visited them in Belgium and Germany and noticed that it’s not only day to day, but even on nights out they wear much more toned down and natural make up.

Trust me if you are that hideous, he wouldn’t go out with you anyway, make up or not. British girls seem to have this issue about always wearing make up.

Reduce the amount of makeup you wear each time you see him until you go completely bare baced, weaning him off if you will.

Also, you can’t polish a turd, so if you don’t look like a turd with makeup on then i’m sure you don’t without it..

She doesn’t need makeup, she’s so beautiful and perfect.

(Original post by Anonymous)
Reduce the amount of makeup you wear each time you see him until you go completely bare baced, weaning him off if you will.

Also, you can’t polish a turd, so if you don’t look like a turd with makeup on then i’m sure you don’t without it..

Simply put. Hes not your boyfriend just because of the way you look.

Physical attraction plays a part yes. But you aren’t going to keep seeing someone you don’t enjoy spending time with them.

Attraction is more than what you look like. I know sure as heck I’ve been attracted to people whom aren’t the best looking in the past.

Dont worry about it because its not a problem.

Yeah, lol broke up with her.

Screw that, makeup is basically deciept. My friends made fun of me for a good month.

(Original post by Anonymous)
I’m a girl and I recently got a boyfriend for the first time in my life. However now I’m so stressed about the prospect of him seeing me without makeup. And it’s not like I wear a full face mask every day; my routine makeup consists of a BB cream, concealer, mascara and lip gloss, and barely takes 5 minutes. However makeup drastically alters my appearance; I have very short eyelashes, discoloured pale lips, dark under eyes and unsightly blemishes on my skin. I can guarantee that people look at me differently on the rare occasions I step out of the house without makeup.

Hell even my mum who always tells me how pretty I am recently admitted I don’t look pretty without makeup (in more lenient words) and when we Skype she comments on how pretty I look ONLY when I have makeup on.

I know that my beau will inevitably see my bare face at some point, but I’m so afraid he’s be disappointed and feel deceived because I never showed him my real face. If you’re a guy, would you feel disappointed to discover your girlfriend doesn’t look as pretty without makeup?

(Original post by Anonymous)
I’m a girl and I recently got a boyfriend for the first time in my life. However now I’m so stressed about the prospect of him seeing me without makeup. And it’s not like I wear a full face mask every day; my routine makeup consists of a BB cream, concealer, mascara and lip gloss, and barely takes 5 minutes. However makeup drastically alters my appearance; I have very short eyelashes, discoloured pale lips, dark under eyes and unsightly blemishes on my skin. I can guarantee that people look at me differently on the rare occasions I step out of the house without makeup.

Hell even my mum who always tells me how pretty I am recently admitted I don’t look pretty without makeup (in more lenient words) and when we Skype she comments on how pretty I look ONLY when I have makeup on.

I know that my beau will inevitably see my bare face at some point, but I’m so afraid he’s be disappointed and feel deceived because I never showed him my real face. If you’re a guy, would you feel disappointed to discover your girlfriend doesn’t look as pretty without makeup?

Try going without one of the products and see if he reacts any differently. I’m similar to you with the dark circles and the amount of make up I wear but my bf actually likes me better without make up on even though I feel the opposite.
Guys focus less on the flaws we see in ourselves, most don’t really care if you have short eyelashes or darkness around your eyes

(Original post by Abdul-Karim)
Yeah, lol broke up with her.

Screw that, makeup is basically deciept. My friends made fun of me for a good month.

How to apply makeup without your parents noticingIf you want to wear makeup while using acne medication, apply the acne medication first. Yes, you can wear makeup, but you’ll want to choose it carefully. Some cosmetics can cause acne. When this happens, you develop a type of acne called acne cosmetica. Even women who would not otherwise have acne can develop acne cosmetica from wearing makeup.

How to figure out if makeup could be causing your acne

If you have acne cosmetica, you’ll likely have many tiny bumps on your face. These bumps usually appear on the cheeks, chin, or forehead. Many women develop whiteheads that rise above their skin slightly. You may also notice some pimples.

If you have tiny breakouts around your lips, your lipstick or lip balm could be the culprit.

Acne cosmetica can take time to appear. It can take anywhere from a few days to 6 months for blemishes to appear.

This delay can make it difficult to see a connection between acne and the makeup causing it. As you see new blemishes, you may treat the acne and then cover it with acne-causing makeup. Continuing to use the makeup leads to a never-ending cycle of breakouts.

This never-ending cycle can feel frustrating. Many women start to believe that nothing will clear their acne.

Makeup tips for acne-prone skin

Since acne-prone skin is sensitive, people with acne may find that certain makeup products, such as foundations and concealers, worsen acne or cause new breakouts.

However, dermatologists from the American Academy of Dermatology say it’s okay for acne patients to wear makeup. The key is to select cosmetics that don’t cause acne and establish a skin care routine that works for your skin type.

To wear makeup on acne-prone skin, follow these tips from board-certified dermatologists.

How to clear acne cosmetica

Even when makeup causes your acne, you can still wear makeup and see clearer skin. You’ll have to use different makeup though.

Here’s what dermatologists recommend to see clearer skin.

Choose your makeup carefully. You’ll want to immediately stop using all makeup that’s causing your breakouts. Of course, it can be hard to tell what’s causing your acne. The best strategy is to read all the labels on your makeup as well as skin and hair care products.

Check product labels

Make sure you see one of the following terms on your products: Oil-free, won’t clog pores, or non-comedogenic.

How to apply makeup without your parents noticing

Wash your face twice a day with a mild cleanser, and after you finish any activity that makes you sweat. Dermatologists recommend that you wash your face when you wake up and before you go to bed. You want to use a cleanser that includes one of the following terms on its label: “Oil-free,” “won’t clog pores,” or “non-comedogenic.”

When cleansing your face, gently apply your cleanser with your fingertips and rinse it off with lukewarm water.

Remove your makeup, including eye makeup, before going to bed. Use an oil-free makeup remover. After removing your makeup, wash your face with a gentle cleanser. Avoid scrubbing your face, even when removing makeup.

Apply makeup gently. Your touch should be feather light. You want to avoid irritating your skin. Makeup brushes can help you apply everything gently.

Clean your makeup brushes every week and make sure you’re the only one who uses them. While acne isn’t contagious, acne-causing bacteria, dead skin cells, and oil from other people’s skin can stick to your makeup, makeup brushes, and applicators. When you use shared makeup and tools, those acne-causing culprits can spread to your skin, leading to new breakouts.

When you share makeup, brushes, or applicators, you can also get contagious diseases, such as pink eye or cold sores.

Treat your acne. Acne cosmetica will often clear when you stop using the makeup and hair and skin care products that clog your pores.

If anything else is causing your acne, however, you’ll still see acne. That’s why dermatologists recommend that you treat your acne with products that contain one or more of the following ingredients:

  • Benzoyl peroxide (fights acne-causing bacteria)
  • Salicylic acid (helps unclog pores)
  • Adapalene (helps unclog pores)

You can buy these acne treatments without a prescription.

It can take 4 to 8 weeks to see some improvement.

When to seek a dermatologist’s help

Acne cosmetica tends to clear once you stop using what’s causing it. But finding the cause can be difficult. So many products can lead to acne cosmetica, including foundation, blush, and concealer. Some hair and skin care products can also cause it.

To complicate matters, more than acne cosmetica could be causing your acne.

A dermatologist can help you sort it out, so you can see clearer skin.

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References
Baumann L. “Cosmetics and skin care in dermatology.” In: Wolff K, Goldsmith LA, et al. Fitzpatrick’s Dermatology in General Medicine (seventh edition). McGraw Hill Medical, New York, 2008:2360.

Fulton JE, Acne Rx: What acne really is and how to eliminate its devastating effects! Self-published; 2001.

Harper JC. “Acne: The basics.” Paper written by dermatologist Julie C. Harper, MD to help her patients get the best results from their acne treatment. May 2003.

Singh S, Mann BK, et al. “Acne cosmetica revisited: a case-control study shows a dose-dependent inverse association between overall cosmetic use and post-adolescent acne.” Dermatology. 2013;226(4):337-41.

If you’ve got a hickey but don’t have concealer lying around, there are still ways to cover it. In this post, I reached out to a few talented best beauty experts and asked them to share their best tips on this issue.

Here’s some expert advice on how to cover a hickey without using a concealer:

Color Correcting is Key

Theresa Novicky, a licensed makeup artist in Southern Maine, shares the following steps that you should follow if you want to cover your hickey without using a concealer:

  1. Use an Ice Pack – Put an ice pack on it as soon as you notice it. Hickeys are really just a bruise and the ice slows the blood flow to the area and reduces swelling.
  2. Use a Color Corrector – This step is based on your skin tone and the tone of the hickey. You want to use the color opposite the color of the hickey on the color wheel. If the hickey is more purple use a yellow color corrector.If the hickey is red, then you want to use a green color corrector. If the hickey is in the healing stage, it will be a yellow/brown color and you want to use a peach color corrector.You want to dab the color corrector on with your finger because your finger will warm the product up before you apply it to your skin. This allows the product to easily slip and move on your skin. Be sure to tap the color corrector on to the hickey in a circular tapping motion.
  3. Use Your Foundation – Tap on your foundation and be sure that it matches your neck. Your foundation should always match your neck, not your face. You can tap this on with your finger or use a foundation brush and then a kabuki brush to blend it out.
  4. Set with Powder – Set the color corrector and foundation in place by using a powder.

We created a video to show you exactly how to use the color correcting technique to hide a hickey. Check it out below:

Try Lipstick and Eyeshadow

Ninah Caquias, a popular personal style influencer, and beauty expert share a slightly different approach. Here’s what she suggests you should try:

  1. Use Ice – As with Theresa’s suggestion above, Ninah also suggests putting a cold compress on the hickey for about 15 minutes. This will help to reduce the swelling of the hickey.
  2. Use Lipstick and Eyeshadow – Depending on the stage and color of hickey whether that be purple or green, you can take a matte orange lipstick or cream eyeshadow to cover the hickey.
  3. Use Foundation – You would move on to use a medium build to full coverage foundation on top of the area to blend out.
  4. Use Setting Spray – You’d then set the foundation with a makeup setting spray.

Using other makeup to “color correct” is the best way to cover a hickey without using concealers. The methods presented above requires that you have some knowledge of the color wheel and understand how to use it. A foundation will not provide the same level of coverage as a concealer which is why being able to effectively “color correct” lightens the base for your foundation to cover.

Be sure to apply the foundation in light layers and blend the edges for a smooth look.

For the best results, be sure to select a full coverage foundation. I have written a depth guide on some of the best full coverage foundations, check it out when you have time.

We created a video to show you how to use lipstick and eyeshadow to cover your hickey. Check it out below:

How to Hide a Hickey Without Makeup For Guys

If you don’t have makeup available to hide your hickey, there are still ways to cover them without makeup. Although the ideas are similar for both women and men, I decided to focus this section for my my male audience because most men don’t have makeup readily available.

First and foremost, if you have a hickey, put a cold compass on it for at least 15 minutes. This will help to reduce the swelling of the hickey.

Parenting Expert Jan Faull, MEd, weighs in on the right age to allow your tween daughter to wear makeup.

So your 10-year-old daughter has always loved playing dress-up with your shoes and makeup. But recently she’s started putting on lipstick in the mornings before school. Is she too young?

The age of 10, although not necessarily a significant developmental milestone as compared to the terrible twos or the turbulent teens, is often referred to as the “turn over year”. This term means that by age 10 — whether parents like it or not — children hold half of the control over their lives, while parents hold the remaining 50 percent. As children continue to mature intellectually, physically, emotionally, and socially beyond age 10, they grasp in bits and pieces more and more responsibility and accountability for their actions and decisions.

This fact, however, does not preclude parents from continuing to exert their influence, offer advice, and say “no,” particularly when issues involve the child’s health, safety, and the family’s values.

Makeup, hair styles, and clothing are the gray areas in parenting — there are no hard-and-fast rules. Each parent-and-child pair needs to settle on certain parameters without resorting to heated arguments, which will only hurt the parent/child relationship, most likely making the issue bigger than it is.

That being said, there is something about girls in elementary school wearing makeup that just doesn’t sit well with most parents. Go ahead and tell your daughter that you understand and appreciate her interest in makeup and dress-up, and that when she’s at home she can experiment with outrageous outfits and exotic makeup all she wants. But outside the home — school, social events, and extracurricular activities — you cannot allow her to wear lipstick or makeup.

Tell her it’s inappropriate while she’s in elementary school, and besides, she’s beautiful without it. She might be appeased with tinted lip balm that gives a little gloss and color to her lips, but doesn’t give the look of full-blown lipstick. Let her know that when she’s in junior high or middle school, then you will bless her interest in wearing makeup outside the house.

When that time arrives, take her to a department store where a person who sells makeup can show her how to apply it in a way that enhances her looks but doesn’t make her look like a painted Kewpie doll.

Realize that even if you make this rule about lipstick, she might sneak a tube of it in her backpack and apply it once at school. If you catch her doing so, confiscate the lipstick and state how disappointed you are. Don’t, however, punish her further.

Because dress-up and makeup have been a lifelong interest of your daughter, combined with the influence of certain female entertainers who little girls attempt to emulate, you’re probably fighting a losing battle. Nevertheless, exert your power, control, and influence as best you can, while not losing the loving relationship that exists between you and your daughter.